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Doctors Can’t Figure Out How To Help A Violent Child, Mom Can’t Take It Anymore And Kicks Her Out
Parenting is extremely stressful as it is. But what do you do when your child’s behavior becomes dangerous—to you, your family, and even themselves?
One woman recently took to TikTok to explain that she had to remove her 9-year-old daughter, who struggles with mental illness, from their household for the safety of everyone involved. The child would injure her siblings, hurt the family dog, and once even nearly caused a car accident. It was, by all accounts, a lot to handle.
Her video ended up getting a divided reaction. Some viewers sympathized with her decision, while others felt that separating from a child should never be an option.
Scroll down to hear her side of the story and share your thoughts.
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The woman’s daughter, who suffers from mental illness, was putting both herself and her family in danger with her behavior
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So, the mom made the difficult decision to remove her from the household
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Up to 77% of parents of children with complex care needs experience burnout
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When people decide to have children, they usually prepare themselves for the common struggles of parenthood. Sleepless nights, tantrums, school troubles, teenage rebellion. It’s all part of what most expect. And even then, it’s incredibly hard.
But for parents raising a child with a mental illness, the challenges can go far beyond what’s considered typical. These parents often face overwhelming emotional, physical, and logistical stress.
In fact, research shows that up to 77% of parents of children with complex care needs experience burnout—a rate significantly higher than that of parents with neurotypical children.
Depending on the child’s condition, parenting may involve constant monitoring, intensive accommodations, and navigating situations where the child could hurt themselves or others. It’s no wonder many parents feel pushed to their limit.
Experts emphasize that while mental health treatments often focus on the child, the well-being of the parent is just as important, but too often overlooked. According to CBS News, researchers and pediatric mental health professionals argue that therapies should support the entire family, not just the child.
“I have so many parents sit across from me on the couch and cry,” Danielle Martinez, a behavioral health specialist at Driscoll Children’s Hospital in Corpus Christi, told CBS. “The hospital is creating peer support groups, to launch by the fall, for family members whose children are under the facility’s care.”
“They felt so alone, felt like bad parents, felt like giving up,” she added, “and then felt guilty for wanting to give up.”
And when a parent’s physical or mental health begins to break down, the consequences can ripple outward. It not only affects the parent, it also limits their ability to manage their child’s condition and offer the support that’s so desperately needed.
“Parents are a kid’s most important resource and need to be a concern,” explained Mary Ann McCabe, a member of the board of directors at the American Psychological Association, an associate clinical professor of pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine, and a psychologist in independent clinical practice.
It’s clear that this is a deeply complex and emotional issue. Parents of children with mental illness aren’t just dealing with a difficult diagnosis, they’re often carrying the weight of it alone. That’s why care and healing need to extend to the whole family. Because the toll it takes can truly be heartbreaking.
Plenty of people sympathized with the woman and supported her choice
Some shared similar experiences with difficult children
Others, however, believed the situation could have been handled differently
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Melissa Harris 6 months ago (edited)
She had her daughter committed not kicked out. Sending a disturbed child to get appropriate care and for the safety of others is what a good parent is supposed to do. If your child is sick you take them to the doctors or hospital. Mental illness is sickness in the brain and mind. How many people have been abused by mentally unwell and untreated siblings? How many crimes are committed by those that didn't receive appropriate treatment as children?
Bryn 6 months ago
Yah bad choice of words and it almost seems like it was written that way to get views. I really hope the child gets help but that choice of words makes me question things
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Vinny DaPooh 6 months ago
To those criticizing her saying a mother should always be there for her children... she is doing exactly what you preached though she's doing it to protect her other children.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
And her 9-year-old clearly needed help beyond what a normal parent could be expected to provide. (As in, she needs trained professionals/therapy/etc.) This mom is protecting and being there for the 9-year-old in the only way she currently can be: by being responsible and providing the environment and help her child needs.
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Atom Bohr 6 months ago
I really don't like the wording of this, but if I ignore that, there are times children need more care, support, or intervention than most parents or schools can provide. Parents need a lot more affordable access to professionals who can help them raise their children
Motivated sloth 6 months ago
I agree the wording is abrasive and careless. “Kicked my nine year old out” makes it sound like she sent her to live in the streets.
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Littlemiss 6 months ago
I have worked with children just like this woman's daughter. The children don't just magically get better because they get a label. There is something mentally and fundamentally wrong in this child's whole being. They are a danger to themselves and others. The poor parents end up at their wits end with little support in sight.
FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Obviously this was the right thing for the family, and I want to stress it is also the right thing for the daughter. She needs a level of expertise and care that she couldn't get at home. Earliest intervention and treatment are the only hope for her to live in society without going to jail and are the best hope for her managing the pain she's in. Even if there were no siblings in the house, this is the kindest course of action for the daughter. This is not locking away children who are different like they did in decades past, this is weighing up the safest place for the child.
Francine Oglethorpe 6 months ago
Yup, committed is different than kicking out. She is sick. If she didn't remove her and something happened, everyone would slam her for not removing her. This mom did what was best for her family, the daughter included.
Earonn - 6 months ago
She's actually a great mom, because she puts the safety of everyone, including the 9 year old, over the romanticised motherhood cliche. She realised her daughter needed something she couldn't give, so she let go. Bad parents are those who cover up for her children instead of getting them help, and silencing the victims.
weatherwitch 5 months ago
I HATE the mother because she Deliberately writes that she Kicked her nine years old child out of her house. That is written to antagonise and inflame responses to this situation. She did NOT need to do that and she Instantly gives serious mental health conditions a further s**t reputation. What she did however is commit her child to the Professional help that she needs and that is Highly commendable. This is not a parenting issue and for every one of those people who bítch on about that it's your child, you can't do this, you just have to parent them etc,they haven't got a fkn Clue. This a Medical issue that requires Professional intervention and support now and likely for the entirety of the childs life. A colleague had her teenage sister committed to a mental institution because of her dangerous behaviour. It was two decades later they discovered that she had Lupus and it had attacked her brain. There are so many causes of severe mental health problems, a parental hug won't help ffs
J R 5 months ago
I mean, the biggest question I have is what does she mean by kicked out? "Kicked out" is usually used for forcing people to leave and kind of washing your hands of them. Does she mean she had her daughter committed? Because I have no problem with that. Her daughter needs help the woman can't provide, and unfortunately, an institution is probably the best place for the girl. But if it's kicked out? As in just told her to leave? No excuse for that. A 9-year-old can't fend for themselves. The parent(s) have a duty to find an alternative caregiver if they can't care for their child.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
Sadly this is phrased badly as it sounds like she got kicked out onto the street. That child needs (and I am LOATHE to use this word) institutionalising. A safe place where she cannot harm others but taught how to not be a*****e. And put on proper meds - which again I wouldn't ordinarily advocate in one so young. But if she is not stopped now, she will go Dahmer. (Other SKs are available)
Big Chungus 6 months ago
What a hard decision to have to make, but def the right one. I hate that this says kicked out because she obviously didn't. She got her much needed help.
Mark Childers 6 months ago
That poor mother. I can't imagine the trauma they all have endured, but the mother will never forgive herself, even if she knows it was the right thing to do. That's a life of stress, chaos, and violence. I really hope the daughter gets the help she needs.
Mad McQueen 6 months ago
Sometimes love is tough. But for the safe being of the family you had to remove the ticking bomb. She knows she was wrong with what she was doing for attention but prob not able to communicate the feelings so the rage to destroy or hurt others from her feelings came out. Don’t be sad or feel guilty. There is almost never a moment when saying “I wish I had done this sooner” could fix something tragic happening after the fact. Someone blind or a car accident or animal killed or injured. Taking steps to remove (not eliminate) a threat is all you did. Hope she’s getting treatment and care to get settled into her brain better.
Petra Schaap 6 months ago
was anyone able to read that? I got 47 same loading advert clips and a bit of text in between 😂
Melissa Harris 6 months ago (edited)
She had her daughter committed not kicked out. Sending a disturbed child to get appropriate care and for the safety of others is what a good parent is supposed to do. If your child is sick you take them to the doctors or hospital. Mental illness is sickness in the brain and mind. How many people have been abused by mentally unwell and untreated siblings? How many crimes are committed by those that didn't receive appropriate treatment as children?
Bryn 6 months ago
Yah bad choice of words and it almost seems like it was written that way to get views. I really hope the child gets help but that choice of words makes me question things
Load More Replies... Vinny DaPooh 6 months ago
To those criticizing her saying a mother should always be there for her children... she is doing exactly what you preached though she's doing it to protect her other children.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago
And her 9-year-old clearly needed help beyond what a normal parent could be expected to provide. (As in, she needs trained professionals/therapy/etc.) This mom is protecting and being there for the 9-year-old in the only way she currently can be: by being responsible and providing the environment and help her child needs.
Load More Replies... Atom Bohr 6 months ago
I really don't like the wording of this, but if I ignore that, there are times children need more care, support, or intervention than most parents or schools can provide. Parents need a lot more affordable access to professionals who can help them raise their children
Motivated sloth 6 months ago
I agree the wording is abrasive and careless. “Kicked my nine year old out” makes it sound like she sent her to live in the streets.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 6 months ago
I have worked with children just like this woman's daughter. The children don't just magically get better because they get a label. There is something mentally and fundamentally wrong in this child's whole being. They are a danger to themselves and others. The poor parents end up at their wits end with little support in sight.
FreeTheUnicorn 6 months ago
Obviously this was the right thing for the family, and I want to stress it is also the right thing for the daughter. She needs a level of expertise and care that she couldn't get at home. Earliest intervention and treatment are the only hope for her to live in society without going to jail and are the best hope for her managing the pain she's in. Even if there were no siblings in the house, this is the kindest course of action for the daughter. This is not locking away children who are different like they did in decades past, this is weighing up the safest place for the child.
Francine Oglethorpe 6 months ago
Yup, committed is different than kicking out. She is sick. If she didn't remove her and something happened, everyone would slam her for not removing her. This mom did what was best for her family, the daughter included.
Earonn - 6 months ago
She's actually a great mom, because she puts the safety of everyone, including the 9 year old, over the romanticised motherhood cliche. She realised her daughter needed something she couldn't give, so she let go. Bad parents are those who cover up for her children instead of getting them help, and silencing the victims.
weatherwitch 5 months ago
I HATE the mother because she Deliberately writes that she Kicked her nine years old child out of her house. That is written to antagonise and inflame responses to this situation. She did NOT need to do that and she Instantly gives serious mental health conditions a further s**t reputation. What she did however is commit her child to the Professional help that she needs and that is Highly commendable. This is not a parenting issue and for every one of those people who bítch on about that it's your child, you can't do this, you just have to parent them etc,they haven't got a fkn Clue. This a Medical issue that requires Professional intervention and support now and likely for the entirety of the childs life. A colleague had her teenage sister committed to a mental institution because of her dangerous behaviour. It was two decades later they discovered that she had Lupus and it had attacked her brain. There are so many causes of severe mental health problems, a parental hug won't help ffs
J R 5 months ago
I mean, the biggest question I have is what does she mean by kicked out? "Kicked out" is usually used for forcing people to leave and kind of washing your hands of them. Does she mean she had her daughter committed? Because I have no problem with that. Her daughter needs help the woman can't provide, and unfortunately, an institution is probably the best place for the girl. But if it's kicked out? As in just told her to leave? No excuse for that. A 9-year-old can't fend for themselves. The parent(s) have a duty to find an alternative caregiver if they can't care for their child.
KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
Sadly this is phrased badly as it sounds like she got kicked out onto the street. That child needs (and I am LOATHE to use this word) institutionalising. A safe place where she cannot harm others but taught how to not be a*****e. And put on proper meds - which again I wouldn't ordinarily advocate in one so young. But if she is not stopped now, she will go Dahmer. (Other SKs are available)
Big Chungus 6 months ago
What a hard decision to have to make, but def the right one. I hate that this says kicked out because she obviously didn't. She got her much needed help.
Mark Childers 6 months ago
That poor mother. I can't imagine the trauma they all have endured, but the mother will never forgive herself, even if she knows it was the right thing to do. That's a life of stress, chaos, and violence. I really hope the daughter gets the help she needs.
Mad McQueen 6 months ago
Sometimes love is tough. But for the safe being of the family you had to remove the ticking bomb. She knows she was wrong with what she was doing for attention but prob not able to communicate the feelings so the rage to destroy or hurt others from her feelings came out. Don’t be sad or feel guilty. There is almost never a moment when saying “I wish I had done this sooner” could fix something tragic happening after the fact. Someone blind or a car accident or animal killed or injured. Taking steps to remove (not eliminate) a threat is all you did. Hope she’s getting treatment and care to get settled into her brain better.
Petra Schaap 6 months ago
was anyone able to read that? I got 47 same loading advert clips and a bit of text in between 😂
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