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People Share Their Stories About How Damaging Their Partners’ Gaming Addiction Is
People Share Their Stories About How Damaging Their Partners’ Gaming Addiction Is
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There can always be too much of a good thing. If you throw moderation out the window, you’re not only harming yourself but you’re also impacting the people closest to you. In our digital and technologically advanced world, internet, social media, and video game addiction are a fact of life.

Today, we’re featuring three powerful and honest stories from Reddit where people opened up about how their partners’ massive video gaming habits have affected them. Scroll down to read them and to see what advice the internet had to share.

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    Video game addiction can have massive negative effects on a person’s physical and mental health, as well as their social life

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    One mom opened up about how her partner prioritized gaming over childcare

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    Another person opened up about how obsessed her boyfriend can get when it comes to video games

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    Meanwhile, another internet user detailed how gaming has become a core part of her partner’s identity

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    Gaming is incredibly widespread in this day and age

    According to a recent study conducted by the Pew Research Center, 85% of teenagers living in the United States play video games. 41% of them do so every single day, and around the same number identify themselves as ‘gamers.’

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    There are lots of pros and cons associated with gaming, from making friends and getting good at solving various problems to losing sleep and getting harassed online.

    72% of respondents revealed that they game to spend time with other people, while 47% admitted that they’ve made friends this way. However, 80% of American teens said that they believe harassment over video games is a problem that people their age deal with. 41% opened up that they’ve been insulted while playing online.

    Video game addiction is also known as gaming disorder and has negative consequences on a person’s life because they’re unable to control their behavior. Their impaired control over gaming takes priority over other parts of their lives, harming their work, school performance, health, and personal relationships.

    The World Health Organization has officially included gaming disorder in its 11th edition of the International Classification of Diseases.

    People who suffer from gaming addiction can experience withdrawal symptoms. Among these are irritability or sadness when they stop playing. Meanwhile, they can also feel a greater need to play video games for longer. Some feel like they need to lie to others about how much they game. Meanwhile, others have failed at controlling their excessive gaming time.

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    However, Psychology Today notes that some experts are critical of gaming disorder diagnoses. From their perspective, it’s an indication that normal human behavior is being pathologized and treated for the sake of profit. From their point of view, it’s gaming passion, not addiction, that we should be talking about.

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    Some people are more likely than others to develop an obsession with activities that offer them escapism

    People who are impulsive, have lower social skills, and a higher tolerance for violence may be at greater risk of video game addiction. Some other risk factors include having ADHD, depression, and anxiety.

    The intention behind gaming matters, too. For instance, someone who plays video games for fun, to relax, or to connect with their friends may be less likely to become addicted than someone who wants to escape from their problems or to improve their status.

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    Gaming activates dopamine pathways. It’s what also happens when we do other pleasurable activities, though. Gaming can actually improve our minds. Say, for example, you like to play games that deal with a lot of spatial problems. Naturally, those regions of your brain that deal with spatial memory get activated, and they can grow over time. The same holds true for the parts of your brain related to visual acuity and attention.

    If you can’t seem to stick to self-imposed time limits for gaming and you feel that your quality of life is suffering, then you need to take more serious steps to solve the problem. You can opt for a full or partial tech detox, exercise more, focus on other hobbies, or spend more time in nature or around family and friends. If things are really bad, you may want to get in touch with a therapist who specializes in addiction.

    How much time do you spend gaming these days, dear Pandas? What’s the longest stretch of time that you’ve played video games for? Have you ever felt that you or a loved one has been addicted to gaming? How did that affect your lives? If you’re feeling up to it, share your thoughts in the comments.

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    winterwidow87
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say this as a gamer and as someone who doesn't particularly like children: if your 4 month old is struggling for air and your answer instead of "omg is the baby ok?" is "i can't pause my game", there is something really deeply wrong with you. That level of disregard for human life (not to mention your own child) is definitely not normal and cannot simply be explained with addiction, i think the only solution is run and take the baby with you.

    Kari Panda
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. I don’t usually advocate for divorce/separation on these stories because we only know so little. But this scenario - the bf WILL get the baby hurt eventually, either by negligence or becoming violent if the kid is older and interrupts his game. This is non-negotiable - the moment you‘re a danger to your kid, you‘re out. And the whole "This is the first time that this happened“ - no, it’s the first time that she knows of.

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    UpQuarkDownQuark (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d chuck the Switch straight in the toilet if my partner said something like to me in response to our child suffering. I don’t even have a child. I don’t even *like* children, but f*ck that guy. You bring a baby into the world, you change your f*cking priorities!

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    Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm always playing games, but I'm a shut-in with absolutely no social life other than Bored Panda. My mom comes to visit every few months, and I put the games down.

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So this couple has a 4 month old and the bf sleeps from 3am -2pm? What?! That's what struck me.

    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're two different stories (3 in this post). Either way, s****y partners.

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    Amelia Jade
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're a family of five and all gamers. As children of the 80s, the husband and I grew up in arcades, then moved to consoles, then to PC. We're both 50 this year and still game regularly--almost daily. We also have weekends where we'll get on a game together until the wee hours of the morning. Our kids have been gamers their entire lives. And yet, we've all held down jobs. Kids were great students, graduating in the top of their class. And we each have hobbies outside of gaming. We're very outdoorsy and live in an area great for hiking. It's possible to be a well rounded, responsible person and still be a gamer. If someone can't set aside their game to tend to real life, and to keep their child safe, something is seriously wrong.

    Moosy Girl
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s also possible to enjoy alcohol in a responsible and fun manner, except for alcoholics. It’s possible to have fun playing the lottery and spend an occasional sunday afternoon at the slot machine in your local arcade, except for a gambling addict. It’s possible to enjoy food and even make a family hobby out of trying new foods, except for people with food addiction or any other eating disorder. Etc.

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    PattyK
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The men in the three examples are addicts. Addicts rarely recognize there’s a problem, and since gaming involves no d***s or alcohol, they probably think it’s harmless. Their significant others can either find local support groups for families of addicts, leave the addicts, or let things continue the way they are.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are addicted to the dopamine effect from getting rewards and levelling up. This kind of addiction is really difficult to cut because they could quit video games, but then seek out the dopamine elsewhere, and that could be in the form of gambling, shoplifting, or something else. Some people just have addictive traits they need to work out the root cause of. Support groups for families... I don't know. Discussing how you feel about someone with an addiction doesn't help the addict. Best just to leave them to it.

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    Miss Pierce
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    gamer mom of 2 here. whenever I have the kids alone I just play turn-based games, simple as that, when one of my kids (2 and 6) need me, I am there, no matter how the game is going, I can walk away and continue after I am done with the kids, sometimes it will even take a whole afternoon and we go into the night attending the kids, and that's ok. I know that the game will wait for me and I can continue at any point. My kids come first!

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've thrown him out and all his gaming stuff. We would be done. No second chances. No second risks of that happening again.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I played an incredibly good game a couple of years ago, and I loved it so much that once I'd beaten it I began another playthrough. When I realised I was beginning to grow obsessed with it to the point that I kept dreaming about it, I went "okay, not good, back out now". So I stopped playing it. Obsession faded. As an autistic person I'm especially prone to this sort of thing, so I have to be careful.

    Charity Angel
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's good that you are aware enough of yourself that you can do that. If only more people were as aware of their mental health and how to take care of themselves. Actually, if only *society* had that collective level of awareness of mental health, it would be a lot easier not only for people to recognise this as an issue, but be able to seek help when it happens.

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    Ouss Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am starting to think this is not a "gaming" problem... What kinda rational human picks those types of people?

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    winterwidow87
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say this as a gamer and as someone who doesn't particularly like children: if your 4 month old is struggling for air and your answer instead of "omg is the baby ok?" is "i can't pause my game", there is something really deeply wrong with you. That level of disregard for human life (not to mention your own child) is definitely not normal and cannot simply be explained with addiction, i think the only solution is run and take the baby with you.

    Kari Panda
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. I don’t usually advocate for divorce/separation on these stories because we only know so little. But this scenario - the bf WILL get the baby hurt eventually, either by negligence or becoming violent if the kid is older and interrupts his game. This is non-negotiable - the moment you‘re a danger to your kid, you‘re out. And the whole "This is the first time that this happened“ - no, it’s the first time that she knows of.

    Load More Replies...
    UpQuarkDownQuark (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d chuck the Switch straight in the toilet if my partner said something like to me in response to our child suffering. I don’t even have a child. I don’t even *like* children, but f*ck that guy. You bring a baby into the world, you change your f*cking priorities!

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    Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm always playing games, but I'm a shut-in with absolutely no social life other than Bored Panda. My mom comes to visit every few months, and I put the games down.

    ElfVibratorGlitter
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So this couple has a 4 month old and the bf sleeps from 3am -2pm? What?! That's what struck me.

    Sergio Bicerra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're two different stories (3 in this post). Either way, s****y partners.

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    Amelia Jade
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're a family of five and all gamers. As children of the 80s, the husband and I grew up in arcades, then moved to consoles, then to PC. We're both 50 this year and still game regularly--almost daily. We also have weekends where we'll get on a game together until the wee hours of the morning. Our kids have been gamers their entire lives. And yet, we've all held down jobs. Kids were great students, graduating in the top of their class. And we each have hobbies outside of gaming. We're very outdoorsy and live in an area great for hiking. It's possible to be a well rounded, responsible person and still be a gamer. If someone can't set aside their game to tend to real life, and to keep their child safe, something is seriously wrong.

    Moosy Girl
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s also possible to enjoy alcohol in a responsible and fun manner, except for alcoholics. It’s possible to have fun playing the lottery and spend an occasional sunday afternoon at the slot machine in your local arcade, except for a gambling addict. It’s possible to enjoy food and even make a family hobby out of trying new foods, except for people with food addiction or any other eating disorder. Etc.

    Load More Replies...
    PattyK
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The men in the three examples are addicts. Addicts rarely recognize there’s a problem, and since gaming involves no d***s or alcohol, they probably think it’s harmless. Their significant others can either find local support groups for families of addicts, leave the addicts, or let things continue the way they are.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are addicted to the dopamine effect from getting rewards and levelling up. This kind of addiction is really difficult to cut because they could quit video games, but then seek out the dopamine elsewhere, and that could be in the form of gambling, shoplifting, or something else. Some people just have addictive traits they need to work out the root cause of. Support groups for families... I don't know. Discussing how you feel about someone with an addiction doesn't help the addict. Best just to leave them to it.

    Load More Replies...
    Miss Pierce
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    gamer mom of 2 here. whenever I have the kids alone I just play turn-based games, simple as that, when one of my kids (2 and 6) need me, I am there, no matter how the game is going, I can walk away and continue after I am done with the kids, sometimes it will even take a whole afternoon and we go into the night attending the kids, and that's ok. I know that the game will wait for me and I can continue at any point. My kids come first!

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've thrown him out and all his gaming stuff. We would be done. No second chances. No second risks of that happening again.

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I played an incredibly good game a couple of years ago, and I loved it so much that once I'd beaten it I began another playthrough. When I realised I was beginning to grow obsessed with it to the point that I kept dreaming about it, I went "okay, not good, back out now". So I stopped playing it. Obsession faded. As an autistic person I'm especially prone to this sort of thing, so I have to be careful.

    Charity Angel
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's good that you are aware enough of yourself that you can do that. If only more people were as aware of their mental health and how to take care of themselves. Actually, if only *society* had that collective level of awareness of mental health, it would be a lot easier not only for people to recognise this as an issue, but be able to seek help when it happens.

    Load More Replies...
    Ouss Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am starting to think this is not a "gaming" problem... What kinda rational human picks those types of people?

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