40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One ‘Unwritten Rule’ You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?”
There are rules, stupid rules, and rules that nobody argues about. Like, the one where you don’t answer out loud if someone whispers to you. Call it common sense, human behavior at its best, or an unwritten rule, that doesn’t change it—you just whisper if someone whispers at you.
So what are these unspoken rules that never get written down and are considered logical arguments or actions? Are they that different when it comes to various people?
A person on r/AskReddit dared to find out as they posted the seemingly simple, yet very illuminating question “What is one 'unwritten rule' you think everyone should know and follow?” 44.7k upvotes and 18.3k comments later, we’ve got some of the most interesting replies. They show some rules worth respecting don’t need to be carved into stone and can perfectly live in the part of the brain where “it’s just like this” is enough to explain why.
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Never make fun of someone else's laugh — be it how they sound or how they look. Laughing is the most natural expression of joy and happiness, and for someone to feel self-conscious about that because of other people's comments is so brutal.
I make fun of my own laugh - no joke, it sounds like a elephant choking on jelly beans while swinging a goat around with his trunk.
Everyone doesn't have the confidence you have! At least you're owing it !
Load More Replies...I stopped laughing out loud for a few years when I was young because some classmates made fun of my laugh. It didn't help that my deafness made me believe those that could hear *must* know what they are talking about.
But a laugh can be funny! If it's contagious because it's a bit weird, go ahead and laugh!
It can be funny, but there's a big difference between making fun of someone's laugh and laughing WITH them.
Load More Replies...My sister made fun of my laugh when I was little. It took years for me to feel comfortable laughing in public.
I wish I could - I'd tell her that's it's bullying. If she's a bit of a bitch, there are better uses for that. I knew someone who was quite mouthy, but mostly used her big mouth to defend weaker people against bullies. Is your sister brave enough to do that?
Load More Replies...Eh, idk. I get my laugh made fun of all the time and it's never stopped me. I can't imagine a laugh being made fun of in a way that was truly hateful and not good natured. So what if I snort sometimes? It means you're truly funny. If my snort can make you laugh without me actually having to be clever then we both win.
Thats why l stopped laughing as a child. Now its difficult l learnt to laugh without sound.
Don’t put your music on speakers when in a public space. It’s not like everyone wants the same genre or was in the mood for music. Get your headphones.
on Japanese public transport, there are signs up telling people not to use their phones and the conductors will tell people to stop if they are using them.
Load More Replies...Not just music, but anything. It's 2021, have a headset, be it wired or bluetooth. I constantly ask a coworker to put a headset on in the break room. I don't want to listen to his tv shows and movies. Last time I sat down and started cranking Slayer on iHeart Radio. He was not pleased.
Bluetooth speakers are the worst invention ever. And it's not only a nuisance in the city, you go for a walk in the mountains to get away from the noise and some tool decides to blast their annoying music on the trail. Go to a bar for ffs.
Don't put your phone on speaker in public either. No one wants to listen to your yelled conversation.
This annoys the crap out of me when Im hiking. I want to hear the sounds of nature, not your sh*tty music blaring from a walmart speaker
We don't need that here in india buses have stereo radios playing old songs
There are some good leak-reduction headphones out there too so people have no excuse!
Load More Replies...I am a motorcyler and people who have radios on their bikes are a pet peeve for me also. Ditto for music from a car you can hear a block away
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Don’t ever say ‘oh, you’ve only got one child. That must be so lonely for them.’
Because maybe that person tried for years to have that one child, maybe they chose one for good reasons, maybe that had another child that died that you don’t know about.
Or, maybe it’s none of your business how many children people have. Actually, it’s definitely not your business. So, shhhhh.
My opinion is the only time you need another 'child' is when it's an animal; example: I have 3 leopard geckos--not just one--so they have friends.
My dog is extremely possessive of me. She would not like having another dog in the house.. (heck.. we have a cat and chickens here and she is jealous of them too)
Load More Replies...And please don’t ask women if they have children; that can be a painful question that will ruin their day
I agree. Given the context, just the one question can even be fine. But do not ask why and further details, unless she really seems eager to talk about it with you.
Load More Replies...Exactly, my wife and I don't have kids for a good, and very personal reason. If people press we'll sometimes tell them, and then they are sorry they asked.
Load More Replies...OMG THIS. I had a coworker tell me I was selfish for only having one child, even after I told her I had lost a daughter she told me I should still have another and a lot of people have miscarriages. EVEN AFTER I told her it wasn't a miscarriage she STILL told me I was selfish for not giving my son a sibling, so I told her to mind her own goddamn business and not to push her s**t on me. Needless to say she didn't last long at my office. I still think about her and wish I would have slapped her.
wha? how are you selfish for only having one child exactly? she made absolutely no sense
Load More Replies...This is very painful, so I've gotten to the point that I tell everyone who mentions it everything they don't want to know. If you've got a minute to tell me my child is lonely, I've got time to share with you my infertility journey of pain, anger and heartbreak. I've had many strangers become wide eyed and slack jawed, but I've given them somthing to think about. I'm just grateful that I have one child because I could never have had the strength to do this when I had none. I'm educating others for my past self's sake, and for the sake of the millions of others like me.
Why do people feel the need to comment on other people's choices regarding children is something I will never understand. Nor do I tolerate it when it's happened to me.
I was an only child. We develop rich inner lives and have imaginary friends. Not a problem. Mind your own biz.
I'm glad to hear things like this. My daughter is an only child and we couldn't have another. She wants a sibling so bad. I always feel terrible about it because I'm the one with fertility issues and feel responsible for her loneliness. I'm glad to hear from only children who find the positive in it.
Load More Replies...And besides, sometimes siblings end up being the most abusive people in your life.
Yeah, sometimes kids are lonely and it’s horrible to be the only child, sometimes it’s horrible when they have siblings. If the kid doesn’t care and the parents don’t have another kid, then oh well.
Load More Replies...Same here!! I also only have one child and don’t plan to have more.
Load More Replies...Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Daniel Wendler, a therapist and author of “Improve Your Social Skills.” According to Daniel, the unwritten rules are really just an expression of the golden rule, “which is to treat others as you would want to be treated (or even better, to treat others as they would want to be treated).”
Dr. Wendler continued: “Many of society's unwritten rules are simple expressions of empathy and courtesy, a way to put yourself in someone else's shoes and realize what you can do to be kind to them.”
However, if you’re worrying about whether you or someone else lacks common sense, the therapist suggests not worrying about something “so vague that it could mean any number of things.” “Instead,” he suggests, “it's better to focus on the things we have control over—like trying to be a little more kind today than we were yesterday.”
Be kind to people who are working: food staff, medical staff, etc. Don’t take your bad day out on someone else.
We do not get paid enough for your rude/mean/ignorant comments, but we have to put on a brave face or risk getting fire.
While I agree with being kind to people, I think saying " we are not get paid enough" is stupid. So, in your opinion, how much must someone earn that it is ok to insult them? Just be kind to everyone. Period.
Load More Replies...I agree whole heartedly with being kind to the people mentioned in this post, but honestly, you can just stop after the first four words. "Be kind to people."
And call centre workers too!! Even if they're trying to sell you something, they're people too and deserve to be treated as such. Instead of just hanging up or swearing at them, politely tell them you're not interested and you hope the rest of their shift goes well.
I once was very rude to the airport security guy when he pulled me aside for the random bomb check. I was tired from travelling (pre-COVID days!) but that is no excuse and I am really ashamed at my behaviour that time.
I don’t think that’s the same considering how fücked up and racist most of those people are. I will never not call them out anymore, I’m done being nice to gross trash.
Load More Replies...how about - - NEVER be abusive to a person who has less power/authority than you( and that includes the pitchfork mob who try to get a person fired) It makes you look weak, it makes you look stupid and uneducated.. ... and karma has a habit of biting back ( even if your original victim will never likely see it) .. and lead by example in how you treat people
You should really be as nice and warm to these people as possible, they really have enough to worry about already.
Remember when workers cite the rules don't get mad at them. They don't make them.
For buses/trains/any other public transportation, let people exit first before you get on.
Even in lifts.. if this happens in a lift and it's a friend I say "do you think I was in the lift to kidnap you?" Specially if it's the first or last floor..
Good God, K!! Reading your messages, I had a hunch it must be cancer. Take care my friend, and stay strong. This time will pass, I wish you a good luck and good health. It's always nice to hear from you. And to the people downvoting K, what the hell is wrong with you people? K was just answering to something I asked.
Load More Replies...It pisses me off when people want to get in before letting the others out. It really, really pisses me off.
But if everyone waits for everyone to leave who would ever end up leaving
Don't say s**t about someone's appearance if it can't be fixed in less than 30 seconds. Spinach in someone's teeth? Let a homie know. Body type? Bad haircut? Worn-out clothes? Don't need to mention it.
And don’t ask I’ll people why they don’t lose weight. First it is none of your business. Second they are probably struggling with it. And third losing weight while being sick can be very difficult.
exactly @Ozacoter and the other way round maybe. Telling people to eat a burger when they don't know what they medically or otherwise struggle with or it's just their body type. None of their business.
Load More Replies...I personally would want my friends/family to tell me if I looked bad (or worse than usual). Even if it's something I can't immediately fix I would rather that than them lying to me and pretending I look perfect.
I mean, if you ask them directly, sure. But I think this means unsolicited opinions. If no one says anything about how I look, I assume I look "fine" -- not "perfect." I think most people probably think that way.
Load More Replies...People belittle others in an attempt to make themselves look good. Esteem issues cause the 'misery loves company' effect. Feel bad yourself and invariably find fault with others.
Something in their teeth? I quietly tell them, "go look in a mirror and smile". They usually know what I mean
It think mentioning things like a ripped seam in the bottom of trousers or bird poop in the back of the shirt is still polite to inform even if the situation cannot be immediately fixed. But I see well your point and agree.
I think they were meaning if their haircut was bad, or like if they thought their forehead was to big. Stuff that can't be fixed right then and wasn't an accident
Load More Replies...What about is someone's zipper is down? I usually mention that because I would not want to be in that position.
Dr. Wendler also said that there are many people who struggle to pick up on the unwritten social rules. “Sometimes, this is because they didn't have a lot of opportunity to socialize with others growing up, so they never got experience in putting themselves in someone else's shoes and learning what was expected.”
Other times, “it's because they have a condition such as autism or social anxiety that makes it more difficult to read other people and learn how to interact socially.”
Dr. Wendler claims that the good news is that whether it's easy for you to pick up on social rules or difficult, everyone can get better at it. “Just try to challenge yourself to get 1% better each day—maybe learn one unwritten rule, or practice one social action—and before you know it, you'll see dramatic improvement,” he concluded.
Do not swipe left or right if someone shows you a photo on their phone.
Yeah. I have accidentally done it, even though I hate it when other people have done it to me. It was an unconscious action, since it is something I do with my own photos on my own phone.
Load More Replies...Don't even touch the phone unless they give it to you, and even in those circumstances don't swipe unless they told you.
I feel like this is something that just has to be learned by the generations that grew up with photo albums or printed photos in general. It used to be when someone showed you a specific picture in an album, it was fine, even desirable, for you to browse the other photos.
My elderly mum always does this and my heart skips a beat every time!
I 100% agree, they be showing you that one photo, if they want show you more. They show you more. You no need to see more. Unless they want to show you more
I live by this rule I made after thinking about things late at night.
If someone does something that makes them happy and confident. If it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, animals included. Then leave them alone, let them do that thing. Let them be happy.
This is a lesson for religious people. Mind your own business, stop forcing your beliefs and rules on everyone, stay out of other people's lives. And their bedrooms.
Another lesson - mind your business about religious people. If it makes someone happy to believe in God and they’re not hurting anyone, don’t be a d**k.
Load More Replies...Exactly. Why do people have to ruin things for other people? Just let us be happy.
Who even cares about other people this much? I’m worried about my own happiness, not what someone else is doing that’s fücking stupid. I would never give others that much attention or mind.
Gray area: A friend of mine has recently found happiness by pushing pyramid scheme products to everyone she knows, and trying to get them to join the scam company. She is not *hurting* anyone, but is truly bugging the s**t out of them. But she's happy.
I’d argue that’s hurting people because it’s annoying and potentially scamming people out of money.
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Don't propose at someone else's wedding.
That’s a given, the only time it is okay is if the bride and groom are happy with it. Also don’t wear a white dress.
and don't complain or make demands, it's not your wedding. So many stories online of guests being entitled little jerks.
Load More Replies...Also don't propose when is your future wife's special day, moment or event! I've seen women taking prizes for important achievements and have proposal the same time! It sounds romantic but it's not! It's her moment she doesn't need to think of a proposal the same time! Same for women proposing to men under same circumstances...
Very rare exception to this: my friend’s (A) sister (B) has multiple disabilities that make getting out of the house difficult. A was having an outdoor wedding in a place B always dreamed of going, A collaborated with B’s boyfriend (who was wanting to propose) and helped make the proposal at A’s wedding super special. The Bride and Groom were almost more excited for the proposal than their own ceremony.
And stop doing it in public with loads of people... in public with just you, a view and your "photographer". Doing it infront of strangers is just emotional blackmail
You should only propose if marriage has been discussed and you're sure that it is a welcome question. Then you can do it in public if you want.
Load More Replies...Meanwhile, Lynn How, a life coach and author of “Positive Young Mind” who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues, told Bored Panda that unwritten rules are important to establish a certain culture, whether it is in a sports, company, or societal context.
“They are needed to ensure at least a basic level of expected behavior. For example, your boss has never said to you that you can't drink alcohol at work, but you know this already without needing it written down or having verbal clarification,” the author explained.
While most people do share a common understanding of unspoken rules, some have more difficulty picking them up. “We need to take time for a more detailed explanation of something we feel doesn't need to be said where required,” Lynn suggests.
You can be wrong. It isn't a bad thing, either. And when you are wrong, acknowledge it, and learn from it, you don't need to dig down in your beliefs to try and comfort yourself because you can't handle not being right all the time.
If we didn't call each other losers and lose respect for people who make mistakes, everyone would be better at handling being wrong. As it is, making a mistake or being wrong can tank your grade, your career, and if you break a law you didn't know was a law, can tank your life. An atmosphere of learning and sympathy needs to be fostered before people en masse accept when they are wrong.
Too many people try to hide their mistakes and lack of knowledge. No growth or progress can be made this way
Nobody is perfect.... and that's good... because then there is place for new things and new learnings ❤
Always say please and thank you. Just because your an adult doesn't give you the right to stop practicing manners. Drives me crazy.
Guys they made a good point, whether or not they spelled "you're" correctly. Maybe we should learn some manners like the author suggested and stop rudely pointing out other's grammatical mistakes.
Seconded. This is a social site, not an English exam.
Load More Replies...May I add, also be polite to the people closest to you, it is a sign of appreciation.
I loudly say "YOU'RE WELCOME" to adults who don't say thank you after I've finished with their transaction.
This would make the world so much better for everyone! And this covers the rude comment below
Chew with your mouth closed. Shocks me how many adults i see chewing with their mouth open.
Nope. When in Rome, do as the Romans. Then it’s your responsibility to (politely) let them know that the behavior is not acceptable here. Of if you are in China, do as the locals do...
Load More Replies...Aaron Kara, long time no see you. I love your comments. Welcome back buddy.
Load More Replies...I noticed that some people chew with mouth open because they can't breathe through nose or have some issues with nose breathing. You should take this into account too, sometimes, it could be health issue.
My brother has severe asthma and allergies to pretty much everything. Despite his inhalers and various nasal sprays and antihistamines he can only breathe through his mouth which causes loud, open mouth chewing (or chomping). Nothing he can do about it. Nothing I can do about my annoyance either though...
Load More Replies...My sister eats with her mouth open because she can't breathe through her nose. Even though I know that, still difficult to watch.
That's different. Even if it's annoying for the rest of you. If she can't breathe there's nothing she can do about it. I imagine she might also feel mortified about having to chew that way.
Load More Replies...Chewing with the mouth open is, apart from disgusting, very unhygienic. I can't understand why people do it. For me, it's as disgusting as picking your nose, but a lot of people still excuse it.
Load More Replies...my little brother chews with his mouth open a lot and he's almost 9 and by the age of like 4 or 5 i stopped chewing with my mouth open
So you think people can control whether or not they chew with their mouth open?
Load More Replies...Sadly that question is being asked quite a bit lately
Load More Replies...“Perhaps the person has a particular additional need that would require a more detailed explanation or it may be that the person in question did not have good role models growing up, which means they may find that many things that were acceptable in their family are not acceptable to the wider world.”
Alternatively, there may be a solid reason why one unspoken rule or another has not established itself among groups of people. Lynn suggests various causes may be at play, like “maybe your company’s unspoken rules are quite strict or perhaps there is an unwritten dress code?” In that case, Lynn recommends turning this sort of unwritten rule into a written one.
There was only 1 rule in my house growing up...do not wake anyone up. My parents worked shift work. Its amaZing to me now how many people don't respect sleep.
I used to work the overnight shift. It was truly amazing how many people, who knew I worked all night, would call me while I was sleeping. For a couple of the worst repeat offenders, I called them at 3am when they were asleep and I was up working.
I always mute my phone when I sleep. Never understood why others don't.
Load More Replies...100% this. You don’t wake someone who just worked a night shift unless there‘s an emergency.
i always took it as given before having flatmates, my family new that sleep is sacred
My ex would get up for business trips at 3 or 4 in the morning and turn the lights on while he was getting dressed and packing. We had multiple fights about it-- especially the time he threw his suitcase on the bed right where my feet were. I'm still salty.
I absolutely support this IF the person sleeping is in their bed. Taking a nap on the couch in a common area and demanding silence in the middle of the day is seriously rude.
There are 2 people in your life you NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LIE TO. Your doctor and your lawyer.
YES! Your doc doesn't care if you used drugs, he just needs to know so other procedures do not kill you because of that. Also, he's not even allowed to report you to police.
Sort of feel like lying should generally be avoided. Maybe that's just me
Not completely true. Need to appear in criminal court? Sure, tell your lawyer the truth. He or she is allowed to lie to a judge for you. However, in many countries lawyers are not allowed to lie in civil cases or administrative cases. So, telling them the truth means putting them in a position in which, when asked, they have to come clean.
THIS. Please don't lie. If you do, you risk your life. You may feel shame, etc., but ... better alive to fix your problems, okay? Thank you.
My doctor actually told me to lie (exagerate symptoms) if I want insurance to pay for treatment.
I am doubtful about this one. For example as soon as doctors know that you are depressed they dismiss all your complains as psychosomatic or due to anxiety.
And if you don't tell them they might give you a wrong diagnosis because they take symptoms into account that actually came from anxiety and obscured the true diagnosis. If you think your doctor dismisses your complaints, find another doctor, but don't lie.
Load More Replies...also therapist if u have one because they're trying to help and if u lie they cant help but not everyone has a therapist but i wanted to say
Or keep the truth away from you for any reason. Or "forgets" to tell you important rules about your treatment or medications.
If you're borrowing it for a third time, you need one of your own.
True but for some things the other person may not be able to afford one of their own. We have lent our lawnmower out to a friend a few times but he can’t afford to buy one for himself. He is trustworthy so we have no issues lending it to him.
Foxxy, so true same also goes for storage. I've borrowed my friends carpet cleaner many times. My house is really small, I don't have space to store a large carpet cleaner only to use it 2/3 times a year. I always buy replacement and extra cleaning fluids and clean the machine before returning it too
Load More Replies...Period of time between borrowings counts too. Three times in a month? Buy your own! Three times in 8 years? It's conceivable yours has recently broken, you may borrow mine. Also depends what the item is. A pen? Definitely buy your own - they're less than a quid! A hairdryer? Meh, small enough to lend and return. My car...
My only problem is when people return a previously perfect book annotated all over the placê and with cracked spine and folded pages. That can be even on the first time its ever lent.
I don't mind people borrowing things...............What I mind is, they don't take care of it, clean it, or return it to you in the shape they got it from you!!!
When I was a kid, there was a woman in the building who would always want to 'borrow' a cup of sugar. One day, my mom said, "I'm heading to the grocery store. Would you like for me to pick up a bag of sugar for you?" The woman told her no, because she only used a little and she would just continue getting it from my mom. LOL. My mom stopped giving her sugar after that.
FFS be self-aware. I mean, be aware of the space you occupy, of your movements, of where you are. Don't zig-zag on sidewalks, don't fill the entire width of the sidewalk. Be aware of your kid moving their arms like a helicopter. DON'T STOP IN YOUR TRACKS TO CHECK THE F**KING PHONE, walk slower, or step aside but don't be that kind of person.
Just be aware of your body and don't be a dummy. This applies to whole families too, and people in cars, in supermarket lanes, wherever.
This should apply to big family groups walking at a snail’s pace in staggered formation through IKEA. Why on earth have you taken 3 generations there for a day out anyway? IKEA is a terribly disorientating circle of hell anyway without making it worse.
Or on the street. I've lived in three large cities where tourists congregate. I would also add; Get your camera out of my face, do NOT demand that I "get out of your view" (i LIVE there, you don't), and no, I don't have time on my way to work to give you a city tour.
Load More Replies...I used to hate this. Then I had a stroke and now I do it but can't help it. My balance has gone, so I lurch and stumble and I 'suddenly' have to stop cos I am so very, very tired! I'm so sorry for being this person now :(
You don't need to apologize, it's pretty easy to tell apart people with medical conditions from a-holes though.For example, I wouldn't get mad at a 80 year-old lady with a cane slowly moving on the street, but a teenager looking at their phone would really piss me off.
Load More Replies...I learned this working at the local steel mill. They had a course (1 full day) and signs everywhere. The sign shop here really is a multinational now. So, the signs: Do not block entrances, do not stand in certain areas that are marked in certain colours etc.... And then they showed us our opponent. 30-40 metric ton coils of steel. Some as hot as 800° C. They do not argue, they do not talk, they do not bully. They just follow their automated way of transport. You become self aware there very quickly or you die.
Don't stop to check your phone or chat to someone when you're in a doorway! I regularly see people exiting shops and stopping to pull out their phone, blocking the door for everyone else. I also worked at a company where people would stop in doorways to chat about all sorts of stuff because they saw a colleague coming from the opposite direction. Stand to one side and conduct your conversation out of the way!
I hate slow walkers. They usually occupy a lot of space on top of that so you’re having to do the awkward “excuse me” when you pass them
At the bottom /top of escalators or stairs, or in doorways - there's always big gathering of bodies. Why?!
Don’t leave your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery aisle!
The worst when it's a small aisle and you can't get through with your own cart
Load More Replies...Or stop to chat with a friend, leaving both sides of the aisle blocked.
If I find it in the middle of the aisle that I need to go down, I will move it!
And when you're done, and loaded all those groceries in your car, take the cart to the cart return!
In South Africa the road rule is "keep left, Pass right" The rule is the same in a grocery store - At least it is for me!!!
Also, if you need to study something on a shelf, bring your cart to the same side of the aisle rather than blocking one side with the cart and the other with your body.
or stand in the middle of a doorway-- i have to squeeze past my ex who cheated on me to get my breakfast every day because she always stops there
Don’t mess up an apology with an excuse.
When I moved back to New Zealand from Japan, I noticed that we tend to give a reason more than Japanese people do. I don’t dislike that; in fact, in a lot of cases I think just think “S**t happens; you don’t need to offer the reason for my approval”.
Don't mistake an explanation for an excuse. Explaining why something happened is not excusing it, so many mistake explanation for excuse.
It’s still not appropriate to explain yourself when you’re supposed to apologise. An apology needs to be an acknowledgment of what you have done and the hurt it caused. It’s about making it right for the injured party, and showing them that you understand why you should not have done what you did, not to give you a chance to make yourself look/feel better.
Load More Replies...Yeah, and don't offer an apology while blaming the person you're apologizing to.
With all due respect... props to the guy that apologized to my friend for not showing up to a date and ghosting her for a few days. I think it's safe to say that "my hemmaroid exploded" is a pretty decent excuse...
A medical emergency is a valid reason to not show up to something, it is however (unless the person is in a coma), certainly no reason to ghost somehone
Load More Replies...Please, please don’t make an excuse after an apology. It won’t do you any favors.
Apologies are also an action not just words. You have to change your behavior on top of apologizing otherwise your apology is meaningless
When I was at school, we were taught that if we came in late, we should apologise and then give a reason. If you keep giving the reason that you missed the bus, the teacher will tell you to leave home earlier.
I get this wrong allot, it comes from a need to explain what I did but it comes out sounding like an excuse.
I'd like to hear a reason if it's better than "I had no consideration for you".
Wash your hands after the toilet. Walkouts are shocking.
surprising how many people don't wash their hands after using public toilets even in covid
And for christ's sake use soap! I've seen too many people using only water! What's the point to that???
it is shocking. May be a few are only using the stalls to adjust clothing? wishful thinking I know
They've still touched door handles to get there. Always wash hands after being in a public space.
Load More Replies...This is so terrible that, before COVID, there was a sign about it in the restrooms of the local movie theater mentioning a city law and a fine. Come on! Things like this should go without saying!
I love to follow someone out and call after them: "Excuse me, you forgot something." "What?" "You forgot to wash your hands." Amazing how people stop and look at them.
Worked at a summer school when I was in uni. On field trips it wasn’t uncommon for the little ones to want to hold our hands while walking around. Went on a field trip once and the 7yo boys went into the bathroom. Two of them came out and grabbed each of my hands. Neither was in there long enough to do their business AND wash their hands.
If you borrow someone's car, fill up the tank before you return it.
Only borrow if you are insured to drive that car. Uninsured drivers are breaking the law.
I mean understand replacing the gas you used, and maybe a little more...but not just filling it up. What if it was on empty when you got it? I shouldn't have to fill it up all the way .
Right. Replace what you use plus a little extra just to be sure and sort of as a thank you. However, if you can afford to fill more, do it.
Load More Replies...I will put gas in someone's car if I have to borrow it. But, it's below a quarter of a tank when I get it, I will not fill it completely...half I think is good enough in that situation. Unless, if it's more than a few hours, aka overnight or a few days, then yes, fill it up.
Also, don’t borrow and use someone else’s car if you don’t have insurance
THANK YOU!!! I don't care if you just drive down the block to the store......FILL'ER UP!! They allowed you to drive their vehicle.....it's the LEAST you can do! And make SURE you use the kind of gas THEY put in their vehicle!!
Announce your visits.
You can't be offended that nobody is home when you decide to drop by at random.
Plus it's super unfair to the host since it gives no time to prepare anything and they might have to drop everything they were just doing just to entertain you or cancel their plans.
I really hate it when people do that. I have a phone, you have a phone, everyone and their uncle have a phone, just give me a heads up.
Yeah. And give a reasonable time to prepare. Not ‘we are there in 5min’. Last week my in laws came, which is good. But they told us like 10m before arriving. It was Saturday and we were in dirty pijamas, the house wasn’t vacuumed etc.
Load More Replies...My in-laws used to do that, at all hours of the day. I started locking the front and side doors (when questioned, I told them it was because I was home alone w/two babies). That didn't stop them - they would go through the gate to the back yard and into our backroom via the patio door, which we had to use a broom handle to lock up at night, as the lock broke). I have found them in my house while coming out of the shower in nothing but a towel. I used to nap while my two napped, only to wake up with a face full of my MIL right in mine, as well as her awful, migraine inducing lavender perfume stink in my nostrils. Once she finally did this while my husband was home and scared the crap out of him, he started to understand my exasperation and didn't mind when I blocked the gate with porch furniture. That didn't stop their attempts, but Covid has kept them home. Now that quarantine is ending, I'm gonna have to build a moat (and maybe some tiger traps).
The best thing I ever bought was a lock for our gate :) Now nobody can come in. My ‘cousin in law’ saw me completely naked once because my partner was in the toilet upstairs so I went to the one down. He has entered the house without ringing the bell. I hope that he learned the lesson. I have never heard an adult man screaming so loudly.
Load More Replies...Can relate. I have a mentally challenged cousin who loves to play on the PS4 at our house. So this one time we all were at our farmhouse, his mother came to drop him off at our house (without informing) and had to go back (obviously). Then she starting saying stuff like we do not let him play because he is mentally challenged, etc. Like WHAT? And a few days later, the same thing happens with her younger son, except she drove off before him going inside, and he had to walk all the way from our house to his as we were not home. Thankfully, he cycled often so he knew the way correctly. We were blamed for that.
This 100% depends on where in the world you are, what kind of relationship you have with that person and/or what was agreed on beforehand
Some parts of the world its very thoughtful and nice to drop by when you are in the area
Load More Replies...Please tell this to my African family and friends that considered super rude from me when I told them this.and when I told them to take shoes of... Let just say that now I'm the eccentric in the family, just excused because I grow in Europa.
Nevermind having to entertain someone or cancel your plans.... what about having to change out of your pajamas again!
God, you can say no, you can say it's not the right time. But how did this change so much in the last 20 yrs. I admit I really don't like it myself either, but that's a personal thing. Cause in the end I do like it as well. It brings surprises and opportunities instead of the point where everything in live needs to be planned.
Leave it in a better condition than you found it.
if you go to a hotel, it's ok to leave it in a worse condition. No need to put the covers on the bed again. They NEED to be changed! make it clear that you used it
This is a wonderful sentiment but stresses me out. What if you are borrowing something that is brand new. There is no way in the world you can return it in better condition.
then return it in the same squeaky clean condition
Load More Replies...Always did that in rental properties. Usually the landlord refunded the last weeks rent...and you get an excellent reference.
Don't let friends drive drunk. Maybe offer to get an uber or something for strangers, too, if you can
I knew a man who half-joked about how he picked women to date: "If she's small, she's allowed to get drunk because I can carry her. If she's too big to carry, she'll have to stay sober."
Load More Replies...This is me, but the downside is all the times people have thrown up in my car.
A German friend, my husband and I were kicked out of a taxi in Munich just before I could get sick. Between jet lag and an empty stomach, I flunked Oktoberfest. :(
Load More Replies...When I bartend I see this so many times. Many people will call an Uber, but the ones that don't really scare me. I have had to take keys away before. Yes they get mad at me, but what would be worse, getting a DUI or possibly killing someone? Or just having to take an Uber home, and then back to get your car?
Yes a few years ago someone hit my car and almost killed me ripped a huge hole in the side of the car and tore off the rear-view mirror
Many cab companies will offer free or differed pay rides home from bars. Also in many towns and cities the local police will also give you a ride HOME (not to jail) if asked and they are not swamped. Obviously, this won't happen in very large cities. But in smaller cities and towns they would rather take you home than to jail for killing someone. At least that is what my father and his friends used to tell me.
Don't start drama at a funeral.
When I went to my best friends funeral, his ex showed up and in front of EVERYONE and his grief stricken parents, she gets down on her knees and starts screaming, "WHY??? WHYYYYY??? WWWHHHHYYYY?!?!" and some other bs I put out of my mind. It was horrible. Especially since she treated him terribly and verbally abused him. She did it for the sympathy. It was extremely messed up. I felt so, so bad for his parents. That really wasn't okay of her to do. It was all a show.
Load More Replies...At my sister's funeral, an "elder" in her church tried to convert me. I told him it was offensive, none of his business, and he was rude to use the occasion to push his beliefs. Felt great.
My aunt Lois could always be counted on to create drama at every family gathering. No wonder that no one went to her funeral...
I don't think she would have created more drama at that gathering... but I could be wrong.
Load More Replies...sometimes theres drama over the will or because its separated people meeting up, or blaming for the death of the deceased.
Load More Replies...Who goes to a funeral to start drama? Says the woman who made shady comments in her grandmother’s eulogy. To be fair, my gran would have loved it so really I was honouring her memory.
I've heard humorous stories at funerals and memorials. At the unveiling of a tombstone in a Jewish cemetery, we followed the custom of placing pebbles on top of it. The grandson mischievously placed a cigarette. We all smiled - Lily loved her cigarettes.
Load More Replies...Or wedding, or christening, or any other gathering. You are showing the utmost in disrespectful & self-centered behavior. I have a sister I can't stand & refuse to talk to normally, but that didn't stop us from being civil at my Mom's surprise party for her 75th birthday. You're a f*****g adult. ACT LIKE ONE.
Always ask if a dog is friendly. You never know what kind of weird behavior things a dog can have, even when they appear friendly at first.
I had a dog who would be fine until someone bent down to pet him. He was very protective and nearly bit a few people. I'd they has asked first we could have told them that he doesn't like being pet by strangers.
I would hate to have to put my dog down because you are an idiot around animals.
Also, please put your dogs on a leash! I can't tell you how many times I have been walking my dog and someone's off leash dog has come charging at us. "Don't worry, he's friendly" they always yell. Well good for you, but my dog is not. He was bit by a "good dog" who was not on a leash and is traumatized by strange dogs running up to him. Just because your dog is well behaved doesn't mean everyone's is.
This exactly. My dog loves people, doesn't bother the outside cats, and pays no mind to the ducks. But he's been attacked, more than once, by dogs off thier leash, so he gets aggressive with other dogs. I always keep him leashed, so I can control the situation, and you know, it's literally the law. But if you allow your dog to run free towards us, I can't control what happens.
Load More Replies...You shouldn't touch other people's dogs without asking. Full stop. Do you go around petting other people's heads, or touching other people's kids? Then, why do you touch other people's pets without asking for permission? Muzzles are uncomfortable for dogs, and in 99% of the situations they are unnecessary unless imbeciles go around putting their hands where they shouldn't.
Load More Replies...I've taught my children to ALWAYS ask first. It is NOT the dogs fault if something happens if you don't check with the Dog-parent first. As for "your dog shouldn't be in public/should have a muzzle" I've seen people approach dogs that ARE properly muzzled & then get offended when the dog negatively reacts, and most people who know their dogs are not "people friendly" they will avoid populated areas.
No one has any more right to reach out and touch my dog any more than I have the right to reach out and touch your child!! Damn entitled people drive me ...ah nevermind
It’s funny, it’s only like 5 year olds who ever ask if they can pet my dogs. Everyone else just reaches in.
Load More Replies...And please keep your dog away from my dog until we are sure they will get along. I can't tell you how many people let their dog wander over to my leashed dog and said, "don't worry he's friendly." Well, my dog isn't, and you have no idea how your dog will behave in new situations. Restrain them.
I have a German Shepard Im trying to acclimate to people, she was adopted too young and didnt get proper socialization. I walk her in the wee hours of the morning ( 5 or 6 am ) and after dark to avoid folks as much as possible and have a big red bright vest on her that says 'In Training' just to be safe. And if all else were to fail due to her poor social skills at the moment she lets them know she aint down for a petting with her barking.
Turn down your bass! Be more considerate of your neighbors in apartment complexes.
I'm tired of people sitting outside my window in their car with their bass on full blast...at 2-3am! ((That's why I'm awake right now.)) I'm also greatly annoyed at my neighbors turning up their music (bass) to the point where it's rattling things on my walls. After getting multiple complaints you know it's a problem thus are choosing to be bad neighbors. *Also they have a lot of small children who should definitely be asleep but of course arent.
Any bass. Low noises travel a lot further. But really, this is just the considerate being aware of your surroundings thing again. And it's because many people have no idea and some just love bugging others that it happens.
Load More Replies...Also, if you want to enjoy music your way, do some research on sound isolation. For example, don't put your speakers on full bass boost leaning against the wall. If your floor is wooden, put your speakers on an elevated piece of furniture that conducts less vibrations. You may want to consider paper egg packages too as an isolator.
As someone with chronic migraine, there is nothing I hate more than blaring bass. Coming across it will quickly end any chance I might have had at a productive day. No one needs to have their music that loud!
Most of these kinds of things are done by people who just don't care about anybody else. Many are intentional.
I think some people are just so into living to their enjoyment that they are either not aware or don't care that their enjoyment is someone else's aggravation. I have some neighbors that seem to not be able to listen to music or watch television unless it's at movie theater sound. it's aggravating and they wait till most people should be sleep and then get started.
Same with those annoying loud muffler cars when jerks goose the gas late at night!
I have had them startle me awake in the middle of the night.
Load More Replies...Well, woman living next door bought bass amplifier and now it's like living in the middle of some sh*tty pop concert. Another neighbour and I tried to tell her nicely but she won't open the door and runs away is we see her outside. Some days I think that I could also upgrade my gear and start blasting heavy metal back to her. But not really, I am not that kind of person.
Be kind to strangers even if you’re having a hard time
Everyone says this, but few people are. Even those who say it.
Load More Replies...Also, if you have nothing nice to say to someone, keep your mouth shut. If you don't have anything constructive to add to a conversation, keep your mouth shut.
It will make you feel better, and some good might come of it. Ya just never know!
A wise friend said RESPECT IS NOT EARNED. It is his baseline. He respects everyone, until they show they don't deserve it.
Don't cook fish in the office kitchen
Can we upvote this 1000 times? Especially in shared offices with poor ventilation.
I worked with a guy for a couple years who microwaved salmon for lunch EVERY day. He was otherwise a really great coworker, but my first thought when he left was, "Thank god. No more fish."
Load More Replies...Let people eat what they want unless there is a genuine scent allergy
Agreed. Too many people want to police places like work breakrooms. it's not your home, and unless there's a real danger, they should STFU.
Load More Replies...This one should be forbidden by law. It's the most obnoxious, revolting smell on Earth.
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Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.
I have a plunger but have never needed it, going 15 years nw, it's starting to crackle with age.
Don't mix your sink plunger ( smaller with short handle ) with your toilet plunger. You should own both.
I've lived in the same house for 20 years and never needed one... is it just luck or is it an American thing?
also looking at that photo, put a tray or bucket under the plunger or your floor and mat are going to be yuck
When driving a car, dont be nice, be predictable. People being nice leads to a s**tload of accidents.
be predictable = use your blinkers and use them before your car is already turning
Totally agree, i hate it when "nice" drivers start making up rules. Just do what you should do.
In other words, don't let people in when you have the right of way, etc.
Load More Replies...This is a much too generic statement imo. Should you slam on the brakes while going 50 miles per hour in full traffic just to let someone in? No. Should you be nice and let someone if when it’s stop and go traffic within the city? Certainly, because otherwise some people coming from back roads would never get in.
What they are saying is don't go against the rules of the road just to be nice. It isn't against the rules of the road to let someone in when it is stop and go traffic.
Load More Replies...I think this needs expanding upon. Are you referring to giving way at points where it's not required by law? If that's the case, and you're referring to people stopping in traffic, or not going when you think they should, it's better to drive defensively because anything could cause a person to have to hit the brakes in an unpredictable manner that has nothing to do with being nice. Or fail to go from a standing start because there's something in the road that you can't see and it could be dangerous to the driver in front to proceed "predictably". Take "being nice" out of the equation.
When I have a stop sign, I'm the one who should stop, not the person who thinks it's nice to let me go first.
This, as the oncoming car I am then a bit thrown off, feel a bit hurried, and might not stop to look at the other side if there is traffic or a pedestrian or something else there that I need to stop for. Let me stop, it is there for a reason.
Load More Replies...And please be kind with people that have a learning sign or that are obviously learning how to drive. We all have been there.
Oh my god. Yes. The amount of times people have gone out of their way (endangering themselves, the people coming from the other way, AND me and the other people behind me) by trying to overtake me in a spot they legally can't or when a friggin TRUCK is coming the other way is ridiculous. I have many, many more stories other than those moments, but the worst was one car tried to overtake when a truck was coming the other way, but another person behind them decided, hey, they're going, so it must be safe. So they went too because they were impatient f***s. Barely made it back into our lane. Truck barely missed hitting them. Poor truck driver looked like he almost had a heart attack.
Load More Replies...Example: You have the right of way at a green light. Do NOT stop to let others go before you. That's how you cause accidents.
I hate it when they stop randomly to let people cross without zebra, or to let someone do a turn across the lane when they have the right of way. Just drive as per rules. Otherwise I have to not only worry about not going into you but also about the cars behind me - none of us is expecting this sudden slowdown. This is just one example.
Sometimes, you‘re better off letting people cross. I‘ve seen so many people, especially the elderly, just walk onto the street because they can’t judge traffic correctly. I‘d rather have you bump into me than run over a pedestrian. Childen are unpredictable as well.
Load More Replies...How about USE TURN SIGNALS? My home state, you were busted for it. Where I am now? It's like "Huh? Turn signal? What I need that for?" ... Really? *headdesk*
When out to dinner with a group, only the person who ordered the least expensive meal/combo of things can offer to split the check evenly.
But then it puts pressure on the person and makes it awkward. The person with most expensive bill should offer that everyone pays for their own.. or as we say India TTMM: Tu tera, mein mera (roughly translates to: you pay yours, I'll pay mine)
Thanks Vic, I like that TTMM, once you know what it means, it's so quick to say!
Load More Replies...If you are going out with someone on a restricted income, (as a pair or in a group) and you are going to push for an event/restaurant you know one person cannot afford, you should offer to treat them. Otherwise, suggest something everyone can afford. Don't be the d**k who makes the student/unemployed/disabled friend always have to say, 'Sorry guys, I can't come, that's not in my budget'.
I have never experienced that anyone want to split evenly. You either pay for what you ordered or you offer to pay for everything. To say that you all should split evenly is just rude, at least where I'm from.
If you're planning a party, where it becomes hard to keep track of who ordered what, and you end up sharing all the food and drinks anyway, then splitting evenly is fair. But it should be notified in advance.
Load More Replies...Why would anyone want to split the check evenly? Doesn't make sense, just pay what you ate and drank or invite everyone else.
Because it is more easier to just split then that the restaurant has to calculate everything. Also if you consider giving a tip (which is doesn't make sense in our country) then you could round it down better. Here it is pretty normal and nobody bats an eye.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of that 'Friends' episode! Lol! Ross says they all split the dinner bill, but Joey, Phoebe, & Rachel don't think it's fair, since they make less money. unless it's agreed upon beforehand, you pay for your own order. That's what's really fair.
I can't believe any one would suggest to split a restaurant bill evenly.
If I'm out with a friend and our totals are close we just split it. It's easier for everyone.
Load More Replies...That's not a common thing in my country - either one pays off everything or everybody pays for what s/he had. Never heard of splitting evenly.
I have two:
1. do not wear perfume or cologne if you’re getting on an airplane.
2. do not use speaker phone or play videos on your phone without headphones in public places. Especially in public transit.
Why not perfume or cologne? I'd say "do not pour half the bottle" as many people do, but a little? Everything smells, really, and I think the smell of "people", like sweat or God only knows what else, is far more annoying than perfume.
Neither smell is ideal, but while sweat just stinks, perfume in an enclosed space may cause someone to have an asthma attack.
Load More Replies...Roll-on and stick deodorants are good, though. Also, perfume sticks rather than spray.
I've heard people complain about ALL scented products to include deoderant, shampoo, lotion, even detergent. They can be quite insistent that it's up to you to ensure that their allergies/sensitivities are not triggered. I agree that accommodations ought to be made, but I'm not willing to entirely replace every product that I use on the random chance that I'll come across someone who can sniff out stuff like a bloodhound. Perfume? Yeah. Forego bathing in the stuff.
I agree with you. I don't know what kind of allergies people might have. Should I organise my whole life thinking I might encounter an allergic person? Once I had a terrible argument in a bar because an idiot who came to sit next to me started to sneeze and have a strong allergic reaction. He started to ask everyone person around him whether we had a cat, because he was allergic to cats and people who owns cats shouldn't be allowed in public places. Excuse me? YOU are allergic, so perhaps you should stop going to certain places. I'm not going to get rid of my pets because you say so.
Load More Replies...Re: perfume in confined spaces. Most would be amazed at the number of people who have allergies to some of the ingredients in perfume. It is why nurses and other hospital workers are not allowed to wear perfume at work. Imagine the horror of someone going anaphalaxis in a metal tube 35K feet above the earth with no possibility of relief!
number one, i know some people that are actually allergic to perfume/cologne, like my old choir teacher, and my dad, who'se lungs freeze up when he inhales just a little bit of fake coconut scented stuff. ive gotten kinda scared of messing up peoples lungs from cologne
I....prefer perfume than smelling body odor... maybe not too much perfume?
how about "use half as much cologne or perfume as normal if travelling long distances", because coaches and trains are a thing as well. you can still smell nice without me smelling you from 10 seats away
I was dining in a restaurant and a lady decided to start using hairspray at her table only 1-2 metres away from people. Not kidding...
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If someone asks you a question, finish what you’re saying with, “what about you?”
Enjoy noticing how many people actually don’t do this.
Imagine: "Are you guilty of murdering these people?" "Yes. What about you?"
Load More Replies...This is not a good rule. I can answer your questions and I can be empathic with you too, but I'm very introvert to continue a conversation sometimes.
i tend to be too awkward to tell someone im not doing good when they dont as me this, so i try to ask them how theyre doing so that theyll ask me back and ill feel better telling them. it never works
Don't look through the f**king gap of bathroom stalls.
People actually do that? While I'm here, I'd like to add, PLEASE don't hum when you're on the throne.
I’ve only caught kids doing that fortunately. Still creepy.
There was a gap in the shower stall at a campground where I went one time. Made eye contact with someone while I was buck naked.
DON’T USE THE URINAL IN YOUR DREAM! You’ll thank me later.
I have done this once as a teen but instead of a urinal it was a toilet, and of course I ended up wetting the bed. I have had many dreams about toilets but they are usually gross, have no doors, flooded, full of crap, covered in toilet paper etc so I never use the toilet in those dreams and don’t wake up needing to pee. Bit of a gross dream I know but I can’t help it lol.
I often have those dreams about unusable or exposed toilets too. I wonder how they’d be interpreted. I also find that I’m absolutely exhausted the next day after those dreams.
Load More Replies...I used to have a recurring dream as a child of asking a grandmotherly old lady if I could use the bathroom. It took me a long time to realize if she said yes, I would wet the bed. I decided one day she would say no, and when I asked, she said no, and I stopped wetting the bed. Now as an adult, when I have dreams about going to the bathroom, I shake my head in my dream, and that makes me do it in real life. That wakes me up, and I can go to the bathroom.
Although, sometimes even if you do see a toilet in your dream you probably wouldn't want to use it for other reasons. For instance, the toilet is on display.
If you have to cancel on a friend, it should be your responsibility to reschedule.
Exception to this: chronic or severe illness (ex: cancer) I am in and out of the hospital frequently and am sick quite often. My brain is also drained dealing with appointments and treatments and such. The friends who understand when I have to cancel AND ask me again in a few days to reschedule make a huge difference. They are some of my biggest support while I am trying to fight this.
And have a really good reason for canceling. A friend called and invited me to dinner. She had reservations in an hour. We ate out, had a great time, then went for a drink. The person who canceled on her was there with other people. We walked by and she said to the person, "Blocked and deleted."
And don’t be the kind of friend to always make plans and always cancel them. I had two that were that way and it’s very hurtful.
Especially when it's the one time a year you'll make plans to get together. After enough canceled plans it's obvious you don't consider me a friend.
Load More Replies...And, don't be the person who never responds, in case something better might pop up last minute. Just as bad as cancelling.
I wish everyone heard this... I’ll always get canceled on, but no one else seems to care that I need to re-schedule everything else
This list started do nice with things like leaving room for one another in doing what you like and going down has turned into a s**t show of telling others what to do and what not to do. F**k off, your friends, don't be this person. Instead be friends, take care of eachother, figure things out together....be equals.
One of my friends kept cancelling on me, I think because of her depression. Finally one day I had to cancel, and she was really shocked, like it was a big inconvenience. But I can't have a go at her, bc she can't help it.
If your going out to dinner with other people, and theyre paying, dont order the most expensive thing on the menu, go cheap
With one exception: if a billionaire ever takes me out to dinner, I am gonna enjoy. Yes, I know it's not gonna happen, but being honest.
Depends. If a person specifically wants to treat you to something, they‘ll want you to order something you like, not the cheapest thing. It‘s a thin line. A co-worker forgot their lunch and I decide to be kind and let them buy something at the cafeteria that I’ll pay for? Yes, please don’t order a 25 € meal unless you plan to repay me the next day. A friend of me has little money and I decide to treat him to sushi because I know he loves it but can’t afford it? Please buy whatever sushi you like, I want to make you happy!
I always ask, conversationally of course, what that person is having and then make sure I go cheaper than that.
I go out to dinner to eat. If I offer to pay, it's because I can afford it. It is insulting for the person you're with to order a glass of tap water and half a salad, then sit there and watch me eat. This goes for dates, it goes for friends, it goes for couples.....it goes for EVERYONE. If I invite you, I'm paying.
My rule of thumb is I choose a cheap, middle, and expensive item. I ask the payer what they’re going to order and make my selection based on the price range their choice is.
A former friend would want to split the bill evenly if her half was bigger, each pay for what we ordered if my portion was bigger. It wasn't just this, she treated me poorly constantly. Eventually I realized she wasn't really a friend.
When my aunt and uncle are in town they always take the whole family to dinner. They insist on you getting what you want regardless of price. They have always been this way. I used to get the cheapest thing possible and once I became an adult they called me out on it. So it really depends on who you are dinning with.
One way to alleviate this if you are the one paying, if you think the person will be choosing cheap to not seem greedy, look at the menu and point out several items that you think they will like (that are in your budget) so they have an idea of what price range you are comfortable with. Or conversely, pick a restaurant that doesn't have anything out of your price range. Unfortunately for me that would be McDonald's.
On the flip side, don't be pushy about paying every time. EVERY time I go out for dinner with my grandma, she pays. I offer often to pay for both of us, I'll try to pay for at least the tip, but she's really forceful about it. I'm lucky if I can get away with paying on her birthday. So do I ever get to enjoy myself & just have what I want to have? Nope, because I know she's going to find a way to pay so I have to watch the price. Just... don't do this.
If someone whispers, you whisper back.
Whispering AND giggling is HEINOUSLY rude!!!
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I have been told that I'm quiet talker and a loud whisperer... so it's a bummer for this guy
Nope! I am going to say something loud and embarrassing because that's the kind of friends I have.
If you're going to listen to music, videos, or anything else on your phone that requires sound and isnt a phone call, either wait until you get home or invest in some headphones.
For that, suck it up. If they aren't yelling, but using the same tone of voice they'd use for talking to someone talking next to them, what do you care if the person they're talking to is standing right there or on the other end of a phone?
Load More Replies...I was on the bus one day. This loudmouthed girl was sitting in the back of the bus, I was in front. She was ordering cable tv for her apartment on her phone. Everybody on the bus could hear her loud and clear!!! Everybody on the bus knew her full name, her address, her phone number, her drivers license number, her Social Security number, and her credit card number!!!!!
The fact that this bad habit is repeated shows how strongly people feel about it. I wonder if any of the culprits of this are reading these comments. Do they know they are annoying everyone?
I LOVE when someone is on speaker phone while shopping & having a personal discussion on their phone, you hear what's is mentioned from the other end of the phone and You (as a passerby) overhear it and say whoa, really?, think ya may wanna take that call off speaker & keep walking past, but the person in the store get offended and says "this a private conversation, mind your business" even though that person was on speaker? Why get mad at others for "over hearing" your conversation, when YOU had it out there for the world to hear 😆
What gets me is people playing games on their phone with constant beep beep ting dong etc etc
I have heard some of the most disgusting phone calls in the hospital waiting room. Please, people, wait until you're alone to call your girlfriend about that weeping rash on your lower body. And no one wants to hear a tape of your latest karaoke attempt, either. Have a little mercy on strangers, folks.
On our regional trains in Melbourne we have quiet carriages. You can still listen to music have conversations but at a reasonable sound level. Make to much noise you have to move carriages. Most people are great and have no issues.
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Don't talk to anyone at the urinal.
"Hey man. Nice testicles" - Was the last thing Aaron said before he died
Most men are shocked to learn that women freely converse in the restroom. I've had some great friendly encounters. We pass TP and other needed products to the next stall, compliment one another at the mirror, ask for help... you name it. Most guys tell me that public restrooms are silent as a funeral home.
Passing TP is alright... but it freaks me out when people talk in the restroom, even my friends. I'm trying to pee, please save the latest gossip for when I'm done!
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Don't ask for something if the person only has one left (gum, cigarette, piece of cake, etc.).
Yeah, Cameron I saw that full pack of gum you aren't on your last one....
Load More Replies...It's safest to simply not ask for it, if they want to share, they'll offer. If they don't want to, all you're doing is making both feel awkward.
Yes, don't ask for the last piece because if the person wants it, they'll start feeling guilty and give it to you and then they might be in a bad mood from that, or at least they'll be a little disappointed
Dont sneeze directly into another persons face.
This too is a rule that humans don’t follow? I’ve only had that issue with one of my cats Bi-fortunately. When I would do the same to her, she had a disgusted look on her face. “That’s how it feels Brownie. Not nice is it?”
Uh... yes you can. I haven't sneezed in someone's face since I was a little kid.
Load More Replies...Not pointing out flaws in someone’s physical appearance
Yes...If the flaw in my appearance is that my hair is sticking up weirdly please tell me. Don't just let me walk around with weird stick up hair.
Load More Replies...Don’t just say things like “I love your baby bump!” to some random person.
The rule should be: NEVER assume a woman is pregnant unless she tells you.
I have IBS and some times I bloat so bad that look like I'm 6 months pregnant. So a couple of times I was offered a seat at public transportation. I took it :/
Yes!! I was waiting when someone will mention that! So true!!
Load More Replies...Raise your children in a loving environment, but always make sure you respect them as individuals as well. One day they’ll be living their own life and might have to decide whether or not they personally want to take care of you when you’re old/sick/deteriorating.
I agree with the start but not the ending. I don’t want my kids taking care of me when the time comes that I can’t look after myself.
Agreed, I'd much rather be taken care of by professionals than have my family stressing about taking care of me.
Load More Replies...I have seen painted quotation signs you can buy, reading "Be kind to your kids, they chose your retirement home." But it's sad if you're really being kind because of that.
I love this, but it's sad that we have to justify being kind to our kids by saying that if we don't then they could get their revenge when we're deteriorating. We should just learn that our children are individual people, whose thoughts and emotions need to be treated with respect
Stand up when you shake someone's hand.
FYI: getting vaccinated only protects you. Not anyone else. Please keep distance, wear masks etc until the threshold is achieved and one month has passed since.
Load More Replies...This is polite, but I have trouble standing. Obviously cannot apply to persons in wheelchairs.
Maybe we should just stop shaking hands, if not permanently, then for the next couple of years.
Knock twice before opening the door.
Should be “don’t open the door until you have been given permission or you have made absolutely sure no-one is in the room before you open it.” Knocking and opening before giving some a chance to deny or pause entry is makes the knocking moot
Or better...wait for the person to say "come in" before opening the door.
My hearing isn't 100%, so I may open the door a crack so I can hear a "come in" through a heavy, thick door, but ONLY if I've previously established that this is acceptable.
Load More Replies...The probability of meeting someone you know increases dramatically when you are with someone you don’t want to be seen with. Don’t do it.
this one makes no sense at all. If you are embarrassed by being seen with someone, you should be extremely ashamed of yourself for being so shallow and rethink your decisions why to hang out with that person at all.
There are exceptions to this. For example I don't want to be seen shopping for party supplies with my brother's girlfriend because then that person would be able to work out that we're planning a surprise party and might blab.
Load More Replies...Yeah, this may be advisable if you're cheating on your significant other.
Pee first. No matter what it is, pee first.
I learned the hard way that usually the pee comes first.
Load More Replies...Just sit down on the toilet and let come first what comes first.. Men included.
I don't think that's what they meant. I think they meant if you have to do a task, use the bathroom before, not in the middle of the task. Like example: cooking dinner. if you need to piss but wait till afterwards, you most likely will need to turn off the stove and use the bathroom in the middle of it all.
Load More Replies...I don't think that's what they meant. I think they meant if you have to do a task, use the bathroom before, not in the middle of the task. Like example: cooking dinner. if you need to piss but wait till afterwards, you most likely will need to turn off the stove and use the bathroom in the middle of it all.
Load More Replies...I don't quite understand this, but then I'm not sure I want the explanation....
Just realized it means pee before you do things (ex. drive somewhere, start a zoom, etc), not pee before you poop lol
Thank you! Makes so much sense. And yes, this is excellent advice at any age
Load More Replies...I'm an experienced teacher. When new teachers ask me for tips, I tell them, ALWAYS pee before class. It's not what they expect, but once as a new teacher I went to class after tea with friends. That class seemed to last five months.
I have 2... 1. Don't touch someone you don't know; you might get throat punched. And for that matter, if you DO know the person and KNOW they don't like to be touched, just because you're their mother doesn't give you the right to touch/hug them - and saying "I'm going to touch you" before you do it, just makes us tense up. And when you feel that tension, don't start to rub our shoulders to relax us. Respect boundaries. 2. Just because you're elderly and think you have the right to speak your mind doesn't mean you actually should. Keep your trap shut and mind your own business, you old biddy.
If you need to touch someone in an emergency, saying. "I'm going to touch you, I'm trying to get this seatbelt off you/I'm checking you for unnoticed injuries/I need to move you." is better than just touching someone who you don't know, or who doesn't like touch. Or ask 'Is it alright if I hug you/hold your hand/check for injuries." But yeah, everyone has the right to say no, and touching them more to 'relax' them, is not going to help.
I feel like this person is referring to a specific “old biddy”...I can’t put my finger on it 😉
It happens to often too ignore. Both strangers and family members use age as an excuse to be disrespectful. I have watched older women demand handicapped people give up their seat on public transportation. Push people with obvious mobility problems out of the way to board the senior / handicapped shuttle first. My grandmother and mother-in-law felt entitled to insult and manipulate others, using guilt as an excuse. My grandmother would ruin family events with her demands. My mother-in-law harshly criticized her grandchildren every time she saw them. Both knew what they were doing; they obviously enjoyed it. Maybe I am more aware because of how often I have experienced this. On a group tour an older woman demanded I switch seats. I had a window seat on an airplane, she was in a middle seat. I did nothing, even when she yelled. It happens too often to ignore. Be thankful you have not experienced this.
Load More Replies...Some people are saying the touching thing is oddly specific. Not really. "Don't touch someone you don't know." That's just a general life rule. "And if you do know the person doesn't like to be touched, don't touch them," really is good advice, too. If you know someone with issues with contact, just don't touch them, and as someone else pointed out, only say, "I'm going to touch you now," if you have to for some sort of emergency and then explain it.
No one puts their hands on me. I will not tolerate strangers manhandling me, and I am not a hugger. Don't try and force me to do that because I will embarrass you by stepping back or saying flat out that I don't want you touching me.
Load More Replies...I will probably get downvoted but the first thing is also a cultural thing! I also don't like touching or being touched but I'm sure I do it quite more often than in other countries! I come from south Europe, so we touch, we smile, we are loud but it's in our culture! But I can understand that some people don't like that of course and always respect it
I can't imagine being rude or demanding - ever. The instant I become a senior I should change how I treat others? There isn't any excuse, at any age, to be cruel. Perhaps I have experienced this more often, been pushed aside or insulted based on age. Strangers and family both feel entitled
Load More Replies...Agreed. Some people think that age alone makes you smart, not true though, being smart makes you smart. Your age does not entitle you to be the boss.
And boundaries get bigger, the further away from densely populated areas you live.
Load More Replies...Being old doesn't make you wise, it just means you had a lot of opportunities to gain experience. Experience itself isn't worth any if nothing's learned from it. There are a lot of old people who are stupid ... it's even like being stupid is a lifetime task you cannot just drop out of if you're already doing this for 70 or 80 years.
This is a basically a list of do and don't in normal every day life when you don't want to come across as a total uncultured rude swine. It's sad that this list exists. Just goes to show that there are people out there who need to be reminded.
Most of these are so obvious, it makes me wonder what kind of rude as-sholes some of you hang out with...
If you wish to speak to person A but they’re currently engaged in a face-to-face conversation with person B, don’t walk up and interrupt the conversation, cutting off person B so you can ask your question or speak to person A. And if you’re person A, don’t allow this to happen. Tell the intruder to let you finish with person B first - then you’ll address their matter.
Puts people on the spot though. If I don't want one some people are going to be offended if I say no. Maybe, if you care enough to want to hug a person, find out how they feel overall about it in a general conversation first.
Load More Replies...It is good manners but should just be common sense yeah
Load More Replies...Be as polite to your friends and family as you would be to an important client.
This is a basically a list of do and don't in normal every day life when you don't want to come across as a total uncultured rude swine. It's sad that this list exists. Just goes to show that there are people out there who need to be reminded.
Most of these are so obvious, it makes me wonder what kind of rude as-sholes some of you hang out with...
If you wish to speak to person A but they’re currently engaged in a face-to-face conversation with person B, don’t walk up and interrupt the conversation, cutting off person B so you can ask your question or speak to person A. And if you’re person A, don’t allow this to happen. Tell the intruder to let you finish with person B first - then you’ll address their matter.
Puts people on the spot though. If I don't want one some people are going to be offended if I say no. Maybe, if you care enough to want to hug a person, find out how they feel overall about it in a general conversation first.
Load More Replies...It is good manners but should just be common sense yeah
Load More Replies...Be as polite to your friends and family as you would be to an important client.

