Woman Furious After Internet Turns The Tables On Her And Says She’s Financially Controlling Her BF

Please tell me if I'm right or wrong, but I will only listen to the answers that tell me im right.

They’ve been dating for four years; her money problems started “a few years ago.” Sounds like she has been slowly bleeding this fellow since early on in the relationship. Also, she never mentions ever feeling like any of this money is a loan. Just gifted to her with no expectation of repayment down the road. I kind of wonder what he’s even getting out of it? A few phone calls, and a depletion of his savings? He’s like one of those women who marry death row inmates.

So she thinks enough of him (his money) to use him for handouts (not loans - gifts) but doesn't want to move in with him because he'd be 'too controlling'. This is an LDR, NOT the same as an LTR where they're living together and share bills/living expenses proportionately. WTF is this level of entitlement??

this sounds a little sus to me. I would like more info. Have they met in person? has OP been to his house? (I'm wondering if he DOES have a family) also, 1.5 million is not that much these days. that might be his retirement money. just because he has no family doesn't mean he should spend it all on OP.

I am going through a situation where my ex partner lived off of me for free, for most of the last decade, and he is now filing a court case against me to get half of the equity in my house for himself, despite contributing $0 to the house, but because he resided in my house for long enough (2 years) that he was able to be considered common law status.

Hi! You're going to rescue me financially for no real reason, but you better just give me your money, because I find it odious to tell her you why I "need" it.

I speak from personal experience. When you become disabled, it is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. I had to downsize several times, lost my savings to medical bills, and now live on social security. Sounds like she isn't facing reality, or the responsibilities of her new life.

this has to be a joke

Wow this woman is delusional.

This woman lives in the UK so there are benefits she could claim if her financial situation is as bad as she claims. It isn't a fortune, but it could help her to put food on the table. There are charities and organisations that could help her to find housing if she's desperate.

"I'm going to post this so you all can judge for yourselves. Oh, you didn't agree with me? Stop being so judgy!!"

She doesn't have a partner, she has a sugerdaddy. And a patient one at that...

She's literally dragging him down into her financial situation by him being incredibly generous with her to the point he's used up his savings on her and she has the audacity to call him greedy, selfish, and abusive. There's plenty of abuse here, but he's not the one being abusive.

Her level of entitlement and arrogance is astounding. The only one being financially abused is him. She sounds as if she doesn't even like him. She only has negative things to say about him and blames him for her lot in life. That is some gaslighting right there. She even complains about not having any luxuries! If you are that destitute, you should only have essentials. They don't live together and she doesn't want to either. They probably never even dated. I think she is just stringing him along for access to his money which she is in no way entitled to any.

If you don't want to be called a gold digger, don't behave like one.

Someone needs to make him aware of this post!

Genuinely curious about what she'd do if he got hit by a bus tomorrow... who would be the new scapegoat?

OP is expecting too much from others. She is broke, she needs to cut all expenses, apply for government assistance if possible, get work out of the house, see a budgeted- but she can't rely of thus man to solve her money issues. He's letting her know he's had enough, he probably should actually tell her but it's obvious he's had enough

I guess now the Nigerian Prince is the victim. Whoo-Eee I feel like I'm on Dr. Phil. I think AI is teaching these writing classes now.

Lady you need reality check!

Just wow!

Wait. she's mooching off of him, then gets upset when called out!? WHAT??? Shocking! Get better writers, BP!

Wow to it all. On top of everything, if IRS looks into it, he might be in very big trouble as donation between particulars are very heavily taxed.

I will be downvoted, but as a person, who knows very first hand what financial abuse is and had suffered it for decades since I was a kid, yes, this is literally what financial abuse is. Even his phrases are "classics" of what financial abusers use to attract and maintain their victims. And it doesn't matter, that they are not married or relatives. Promising funds and care, then denying when they are most needed is both a manipulation and abuse at the same time. And that creates a dependency situation, where it is very difficult for the person with lower income to actually earn, and that happens because of the years of brainwashing and you just stop having the means and capabilities to earn. It's the same as for physical abuse - you suffer, but you are brainwashed, that without them, you are nothing, so you are scared to leave. I've starved when I had cut the cord, that's scary. But it looks like they don't love each other, so I would suggest to go apart for both of them.