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If you truly love someone, you’ll accept them as they are. Hearing your partner sing in the shower or snore loudly shouldn’t suddenly make you question everything. But sometimes, it takes being in a committed relationship to clearly see all of the red flags your partner is waving.
Women on Reddit have recently been opening up about the niche red flags that they didn’t spot in their exes until they had already been dating for a while. From being obsessed with luxury goods to believing in dragons, apparently, not everyone advertises their worst qualities on the first date. But we hope you’ll enjoy scrolling through this list, and be sure to upvote the behaviors and traits that would be deal-breakers for you too!
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#1
Ha. My ex had two that I thought were strange.
1) He was incapable of not realizing that he can't leave expensive [stuff] in his car and not have it get stolen. Stereo? gone. Leather jacket? gone. Tool kit? gone.
I think somehow, he felt like it made him a better person for being so trusting or something?
2) he was extremely jealous. But not of other men. He was jealous of me. If we were out for dinner with friends and I said something funny that everyone laughed at? He would shut down. I mean, HE was the funny one! How dare I? I was also trying my hand at writing and got myself a literary agent. He (my ex) refused to read anything I wrote, because he just didn't think it would interest him. I was a singer in a band, and he rarely came out to see us play. And when he did, it never seemed like he was enjoying himself at all. Honestly, it seemed like the typical 'Manic Pixie Dreamgirl' (tm) scenario. I love all the quirky/creative things about this girl, so I should date her and squash them all.
Good news, I left him and have not dimmed my light since.
Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago
Any partner who is actively disinterested in your personal activities that you enjoy isn't worth keeping
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
i dont think disinterest is a deal breaker. my favorite hobby is to smoke a sacrilegious amount of weed and then play video games about space cowboys, and my partner doesnt give two s***s about either. their favorite past time is to garden, which i dont care about at all. so we spend most of our time doing stuff together and then when we want to do our own thing we do. disinterest is fine, actively trying to remove your interest or acting put out for supporting your partner is a red flag.
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SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
I hate people who try to make their partner over into something they’re not.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
He was careless of his possessions but regarded his wife as one of them and closely guarded her.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
That blokes a narcissist!, with coercive tendencies ,glad u left his pos backside , would also love her hear your music x
nottheactualphoto 2 months ago
He was not incapable of failing to not realize.
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#2
I only went on one date with this guy but he had tattoos of luxury brand logos. Like the Mercedes car logo. And stacks of cash.
Abort!!!!!
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
Corporate logos? That’s not even creative or original. And stacks of cash? That’s trashy.
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 2 months ago
Stacks of cash? I wonder what business he was in to deal in cash....
GlitterPanda 2 months ago
he had tattoos of stack of cash...he didn't actually have stacks of cash
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#3
After several years together, my ex proudly proclaimed he hadn't read a book since college. I was floored, this man had been a science teacher!
I'd found an interesting nonfiction book on a niche topic I tend to get nerdy about. He walked in on me and said "Are you reading a TEXTBOOK... for FUN?" He looked and sounded so disgusted that I put it down and never finished it. It hadn't even occurred to me that it was a textbook, just an interesting-sounding book recommended by a podcast I liked.
We didn't last long after that.
Sandra Angulo 2 months ago
I can understand someone not enjoying reading. It’s the people who seem almost proud that they don’t read who really bother me
nottheactualphoto 2 months ago
I haven't read a book recently, but I'm more ashamed than proud.
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Jeremy James 2 months ago (edited)
A drag queen once told me, "If you go home with a guy and he doesn't have any books, don't f*ck him."
Luke Branwen 2 months ago
Not my problem since I have books literally in every corner of my home + I'm a writer 😅
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Child of the Stars 2 months ago
I don't understand people who proudly don't read. I know people with severe learning disabilities (my mom, for example, has severe dyslexia), but even they have found workarounds like audiobooks or books with easy-to-follow storylines.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
That's the thing about people who don't read a book - you can read them like a book.
Jude Corrigan 2 months ago
My other half actively interrupts me reading because my attention isn't on him.
#4
1. He wouldn’t watch movies/tv shows or read books with a female protagonist because he said women aren’t engaging or interesting
2. He said women shouldn’t be comedians because we’re inherently unfunny
3. If we were watching tv and there was a kissing or love scene, he’d aggressively kiss me to make sure that I wasn’t watching ‘another man.’
Ew! So misogynistic.
Fortunately, I got out pretty soon after these things came to light… but I still regret the time I spent with him. I had to do a lot of work to unpack all of the terrible ways he treated me that I thought was normal. I always wonder about the women who came after me.
Marnie 2 months ago
Yeah. This guy reminds me of a guy I dated for a short time. I suggested watching Erin Brokovich. We just got through about 30 minutes when it was still mainly about her struggles before all the interesting law stuff started. He was visibly bored, so I asked him, "You don't like it? We don't have to keep watching." He says, "Yeah, I don't really like 'chick flicks'" W*F? Since when is that movie a "chick flick"? On a separate note, I asked him if he liked System of a Down and he said sneeringly, "I don't like pop music."
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Scott Rackley 2 months ago
To me, Kathleen Madigan is one of the funniest comedians out there.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
If women aren’t engaging or interesting, maybe he should try guys. I'm sure he'd be grateful for the suggestion.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
He didn’t think women should do anything, except be a bangmaid. He deserves to live and die alone.
Stannous Flouride 2 months ago
He's probably doing a podcast about the "male loneliness epidemic" and blaming women for it.
#5
He believed in dragons. Swore they were real and walked the earth. Not dinosaurs, but dragons. Also anti-vax. (Not uber religious either, so not sure where these ideas came from).
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Exactly lol my point they do exist ,oh and chinse water dragons lol n bearded dragons, all of which I’ve owned , over the yrs ,ok not the Komodo tho u need a dangerous wild animal licence for them , n they mega tough rules
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Lee Gilliland 2 months ago
No way in h*ll would I even date an anti-vaxxer. It's a sure sign of an ignoramus.
CP 2 months ago (edited)
I saw a stat saying 1/2 the US is anti-vax now. Admittedly I don't know if the source was legit. But it is sad that vaccine is a box you can check on dating apps.
Ziggle 2 months ago
Hmmm. That doesn't sound accurate. Unless it's maybe the southern half. Even then, I don't think that's accurate. It's best practice to fact check sources before repeating this type of information.
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Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Ok dragons do exist I,ll have you know , so that’s not a deal breaker ,however the antivaxer bit HUGE HUGE DEAL BREAKER !! and a red flag so big ,u can see it from the sodding moon !
#6
Grown men should not be obsessed with anime girls. Full stop. I've seen it multiple times and it's never a good sign. I gave them the benefit of the doubt.
Panda Bear 2 months ago
Enjoying anime and liking female characters is one thing. Obsessing over’s female characters is completely different and not a good sign.
Marnie 2 months ago
OP didn't say say "female characters" OP said anime 'girls". I was taking that to mean not women, but girls. That would creep me out beyond belief. But maybe I'm wrong and they meant "girls" like how we use the generic "guys".
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Erm as a woman of 60 I don’t get the issue with this one personally 🤷♀️I mean they ain’t real lol , no different to the god squad , ( ok so that one is a red flag to me 😂) but hmm never gave the anime much thought tbh , don’t watch it ima gonna look in to this anime stuff lol ,see what the issue is 😂
michael Chock 2 months ago (edited)
Anime "fan service" is when women are pointlessly made into s*x fantasy objects. Anime girls are usually overly young and / or overly dumb. Being obsessed with fantasy that women are only there to service men is a red flag.
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Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago (edited)
Unfortunately for the few who aren't, most male anime-girl obsessives are definitely pedos. Sad, but true, whether they admit it or not.
Upstaged75 2 months ago
As long as they don't have an anime pillow they call their waifu I don't really have a problem with it. 🤷♀️
NotAThreat (he/him) 2 months ago
if they use the word 'wifu' its an immediate ick
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“I don’t need friends.” Meanwhile complaining that he’s lonely because I’m not filling my niches in his life correctly.
Roxy222uk 2 months ago
Friends take effort from *me* - I’d rather you did all the work
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
I don’t need freinds lol to exhausting for me ,being an empath , not something u can switch off grr , but I also don’t moan I’m looney cos I very much AM NOT !lol love my own company n my kids n dogs what else do I need , but I can totally see why this would gives us women the ick ,like he’s talking in contradictions ,n that’s a huge flag !
Jude Corrigan 2 months ago
My other half says that I don't need friends because I have him. When I say, 'But you have friends '. He says, 'That's different ' and refuses to elaborate. He just keeps repeating, 'That's different' whole getting angrier and angrier.
Chrystina Sumpter 1 month ago
My husband encourages my friendships because it makes me happy. Simple as that. You might want to think long and hard about a relationship with a person that deprives you in such a fundamental way. Particularly, since there a growing body of research that shows a strong correlation between longevity and social interaction.
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He sent pics of women he considered hot to his mother for her thoughts.
Scarlett O'Hara's Ghost 2 months ago
I'll probably get lambasted but I don't think this is a big deal. So long as he's making up his own mind based on his own opinions there's no reason he can't share the occasional pic with Mom for her thoughts. My son and I are pretty close. He sends me stuff not every son would send thier mom
merlin 2 months ago
I agree with you there. Grown kids can have a great friendship with their parents too.
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Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Eugh ,hell no if my son ever did this I’d be like nooo nooo noooo lad tmi ,mind u he knows im bi sooooo 🤔😂
#9
About 2 years into the relationship, I noticed that I started getting hives and rashes whenever I slept at his place. I am a very allergic person so just chocked it up to seasonal/dust etc. but he was pretty clean overall so it had me wondering…
Then, it somehow came up organically that he had never washed or changed his duvet cover since he’d lived in that apartment. He didn’t wash his duvet cover for 2 YEARS. I was so disgusted, already pretty unhappy in the relationship and that was a nail in the coffin for me.
AND THEN… a memory from early on in our relationship came up and haunted me. Our first ever fight happened when after [sleeping] in my bed, instead of getting up to get a towel or something to clean himself, he wiped his junk on MY freshly washed duvet cover. I was horrified, had to strip and wash it again obviously and got super pissed at him. He played it off like it was spontaneous and he wasn’t thinking straight, but was super defensive about it.
I’m now horrified thinking I was sleeping in a crusty duvet at his place. I want to throw up just thinking about it 🤢
No wonder I was getting hives and rashes from his bed. He suffered from frequent skin infections too.
This man was 27 years old….
Tommy DePaul 2 months ago
And yet you swallow your own spit all day long . Disgust is fascinating.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago (edited)
holy mother of all fairies ,did his mother teach him NOTHING 🤢🤢gross
Sly Schlang 2 months ago
Don't blame it on the mother. Nasty habit to do that.
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My ex used to leave open packages of raw chicken sitting uncovered in the fridge. He also never washed his hands and would eat food that he'd left sitting on the counter for days.
He had explosive diarrhea every day for years. He visited multiple doctors, even specialists, and had two colonoscopies in his early 30s. They couldn't make a diagnosis. Eventually, they figured out that it was due to his abysmally poor hygiene habits.
He did not change.
#11
He was into luxury things like diamonds and expensive watches. That in itself wasn’t a deal breaker for me; I like nice things, too, but I thought he could be stuck up and ignorant about it sometimes. One day I learned just how incredibly ignorant he was about it all when he tried to tell me that diamonds are so expensive because they’re star bits that crashed on earth from outer space. We’d been talking about how his brother bought his fiance a lab-grown diamond and how he would never do that, doesn’t understand why they’re such ethical hippies and what’s wrong with diamonds blah blah blah. He stated it as a fact just out of his own beliefs and despite being so into his luxuries, he had never bothered even once to look up information about them and what blood diamonds are and why ethical diamonds exist. We didn’t make it another year after that, and I never let him put a diamond (lab grown or otherwise) on my finger.
Shark Lady 2 months ago
A lot of rich people just don't care about the ethics of a product if they want to buy it.
Scarlett O'Hara's Ghost 2 months ago
Including environmental, vegans who insist that using animal products is not only cruel but bad for the earth. Instead they want us to buy "vegan leather". Which is vinyl witch is plastic which is bad for the earth. But one well made leather jacket or purse, cared for properly can last generations
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Alex Meurissen 2 months ago
diamonds are not rare, they are actually very common and the only reason they are expensive is because the whole trade was ran by one company, who reduced the export so they could control prices and give people the illusion diamonds are rare :)
TheRightToArmBears (riff/tone) 2 months ago
Strange how everyone cares about the horrible diamond mining trade, yet don't give a hoot about the horrible conditions for mining rare earth minerals for phones and EV batteries
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
😂😂😂star dust 😂😂😂omfg just when u think you have heard it all 😱🤪🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
#12
He was so sensitive to criticism that he quit perfectly good jobs just to stop getting it, instead of taking the initiative to improve.
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
I struggled with this for a long time while I was deep in my substance a***e. It took a couple of years of therapy and a long time in recovery to learn to accept both negative and positive criticism.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
But at least you knew the cause and took steps to sort it , proud of you lovely ❤️
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Kirsten Kerkhof 2 months ago
Sounds like a woman I know. She's in her 60s now and still works minimum-wage jobs and lives with her mother because she quits the moment her boss du jour looks doesn't grant her a week's leave at the drop of a hat or dares to give the mildest criticism. There is nothing wrong with working minimum-wage jobs, but she is super smart otherwise and has a good education. She once blamed me (10 years her junior) for having a tenured job and a house. She did not like my answer how I managed that (find a good job and stick with it, even when it's not all sunshine and roses).
NotAThreat (he/him) 2 months ago (edited)
personally, i struggle with criticism bc of my adhd (rsd, aka rejection sensitivity dysphoria is a sign of adhd) and i tend to get really defensive or anxious bc of any form of rejection and occasionally it physically hurts (like, in the gut, how you would if you were sick), while i believe its valid, i don't get why they are quitting
#13
He didn't know that things can expire even though they've been refrigerated. He ate a meat pizza that had been in there for at least over 2 weeks and seemed surprised when it made him violently ill.
Shark Lady 2 months ago
Did he not have functioning taste buds, if nothing else the smell should have been a warning.
Ashtophet 2 months ago
Elderly cold pizza just dries out, so the smell of the rotting meat would be suppressed. I’ve always liked my pizza cold more than hot… but not weeks old!
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
🤮🤮get outta my house now type red flag ,jeez Louise I’m surprised he didn’t end up in A&E
#14
He wore glass frames. Just the frames. No lenses. Like you could poke your fingers through the frame. I asked why, and he said his mom told him he looked better with glasses. The frames weren’t as much of a red flag as the fact that he took his mom’s criticism to heart so deeply he felt the need to wear fake frames all the time. I remember thinking I might let it slide if we were very young, but man was nearly 40. I couldn’t help but assume committing to the guy would mean deferring to his mom’s opinions about everything. Obviously no way to have confirmed those anxieties, but I wasn’t willing to find out.
Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago (edited)
As a lifelong glasses wearer who cannot get corrective laser surgery or wear contacts, I can tell you glasses are an utter PITA. Anyone permanently choosing to wear them has a loose scrėw or two.
Trillian 2 months ago
Well at least without any glass in them he wouldn't have to deal with the smudges and fogging up.
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Michael Largey 2 months ago
People wear lots of things they don't need. They're called fashion accessories.
AnnaB 2 months ago
Why didn't he get clear glass non-prescription frames? That would make more sense.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
You can get planos—glasses that just have plain clear glass lenses without any vision correction. Why didn’t he do that?
Kristin 2 months ago
Wasn't there a "fashion" statement where people wore glasses or fake reading glasses to seem more attractive? Like women wearing fake reading glasses cause men find them so s**y? Even braces, I know that was a hype for a while. I know that cause my kids are in high-school. Well my younger 2 are and my older two are in their 20s. My daughter had braces and even tho boys hit on her she hated them haha and I've worn glasses my whole life. Yes I have contacts but for myself I prefer glasses. Idk 🤷♀️ some people are just phew
Beth H 2 months ago
So sad story, I didn’t need braces as a kid but boy did I want them. The extra time with mom for special appts where you left school early, cool colored bands, well and the main reason - it meant your parents could afford them. As a kid who is made fun of for having poor parents, braces would’ve been amazing and made me feel cool. Dumb as an adult but totally rational to little kid me.
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Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
I love my glasses lol I have bi focals ,n lush purple frames had to wear em 8 yrs now , but with no Len’s w the actual f ,he ain’t all there , the red flag here is being a mummies boy avoid at all costs !!
#15
He had a party which his family attended. One of my friends, who is black, arrived and let himself into the house through the unlocked front door (as had everyone else). His mom screamed and grabbed her phone.
So, uh, could I stay with someone whose parents were so racist that when having a party, they thought a black man arriving at the party was, like, there to do crime? No. No, I could not. Immediately after that, I began noticing a lot of little things that I had thought were my ex being socially awkward that suddenly got recontextualized as racism.
RomanceRadish 2 months ago
I respect the decision. But was the boyfriend himself racist? Parents and their children can have different attitudes and viewpoints (not always - but it's possible).
Jaya 2 months ago
Not wanting to be with him because finding out that his social awkwardness was actually racism: fine. Not wanting to be with him because his mom is racist: absolutely ridiculous. People are not responsible for what their parents think or do. And racist parents doesn't mean you yourself will be racist. Also, it might help if the mom has someone in her life who has very different views, OP could be someone who could educate her and show her how her thinking isn't correct.
Ziggle 2 months ago
Not her job to stick around and try to convert a racist.
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He would always have something disparaging to say about women in larger bodies, a lot of times unprovoked. Like he would see a woman and say that she's disgusting or ugly and that he's not attracted to her, as if there was a secret camera somewhere and a tv show host asked him a question. Meanwhile back at the ranch, I'm not the smallest girlie pop and had gained some weight during the course of our relationship. It made me really side eye him.
Also, he would claim that he's apolitical and that he doesn't vote but would regurgitate every Conservative talking point if given the chance.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
he absolutely votes. he just thinks it makes him cool if he says he doesnt. guarantee he was in line the second the polls opened to vote for trump
Load More Replies... Child of the Stars 2 months ago
In my experience, the people who claim to be apolitical and/or moderate usually lean pretty far to the right. Most of them stop just left of MAGA, but still too far right for my comfort.
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
USA needs a centre political party, or a centre-left and far-right party. For those who aren't extreme right-wing (ie: Maga) but still right-wing
liam newton-harding 2 months ago
Sounds like he got his grubby, sweating hands on a book of Negging, from the 80's...and failed to realise we were laughing at those guys four decades ago.
#17
He made me listen to music he hated. It was the weirdest thing. His coworkers loved a certain genre and he hated that he had to listen to it all day, complained about it all the time. Then, one day we had to drive about an hour to get somewhere, and he puts on the radio station his coworkers listen to. He's complaining about it, but doesn't turn it off. After about 20 minutes of this I ask to put on something else, and he says, "No. You have to suffer the same [stuff] I have to every day."
His other bad behavior was more of a conventional [mistreatment] sort, cheating, drinking, selfish, etc., but this stood out because it was the only time he made a specific point of making me miserable and wanted me to know it.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
And you just know he’s gonna be a woman beater before long ! He’s got the gaslighting n coercion down pat , next step is violence!!
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
i saw this comment after only seeing the first paragraph and was like "well thats a little harsh, yeah its rude but it may have been just a frustrated joke" and then i read two more sentences that include "conventional" mistreatment like cheating and drinking. yeah this dudes gonna put a woman in the hospital at some point.
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He couldn’t get a grocery bag
I was already pretty close to breaking up with him but wanted one last convo Hail Mary if you will. We were grocery shopping. He is paying for it since we are cooking at his. Lady asks “would you like a bag?” He looks at me and I just look back at him like “dude idk what you want?” He confused says “yeah sure”
As we get out to the parking lot I get scolded “ you know I have a hard time talking to people why couldn’t you just answer?” “ answer what?” I had no clue what he was talking about. “The bag. I don’t want to talk to strangers or just random people.” “It’s the most common question every time you shop. You don’t need me for that”
it was right there I realized he became codependent on me doing even the most minuet little things. Mind you I wasn’t medicated prior for a sleeping issue or ADHD. I swear that lifted the fog and let me see SO many red flags I didn’t earlier.
Also the man was in his late 30’s just to add to it.
Tommy DePaul 2 months ago
IDK. This sounds a lot like my father answering the phone and handing it immediately to my mother. You don't want to answer a harmless question to alleviate his anxiety? What are you willing to do then?
#19
He liked to break social norms to make everyone around him uncomfortable. He liked to watch them squirm trying to play off what he’d just said or done as something more normal than it actually was.
He was also great at picking out just the right gift. So imagine my surprise when we’re out at a fancy restaurant for my birthday and he’s eagerly asking me to open my birthday gift at the table. IT WAS AN AXE.
monsieur mabel 2 months ago
......did you use it on him ?.......asking for a myself............:o)
Sly Schlang 2 months ago
There is a saying in Germany "die Axt im Haus erspart den Zimmermann" from Friedrich Schillers "Wilhelm Tell". Means "The Axe in the household saves the Carpenter" so it kind of advertised for diy. My father used to say "the axe in the house saves the divorce attourney". Thank you daddy, this is a very nice mental picture.
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
I know someone else who gave his bride a blade as a wedding gift. Dude met Dread Pirate Roberts
liam newton-harding 2 months ago
High functioning sociopath...people are not real to him, they are toys. They are there to give him experiences, feelings, nothing more.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
nah, i think "sociopath" is thrown around so much its lost what little meaning it had (which is none because sociopath is not a medical diagnosis). this dude is just an inconsiderate a*****e. he is the same type of person to vote for a politician because they promise to hurt the people he doesnt like. its not some clinical issue, its just generations of apathy condensed into one person. sometimes people are just f*****g a******s.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Ooo ty darling , but have you never heard that handing a woman an axe ,while pissing her off is F KIN STUPID !! Judge ..how do you plead , op not guilty your honour see it’s like this , judge … case dismissed !
#20
My ex was a music snob and never wanted to hear my music playlists, only played his own. I didn't realize this for years as we had a lot of music taste overlap, so I enjoyed his curated playlists he put on. If I missed certain genres and would put them at home he would leave the room and play his music in another part of the house. He couldn't be bothered to tolerate it haha.
After breaking up after 15 years, I honestly felt a bit at a lost for what *my* music tastes were. I didn't realize how really bad it was until the new guy I'm seeing asked why I never played my music, or suggested playlists to him, even though he can tell I'm also a music nerd. I still feel awkward/afraid of what someone might think if I play music they might not like.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
ive never understood music snobs. like how can you be pretentious about the most subjective form of media? like, the amount of people who i have spoken to who rail on "that pop or rap garbage isnt even music" and then put on an album called like "mozarts symphony number 9 in polyphonic Nokia ringtone with mid 18th century industrial equipment orchestra accompaniment, in B minor, with vocals from the st marys school for the deaf senior choir" and be like see this is real music as they try to wrestle the gun barrel out of my mouth before i can get the safety off.
Marnie 2 months ago
This has to be the best comment I've read on the internet this year. I needed a laugh, thank you.
Load More Replies... RomanceRadish 2 months ago
Keep in mind there's a difference between "I don't prefer your taste in music" vs "the sounds you are playing right now are genuinely distressing to me." Some people are especially sensitive to sounds.
A S Mora 2 months ago
Reminds me of when I was talking to someone and was able to tell them about a band I liked and how I made a lot of friends through an online group who liked the band, but I mentioned a different band, The Aquabats, and hijacked the whole conversation to talk $h!t. I decided he wasn't someone I cared to share anything with going forward.
#21
He doesnt like going to the barbeshop and having an adult male do his hair. he thinks its gay to have anither guy touch his head.
Always want a woman and doesnt like getting the free shampoo, and head massage. He said he emphatizes with the boyfriend of the “pretty” hair dresser. He wouldnt want his girlfriend touching other guys head like that.
Digital Fantasy 2 months ago
How does he go to the doctor? Males can't touch him cause "it's gay", women can't touch him in respect for their partners.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
yeah idk how these people exist. i knew a guy who would never eat anything that was white because "thats what color c*m is and i aint no homo thats gonna eat c*m" like brother what? you look at an egg, or a plate of alfredo pasta, and your first thought is "man that looks like mountains of hot sticky baby batter all over my food, god theres so much j**z on my food" then brother i got news for you, ya gay as hell. several years later he finally came out and was confused when nobody was surprised. he was like "how did you know" like brother only a deeply closeted gay man would avoid eating pizza because the "white cheese looks like c*m"
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Caffeinated Ape 2 months ago
Huh... this one's uniquely weird. Where on Earth do people get these hangups?
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
overcompensation for his closeted homosexuality or a trauma response to being assaulted by a man at a younger age. typically one of those two. or he was just an a*****e that one is also possible.
Load More Replies... Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago
Seems to need to come out of that closet he doesn't know he's in....
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago (edited)
see and i had the opposite issue for years. i could only have a male doctor or hairdresser and couldnt have a woman touch me without having a panic attack, which stemmed from being "touched" in the wrong way by a woman that was supposed to be taking care of me when i was a child. it took many years as a child for me to be able to be alone with an adult woman that wasnt my mom or grandma because of what that Dr. lady did to me when i was 6. this dude just sounds homophobic but maybe he was just using that to cover up some sort of trauma. idk. it took me many years of therapy to deal with my issues so hopefully he can too.
#22
My ex liked to talk competitively with his boy crews. When I talked to him about this, he said it is just how male friendships supposed to be.
Nope. He was just arrogant and his male friends ended up ditching him. Of course he said: "tHe DitChINg cAMe Out Of NOwhERe!!!" 🙄🙄🙄🙄.
Beffett 2 months ago
I went to school with a woman who always had to one up everyone and she started all her stories with the words, “oh that ain’t NOTHING!” Like, way to c**p all over the person who was just talking. Your story, even if it’s worse, doesn’t mean the first person’s experience was nothing. Used to make me so freaking mad.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Eugh people as always gotta do one up ,p**s me right off the bat,like NO ONE IS BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE !!! Just DIFFERENT ,he needs to grow up n get his head out his arrogant backside !
#23
I found out about malicious incompetence from my ex. Until him, I never met anyone who purposely did things horribly.
#24
He introduced me to 4chan and said he went there every day to keep up with the news, without seeing anything “too disturbing”, which is literally the mainly kind of thing there.
Trillian 2 months ago
Maybe by "disturbing" he didn't mean gore or violence but things that challenge his world view
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
yeah i would imagine what he meant was "yeah theres copious amounts of t*****e and r**e and CSAM on this website, but everyone agrees that brown people deserve to be executed for breathing american air, so theres no disturbing libtards on here"
Load More Replies... SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
If you meet the kind of guy who would like 4chan, RUN!
Scott Rackley 2 months ago
Depends on the board. /b/ is definitely disturbing and /pol/ is a cesspit.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
The tele equivalent to the sun newspaper 😂,only uk peeps will know this one 😂
Lila Allen 2 months ago
It's an online Internet forum for incels, school shooters, and violent white supremacists. I'm pretty sure The Sun hasn't fallen quite that far.
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He was a culture snob, only read classic literature or award winning modern fiction, wouldn’t listen to up and coming music, wouldn’t watch any TV.
He was the 2000s version of a performative man.
Earonn - 2 months ago
Must be stressful, to consume art you don't like but which has just this label to it.
Stannous Flouride 2 months ago
Especially given that throughout history new forms of art, music, literature, and the like were looked down on by the establishment of the time.
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Nikki Sevven 2 months ago
My tastes are Anthony Bourdain. I will enjoy tacos from a food truck just as much as a meal at a fancy restaurant. I will enjoy my metal just as much as my Mozart.
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
Honestly, having music preferences is normal, as is book preferences. I personally prefer 80s music or older.
#26
He had never been in love. He was 64, divorced twice, and many partners. Never been in love. And I was no exception. Also: cherry apple blossom crème rinse for masturbating in the shower every day and twice a day on the weekends. He kept a routine.
Michael Largey 2 months ago (edited)
Does he have to be gay to have problems like this? There are plenty of heterosexuals who are lousy people - or broken ones.
Load More Replies... NotAThreat (he/him) 2 months ago (edited)
just because you are autistic (or on spectrum) don't mean you don't feel romantic attraction :/ (unless you are talking about the aromantic spec!)
Load More Replies... Lady Eowyn 2 months ago
And where's your medical degree that you can diagnose autism from this?
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He never closed cabinets, drawers, or containers after opening them. Unfortunately, he did the same with the refrigerator. His mother was exactly the same way!
Ceiling-Fan2:
My ex did this too! At first I thought oh he’s just forgetful. No, he’s just lazy af. Why you got ALL the kitchen cabinets open after making 1 freaking meal?!
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
My cabinet doors weren't hung properly or something because they wouldn't stay shut for anything. I finally just took them all off.
Jeremy James 2 months ago
Yep. My partner has ADHD. I keep a drawer in the kitchen full of spare lids for all the containers of products we frequently buy.
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Brian Droste 2 months ago
Recently I would open a cabinet door and not close it. Later on I would come in the kitchen and see a cabinet door open. Can't blame anyone else because I live by myself. At first I thought Oh I left a cabinet door open. Then close the cabinet door. After a few times I would think nothing of it and close the cabinet door. Now I have got better at closing cabinet doors after opening them.
Shayna 1 month ago
Get evaluated for ADHD. It's insanely common. Both leaving them open and having no recollection of doing so. Source: My entire life.
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#28
Not giving me any compliments. Expecting me to just believe that he likes me just because he exists. Not looking into my eyes even during intimacy. Answering with "Understood" when I was sharing my feelings. In general being very lukewarm. Being more affectionate to a cat than to me (when I asked why, his answer was "well you're not a cat"). I'm shocked I wasted my time with that dude and had to really dig into my traumas to understand why I ended up there. I left after two and a half months but it still was quite traumatizing.
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
Hilariously, the BP ad that popped up while reading this is a giant cat face
Lady Eowyn 2 months ago
And where do you get this fixation with everything being down to autism? How are you qualified to jusge this?
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4 years in “I’ve never had an emotional connection with anyone including my family”.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Possible victim of a traumatic past. Ready for a therapist - but not a girl friend.
#30
He struggled to regulate his emotions.
My nervous system often did not feel safe around him.
#31
He was secretly obsessed with Marilyn Monroe. I went to his childhood home for the first time and his room was covered from floor to ceiling with calendar cutouts and posters, with a large poster on the ceiling over his bed. And then I found a Marilyn tie, cigarette lighter, Christmas ornaments, pillowcases, and other “collectors” items in the dresser.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
yeah but like, that was his childhood bedroom. mine was covered in posters of kate upton and Kendra Wilkinson. its weird his parents kept it like that if he didnt live there, and i would have had to find out if they kept it that way by his request or just because his mom found it "cute" how much he liked her. the other collectors items are very weird, but again i once mentioned to my grandmother i liked harry potter, literally 20 years ago at this point, and i have received harry potter scarves or mugs or socks every christmas since. idk i just think this one might not be so cut and dry. unless he opened the door and was like "behold, the sanctified grounds of temple monroe, please remove your shoes so as to not desecrate these holy grounds"
#32
He got some kind of mouth infection after eating from a plate he hadn’t washed for a long period of time.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
Is he friends with the bad chicken guy and the two-week-old pizza guy?
#33
He didn’t know how to blow his nose.
Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago
I have to admit to having this problem. But when I was four years old....
#34
Being obsessed with selvedge denim. I have never met a man who was obsessed with selvedge denim and emotionally healthy. My "ex" (loosely termed as we didn't go out for long) was sooo self-obsessed/superior about it, and so was every one of his friends also in this selvedge denim cult. The man literally had a "supplier" in Japan whom he would never stop bragging about. It was like every conversation with him would eventually circle back to selvedge denim.
Honestly, I love fashion, but my experience with straight men who also love fashion has been ghastly. I dated a few because of common interests, but omg they were all just insufferable about it and super snobby/gate keep-y rather than celebrating the fun parts. I'm sure I was probably just unlucky or something, but there's definitely at least a pink flag that pops up in my brain every time I meet one of those guys.
liam newton-harding 2 months ago
It is created on a traditional loom, apparently this helps it fade in a "distinctive manner". Some "men" apparently base their entire personalities around this. Think tulip bubs, beanie babies, and teslas.
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SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
It’s fine to have interests, but having a strong obsession with only one thing would get on my nerves. And loafers with white socks? Just no.
Stannous Flouride 2 months ago
Loafers with white socks are fine as long as they're wearing a pleated plaid skirt, a white middy blouse, and a sailor's neckerchief.
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#35
He liked Kitchen Nightmares but only watched compilation videos of the more dramatic parts. Do you know how stressful it is to not get any conclusion to those scenarios? It was just angry people, problems, unhappy customers over and over and over and over and over again.
I started watching (full episodes of) shows and movies in the other room because those compilation videos just put me on edge. I didn’t think it would be a problem, because we both needed to decompress, and he ignored me when he had the compilation shows on anyway. But then he would keep walking into the room I was in and looking at me/moving around until I gave him some sort of acknowledgement, which always pulled me away from enjoying my show/movie. It was like he enjoyed not letting me relax.
Bartlet for world domination 2 months ago
People don't acknowledge someone when they walk into the room?
Sandra Angulo 2 months ago
I mean I def would the first time, and probably even the second. But if they just keep coming in and out not saying anything I’m not going to say “hello” every single time.
Load More Replies... SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
My partner does have some TV habits that get on my nerves. But a relationship is a matter of deciding which small annoyances you’re willing to put up with—because there WILL be some. My guy has to have the TV on all the time, but he usually watches something I don’t mind. When he interrupts me in the middle of doing something to show me something on TV, it’s irritating. But I try to remind myself that showing me interesting things is one of his ways of showing love. 🤷🏻♀️
#36
He left his Christmas tree up for over a year.
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
Our local laser tag place does this. They just redecorate it to whatever the upcoming holiday is.
Upstaged75 2 months ago
I have a friend who does this. Year round, never takes it down. I can't even imagine how much dust is in that dang thing! 😫
RomanceRadish 2 months ago
Fake trees can get really dusty and trigger allergies too. Think about it- who regularly vacuums their tree & ornaments?!
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
At my parents' house, we leave the Christmas lights up all year. That doesnt' mean you'd see them lit up every year, but the outdoor lights stay up. Then again, our rural home needs a ladder to reach them and hope you don't either land on a tree or the gravel.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
its only a christmas tree at christmas. it then becomes a new years tree, then an easter tree, then a memorial day tree, then a 4th of july tree, then a labor day tree, then a halloween tree, then a thanksgiving tree, and finally a christmas tree again. trees are year round decorations. trees are life. trees are eternal. trees reign supreme.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 months ago
This was my dad when we were kids. Tree went up in November, and didn't come down again til August
Mel Colley 2 months ago
I've heard worse!,Some people keep their Christmas decorations up all year!!
nottheactualphoto 2 months ago
This guy has never used a fake tree. But then again, I'm still under 70 so the night is young.
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The guy I dated a few times only ever talked about the book he was writing. I tried talking about other things but it would always come back to the book. Would turn up late to dates because of the book. It didn't even sound like a very interesting story either, from what I remember was very generic sci-fi that I was pretty sure I'd read by a published author.
Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
It's often tough for folks who aren't writers to understand how difficult and overwhelming it can be for even an experienced author to put an entire book together! Established writers often put themselves into complete solitude to avoid situations like the ones described above.
#38
Did not want to talk about any ex-girlfriend ever.
Didn’t think that getting to know one’s neighbors (after living in the same house for multiple years) was a good idea.
What was this guy afraid of?
He had major AUD.
HF 2 months ago
it is probably alcohol use disorder, but it could also be Australian dollars
Load More Replies... Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
i also dont talk about my exes to new partners because one, its none of their business, and two, im not with that person anymore so why bother? also i get the neighbor thing, im the youngest home owner in my neighborhood and for some reason that really really pisses off the people there who are over 70. ive had pride flags torn off my house, halloween decorations destroyed, trump signs stuck into my yard, one of which was on a 6 foot long 2x4 and was dug 3 feet into the ground, and most recently my drive way painted with, and this is exactly how it was spelled" TrUNP 228" they left the r lowercase, used an N instead of the M and forgot the 0 in 2028. personally i never want to speak to a single one of those f*****s in my life.
alchemilla vulgaris 2 months ago
Don't remove their decorations, just add to them! trump IN JAIL BEFORE 22/8 (or if you want to be all American, 2/28, I'm happy with that). The placard has just the name? Add "is in the Epstein files". Add a traditional Jack o'lantern and correct the TURNIP (they never were pumpkins until the Irish moved to America, look it up and you'll find some pretty gory design)... The possibilities are (sadly) endless!
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Brian Droste 2 months ago
I know my neighbors by sight but don't know there names. I am just a quiet person and and not a super social person. I mind my own business.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
My wife and I are both in our first marriage, 38 years so far. We have never asked or offered anything about previous relationships. I'm not remotely curious, and I'm sure neither is she.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
My partner and I were each married once and divorced before we got together, and we did talk some about our exes. But not a lot.
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When they turn their passion into their personality.
One guy I dated, he LOVED salsa. And I liked that because I love salsa too. But at my best salsa peak time I would go to salsa class once a week and maybe another time to a salsa party. He was going to salsa 4 nights a week. 1 class, 2-3 parties a week. He loved to talk about how he danced with the best dancers there and they complimented him. How he was the most advanced and sometimes he wouldnt be able to find damcers as good as him. He also loved to point out how salsa was better than bachata. It came to a point where he was prioritizing that over spending time with me and thats where I have an issue. When you become so obsessed with something that you will put it over everything else. If you need to spend 4-5 nights doing just this one hobby, and sidelining everything else, then it stops being a hobby and turns into an obsession. And I can uderstand a young guy who has juat fiscovered it or uses it as a creative outlet because doesnt have other things to do. But for a 36 y.o man who supposedly wants to create a relationship and later a family and is otherwise fulfilled in life, sounds a bit like something to unpack.
Other guy, met him at a bachata class. He LOVED bachata. Was coming to classes twice a week when we had classes and also 2-3 other extra nights when prof would ask for guys in another class, to help with leading. Then he would also go to parties. He loved talking about how much he has improved and how he loved dancing and how the prof has asked for his help bcs he is so good (he was ok). He didnt have other hobbies and we didnt have much to talk about.
Stephanie Did It 2 months ago
I was very confused until I realized they weren't both excited over hot sauce
Jeremy James 2 months ago (edited)
I got kind of excited when I read this and momentarily believed that salsa (sauce) classes and parties exist.
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adi cosmin 2 months ago
Is nobody going to point out that she seems to choose them based on passions for niche dance styles?
Nikki Sevven 2 months ago
Salsa is awesome, though, especially with some really good tortilla chips.
Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
Why do you keep hooking up with dance enthusiasts when you clearly *aren't* a dance enthusiast?
Ziggle 2 months ago
I prefer bachata because it's easier. If I don't have a good salsa leader, I trip over my own feet and can never seem to get the steps right. With a good leader, I just get whipped around dancing and it doesn't matter where my feet go because they are never down long enough to trip over them. 🤣
Brian Droste 2 months ago (edited)
At first I thought talking about salsa sauce but very quickly realized talking about salsa dancing. Never heard of bachata dancing. Need to Google this.
Ziggle 2 months ago
Been hanging out with the wrong folks if you've never met any. I don't know any men that don't love dancing when there's good dance music on.
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I didn’t realize it at the time but he never drove anywhere. The only two times I was ever in his car was because I had a flat tire at work and because I had surgery and needed a ride. I drove us everywhere else… day trips to other cities, down the street to grab coffee. We both had newer cars at the time too. He just assumed I was always driving because he wanted to make it an argument if I said something otherwise. To be honest, driving was one of the only ways I could feel even a little less suffocated so I kept my mouth shut and enjoyed the outside world while I could.
Ace 2 months ago
I'm confused by the explanation "he wanted to make it an argument if I said something otherwise". What does that actually mean?
Jude Corrigan 2 months ago
That if she suggested that he drive, he would start an argument until she agreed to drive. By the comment it sounds like he did this so often that she knew it was going to happen.
Load More Replies... Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
Why do people stay in weirdly mismatched relationships and then act like they're being victimized?
Jude Corrigan 2 months ago
It is the fear of what happens after you leave. You know that you will be better off but will the ex leave you alone? Will they constantly try to contact you or harass your family? If they have bullied you for years will they believe that you will eventually give in if they harass you enough.
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Zero ambition.
I'll preface this by saying that I have never been a materialistic person - I've never cared about money or status or any of that. However, my ex had zero ambition. He had a job that paid very little, despite being perfectly capable of doing "better." That man let me cover 90% of the bills and DROWN in debt for 15 years.
I never needed to be taken care of or provided for, but I needed to feel like I was in a partnership, to be met halfway, especially when we were struggling financially.
He had zero ambition, zero desire to do better for himself or his family. I saw that red flag early and never thought twice about it.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 2 months ago
Success and wealth are not my top priorities either; but there’s something good about keeping the electricity on and staying out of (too much) debt.
#42
Being a chronic people pleaser.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Chronic may be a product of circumstances. Compulsive is another thing completely.
#43
There were *plenty* of red flags I ignored, but the one I was just confused by the longest was the fact that this man, raised in a liberal house, so stuck up and better than all the republican hicks in our red state college town, befriended a known [jerk] from my law school in DC. Was mad at me for not wanting to hang out with him. Then he slowly befriended a bunch of DC Republicans and I was eventually like, ohhhh, you're just a classist [jerk] with no moral integrity. I grew up with salt of the earth Republicans, can respect a lot of things about them, but these were rich kids born with silver spoons in their mouths (an Onassis comes to mind) who would say the absolute most vile [stuff] I'd ever heard in my life. There were lots of good reasons to end that relationship, but one would be the type of people he chose to associate with.
Earonn - 2 months ago
What, you would ignore someone's political opinions as long as they kiss you? And here's me, thinking one has a relationship with the whole other person, not just with the parts one cherrypicks.
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He’d cheated on the girl before me. He criticized all people and his family, extended family.. he talked very lightly about his grandma’s mistakes as if they were worse than his.. and was very derogatory. Tbh.. I hadn’t met a partner like that and he had a nice temper otherwise. After we broke up and learned so stuff and that he’d trash talked me.. I set things on fire.. didn’t tell him tho, he can keep ruining his own life.
liam newton-harding 2 months ago
OP, I think you needed to edit this stream-of-conciousness speech to text.
#45
1. He’d claim he was broke and want to split everything evenly, but then spend money on going to hockey games and other events.
2. He’d weirdly brag about potential “what if” moments. For example, he bragged about being a potential backup goalie for an NHL team constantly… there were other examples of this too.
I came to realize that despite being a good person at heart and meaning well, he had a fragile ego and still had a lot of growing up to do.
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago (edited)
Must be Canadian. Edit: (Btw, thanks Google labelling the three dots as "dots" on here) Basically, what I meant is the guy's love of hockey, not the other parts.
#46
He took showers with his kid who was 8 years old. 🚩🚩🚩.
Riccola Tesla 2 months ago
and yet im the weird one when i say a mother shouldnt be breastfeeding her 6 year old in public anymore....
GenericElder 2 months ago
In a culture that often condemns women for breastfeeding even newborns in public, I find it hard to believe anyone told you it was ok for one to do so with a SIX year old.
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It's inappropriate regardless of the child's sеx.
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Realized that every relationship he had was attaching himself to couples like their child and gravitating toward the women because they babied him. All fun and zero accountability because no one ever leaned on him.
Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago (edited)
I don't really understand how his relationship consists of only other couples?
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
I think OP means all of his friendships consisted of couples. He basically used the wife/gf as a surrogate mother to take care of him.
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Two things:
1. He would never give me even a bite of his food because it was “his.”
2. He ate all of each item at once. Like he would eat all of the steak and only then move on to the mashed potatoes.
Stardust she/her 2 months ago
Well what’s wrong with the second point? I also prefer to eat one thing at a time
Sam Trudeau 2 months ago
Ditto. Apparently another member of my family does the same
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seems to me OP is the type of person to say "no i dont want any fries ill just have some of yours" and then take more than half of your fries when they get to the table even after you offered MULTIPLE times to buy them their own they still refuse. yes im talking to you Amy, you know who you are, you know what you did.
Load More Replies... roddy 2 months ago
Personally, I find people who want to "try" my food irritating. They have their own food. Presumably he wasn't helping himself to her plate all the time and just wanted the same respect.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
It very much is ,and rude to like buy your own or cook your own already
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J-Stryker666 2 months ago
Yeah the second point isn't a red flag to me = My wife does this and she also does not like when her food touches so I am fine with it!
Dog Mom to Zoe 2 months ago
I have a niece and nephew who can't stand their food touching so they eat each food item separately.
Huddo's sister 2 months ago
If it's a 'meat and 3 veg' or roast dinner situation, then I will eat each thing one at a time, least to most favourite (though I sometimes have to weigh up whether the roast potato or sweet potato is best).
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
I don’t see an issue with the Seine point 🤷♀️,f all wrong with that , that be a you issue op not his , n I don’t blame him with the first either , get your own f kin food lady !
#49
He only liked the brown sugar cinnamon, no frosting Pop Tarts.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago (edited)
Eugh pop tarts such an American vile highly processed c**p thing 😂sorry but that’s a pathetic red flag , cos it really isn’t one , grow up op fast 🙄🙄🤦♀️
#50
He didn’t think Will Ferrell was funny.
Zig Zag Wanderer 2 months ago (edited)
I still think he's a bit of an acquired taste. It's often a bit too dry and/or purile.
DrBronxx 2 months ago
I think this is fine as a barometer. Not Will Ferrell specifically, but you have to have a few things in common, and a similar, or at least overlapping, sense of humour is important. If you have something you really, really love, and your partner doesn't like or hates it, it can be a dealbreaker.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
He’s not 🤷♀️another pathetic red flag , I can’t stand the bloke lol, n he’s as far from funny as you can get !! Grow up
#51
Not sure if this is niche enough, but men that struggle to sleep well. They have issues they haven’t properly dealt with.
DrBronxx 2 months ago
This one is unbelievably silly. It’s such an arbitrary thing to consider a red flag. You might as well say that people who drink coffee, or wear the colour purple, clearly have issues they haven’t properly dealt with. And don’t get me started on people who read books.
Sandra Angulo 2 months ago
I would say it’s worse bc it’s not something people choose to do
Load More Replies... Black Cat 2 months ago
He could have insomnia, it doesn't always mean he has 'issues' just that his brain doesn't produce enough melatonin.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Right !! me thinks op be the issue on this one , full on lack of understanding
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LillieMean 2 months ago
Op is the red flag here. People have many different reasons for sleep problems and it only becomes a red flag if you refuse to go to a doctor to find out the reasons if your sleep problems just continue month after month.
adi cosmin 2 months ago
I agree that it's a problem with not processing emotions properly. It's that lack of empathy in op that trips me out. "This man is suffering, he's clearly trash to be taken out".
Michael Largey 2 months ago (edited)
If I was in a relationship with this OP, I'd be losing a lot of sleep myself.
Giraffe Sitter 2 months ago
This one is ridiculous. I had severe insomnia for 15 years that turned out to be a food allergy.
Crystalwitch60 2 months ago
Excuse me lol how pathetic!, so your basically saying for eg insomniacs have issues to deal with REALLY ,arrogant idiot aren’t you 🙄it’s you as has got bloody issues op not him
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kansasmagic 2 months ago
I never would have guessed that the spectrum of red flags was so broad. One post will be like "He kept me locked in a closet for 20 years" and the next is "His pants were too nice".
kansasmagic 2 months ago
I never would have guessed that the spectrum of red flags was so broad. One post will be like "He kept me locked in a closet for 20 years" and the next is "His pants were too nice".
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