“No One Is Cleaning Their House Every Day. No One Is Having Sex Every Day:” Mom’s Post On Parenting Goes Viral
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Being a parent is tough, we all know that. But what makes it even tougher is when you lose sight of yourself and the amazing job that you are doing (literally nurturing a new life into the world), and begin to doubt whether you are really able to keep it all up.
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It can be easy to fall into a trap of comparing yourself to others, wondering why everyone else has it so easy while you are struggling to keep your kids happy and healthy, whilst maintaining a fulfilling relationship, a job and a functioning household.
But that seemingly perfectly-balanced mum you follow on Instagram with her always lovely hair and well-behaved, joyful children has her ups and downs too, absolutely everyone does. And anyway, at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks apart from your family. And they adore you!
Australian blogger Laura Mazza has been writing for about 3 years now, starting her blog The Mum on the Run after struggling with postnatal depression with her first child, Luca. She felt alone and confused, and so started writing to connect with other mums who might be going through a similar situation and because quite simply, she enjoys writing!
The blog now has almost 250k followers thanks to her heartfelt and honest posts, where she discusses everything from anxiety to the first poop.
Her latest post went viral for its beautifully positive message. It was written after an online encounter with a woman who was also having struggles with her first child.
“I actually wrote the post because someone had messaged me with something nasty, responding to a post I wrote about depression,” Laura told Bored Panda. “She then apologized after telling me she had a bad day. After talking to her I realized she was a first time mum with depression and was beating herself up so I kinda wrote it for her.”
“She reminded me of those early days and I think so many first time mums, and just mums in general, need to hear that’s it’s ok and that they are doing an amazing job.”
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Laura, who is a social worker, took her masters in psychology with the ultimate goal of helping new mamas to cope with their sudden life changes. It’s fair to say that she does that in many ways! She was surprised by the popularity of this particular post – it was something that came from the heart and on the spur of the moment.
“Sometimes, I just write what flies off the tongue (or the fingers?) and I thought, ‘well if she sees it then that’s all that matters.’ I didn’t expect it to resonate with a lot of mums,” she explained.
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“But for me, it’s nice to have solidarity.”
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What do you think? Are you a parent? Did you find your first child to be the hardest to cope with? Or perhaps it came easily to you? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Here’s what people had to say about the heartfelt post
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and first, STOP BELIEVING INSTAGRAM SHIT! stop pretending! juste keep sure your kids are safe and feed. who cares if your house is a mess?
( standing ovation) thank you dear, I struggle with self depreciation daily.
Me too, even when I'm dying of exhausting because I did a lot with kids, still a little voice there asking how other parents do more and better and not being even tired.
I once had a maintenance worker come into my apartment on the day I was sorting laundry. My husband was in Japan for 4 months and I was on my own with a 10 year old autistic boy. He makes a sideways comment about the mess. I ignore him. Next thing I know, the landlord is calling me saying they need to do a health and safety inspection. When they arrived, they guy sees the clothes and starts to complain that it wasn't acceptable. I said "I'm going to school full-time, working part time, taking care of a household and an autistic child on my own. Meanwhile, you have a wife at home who doesn't work and is available to do your cooking, cleaning, shopping and bidding. This is my laundry day which happens when I have time. Either help me load it into my car or get out of my house." He apologized, left, and I never heard another word about it.
You know you may be right. I'm sure motherhood is now harder than it use to be (even depressing at times) now that there's the influence of all these instagram and mommy blog nonsense with their oh so perfect house, oh so perfect life fake news, impossible standards. How sad!!! This has got to end somewhere.
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Parents are people too. When we were growing up, both my parents worked to support our quite poor household. I could feel it was very difficult for them to deal with two of us as they had physically demanding jobs. Both used to be cranky and annoyed quite often. I love them for being human in tehir emotions and do not find it a bit crippling for myself that my parents were not the best 'parents'. They did what they could and did not what they could not. Its alright.
The first time my husband went to work and left me alone with my 2 year old and my newborn twins I gave myself a pep talk, decided I could handle it and would be fine. Skip to several hours later and all 3 are crying at the exact same time and I just burst into tears and thought I can't do this, I'm outnumbered! But of course the pity party lasted 30 seconds and I was back to telling myself I would be fine and that someone out there has it way worse than me and of course I was fine...until the first time I took all 3 to the mall by myself but that's another story. Lol. Those were some of the best years and it goes by too fast, they are all in their 20's now and I miss craft time and Legos.
and first, STOP BELIEVING INSTAGRAM SHIT! stop pretending! juste keep sure your kids are safe and feed. who cares if your house is a mess?
( standing ovation) thank you dear, I struggle with self depreciation daily.
Me too, even when I'm dying of exhausting because I did a lot with kids, still a little voice there asking how other parents do more and better and not being even tired.
I once had a maintenance worker come into my apartment on the day I was sorting laundry. My husband was in Japan for 4 months and I was on my own with a 10 year old autistic boy. He makes a sideways comment about the mess. I ignore him. Next thing I know, the landlord is calling me saying they need to do a health and safety inspection. When they arrived, they guy sees the clothes and starts to complain that it wasn't acceptable. I said "I'm going to school full-time, working part time, taking care of a household and an autistic child on my own. Meanwhile, you have a wife at home who doesn't work and is available to do your cooking, cleaning, shopping and bidding. This is my laundry day which happens when I have time. Either help me load it into my car or get out of my house." He apologized, left, and I never heard another word about it.
You know you may be right. I'm sure motherhood is now harder than it use to be (even depressing at times) now that there's the influence of all these instagram and mommy blog nonsense with their oh so perfect house, oh so perfect life fake news, impossible standards. How sad!!! This has got to end somewhere.
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Parents are people too. When we were growing up, both my parents worked to support our quite poor household. I could feel it was very difficult for them to deal with two of us as they had physically demanding jobs. Both used to be cranky and annoyed quite often. I love them for being human in tehir emotions and do not find it a bit crippling for myself that my parents were not the best 'parents'. They did what they could and did not what they could not. Its alright.
The first time my husband went to work and left me alone with my 2 year old and my newborn twins I gave myself a pep talk, decided I could handle it and would be fine. Skip to several hours later and all 3 are crying at the exact same time and I just burst into tears and thought I can't do this, I'm outnumbered! But of course the pity party lasted 30 seconds and I was back to telling myself I would be fine and that someone out there has it way worse than me and of course I was fine...until the first time I took all 3 to the mall by myself but that's another story. Lol. Those were some of the best years and it goes by too fast, they are all in their 20's now and I miss craft time and Legos.