Not How Girls Work: Very Foolish Things Men Have Said About Women

Some of the folks who end up on r/NotHowGirlsWork seem to be completely clueless about the woman's body. Which isn't really a surprise. General practitioner, medical researcher, and founder of PrimeHealth Clinical Research, Iris Gorfinkel, M.D., told Bored Panda it's actually shocking how little men know about it.

To illustrate her point, Gorfinkel highlighted a YouGov study in the UK conducted in 2019 which asked British men to label a diagram of female genitalia. "The results were actually abysmal," the doctor said. "Well over half of the men surveyed could not label the [private part] or [private part], and the majority could not point out where it is that urine comes out."

"There may be a perception from some men that they can get away with not being able to name visible parts of a woman's body, and still understand enough to know what has to go where. But that sets the goalposts pretty low," Gorfinkel explained. "Things were made a whole lot better with just a bit more know-how whatever the starting point may be, there's always more that can be learned."

Gorfinkel thinks men have to educate themselves on women and their bodily functions for several reasons. "First on the list is, of course, [intimacy] because sexual characteristics define what genders are, and knowing more about a woman's body is the bedrock to great [intimacy]. [For example,] the [private part] is on the outside and that's the part that touches clothing. The [private part] actually has four parts. The mons (that's where the triangle of hair grows), the hairy outer [private part] and the hairless inner [private part], and finally the [private part]. The [private part] is simply a tube. It's a tube that connects the [private part] to the opening of the uterus, the cervix, and the cervix can be felt actually when fingers are deep inside the [private part]. And what is the [private part]? Its sole function is sexual pleasure. There is actually no such thing as a G spot and vaginal [peaks] for the most part do not exist. The [private part] has twice the number of nerve endings that a [private part] does, and it is critical to the way most women will experience an [peak]."

Gorfinkel said that another reason to know a woman's body is for a man to better understand his own risks of sexually transmitted infections. For instance, the doctor offered to look at the most common STI, the human papillomavirus or HPV. "Most sexually active women will actually contract this at some point in their lifetime, and nearly all of them are not going to have symptoms from it. But men can get this HPV and it can cause men to develop cancer, including cancers of the [private part], cancers of the [rear] and [rear], mouth, tongue, lips, esophageal and laryngeal cancer. Basically anywhere where there's a mucosa, a wet surface, it can result in HPV."

"There are other STDs, such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes simplex, HIV, syphilis, hepatitis, and it's important for a person to see a doctor for regular checkups because so many of the diseases have no symptoms, at least half the time."

And the third reason why men should know more about a woman's body is reproduction. But I sincerely hope this one is self-explanatory.

Then there are the typical incels or nice guys. Counsellor & Psychotherapist Tati Silva told Bored Panda in an interview for an earlier piece that a man who is physically less attractive tends to compensate by being nice to be able to connect to people. However, Silva said they will overcompensate with over-the-top behaviors. "The nice guy will use all the tools to charm the person they are interested in. However, if it is not replicated, the nice guy's true colors come to light," the psychotherapist explained.

“According to Dr. Glover, a nice guy has a sinister side. In the mind of the nice guy, the person he is pursuing should repay his action by becoming his girlfriend or boyfriend, for him that is how these things work. The nice guy will lash out if he does not get what he wants, which might be indirectly influenced by misogynistic entitlement complexes."

Silva said that misogyny occurs unconsciously, connecting with hatred that forms early in life, often as a result of a trauma involving a female figure they trusted. Of course, there are exceptions. “This doesn't apply to everyone, there are genuinely nice guys and girls out there who will be ok to be put in the friend-zone, respecting your opinion. They won’t expect anything back.”

I'm just sorry women have to deal with these men both in real life and online.

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