Parent Asks The Internet To Help Them Identify The Things They Found In Son’s Room, And They Know Right Away
Raising children in this day and age can be challenging. With instant access to information, kids are more likely to explore things that raise questions, even concerns, for their mother and father.
This was a quandary a parent found themselves in after stumbling upon a “little plastic thing” in their teenage son’s bedroom. With absolutely no clue what it could be, they turned to the internet for answers.
Fortunately, the online community they asked had no shortage of possible theories, which only prompted more prodding.
Raising kids isn’t easy, and sometimes parents need to seek help online
This parent asked the internet to help identify something they’d found in their son’s room
The bedroom becomes a child’s sanctuary once they reach adolescence
Everyone who went through teenhood has made their bedroom a sanctuary. They’ve kept this space sacred exclusively for themselves.
According to psychologist Carl Pickhardt, this is one of the “surer signs” that the child has entered adolescence.
“The young person’s bedroom becomes increasingly emblematic of youthful determination to live more on her or his own terms,” Pickhardt wrote, noting that parental presence in the room is less welcome.
Of course, parents have the authority over their children, at least until adulthood. However, they must also respect privacy boundaries.
In the story’s case, one could argue that the author may have snooped in their son’s room and found the mysterious plastic object, which would be a breach of privacy.
That is why Pickhardt advises establishing reasonable, healthy family expectations in these situations.
“It’s best to clarify parental expectations about adolescent room use sooner rather than later,” he wrote. “About expectations for managing the growing power of the bedroom in your adolescent’s personal life and your family life.”
However, every parent will likely grow concerned when they see something unfamiliar and mysterious in their child’s possession, as the author did. And they did the right thing by anonymously asking the internet first, instead of confronting the teen straight up.
The post drew traction, and people began debating what it could be
However, most readers already had a clue on what it could be
The teen seems to be in serious trouble thanks to the internet
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Why don’t the parents ask their kid what that plastic thing is? If they get an honest reply, the connection between the parents and the child is good. If the child beats around the bush, there are underlying problems in the relationship.
Because it's a teen. Getting a straight answer out of a rebellious teen is harder than pulling teeth. Also they need to know what it IS before they can know if the answer is honest...
Load More Replies...As a teen in the 80s/early 90s, it was more: Be home by the time the streetlights come on, don't do d***s, and don't get anybody pregnant unless you can stand to be with her for the rest of your life, and don't *EVER* be brought home in the back of a police car. She'd been saying that since I was old enough to walk myself home from school, so I was quite aware of the rules by the time I was a teenager.
Can't wait to see what he leaves for them to find next. My (now recovered, but at the time( very homophobic parents used to go through my stuff and I would leave all kinds of things that I knew they would interpret as "gay" to see how long they would pretend they weren't snooping trying to catch me at something. 3.5 years. They were so upset, it was beautiful. Crying and praying etc. Stop going out of your way to find the bad things your kid is doing and just deal with it if there's a problem. It'll save your relationship.
When we were kids, my younger sister(10 at the time) put a bag of green tea under her pillow for good luck. Yes, I told her to do that because I was 15 at the time and thought it was funny. Mom found it, panicked, burned some and accused me of giving sis weed. Green tea does smell funny when it's burned. Sis and I teased her about it for years.
Load More Replies...To quote Bender from Futurama, "Have you ever tried turning off the TV, sitting down with your kids, and hitting them?" /s
Invading his privacy like that will only motivate him to do worse things and hide them better, out of spite.
maybe she just cleaned his bedroom, because apparently the kid does not clean his own room
Load More Replies...Maybe the mum was changing the sheets/tidying? My son was messy and left me to tidy up. But TBF, I wouldn't have thought about a bit of plastic lying around.... I agreed to let one of my sibling's sons (20s) stay in the spare room at mine for a few weeks to until he found a rental, as his parents had bought a new house & moved to another town. He was a few weeks into his new job when they moved. Whilst changing his bedding the 2nd week in, I found a few tiny plastic bags with whitish residue in, (they were under his duvet!). I spoke to him when he got back from 'work' and he became verbally aggressive, and my adult son, who came over and was waiting at the bottom of the stairs, took over and watched him as he packed his stuff. I called his mum, and she admitted he had (still has btw, 8 yrs on) a 'problem' and that he'd lost his job nearly a week before, but didn't let me know because she didn't want to deal with it. As you might guess, I chose NC, re: both of them.
Vaping is far from harmless, she is right to be concerned.
Load More Replies...Why don’t the parents ask their kid what that plastic thing is? If they get an honest reply, the connection between the parents and the child is good. If the child beats around the bush, there are underlying problems in the relationship.
Because it's a teen. Getting a straight answer out of a rebellious teen is harder than pulling teeth. Also they need to know what it IS before they can know if the answer is honest...
Load More Replies...As a teen in the 80s/early 90s, it was more: Be home by the time the streetlights come on, don't do d***s, and don't get anybody pregnant unless you can stand to be with her for the rest of your life, and don't *EVER* be brought home in the back of a police car. She'd been saying that since I was old enough to walk myself home from school, so I was quite aware of the rules by the time I was a teenager.
Can't wait to see what he leaves for them to find next. My (now recovered, but at the time( very homophobic parents used to go through my stuff and I would leave all kinds of things that I knew they would interpret as "gay" to see how long they would pretend they weren't snooping trying to catch me at something. 3.5 years. They were so upset, it was beautiful. Crying and praying etc. Stop going out of your way to find the bad things your kid is doing and just deal with it if there's a problem. It'll save your relationship.
When we were kids, my younger sister(10 at the time) put a bag of green tea under her pillow for good luck. Yes, I told her to do that because I was 15 at the time and thought it was funny. Mom found it, panicked, burned some and accused me of giving sis weed. Green tea does smell funny when it's burned. Sis and I teased her about it for years.
Load More Replies...To quote Bender from Futurama, "Have you ever tried turning off the TV, sitting down with your kids, and hitting them?" /s
Invading his privacy like that will only motivate him to do worse things and hide them better, out of spite.
maybe she just cleaned his bedroom, because apparently the kid does not clean his own room
Load More Replies...Maybe the mum was changing the sheets/tidying? My son was messy and left me to tidy up. But TBF, I wouldn't have thought about a bit of plastic lying around.... I agreed to let one of my sibling's sons (20s) stay in the spare room at mine for a few weeks to until he found a rental, as his parents had bought a new house & moved to another town. He was a few weeks into his new job when they moved. Whilst changing his bedding the 2nd week in, I found a few tiny plastic bags with whitish residue in, (they were under his duvet!). I spoke to him when he got back from 'work' and he became verbally aggressive, and my adult son, who came over and was waiting at the bottom of the stairs, took over and watched him as he packed his stuff. I called his mum, and she admitted he had (still has btw, 8 yrs on) a 'problem' and that he'd lost his job nearly a week before, but didn't let me know because she didn't want to deal with it. As you might guess, I chose NC, re: both of them.
Vaping is far from harmless, she is right to be concerned.
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