Man Shares What He Felt During A Coma And How It Helped Him Say Goodbye To His Mother

Thanks. I NEEDED this. My dad passed away on July 2018. I live in a different city than my mom, dad and siblings. So, when my dad got hospitalized, I couldn't be there. I couldn't talk to him, give him a hug and a kiss for one last time when he was conscious. Then, he got transferred to a hospital near my city. And I visited him. But all the time he was sedated and never opened his eyes. I read to him. I told him how grateful I was for everything he did for me. And I was the one next to him, holding his hand during his last minutes. Talking to him. And I hoped he knew I was there, and that he wasn't alone. Now I feel better thinking he might have noticed.

I was in a 4 week coma state in 2017, sometimes i was "awake" but saw things that werent there i.e. my bedroom door etc, other times i was fully in lala land. when all the nurses were talking about the anniversary of dianas death i thought i was in an old hospital from 1997 and had time travelled (people had keepers and old fashioned cellphones etc), and that Diana's funeral procession was happening later that day. It's a scary confusing time, but what you say around a comatose person has a huge impact on what they experience. Most of my hallucinations were about going home to mum (although I'm grown now with my own kid) and that was because she and dad came to see me and talk to me at least once a day.

My mum also passed after a 6-year battle with cancer. I've always heard that hearing is the last sense to go, so I talked to her when she entered into the deep sleep which we knew she wouldn't wake up from. I almost didn't leave her bedside for 2 days, and her heart stopped beating when I momentarily went down to grab some breakfast. My aunt called and we headed back to her bed, where I said my final goodbyes. I like to believe that she heard everything I said when she was lying there. Losing a parent is never easy, especially one that you're close to. It's been 8 years and I don't think the gaping hole in my heart will ever be filled.

TEARS. SUCH BEAUTIFUL LAST MOMENTS.

I have always wondered about this, and suspected that the brain could go on for some minutes after the last heartbeat. That's what allows CPR to work, after all. I was fortunate enough to be able to be there for both my parents when they each passed of old age. Neither was conscious when I arrived, but I talked to each about how much I loved them, how fortunate I was to have them as parents, and that it was okay to go, that they would be sorely missed, but they had much better things to go on to. I was sure to go on for at least ten minutes after their final breath. I was not going to let the last thing they heard on earth be the words "He/she's gone." Now I feel more certain that they heard me. Thank you for this.