It’s perfectly normal not to feed your guests in some parts of the world, and the Dutch and Swedes recently went viral after someone discovered the fact online, raising an infinite amount of eyebrows and leaving people flabbergasted. You can read about it in our previous features here.
Meanwhile, Americans are known for their hospitality. Which is why it can sometimes backfire when ungrateful people come into the picture.
In fact, this is what happened to a 38-year-old mom who was babysitting her new neighbor’s kids. Turns out, the turkey sandwiches she served them for lunch were about to get her in trouble.
A mom was shocked after this new neighbor accused her of giving not good enough food to her kids while she voluntarily babysat them
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Now, the OP wonders if she was really in the wrong for serving kids turkey sandwiches
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The OP recounted the talk she had with the ungrateful neighbor
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Offering food for guests, whether or not they are expected, is usual practice in America
In America, offering food for guests is a common practice. The 2022 YouGov poll ran a study and found that that 72% of Americans would offer for an unexpected guest to join them for a meal.
The invitation is more likely to be extended in the Midwest (79%), the West (74%), and the South (72%) than it is in the Northeast (63%). Meanwhile, Northeasterners are more likely than people in other parts of the country not offer food to their guests.
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Moreover, generally, older adults are more likely than younger adults to offer a meal. About nine in 10 adults over 65 say they would welcome their guest to the dinner table, compared to 56% of 18-to 29-year-olds. Women (78%) are also more likely than men (66%) to say they would offer food.
But in other parts of the world, guests should not expect to be given food if they haven’t made a plan for it
Food culture and the sharing that comes with it, however, is not similar in all parts of the world. A year ago, there was a huge stir on social media after a tweet about Swedes not sharing their food with their children’s guests went viral. The hashtag #Swedengate was trending for days, as people shared their mainly negative impressions and experiences about the Swedish approach to food sharing.
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And while many Americans would likely see not offering food to unexpected guests as rude, the researchers say there’s an explanation why Swedes and some other Scandinavian countries do that.
According to food studies professor Hakan Jonsson from Lund University in Sweden, the unwillingness to feed guests comes down to the days when food harvests had to be stored for many months during the long Nordic winter. Spontaneous dinners were traditionally not part of the culture, as families had to carefully plan and ration their food stores.
“There has been a very strong urge of independence, to not rely on others’ good will for having a good and independent life,” Professor Jonsson told The New York Times.
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How to completely ruin the relationship with a new neighbour and with someone who VOLUNTEERED to look after your kids while you were busy. Ungrateful woman. Her loss though as she can't turn to her next door neighbour now to babysit ever again. She should just say 'sorry can't look after your kids today, all I have is Turkey sandwiches, so yeah, no'
It's just past lunch time, and haven't had lunch yet. I want a turkey with cheese sandwich for lunch, now.
I had lunch about an hour ago....but I want a turkey sandwich with cheese now too.
Load More Replies...what would the neighbor have done if the OP had made Kraft Mac n Cheese?!?! *gasp* poor kids, sounds like they had fun playing together, and the adults go and eff it up.
If it was only a Turkey Sand- no fruit, chips, drink etc. Her boys may have still been hungry. But you don't complain about that when someone is watching your kids for free. You shut your mouth. Teach your kids to say thank you very much. And if you're so lucky as to have her watch them again you pack a lunch you know will keep them full.
Load More Replies...Some people might think that if the turkey or other meat is processed, instead of off the bird so to speak since a turkey sandwich was mentioned. Maybe that's it or she wanted them to have a full meal. Who knows?
Load More Replies...What utter nonsense. Crazy loon of a woman. They do say no good deed is unpunished.
The neighbor complaining about sandwiches aside (which is stupid), the neighbor should have gotten them all lunch in the first place, as thanks for getting an entire day of free babysitting. What a k**b. *edit* "k n o b" is censored? 😂 what about doorknob? *edit 2* and now it's not censored? Is editing a workaround? 🤔 f**k *edit 3* you can curse in edited posts without getting censored lol *edit 4* no you can't ☹️
It's like buying pizza and beer to thank your friends who helped you moved. On a side note, my father learned the hard way NOT to give out beer and/or pizza while moving when using my brother's friends.
Load More Replies...If the kids liked the sandwich and didn't complain about still being hungry then it's fine
A sandwich is not only a common lunch, it’s also a common dinner. Hell, put scrambled egg or cheese or bacon or sausage or any combination of those kinds of breakfast foods between two hunks of bread—-or toast—-and you have a breakfast sandwich. I’m 62, and have been eating sandwiches at whatever meal I felt like. Neighbor is overstuffing her kids, and potentially creating bd eating habits, if she thinks a full dinner is what they need to eat for lunch. Bet you anything that, after serving way too much food to her kids, she forces them to eat every bite too. That’s really old school parenting—-meaning my “greatest generation” parents used to do it to me, even if it meant I had to sit at the table all night because my mother served me foods I hated, and some that I STILL hate, all with the guilt trip of “starving children in _____ would be grateful to have that plateful of food” b******t. By today’s standards, it’s incredibly wrongheaded, as well as cruel and abusive.
These days schools think there is something wrong with a lunch if it’s not “hot”. This mother must subscribe to that idiot thinking. I guess our generation never ate “good food”. 🙄
Load More Replies...Your friends are entitled jerks. Sandwiches are perfectly acceptable lunch items, especially for kids playing outside. Also a reminder that you didn't have to do any of that. People who complain about favors are the rude ones, not you. The neighbor mom is unhinged for coming over to scream at you for feeding and crying for her kids. I'd never offer again and I'd decline to do so in the future should she ever ask. You don't need that in your life. Kids playing together is great, but I'd avoid favors of any sort, as she clearly feels entitled to much more from you than the incredibly reasonable and generous amount of time, money, labor, and resources that you ever offered.
I don't believe this... how do people get so involved over this? I've been living in the same project since I was 12 and not one neighbor ever complained about feeding each other's kids... we all just use to do it. Sandwiches, mac+cheese, chips and soda... it was all good. And IF there was an issue, we would just text each other....
NTA. I remember my kids at that age (7-8-9) and they didn't eat much. If they would have been preteens or teens and would have been hungry after they ate everything, they would have asked for more, I'm sure. Also, one of the commenters above said one meal doesn't make a difference and that's true too. She should really rethink the relationship with her friends and neighbors.
Every time I saw that women I'd offer her a sandwich! Morning, noon or night!
Nobody noticed that the pork and potatoes would be ready in "29 minutes"?
No probably meant to type 20 after all the zero is right beside the nine
Load More Replies...Did she expect a 3 course lunch, with silverware on bone china plates?
The same thing happened with my brother and a neighbor. They were watching the neighbors daughter after school and all the kid had to eat all day was a half of a mini bagel for breakfast. It was around 5pm by that point and they were getting ready to eat dinner expecting the kid's mom to be there any minute. When they realized the mom was going to be later and the kid was hungry my brother offered her some of their dinner (hot dogs, fries and a salad). The mom went ballistic. My brother explained the kid was hungry and all she ate was a small breakfast on the AM.
Straight up. I will take a turkey sandwich over most anything you could offer me. I make multiple turkeys at Thanksgiving just so I can eat turkey sandwiches for weeks on end. I cannot imagine anyone who would complain about serving them or their kids a turkey sandwich. NTA and you dodged a huge mess for the price of kindness and sandwich.
That was along time to be looking after a strangers kids from before noon to five o'clock
Simple solution if she ever sits again, which is doubtful. Tell the mom to pre-pack meals for them with a warning that they will NOT be fed at all if she doesn't.
NTA. Wow! Talk about an entitled b. There is nothing wrong with what you served your neighbor's kids! Something to eat when they were hungry! I would guess if there were allergies, then maybe, but that would still fall on the part of this nutjob mom. Why would you expect someone you just met, to feed your kids a full on meal? Seriously?! What is wrong with you in that messed up head of yours?! As for your so called friends, you need better friends. They are not your friends!
Nothing wrong with giving kids sandwiches, unless it would be allergies or relegious reasons, one meal won't really change anything. This is just neighbour going for straight up drama, meaning it is good sign to stay away, because this definitely be wouldn't be the end of it. As for friends, either they are sarcastic or not really your friends. There is nothing wrong with giving kids simple meal. Sure they in general do need to eat healthy, but that is just one meal and even if due to unpacking, mother will give them something simple too, a day or two still won't be the end of the world. But if mother was so badly concerned with this, she could have asked, OP is willing to help since she doesn't have time to make proper meal for kids, so they get something at least once a day. But OP shouldn't be expected to do it, only thing I would have done differently is asking about allergies and stuff, just in case.
Plus thinking about it, sandwiches are great choice if you don't know what kids like to eat. Since they are simple and also can be pretty versatile in what you can put inside.
Load More Replies...Neighbour was an entitled biatch. The friends, though? Not really her friends.
Wow. If anyone babysat AND fed my kids for free I wouldn't dream of criticizing the food she offered them, unless they had the important diet restrictions that she ignored in spite of being aware of them.
Man. Talk about an entitled & privileged neighbor. I mean... kids have sandwiches for lunch. What is so wrong with that? But what troubles me more are OPs friends. They sound like idiots and probably would say OP is wrong no matter what.
I moved recently and some kids came around to play with my kids. I asked them if they had any allergies and offered what my kids were having too. My kids diet is very clean and I'd prefer them not having sandwiches just because of the wheat, but instead of complaining or expecting other people to accommodate my family I'd pack lunch myself so they would have exactly what they need for the time they are away. This neighbour is entitled, poor boys, they had a great time and are more polite than the mother, they didn't complain.
Don't look gift horses in the mouth, or something along those lines.
Who feeds their kids a full a*s dinner's amount of food for lunch? A simple turkey sandwich is more than acceptable for a good lunch. It peeves me off when people look a gift horse in the mouth, it shows their entitlement. It's not OP's job to feed someone else's kids anyway - if they were still hungry when they got home, dear ol' mommy could have fed them! It's her job, after all. If someone did this to me, I'd likely not be feeding them or offering to watch them ever again. Sad that this neighbor seems to be one in the making for r/neighborsfromhell.
Sounds like she feels entitled. She should be thankful that she offered to watch her kids and gave them lunch. Most kids have a sandwich for lunch. My kids did when they were little. She did nothing wrong making them a sandwich for lunch
"Oh dear, are they still hungry?! Do you need some money for groceries, is that why you're here? Of course, let me just go get my purse, give me one sec. No, no, no, no, I won't hear it! You say your boys need to be overfed, and if you're saying that I'm the one who needs to do that, then I will be that person in their lives! Here you go now!"
This sounds fake to me. Who would get upset about that unless there was an allergy involved.. 😒
Yeah it just sounds so ridiculous. She didn't have responsibility to feed them anything. It was a nice gesture. But then again, there are some pretty crazy people in the world.
Load More Replies...Chalk it up to her being hangry and moving can be emotional... She could have handled it better and so could you. Negotiations are not either of your strong suits. Not taking on her BS is important and a boundary. Try again and see if she is a big red flag. Some of the best people in my life were the ones that kept healthy boundaries. Don't give up on her yet and nothing worse than having neighbor wars. I hope you both can come back to the table and discuss things. Real life isn't always easy and messy isn't always bad.
Wow. That anyone in this situation had to ask AITA. If I was was your neighbor, I would have said something like "Wow you're going to watch my kids. Can I order pizza for everybody for lunch?"
OP is definitely NTA. So much for being a good neighbor. I'll bet that's one favor that'll never happen again.
We moved back to the States when my Daddy retired from the Military, and my daughter was a toddler at the time, and I'd of been greatful. If someone offered to watch her while we unpacked, and fed her. Now, because you were a stranger, I, myself and my parents would've been constantly checking on her, and we would've offered to pay for the food you gave her, and ask what did your family like to eat, especially your boys, and we would've had you over one day to eat. Turkey sandwiches are perfectly fine, and sometimes our friends are intentions are good, but they don't know what they're talking about. You also seem like the type of person who if the boys said that they were still hungry, you would've fed them again. Your Karen next door has some major malfunctions and is two sandwiches short of a picnic.
People are so damned entitled anymore. I used to help everyone out but this kind of thing just happened over and over again so I just stopped. It's not worth it to be a good person anymore. No good deed goes unpunished.
Wow so she got mad for you feeding her sons sandwiches for lunch for free. What nerve, what's wrong with a turkey sandwich? If she wanted them to have a healthy lunch then she should've provided it. Do yourself a favor OP don't ever watch this ungrateful woman's children again matter of fact from now on just ignore her. Live your life and take this as a life lesson everyone isn't grateful
This reminds me of the Family Guy when Brian finds out he has a son and Lois feeds the kid and Brian is a total douche about "I don't want my kid eating white bread"
"if your children had any special dietary needs, it should have been brought to my attention before they came into my home. Don't worry, it won't happen again as I will not be watching them again." And yeah I have no idea how someone could let a stranger watch their children all day. I don't even have kids and this gave me such anxiety 😬
Oh fer chrissake... I'm a grown man nearing retirement age, and you know what I had for lunch today? A roast beef sammich (cold) and a small bag of chips. Your neighbor can take her expectations of good food for her larvae and shove 'em up her a*s.
NTA, that was very rude of her to not thank OP but she also yelled at her. WTF? I hope new neighbor learns some manners and gratitude...
The neighbor is the a*****e not op. She's just nuts to throw such a fit over a turkey sandwich and get friends are weird too for thinking she was the rude one instead of the neighbor. At least she knows who she's dealing with and to not bother with her now. That said, if I were my kid, I would be grateful. One of my neighbors is her friend's mom and she's always getting or making food for the kids who come play at her house. We reciprocate when her kid comes over as well. Mine loves it, especially when it's takeout. Lol.
Report her to cps, she literally abandoned her kids with a complete stranger for hours and not once bothered to check if the were fed and OK. Might be a bit harsh but considering , it would turn the you did not take care of them in to SHE did not take care of them.
The complaning about the food was BS. If she wants then to eat different food, she should have given it to them herself. However throwing the door in the face of a new neighbor seems a stupid way to handle this. She just moved, maybe she was unreasonable because tired and stressed. Even if she is a B****h, great way to start a long lasting conflict
No one else thinks shutting the door in the neighbor's face without more than a word was a bad way to go, regardless of how ridiculous she's being? OP might have to live next to this woman for the rest of her life. Even if they never talk to each other again, there's always going to be that tension now. Yuck. Even standing there in silence with whatever look on your face you feel appropriate is better than shutting the door in her face. Even just saying, "I promise, this will never ever happen again," and then never ever volunteering or agreeing to watch her kids again would be better. How about asking her "What's really going on here because I can't actually believe you'd come over here after I volunteered to watch your children all day -even though we don't even know each other- only to berate me for giving them a turkey sandwich for lunch (one of the most popular lunches in America, btw). So there must be something else that's happening. What is it dear? You can tell me."
How to completely ruin the relationship with a new neighbour and with someone who VOLUNTEERED to look after your kids while you were busy. Ungrateful woman. Her loss though as she can't turn to her next door neighbour now to babysit ever again. She should just say 'sorry can't look after your kids today, all I have is Turkey sandwiches, so yeah, no'
It's just past lunch time, and haven't had lunch yet. I want a turkey with cheese sandwich for lunch, now.
I had lunch about an hour ago....but I want a turkey sandwich with cheese now too.
Load More Replies...what would the neighbor have done if the OP had made Kraft Mac n Cheese?!?! *gasp* poor kids, sounds like they had fun playing together, and the adults go and eff it up.
If it was only a Turkey Sand- no fruit, chips, drink etc. Her boys may have still been hungry. But you don't complain about that when someone is watching your kids for free. You shut your mouth. Teach your kids to say thank you very much. And if you're so lucky as to have her watch them again you pack a lunch you know will keep them full.
Load More Replies...Some people might think that if the turkey or other meat is processed, instead of off the bird so to speak since a turkey sandwich was mentioned. Maybe that's it or she wanted them to have a full meal. Who knows?
Load More Replies...What utter nonsense. Crazy loon of a woman. They do say no good deed is unpunished.
The neighbor complaining about sandwiches aside (which is stupid), the neighbor should have gotten them all lunch in the first place, as thanks for getting an entire day of free babysitting. What a k**b. *edit* "k n o b" is censored? 😂 what about doorknob? *edit 2* and now it's not censored? Is editing a workaround? 🤔 f**k *edit 3* you can curse in edited posts without getting censored lol *edit 4* no you can't ☹️
It's like buying pizza and beer to thank your friends who helped you moved. On a side note, my father learned the hard way NOT to give out beer and/or pizza while moving when using my brother's friends.
Load More Replies...If the kids liked the sandwich and didn't complain about still being hungry then it's fine
A sandwich is not only a common lunch, it’s also a common dinner. Hell, put scrambled egg or cheese or bacon or sausage or any combination of those kinds of breakfast foods between two hunks of bread—-or toast—-and you have a breakfast sandwich. I’m 62, and have been eating sandwiches at whatever meal I felt like. Neighbor is overstuffing her kids, and potentially creating bd eating habits, if she thinks a full dinner is what they need to eat for lunch. Bet you anything that, after serving way too much food to her kids, she forces them to eat every bite too. That’s really old school parenting—-meaning my “greatest generation” parents used to do it to me, even if it meant I had to sit at the table all night because my mother served me foods I hated, and some that I STILL hate, all with the guilt trip of “starving children in _____ would be grateful to have that plateful of food” b******t. By today’s standards, it’s incredibly wrongheaded, as well as cruel and abusive.
These days schools think there is something wrong with a lunch if it’s not “hot”. This mother must subscribe to that idiot thinking. I guess our generation never ate “good food”. 🙄
Load More Replies...Your friends are entitled jerks. Sandwiches are perfectly acceptable lunch items, especially for kids playing outside. Also a reminder that you didn't have to do any of that. People who complain about favors are the rude ones, not you. The neighbor mom is unhinged for coming over to scream at you for feeding and crying for her kids. I'd never offer again and I'd decline to do so in the future should she ever ask. You don't need that in your life. Kids playing together is great, but I'd avoid favors of any sort, as she clearly feels entitled to much more from you than the incredibly reasonable and generous amount of time, money, labor, and resources that you ever offered.
I don't believe this... how do people get so involved over this? I've been living in the same project since I was 12 and not one neighbor ever complained about feeding each other's kids... we all just use to do it. Sandwiches, mac+cheese, chips and soda... it was all good. And IF there was an issue, we would just text each other....
NTA. I remember my kids at that age (7-8-9) and they didn't eat much. If they would have been preteens or teens and would have been hungry after they ate everything, they would have asked for more, I'm sure. Also, one of the commenters above said one meal doesn't make a difference and that's true too. She should really rethink the relationship with her friends and neighbors.
Every time I saw that women I'd offer her a sandwich! Morning, noon or night!
Nobody noticed that the pork and potatoes would be ready in "29 minutes"?
No probably meant to type 20 after all the zero is right beside the nine
Load More Replies...Did she expect a 3 course lunch, with silverware on bone china plates?
The same thing happened with my brother and a neighbor. They were watching the neighbors daughter after school and all the kid had to eat all day was a half of a mini bagel for breakfast. It was around 5pm by that point and they were getting ready to eat dinner expecting the kid's mom to be there any minute. When they realized the mom was going to be later and the kid was hungry my brother offered her some of their dinner (hot dogs, fries and a salad). The mom went ballistic. My brother explained the kid was hungry and all she ate was a small breakfast on the AM.
Straight up. I will take a turkey sandwich over most anything you could offer me. I make multiple turkeys at Thanksgiving just so I can eat turkey sandwiches for weeks on end. I cannot imagine anyone who would complain about serving them or their kids a turkey sandwich. NTA and you dodged a huge mess for the price of kindness and sandwich.
That was along time to be looking after a strangers kids from before noon to five o'clock
Simple solution if she ever sits again, which is doubtful. Tell the mom to pre-pack meals for them with a warning that they will NOT be fed at all if she doesn't.
NTA. Wow! Talk about an entitled b. There is nothing wrong with what you served your neighbor's kids! Something to eat when they were hungry! I would guess if there were allergies, then maybe, but that would still fall on the part of this nutjob mom. Why would you expect someone you just met, to feed your kids a full on meal? Seriously?! What is wrong with you in that messed up head of yours?! As for your so called friends, you need better friends. They are not your friends!
Nothing wrong with giving kids sandwiches, unless it would be allergies or relegious reasons, one meal won't really change anything. This is just neighbour going for straight up drama, meaning it is good sign to stay away, because this definitely be wouldn't be the end of it. As for friends, either they are sarcastic or not really your friends. There is nothing wrong with giving kids simple meal. Sure they in general do need to eat healthy, but that is just one meal and even if due to unpacking, mother will give them something simple too, a day or two still won't be the end of the world. But if mother was so badly concerned with this, she could have asked, OP is willing to help since she doesn't have time to make proper meal for kids, so they get something at least once a day. But OP shouldn't be expected to do it, only thing I would have done differently is asking about allergies and stuff, just in case.
Plus thinking about it, sandwiches are great choice if you don't know what kids like to eat. Since they are simple and also can be pretty versatile in what you can put inside.
Load More Replies...Neighbour was an entitled biatch. The friends, though? Not really her friends.
Wow. If anyone babysat AND fed my kids for free I wouldn't dream of criticizing the food she offered them, unless they had the important diet restrictions that she ignored in spite of being aware of them.
Man. Talk about an entitled & privileged neighbor. I mean... kids have sandwiches for lunch. What is so wrong with that? But what troubles me more are OPs friends. They sound like idiots and probably would say OP is wrong no matter what.
I moved recently and some kids came around to play with my kids. I asked them if they had any allergies and offered what my kids were having too. My kids diet is very clean and I'd prefer them not having sandwiches just because of the wheat, but instead of complaining or expecting other people to accommodate my family I'd pack lunch myself so they would have exactly what they need for the time they are away. This neighbour is entitled, poor boys, they had a great time and are more polite than the mother, they didn't complain.
Don't look gift horses in the mouth, or something along those lines.
Who feeds their kids a full a*s dinner's amount of food for lunch? A simple turkey sandwich is more than acceptable for a good lunch. It peeves me off when people look a gift horse in the mouth, it shows their entitlement. It's not OP's job to feed someone else's kids anyway - if they were still hungry when they got home, dear ol' mommy could have fed them! It's her job, after all. If someone did this to me, I'd likely not be feeding them or offering to watch them ever again. Sad that this neighbor seems to be one in the making for r/neighborsfromhell.
Sounds like she feels entitled. She should be thankful that she offered to watch her kids and gave them lunch. Most kids have a sandwich for lunch. My kids did when they were little. She did nothing wrong making them a sandwich for lunch
"Oh dear, are they still hungry?! Do you need some money for groceries, is that why you're here? Of course, let me just go get my purse, give me one sec. No, no, no, no, I won't hear it! You say your boys need to be overfed, and if you're saying that I'm the one who needs to do that, then I will be that person in their lives! Here you go now!"
This sounds fake to me. Who would get upset about that unless there was an allergy involved.. 😒
Yeah it just sounds so ridiculous. She didn't have responsibility to feed them anything. It was a nice gesture. But then again, there are some pretty crazy people in the world.
Load More Replies...Chalk it up to her being hangry and moving can be emotional... She could have handled it better and so could you. Negotiations are not either of your strong suits. Not taking on her BS is important and a boundary. Try again and see if she is a big red flag. Some of the best people in my life were the ones that kept healthy boundaries. Don't give up on her yet and nothing worse than having neighbor wars. I hope you both can come back to the table and discuss things. Real life isn't always easy and messy isn't always bad.
Wow. That anyone in this situation had to ask AITA. If I was was your neighbor, I would have said something like "Wow you're going to watch my kids. Can I order pizza for everybody for lunch?"
OP is definitely NTA. So much for being a good neighbor. I'll bet that's one favor that'll never happen again.
We moved back to the States when my Daddy retired from the Military, and my daughter was a toddler at the time, and I'd of been greatful. If someone offered to watch her while we unpacked, and fed her. Now, because you were a stranger, I, myself and my parents would've been constantly checking on her, and we would've offered to pay for the food you gave her, and ask what did your family like to eat, especially your boys, and we would've had you over one day to eat. Turkey sandwiches are perfectly fine, and sometimes our friends are intentions are good, but they don't know what they're talking about. You also seem like the type of person who if the boys said that they were still hungry, you would've fed them again. Your Karen next door has some major malfunctions and is two sandwiches short of a picnic.
People are so damned entitled anymore. I used to help everyone out but this kind of thing just happened over and over again so I just stopped. It's not worth it to be a good person anymore. No good deed goes unpunished.
Wow so she got mad for you feeding her sons sandwiches for lunch for free. What nerve, what's wrong with a turkey sandwich? If she wanted them to have a healthy lunch then she should've provided it. Do yourself a favor OP don't ever watch this ungrateful woman's children again matter of fact from now on just ignore her. Live your life and take this as a life lesson everyone isn't grateful
This reminds me of the Family Guy when Brian finds out he has a son and Lois feeds the kid and Brian is a total douche about "I don't want my kid eating white bread"
"if your children had any special dietary needs, it should have been brought to my attention before they came into my home. Don't worry, it won't happen again as I will not be watching them again." And yeah I have no idea how someone could let a stranger watch their children all day. I don't even have kids and this gave me such anxiety 😬
Oh fer chrissake... I'm a grown man nearing retirement age, and you know what I had for lunch today? A roast beef sammich (cold) and a small bag of chips. Your neighbor can take her expectations of good food for her larvae and shove 'em up her a*s.
NTA, that was very rude of her to not thank OP but she also yelled at her. WTF? I hope new neighbor learns some manners and gratitude...
The neighbor is the a*****e not op. She's just nuts to throw such a fit over a turkey sandwich and get friends are weird too for thinking she was the rude one instead of the neighbor. At least she knows who she's dealing with and to not bother with her now. That said, if I were my kid, I would be grateful. One of my neighbors is her friend's mom and she's always getting or making food for the kids who come play at her house. We reciprocate when her kid comes over as well. Mine loves it, especially when it's takeout. Lol.
Report her to cps, she literally abandoned her kids with a complete stranger for hours and not once bothered to check if the were fed and OK. Might be a bit harsh but considering , it would turn the you did not take care of them in to SHE did not take care of them.
The complaning about the food was BS. If she wants then to eat different food, she should have given it to them herself. However throwing the door in the face of a new neighbor seems a stupid way to handle this. She just moved, maybe she was unreasonable because tired and stressed. Even if she is a B****h, great way to start a long lasting conflict
No one else thinks shutting the door in the neighbor's face without more than a word was a bad way to go, regardless of how ridiculous she's being? OP might have to live next to this woman for the rest of her life. Even if they never talk to each other again, there's always going to be that tension now. Yuck. Even standing there in silence with whatever look on your face you feel appropriate is better than shutting the door in her face. Even just saying, "I promise, this will never ever happen again," and then never ever volunteering or agreeing to watch her kids again would be better. How about asking her "What's really going on here because I can't actually believe you'd come over here after I volunteered to watch your children all day -even though we don't even know each other- only to berate me for giving them a turkey sandwich for lunch (one of the most popular lunches in America, btw). So there must be something else that's happening. What is it dear? You can tell me."
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