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Brother Is Furious After Sister Reclaims All Her Belongings And Leaves Him In An Empty House
Interview With ExpertExperts often say that strained relationships and fights between teenagers and parents are a natural process designed to ease separation. Interestingly, after adult children begin living independently, their relationships with their parents often improve. But what then should adult siblings living together do?
The story we’re about to tell you today, from the user u/Consistent-Stock-886, is another reminder that being an adult actually means taking care of yourself. And, well, not only taking care but also taking responsibility for your words and deeds. This, incidentally, applies to both participants in our story…
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Sharing a roof with your sibling might be very warm and great, but sometimes they can take your help for granted and get overly entitled
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The author of the post has been living with her elder brother for several years and used to help him a lot
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The woman was always the main contributor to the household and also provided the brother some mental support
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She supported him while he was going through his divorce and also did her best to raise her own kid alone
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The man, however, used to always nag on various reasons – so the author once decided to vent about this with another person, who then exposed her words to her bro
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They ended up having a very unpleasant talk, and the author decided to show him what “not having his back” actually meant
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The woman removed everything she bought throughout the house and put it all in her room until she moves out
The original poster (OP) is 34 years old, and in recent years, she shared an apartment with her 39-year-old brother. The woman says that she usually contributed much more to the household than her brother, helping him pay for his car repairs, and even had been giving him a ride to work during that time.
Moreover, she was always there for him when he was going through a difficult divorce, and always happily welcomed his kids when they came over. And this is all without taking into account her own work and raising a 4-year-old daughter alone. But if you think her bro appreciated this support, you’re very much mistaken.
The man kept constantly nagging about his sis allegedly having various shortcomings, her child being overly messy, and so on. He complained to her that she “didn’t have his back,” and this eventually got on our heroine’s nerves. In a private convo with a friend, she herself vented about such a strained relationship with her sibling, but the friend turned out to be a traitor and told him everything.
The result was a very unpleasant conversation, and the OP, accused by him of snitching, decided to show what “not having his back” actually meant. The woman took everything she had bought for their shared apartment into her own room and began actively looking for another home. And yet, remorse continues to plague her – she considers herself a bad person, and decided to seek advice online.
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“Apparently, this woman made two fundamental mistakes. Firstly, she was overprotective of her brother, and secondly, instead of telling him about her concerns, she decided to confide in someone else,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here.
According to the expert, this often happens when people begin to simply perceive help from friends and relatives as something granted, and over time, this develops into blatant entitlement. It’s quite possible that a frank conversation could have helped in this case, actually opening her brother’s eyes to the reality of the situation.
But since this is how it happened, the author’s actions seem quite reasonable and balanced. “After all, 39 is a good age to start living independently, without relying entirely on the support of a younger sister, right?” Irina Matveeva says with irony. “Separation from relatives is never too late, although the process can be quite painful.”
As for the people in the comments, they generally criticized the author for actually trash-talking her bro with another person, but also noted that she ultimately made the right decision to move out. “He’s a grown man; he needs to act like it and take responsibility for himself and his children,” someone wrote reasonably. So do you, our dear readers, agree with this too?
Commenters were very divided as they condemned the author for trash-talking her brother behind his back, but also agreed that her decision to move out was actually right
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Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
I had a similar situation living with one of my older brothers, who at the time was living in a nice, upscale neighborhood I could never afford on my own. But he never cleaned, he never bought groceries, and he left his good-paying job shortly after I moved in. I wasn’t making a lot of money at the time—-ffs I was only 20, and he was 31. But I ended up being the one who paid bills and bought food and cleaned up, while he f****d around at looking for another job. All he had to come up with was his half of the rent. When that got to be a struggle, I had had it with being the maid and the only one working and paying bills, and moved out. A 20 year old just starting out should NEVER be taken advantage of like that, especially not by her OLDER brother! Believe me, it was way cheaper for me to live on my own, even on my small salary. My other older brothers, who were all pushing 30 or 40 at that time, agreed with me that that one brother of ours was a deadbeat and freeloader. We loved him, but he had done the same thing to all of us in our turn, and had run out of siblings to freeloader off and/or get any sympathy from.
Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
I had a similar situation living with one of my older brothers, who at the time was living in a nice, upscale neighborhood I could never afford on my own. But he never cleaned, he never bought groceries, and he left his good-paying job shortly after I moved in. I wasn’t making a lot of money at the time—-ffs I was only 20, and he was 31. But I ended up being the one who paid bills and bought food and cleaned up, while he f****d around at looking for another job. All he had to come up with was his half of the rent. When that got to be a struggle, I had had it with being the maid and the only one working and paying bills, and moved out. A 20 year old just starting out should NEVER be taken advantage of like that, especially not by her OLDER brother! Believe me, it was way cheaper for me to live on my own, even on my small salary. My other older brothers, who were all pushing 30 or 40 at that time, agreed with me that that one brother of ours was a deadbeat and freeloader. We loved him, but he had done the same thing to all of us in our turn, and had run out of siblings to freeloader off and/or get any sympathy from.
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