There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be special. Singular. Loved. Adored. However, the fact is that we have too many things in common with the people around us to be truly unique. Instead of celebrating that, some people do their best to stand out in whatever way they can. Their attempts end up being so edgy, cringey, and embarrassing, that they end up on the ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit.

With over 675k members, r/notliketheothergirls is about shaming those people who put down others and hate mainstream things to feel special about themselves. Have a look through some of the most popular posts featured on the subreddit, upvote the ones that caught your attention the most, and let us know your opinion about why some individuals go to such lengths to seem unique.

Unfortunately, the sad reality is that even with all the progress that we’ve made when it comes to equal rights, there’s still a lot of hate in society. For anyone who’s different. For anyone who stands out too much. Minorities, in particular, are very vulnerable.

I spoke about letting go of hate for others who might be different from us with British psychotherapist Silva Neves. He was kind enough to go in-depth about this with Bored Panda and noted that very often, people who have hatred towards others actually hate parts of themselves. However, that’s not the only theory.

#1

I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

I Saw This And Thought It Was A Really Interesting Take On “Not Like Other Girls”

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    #2

    Yes

    Yes

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    #3

    Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

    Literally Every Woman I’ve Met Has Gone Through This Phase- I Think This Is Why

    slut4bacchus , the-radical-buzzard-of-discourse.tumblr.com Report

    The ‘Not like the other girls’ subreddit has been active since September 2017 and is about people “trying to be unique by defining themselves outside ‘the norm.’” However, the results are usually terrible and prompt internet users to post screenshots and photos on the online community. As a warning to others on how not to behave. As a form of amusement for some.

    “Do you think everyone else is trash? Do you think you're the only unique person on the planet? Do you constantly feel the need to press down others in order to define yourself? Then this is the place for you,” the moderators introduce the community full of ‘unique individuals’ (i.e. their members) who are ‘standing out’ (i.e. online at the moment).

    #4

    Finally A Nice One Again

    Finally A Nice One Again

    supremestdad Report

    #5

    New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People

    New On This Community, And Noticed That Some Aspergers Love Gatekeeping Non-Autistic People

    reddit.com Report

    Peppy Piplup
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fact that the post has 242 upvotes and the comment has 0? Eesh.

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    #6

    Something Wholesome For Once

    Something Wholesome For Once

    YkiBlitz Report

    Aamna Shah
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know I might be nitpicky in this case and my apologies if it offends anyone but the woman in the meme is the Indian Ben Shapiro for all intents and purposes. She should not be used in feminist memes considering the most offensive and horrid stuff she has said about her fellow female actors as well as minorities in her country. She literally was blocked by Twitter for inciting violence against minorities.

    Lena Flising
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What does he mean with "extra make-up"? Is there a "normal" volume, and whould he be able to discern a woman with little make-up from a woman with no makeup?

    Panda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a movie, it's called Queen, and it's on Netflix. It is in another language so subtitles may be needed.

    Alyssa Sweat
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't wear any makeup because I don't like the feeling of cake on my face.

    Kaisa Koo
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could be a shallow pick up line to make her feel special, but it could also be genuine crush- when you really like someone, they really feel special. So you can't be sure until you find out.

    Iʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me : you say that to every girl. I’m no different , a-hole . Jerk

    denzoren
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly...you don't have to put others down to "compliment" someone...give them a real true compliment.

    BookCrazyTeen
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My friend says ‘dingus’ a lot and I think it’s hilarious.

    Curry on...
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But, but...then women need to stop telling men, 'you're not an a*s hole like these other guys.'

    Thomas Sweda
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “And how many fish balls would you like sir”?

    Pumpkin Spice
    Community Member
    4 years ago

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    *gasp* desi girl desi girl DESI GIRL IN THE PROXIMITY ALERT ALERT START SPEAKING TELUGU IMMEDIATELY

    jim
    Community Member
    4 years ago

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    why belittle him? you sisters sure are one huge bunch of hypocrites.

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    According to British psychotherapist Silva, there is a theory that people hate those who embody traits that we’d like to keep secret ourselves. In short, we hate others because we recognize ourselves in them. If society acts as a mirror for us, then hatred is an unhealthy reaction to the truth.

    “One psychological theory is that we tend to hate the people who remind us of a part of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. For example, if someone has body issues, they are more likely to be hateful towards a large person,” he explained to Bored Panda. This is applicable when analyzing hatred of other groups of people as well.

    #7

    Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky

    Ben Listens To Mozart, He Is So Quirky

    Its_the_Doctah , twitter.com Report

    Bill Evs
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

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    #8

    I Think This Belongs Here By Technicality

    I Think This Belongs Here By Technicality

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    #9

    For Real Tho

    For Real Tho

    coconutfi Report

    Scagsy
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. The same applies to boys. It's not about misogyny, misandry or the patriarchy. It's about the simple human need to be liked. To not be alone. Our psyche reasons that to achieve that goal we need to adopt some characteristics of the group to which we aspire.

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    “Some who represses their sexuality or are uncomfortable with sex are more likely to be hateful towards people who are open about their sexuality or who look sexual,” the therapist continued.

    “If we go by this theory, it would mean that people have to learn to accept the whole of themselves and learn to love themselves fully, and then they won't have to project the hatred of themselves towards others,” he said that only through self-acceptance can we let go of hate.

    #10

    I-

    I-

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    #11

    Does He Fit Here?

    Does He Fit Here?

    AlabamaBobbycue Report

    #12

    Honestly Though

    Honestly Though

    miSkreEt Report

    Alien
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Carrie, Zootopia, Wonder Woman 84, those are some movies where the nerdy girl turns into the villain

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    However, that’s just one theory. Another theory looks at learned behaviors and how our families and environments shape us. “Many people grow up being told to fear those who are different or look different,” Silva said.

    “For example, people grow up to believe that black people are dangerous, Asian people are threats, gay people spread disease or sin, etc... These messages can turn people into being racist or homophobic,” the expert explained to Bored Panda that according to this theory, hatred is something that’s learned from one’s environment. Only education and experience can counter this.

    #13

    Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

    Say It Louder For The “Not Like The Other Gurlz” In Da Back

    mglennr Report

    New Prometheus
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Liking popular things doesn't do that either. You might have regular brains but you need to think by yourself.

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    #14

    "She Was Not Like Other Girls"

    "She Was Not Like Other Girls"

    reddit.com Report

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But at the same time they are pretty, feminine and good lookind and they always end up dressing up.

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    #15

    Posted This On My Twitter And I Thought It Fits Here

    Posted This On My Twitter And I Thought It Fits Here

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    “For these people to become less hateful, they will need to be exposed to other realities so that they can stop fearing differences, but they also have to be willing to change their minds. Unfortunately, many of these people are not willing to expose themselves to different realities. So, I suppose, one way to eradicate this kind of hate is by changing society at its core and stopping the mindset of fear at the source.”

    #16

    My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

    My Sister Posted This On Facebook. She Definitely Wears This

    1-800-callumhoodie Report

    Nathan Pogorzala
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man we really f****d up women’s self image seeing how this is even possible. This isn’t a coincidence, this isn’t dumb luck, this is a never ending desire to fit in and look the part. I just wish people liked themselves more to not put others standards above their own happiness and comfort. This outfit looks nice, but they consciously went out and put this together because other people said it was cool. Is it fashion, or is fear of being looked on as different? Thought ended.

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    #17

    Poor Girl

    Poor Girl

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    Michelle M
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Watched the movie. It was okay. But to be fair, high schoolers sometimes think that their minor problems are greater than the previous world wars put together. That's teenage years for you. Unfortunately, not many people grow out of this phase. They take it into adulthood.

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    #18

    If You Know, You Know

    If You Know, You Know

    Indigia Report

    Jasmine Hufflepuff Henderson
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People at my school cared a lot, unfortunately. I was accused of cheating on my boyfriend (which I never did) and called everything under the sun. "S**t, whore, girl who sleeps around, etc." Kids are cruel. I'm now 26 and still a virgin.

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    #19

    Is This Legal?

    Is This Legal?

    HardlyRealTom Report

    Kelley Hayes
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Such a healthy message for men that they cannot even feed themselves without being feminine. . . Self-sufficiency is a good thing for everyone to learn!

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    #20

    I Can't Be Too Mad At This One

    I Can't Be Too Mad At This One

    Ranma2061 Report

    De Gueb
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favourite kind of women are the ones that sleep with me!! Skinny, fat, round or tall, blond or brunette. Don't care, just give my good loving

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    #21

    Real Centaur Hours Who Up

    Real Centaur Hours Who Up

    spookyorsmthn Report

    GirlFriday
    Community Member
    Premium
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I AM BOTHERED BY THE SHOES THE GIRL WITH FOUR LEGS IS WEARING. If I had four legs, I would wear four matching shoes. This makes my eye twitch.

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    #22

    Definitely Not Like The Other Fake B******

    Definitely Not Like The Other Fake B******

    school-yeeter Report

    #23

    She’s Not Like The Other Girls

    She’s Not Like The Other Girls

    canogacolgate Report

    #24

    I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead

    I’m Not Like Other Sunflowers. I’m Dead

    TooZenToCare Report

    #25

    A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

    A 17 Year Old Girl Doesn’t Know Who Van Halen Is, Shocking

    sleepybubby Report

    Ivana
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Van Halen actually responded to this, "If you haven’t heard of @billieeilish, go check her out. She’s cool. If you haven’t heard of @VanHalen, go check them out. They’re cool too. Music is supposed to bring us together, not divide us. Listen to what you want and don’t shame others for not knowing what you like.

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    #26

    Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

    Haven’t Talked To Her In A Year And She Became Not Like The Other Girls

    k-aya Report

    Michelle M
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So cringy. By the way, I also like Edgar Allan Poe but I don't shove it into random conversations.

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    #27

    My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

    My Crush Pulled This On Me Today. I Have To Say I Feel Almost Betrayed

    Boatstory Report

    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's with teens & acting like depression is some sort of quirky personality trait instead of a painful mental illness? It doesn't make you better than anybody else, it just makes life harder.

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    #28

    I’m Not Your Typical Girl

    I’m Not Your Typical Girl

    kaitlynjclingin Report

    ~hUmMuS vIbEs~
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh so most girls don't game? Hold my pink sparkly lipgloss.

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    #29

    Self Aware

    Self Aware

    ultraviolencq Report

    GirlFriday
    Community Member
    Premium
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    SO this girl has four legs and matching shoes, but two different pairs of pants. I am starting to not like these four-legged women.

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    #30

    Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

    Found On A Witchcraft Meme Page. Does That Count?

    spliffany_ Report

    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Much smaller shoes, in jars, to grind with a mortar and pestle into delusion dust and snort with her eyelids. Life goals

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    #31

    This Can't Be Happening

    This Can't Be Happening

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    #32

    Damg Peppa Is So Quirky

    Damg Peppa Is So Quirky

    ButternutSam Report

    #33

    Just Change Band For OC

    Just Change Band For OC

    PraiseTheBlaziken Report

    404 Panda Not Found
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my dad's friends is part of an arctic monkeys cover band.

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    #34

    Someone Had To Say It

    Someone Had To Say It

    cutchisclutch22 Report

    John Baker
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a girl, obviously, but am I allowed to just not give a s**t about Billie Eilish one way or the other?

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    #35

    Not Like The Other Girls, MBTI Style

    Not Like The Other Girls, MBTI Style

    rainyradio Report

    Niki Norway
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahahaaha that's what I am. I'm still definitely like other girls.

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    #36

    Edna

    Edna

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    Bacony Cakes
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, if i was a girl, i'd want to be Edna too.

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    #37

    Getting Those Not Like Other Girls Vibes

    Getting Those Not Like Other Girls Vibes

    foot_stench Report

    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine thinking you're unique for listening to pretty much the most mainstream rappers.

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    #38

    Whiskey, The "Not Like Other Girls" Drink Of Choice

    Whiskey, The "Not Like Other Girls" Drink Of Choice

    Moopes17 Report

    Ivana
    Community Member
    4 years ago

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    Whiskey is for sipping. That is embarrassing, learn to savor the flavor.

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    #39

    Not Like The Other Billie Eilish Fans

    Not Like The Other Billie Eilish Fans

    goldenpanda7480 Report

    Ryan Deschanel
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or else, you could just listen to the music you like, enjoy it, and... Well... That's it.

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    #40

    Big True

    Big True

    malka_sultan Report

    Ivana
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting thing I noticed about couples when I made coffee. I could tell how long a couple had been together (most of the time) by how similar their coffee orders are. New couples get completely different drinks, couple of years then they get similar drinks with one or two differences, been together over a decade then they get the exact same order. Happened to me, use to drink black coffee but my husband always ended up putting cream and sugar in mine not thinking about it and I just gradually got use to cream and sugar.

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    #41

    Psycho Girls

    Psycho Girls

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    Hannah Edwards
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cycle Path? Was this intentional? If not it’s the funniest thing ever!

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    #42

    Haha Girls Amirite?

    Haha Girls Amirite?

    Hellemation Report

    Ryan Deschanel
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot twist : the "girl who actually has depression" is some edgy girl trying to be different frome the other edgy girls trying to be different. Meanwhile, the really depressed ones are just trying to fit in and survivre.

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    #43

    Plot Twist

    Plot Twist

    f**kygoducky Report

    Lotus Flower
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    when she’s so proud to be a woman she’s a man

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    #44

    Words

    Words

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    #45

    Spotted One In The Wild!

    Spotted One In The Wild!

    keeglesweegle Report

    Kristal
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was the last one on my team, honing my dodging skills, my team cheering, opposing team looking frustrated. I. Was. Awesome. Then I realized it wasn't cheering but jeering to get hit so the gym class could end for lunch. womp womp :(

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    #46

    Matched On Tinder But Don’t Worry, She’s “Not A Typical Girl”

    Matched On Tinder But Don’t Worry, She’s “Not A Typical Girl”

    ZachOfSomeTrade Report

    #48

    I'm So Different

    I'm So Different

    I-ate-your-pony Report

    Nadia Montera
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feminine women ??? WTF ??? By opposition to what ? Masculine women ?? Ridiculous post

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    #49

    Because Wanting To See The World And Explore Is Too Mainstream

    Because Wanting To See The World And Explore Is Too Mainstream

    Help_Im_Too_Gay Report

    John Baker
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would be me. We could be standing in front of the Taj Mahal and I'd be the guy saying, "Yep, looks just like the pictures I've seen. Can we go home now?"

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    #50

    No One Cares

    No One Cares

    im-not-that-b***h Report

    Sleazy Weaver
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah, so you're just a disgusting bigot. Good thing you're not like most girls, it would really suck if half the population was as horrible as this.

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    #52

    And Both Like Sports Equally!

    And Both Like Sports Equally!

    QuiteinRaptures Report

    Eva the Egg
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about the one who stays at home and watches netflix instead of watching a boring game?

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    #53

    Found My Old "Question A Day Diary" From When I Was About 12. It's Filled With S**t Like This And I'm Honestly Having A Blast Looking Through It

    Found My Old "Question A Day Diary" From When I Was About 12. It's Filled With S**t Like This And I'm Honestly Having A Blast Looking Through It

    Epic_Sawce Report

    #54

    Just Some Random Girl On My Snapchat

    Just Some Random Girl On My Snapchat

    StubbornReckless Report

    See Also on Bored Panda
    #55

    Found One In The Wild!

    Found One In The Wild!

    coffeebeaner417 Report

    Alien
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s me, I’m the awkward gothic “girl” in the corner, trying to socialise but getting dirty looks. (I put girl in quotes because I’m trans female to male but I dress feminine depending on my mood)

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    #56

    Does This Me Make A Nerd?

    Does This Me Make A Nerd?

    FunnySpamGuyHaha Report

    #57

    I’m Not Like The Other Girls Because My Graduation Cap Is Funny

    I’m Not Like The Other Girls Because My Graduation Cap Is Funny

    overactivemango Report

    #58

    We Live In A Society

    We Live In A Society

    dickdoggy Report

    #59

    Why Do I Feel Like An “Edgy” Girl Made This

    Why Do I Feel Like An “Edgy” Girl Made This

    DonneeDanko Report

    Malakai
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Remember when Hot Topic actually sold goth fashion, not just black jeans and fake corsets and tons of pop culture merch? Pepperidge Farm remembers...

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    #60

    Not Like Other Girls, I Do Drugs!

    Not Like Other Girls, I Do Drugs!

    luciesssss Report

    #61

    This Belongs Here

    This Belongs Here

    TheConcreteRos** Report

    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reddit is tired and/or has a drug problem and vitamin defiency? Ah well

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    #62

    Apparently Only This Girl Wants To Get A House

    Apparently Only This Girl Wants To Get A House

    esskettitboi Report

    Michelle M
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So every other person wants to be homeless. Okay

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    #63

    Le Reddit Good Tiktok Bad Xdxd

    Le Reddit Good Tiktok Bad Xdxd

    BinBag041 Report

    #64

    Lol So Unique

    Lol So Unique

    popowilli Report

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    #65

    If She Wears Jeans With Camo, Push Her In The Lake

    If She Wears Jeans With Camo, Push Her In The Lake

    reddit.com Report