Family Plans Fall Apart Over Neighbor’s Stubbornness, They Don’t See Any Issue

Sure, you don't have to solve anyone's issues... until you have an issue and guess what? They don't have to solve yours either. I hope you're all millionaires who can go without any favours from anyone, because you're setting yourselves for a big karma slap.

funny, I assumed OP was male.

I don't think it's an AH move to adjust your request & ask again. 1 day this time and more money. OP is absolutely within their rights to say no, but the neighbour is not an AH just for asking - no, not even for asking twice. I understand that there are some good reasons for saying no, but there are also good reasons for saying yes. I think for me, OP juuuust goes over the line into AH when they say no not because it matters to them that much, but because the neighbour made the egregious error of *gasp* politely asking a second time.

It sounds like OP is the newest owner of the land. The neighbors may have had this arrangement with the previous owners. Also, it had sounded like the neighbors wanted to park on the driveway/road portion of OP's land, not their grass. OP is legally within their rights, but they sound unpleasant to be around.

The thing is though, no one is "expected" to do anything. Unlike most of the similar stories, this neighbor politely asked in advance, offered compensation AND repairs on top of that. Then, when actual day came - they asked again, offering even more money, hoping that this person might change their mind. Nothing wrong with that! No one for angry, there was no name calling, going behind anyone's back etc. - just polite conversations. OP can do whatever he wants, no pressure. It's just that many people in his shoes would choose to be neighborly and kind. If he wants to be unkind person, it's his choice too. But the consequences will be that he'll be seen as... unkind person. And he has to accept that. Instead, I feel like his original post seeks absolution that would make him look to be in the right, and neighbor as an aßhole for even asking. Sorry, it doesn't work that way. You can't be unkind and expect others to still see you as kind person.

Im really surprised how many people upvote such hateful, anti social trash posts like this.

See that's the reason I say NTA. Because most often if you let someone do something once they'll continue to expect it and eventually it will become a major issue. Do I think OP could have let them park, yes. But did they have to? No absolutely not. I come from a large family and if we are going somewhere with limited parking we carpool or figure out street parking or something. We never make it someone else's problem. And if a neighbor wants to park several cars on your property get a parking contract created and signed immediately to avoid any potential liability issues or future issues with them wanting to park when it's not allowed.

And they will start parking on more and more land without asking first, until the entire 17 acres becomes a huge torn up parking lot and hangout spot for the neighbors' teenagers. I like the idea of selling them an acre for extra parking and putting up a tall set of really thick hedges with sharp thorns or an impenetrable privacy fence, lots of No Trespassing signs, and cameras to keep the nosy ones away from the other 16 acres.

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So write up a fkn contract. It's not hard to avoid that BS so don't even try to make stupid justifications like that. Op just wanted to be an AH, simple as that. Doesn't matter if they were justified, at the end of the day, yes, they are the AH.

Not to mention the risk of theft or damage to the cars themselves. A large number of cars just parked on a back acre of nowhere might attract trouble. And who would be liable? The property owner. Or are they expected to sit out on there and guard to make sure nothing happens while on their property? No. Just no.

Exactly!