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Woman Vows To Never Work With Family Again After Maternity Leave Debacle With Cousin
On the surface, working with a family member may seem like a good idea. There’s seemingly less worry about “horrible boss/co-worker” encounters since you’re not dealing with strangers who likely don’t have your best interest at heart.
However, it was the exact opposite for this woman, who worked for her cousin’s business. After she refused to take on tasks while on maternity leave, the entire family turned on her when a crucial deal fell through.
It was a rude awakening for the author, who vowed never to work with any of her relatives again.
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A woman working for her cousin’s business realized it was a bad idea
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It began when she refused to work during her maternity leave, resulting in a crucial deal falling through
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The cousin turned the entire family against her, accusing her of being selfish
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There is a risk of strained relationships when working with family members
There are upsides to working with family members, the biggest being the automatic trust and loyalty expected of them. And because everyone shares the same vested interest in making profits and building a legacy, commitments are likely longer-term.
However, there’s always the risk of straining relationships and potentially creating damage that would be difficult to repair. As leadership professor and author Benjamin Laker writes in an article for Forbes, this typically happens when people cannot separate professional and personal obligations.
“Disputes over business decisions, performance issues, or differing visions for the company can lead to personal conflicts that affect the overall family dynamic,” Laker stated.
Italian entrepreneurship professors Alfredo De Massis and Emanuela Rondi add that the lack of clear boundaries between work and family life often leads to stress, burnout, and resentment.
This isn’t to say that working with relatives is a terrible idea that should be avoided at all costs. However, people should learn to find that balance. De Massis and Rondi advise consulting external advisors who can provide unbiased perspectives on specific business issues.
Regarding establishing work-life boundaries, communications coach Sami Kinnison emphasizes holding time off sacred.
“If someone starts a work conversation at a family dinner on the weekend, take a pause and say, ‘Hold on, let me start clocking this for work hours,’” she wrote in an article for Fast Company, adding that such gentle reminders are enough to hold off work-related conversations during family affairs.
Unfortunately for the author, the avoidable family drama could’ve been avoided if her cousin had been willing to reason with her. She made the right decision to leave the company.
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Many commenters agreed it was within her right not to work while on maternity leave
Some faulted her, and everyone involved
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The author later provided an update, stating she received a job offer that suited her situation better
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However, it only worsened the situation and left a bad taste in her mouth
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Readers congratulated her and affirmed she wasn’t at fault
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Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
I have to admit I am SO jealous of all you guys, and yet so pleased. I didn't get any of these perks (my "maternity leave" was all of six DAYS) but they're well deserved, and, yes, this is definitely a golden child situation.
Zoe Vokes 7 months ago
As soon as she said she had nine months of leave it was obvious it wasn’t in America.
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SheamusFanFrom1987 7 months ago
Good that OP is finally moving on career-wise. Obviously sh*tbucket cousin was the one taking adavantage and not vice versa. Hopefully, she celebrates with her nan while ber b*m-*ss cousin and equally sh*tbucket family members can go and try to save his business without her. SMH!!!
Gen X Feral 7 months ago
That shiny spine is like a beacon that can be seen from space! F your cousin and the clown car he road in on.
Bartlet for world domination 7 months ago
I could see why Cousin would expect OP to be reachable, although she was, but now that he knows she's not, it's still a problem. So out goes the last bit of YTA.
Crystalwitch60 7 months ago
Well your cousin is a pos ! N having read the update 😋ATTA GIRL 👍👌and go NAN love her to , more money less hours and hopefully no family drama from the new firm lol what’s not to like 😂, as you said your cousin clearly couldn’t run a p**s up in a brewery as we say in uk lol , so there fore it’s his problem not a you problem ! n as someone else said if a customer has decided to go elsewhere there’s far more to it than you ! 😂n I’m going with an incompetent company ( not you obvs lol ) I’d love an update in a few mths telling us his company’s gone bankrupt cos with him at the helm playing entitled god it’s a safe bet IT WILL ! n that will only be his fault to 😂congrats on the ikkle baby , and on the new job good luck lovely blessed be xx
Lee Gilliland 7 months ago
I have to admit I am SO jealous of all you guys, and yet so pleased. I didn't get any of these perks (my "maternity leave" was all of six DAYS) but they're well deserved, and, yes, this is definitely a golden child situation.
Zoe Vokes 7 months ago
As soon as she said she had nine months of leave it was obvious it wasn’t in America.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 7 months ago
Good that OP is finally moving on career-wise. Obviously sh*tbucket cousin was the one taking adavantage and not vice versa. Hopefully, she celebrates with her nan while ber b*m-*ss cousin and equally sh*tbucket family members can go and try to save his business without her. SMH!!!
Gen X Feral 7 months ago
That shiny spine is like a beacon that can be seen from space! F your cousin and the clown car he road in on.
Bartlet for world domination 7 months ago
I could see why Cousin would expect OP to be reachable, although she was, but now that he knows she's not, it's still a problem. So out goes the last bit of YTA.
Crystalwitch60 7 months ago
Well your cousin is a pos ! N having read the update 😋ATTA GIRL 👍👌and go NAN love her to , more money less hours and hopefully no family drama from the new firm lol what’s not to like 😂, as you said your cousin clearly couldn’t run a p**s up in a brewery as we say in uk lol , so there fore it’s his problem not a you problem ! n as someone else said if a customer has decided to go elsewhere there’s far more to it than you ! 😂n I’m going with an incompetent company ( not you obvs lol ) I’d love an update in a few mths telling us his company’s gone bankrupt cos with him at the helm playing entitled god it’s a safe bet IT WILL ! n that will only be his fault to 😂congrats on the ikkle baby , and on the new job good luck lovely blessed be xx
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