Mom’s List Of “Don’ts” For Her Daughter Is Going Viral, And Everyone Must Read It
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One mom is inspiring parents across the internet with this powerful letter that she wrote to her five-year-old daughter.
“Don’t apologize when someone else bumps into you,” reads the letter, written by Portland-based blogger Toni Hammer who recently posted it on Facebook. “Don’t say ‘sorry to be such a pain.’ You’re not a pain. You’re a person with thoughts and feelings who deserves respect. Don’t make up reasons as to why you can’t go out with a guy you don’t wanna go out with. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.”
The letter goes on to list various things that her daughter shouldn’t do, but instead of being restrictive, the purpose of the letter is to empower her daughter. “I want to raise a daughter who is as confident as she is kind, who fights for those who can’t fight for themselves, who isn’t afraid to speak her mind and work hard to make the world a better place,” said Toni. “Someone who is a lover of justice and believes change can happen.”
Toni decided to write the letter because her daughter was starting kindergarten this year and she didn’t want her to have the same experience that she did when she was at school. “I was picked on a lot as a kid and I hate the idea of her going through what I did. I know it won’t be long before someone tries to make her feel ‘less than’ and I want her to face it with more confidence then I had at that age,” she said.
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One mom is inspiring parents across the internet with this powerful letter that she wrote to her daughter
“Don’t apologize for being who you are. Be brave and bold and beautiful. Be unapologetically you”
Some people were quick to agree with her letter
Other people had slightly different opinions
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Frankly, what people post supposedly for the rest of the world typically is rather boring.
Also known as: stand up for yourself but don't be an a*****e about it. I get where the mother is coming from though, girls in general aren't taught that, sadly
And in some cases, boys, too.
of all the comments i see for people taking issue, i feel like they are missing the point. this is about restoring your right to live your life without outside influence. nothing about what the mother said was to do an about face and be rude. its simply *stand up for yourself and don't let others push you around*
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If you don't inherently know to live your life your way, i.e. be true to yourself, you're already lost. The reason this mom is telling her girl these things is because in today's society, the social justice warriors want their way to be the only way. Do the research and you'll find advice that's diametrically opposed to this because the powers that be want people subservient and docile. What this mom is preaching is no less insurrection that taking up arms. BUT ... you go mom. Keep teaching the truth.
The point is you DON'T know these things "inherently" and women are particularly vulnerable to social pressure to act like doormats. Being able to say "no" is huge thing. But of course, men don't get it, for the most part.
what research? and what is caring about social justice such a bad thing these days? are we social justice warriors because we think its bad to bully people and be rude? the heck is wrong with people that treating others with kindness and respect has to be considered being a "warrior" and that its such a bad thing?
Inherently? So you sprung from the womb fully grown and educated? Or is that privileged upbringing? The reasons there are so called "social justice warriors " is because true social justice does not exist here. And if you do not believe this, either you have you head in the proverbial sand of ignorance or you have grown up in privileged background where you have not witnessed the social injustice that swirls around those who live outside the gated and guarded communities. AND JUSTICE FOR ALL, not just those who can "afford" it. And sure, a woman standing up for herself = INSURRECTION. UGH! Guess you want us womenfolk to walk three steps behind and "know our place" huh? Never mind the rest of us that are NOT WHITE MALES. Sooooo mad right now!
Frankly, what people post supposedly for the rest of the world typically is rather boring.
Also known as: stand up for yourself but don't be an a*****e about it. I get where the mother is coming from though, girls in general aren't taught that, sadly
And in some cases, boys, too.
of all the comments i see for people taking issue, i feel like they are missing the point. this is about restoring your right to live your life without outside influence. nothing about what the mother said was to do an about face and be rude. its simply *stand up for yourself and don't let others push you around*
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
If you don't inherently know to live your life your way, i.e. be true to yourself, you're already lost. The reason this mom is telling her girl these things is because in today's society, the social justice warriors want their way to be the only way. Do the research and you'll find advice that's diametrically opposed to this because the powers that be want people subservient and docile. What this mom is preaching is no less insurrection that taking up arms. BUT ... you go mom. Keep teaching the truth.
The point is you DON'T know these things "inherently" and women are particularly vulnerable to social pressure to act like doormats. Being able to say "no" is huge thing. But of course, men don't get it, for the most part.
what research? and what is caring about social justice such a bad thing these days? are we social justice warriors because we think its bad to bully people and be rude? the heck is wrong with people that treating others with kindness and respect has to be considered being a "warrior" and that its such a bad thing?
Inherently? So you sprung from the womb fully grown and educated? Or is that privileged upbringing? The reasons there are so called "social justice warriors " is because true social justice does not exist here. And if you do not believe this, either you have you head in the proverbial sand of ignorance or you have grown up in privileged background where you have not witnessed the social injustice that swirls around those who live outside the gated and guarded communities. AND JUSTICE FOR ALL, not just those who can "afford" it. And sure, a woman standing up for herself = INSURRECTION. UGH! Guess you want us womenfolk to walk three steps behind and "know our place" huh? Never mind the rest of us that are NOT WHITE MALES. Sooooo mad right now!