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Mom Is “Left Speechless” After Neighbor From Downstairs Has Enough Of Her Loud 3-Year-Old And Tells Her To Be Quiet
Few things are more annoying than a noisy neighbor living right next to you. Whether it’s music blasting into midnight or kids screaming and running right above you, it can seriously get on your nerves.
Speaking of the latter scenario, this is precisely what happened to one neighbor who got fed up with the noises coming from the flat above where a family with a three-year-old and a newborn lives.
The incident was shared by a mom who was wondering if it’s unreasonable of her to be fuming at that neighbor. “We’ve literally just had a knock on the door from our downstairs neighbor. We live in a maisonette, we’re in the top flat, he’s on the bottom. He said ‘listen, can you tell your kid to be quiet and stop running around?’” the mom wrote in a post on Momsnet.
Read on below for the whole story and be sure to share what you think of the whole situation in the comments below!
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Recently, a mom shared how her neighbor from downstairs asked her to keep her 3-year-old quiet, which left her fuming
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Many people said that the mom is being unreasonable and that the neighbor who got fed up with the noise is right in this situation
Others, however, expressed their support for the mom and said that it’s the neighbor’s problem
What do you think ?
Chels 3 years ago
If you have kids you should be able to control them. Be more considerate of your neighbors. Not everyone enjoys the stomping and screaming from your little Angel.
Allison B 3 years ago
Agreed. I lived in an apartment for years and a 3 year old running and screaming up and down the hallway before 8am on a Sunday would p**s me off too. Imo the neighbor wasn't being rude or unreasonable to ask the mom to control her kid
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Sue User 3 years ago
Wow, I dont mow my lawn before 10 am on Sunday so as not to disturb my neighbors. The kine " she doesnt understand she needs to be quiet at certain times of the day" is telling. She also doesnt understand that you cant have candy for breakfast ( doing certain things differently based on what time it is ) but thats the parents job to teach her. If you move into a flat with kids above, you expect to hear noise. You also expect that the parents will teach their child to be respectful of others.
Linda 3 years ago
I agree. I think it's definitely possible to teach young children the difference between walking and running (or talking and yelling/screaming). A parent can teach them walking is normal use of their living space, but they cannot run or jump inside the apartment because it's noisy and purposely making noise is unconsidered to others. Of course a young child will sometimes forget or just don't do it, but that's part of parenting. I think a down stairs neighbor will be much more forgiving if it's only once in a while and he knows the parents are actively parenting their child on the topic.
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Kate Fei 3 years ago
I hate the argument saying "you decided to live in an apartment so you should tolerate noisiness". No way. Me deciding to live in an apartment (if by decision you mean I had no choice because houses are waaay out of my price range) has nothing to do with you being an a*****e and me having to accept it. Living in any kind of community, be it a house or a block of apartments, comes with consideration for others. This has nothing to do with the kid, of course she doesn't understand. She also doesnt understand why she must brush her teeth or why she must wash herself. It is up to the parent to make her understand.
Zenozenobee 3 years ago (edited)
I'd say "you decided to live in a appartement, you should be carefull not to be too loud". Saying that as a mother of 2. We were always carefull to keep them from running/jumping inside and get them to play outside when they needed to move. We moved in a house when they were 2 and 4 and I still make sure they are too loud in the garden. As you said "considération for others". No one wants the upstairs lady to have her high heels inside, the dog on the right to howl like the poor doggo they are for being left alone all day, or the student of first floor to throw a party until 4am in the middle of the week. It's a collective duty to make things work. Except for the crazy old lady that was complaining all the time about the noise coming from the school playground during break times...
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
Also please understand not everyone is on a 9-5 M-F schedule. Some people work weekends, some work the afternoon or graveyard shift and have sleep patterns where they sleep all morning. You’d be royally pissed off if someone who works midnight to 8am is up from midnight to 8am making daytime level noises on their days off, now wouldn’t you? If they can reign it in overnight out of consideration for you and your sleeping children, don’t you think you and your kids should return that same favor to them during the day when they’re trying to sleep? Talk to them, and find out what their schedule is, then negotiate what hours are acceptable to you both for your kids to stomp around above their heads. Cooperation, consideration, and communication are what makes for a harmonious community.
removebeforeflight 3 years ago
Same with me! I have busy and freakingly flexible, unstable schedule, so I can wake up at 3am one day and go to bed at 3am the next day. Some noises are too annoying even at 8am for me.
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June 3 years ago (edited)
I've had a neighbour with kids above my appartment few years ago. There were kids running 7am to 10pm 7 days a week. Plus, mom was moving (loudly) all her furnitures at 7am every sunday. Plus random objects dropping in the middle of the night. It was a nightmare. I never complained but I was exhausted and very pissed off. The one night (in 4 years) I put slightly loud music (still legal) mom came to complain, and was very rude. I kinda told her that I don't f*****g care if she can't sleep as she never had any consideration for my sleep and sanity. She was not happy 😂 [edit : Oh should I add I worked morning (starts at 6am) or evening (ends at 10pm) shifts? I never slept more than 5 hours in a row for 4 years 😂 It was my petty delight to politely tell her to suck it up. I am the a*****e, karma is a b***h and I regret nothing 😂]
Casey McAlister 3 years ago (edited)
When you live in a block of flats, there are usually some commonly acceptable hours when you can be noisy. Here where I live they start at 9. So 7-30 is definitely way too early, especially on Sunday, it's just downright ungodly. I understand it can be tricky to make a newborn stop crying, but you definitely can tell your 3yo not to run and distract her with something.
Liam Lowenthal 3 years ago
I lucked out. I don't know what's up with these walls, but we have *very* loud neighbors, and it goes on all hours of the day and night. I go outside it's loud as hell, I come inside and I hear nothing. I feel very very lucky.
Load More Replies... Liam Lowenthal 3 years ago
This is the most simple but clear comment I've read. Yes, this.
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asexualotl (she/her) 3 years ago
yabu. i am a bharatanatyam dancer, it is a dance form that has a lot of stomping and tapping of the feet involved. i have neighbors living under me. for this reason, i don't practice in the apartment because i don't want to bother them. i practice in the gym instead. we all need to accommodate to the people around us sometimes.
Deborah B 3 years ago
Does OP expect her neighbour to make an effort to be considerate about their noise levels? Is he playing music at full volume at 10pm at night, driving a vehicle with a broken muffler, and/or using power tools at dawn on the weekends? If he is, and she doesn't mind, then she has a point. Otherwise, neighbours try to be considerate of each other. Some things you can't help, like a teething baby, but really three years old is old enough to start teaching her to use her inside voice, and not to run inside. Yes, she's a kid, and she'll need to be reminded, but you can make an effort. It sounds like this mum isn't, she's just claiming that the three-year-old's volume level cannot be controlled. Does she let the kid run and scream when she's trying to get the baby to nap?
Chels 3 years ago
If you have kids you should be able to control them. Be more considerate of your neighbors. Not everyone enjoys the stomping and screaming from your little Angel.
Allison B 3 years ago
Agreed. I lived in an apartment for years and a 3 year old running and screaming up and down the hallway before 8am on a Sunday would p**s me off too. Imo the neighbor wasn't being rude or unreasonable to ask the mom to control her kid
Load More Replies... Sue User 3 years ago
Wow, I dont mow my lawn before 10 am on Sunday so as not to disturb my neighbors. The kine " she doesnt understand she needs to be quiet at certain times of the day" is telling. She also doesnt understand that you cant have candy for breakfast ( doing certain things differently based on what time it is ) but thats the parents job to teach her. If you move into a flat with kids above, you expect to hear noise. You also expect that the parents will teach their child to be respectful of others.
Linda 3 years ago
I agree. I think it's definitely possible to teach young children the difference between walking and running (or talking and yelling/screaming). A parent can teach them walking is normal use of their living space, but they cannot run or jump inside the apartment because it's noisy and purposely making noise is unconsidered to others. Of course a young child will sometimes forget or just don't do it, but that's part of parenting. I think a down stairs neighbor will be much more forgiving if it's only once in a while and he knows the parents are actively parenting their child on the topic.
Load More Replies... Kate Fei 3 years ago
I hate the argument saying "you decided to live in an apartment so you should tolerate noisiness". No way. Me deciding to live in an apartment (if by decision you mean I had no choice because houses are waaay out of my price range) has nothing to do with you being an a*****e and me having to accept it. Living in any kind of community, be it a house or a block of apartments, comes with consideration for others. This has nothing to do with the kid, of course she doesn't understand. She also doesnt understand why she must brush her teeth or why she must wash herself. It is up to the parent to make her understand.
Zenozenobee 3 years ago (edited)
I'd say "you decided to live in a appartement, you should be carefull not to be too loud". Saying that as a mother of 2. We were always carefull to keep them from running/jumping inside and get them to play outside when they needed to move. We moved in a house when they were 2 and 4 and I still make sure they are too loud in the garden. As you said "considération for others". No one wants the upstairs lady to have her high heels inside, the dog on the right to howl like the poor doggo they are for being left alone all day, or the student of first floor to throw a party until 4am in the middle of the week. It's a collective duty to make things work. Except for the crazy old lady that was complaining all the time about the noise coming from the school playground during break times...
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
Also please understand not everyone is on a 9-5 M-F schedule. Some people work weekends, some work the afternoon or graveyard shift and have sleep patterns where they sleep all morning. You’d be royally pissed off if someone who works midnight to 8am is up from midnight to 8am making daytime level noises on their days off, now wouldn’t you? If they can reign it in overnight out of consideration for you and your sleeping children, don’t you think you and your kids should return that same favor to them during the day when they’re trying to sleep? Talk to them, and find out what their schedule is, then negotiate what hours are acceptable to you both for your kids to stomp around above their heads. Cooperation, consideration, and communication are what makes for a harmonious community.
removebeforeflight 3 years ago
Same with me! I have busy and freakingly flexible, unstable schedule, so I can wake up at 3am one day and go to bed at 3am the next day. Some noises are too annoying even at 8am for me.
Load More Replies... June 3 years ago (edited)
I've had a neighbour with kids above my appartment few years ago. There were kids running 7am to 10pm 7 days a week. Plus, mom was moving (loudly) all her furnitures at 7am every sunday. Plus random objects dropping in the middle of the night. It was a nightmare. I never complained but I was exhausted and very pissed off. The one night (in 4 years) I put slightly loud music (still legal) mom came to complain, and was very rude. I kinda told her that I don't f*****g care if she can't sleep as she never had any consideration for my sleep and sanity. She was not happy 😂 [edit : Oh should I add I worked morning (starts at 6am) or evening (ends at 10pm) shifts? I never slept more than 5 hours in a row for 4 years 😂 It was my petty delight to politely tell her to suck it up. I am the a*****e, karma is a b***h and I regret nothing 😂]
Casey McAlister 3 years ago (edited)
When you live in a block of flats, there are usually some commonly acceptable hours when you can be noisy. Here where I live they start at 9. So 7-30 is definitely way too early, especially on Sunday, it's just downright ungodly. I understand it can be tricky to make a newborn stop crying, but you definitely can tell your 3yo not to run and distract her with something.
Liam Lowenthal 3 years ago
I lucked out. I don't know what's up with these walls, but we have *very* loud neighbors, and it goes on all hours of the day and night. I go outside it's loud as hell, I come inside and I hear nothing. I feel very very lucky.
Load More Replies... Liam Lowenthal 3 years ago
This is the most simple but clear comment I've read. Yes, this.
Load More Replies... asexualotl (she/her) 3 years ago
yabu. i am a bharatanatyam dancer, it is a dance form that has a lot of stomping and tapping of the feet involved. i have neighbors living under me. for this reason, i don't practice in the apartment because i don't want to bother them. i practice in the gym instead. we all need to accommodate to the people around us sometimes.
Deborah B 3 years ago
Does OP expect her neighbour to make an effort to be considerate about their noise levels? Is he playing music at full volume at 10pm at night, driving a vehicle with a broken muffler, and/or using power tools at dawn on the weekends? If he is, and she doesn't mind, then she has a point. Otherwise, neighbours try to be considerate of each other. Some things you can't help, like a teething baby, but really three years old is old enough to start teaching her to use her inside voice, and not to run inside. Yes, she's a kid, and she'll need to be reminded, but you can make an effort. It sounds like this mum isn't, she's just claiming that the three-year-old's volume level cannot be controlled. Does she let the kid run and scream when she's trying to get the baby to nap?
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