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Mom Furious Over Guy Not Giving Up His Airplane Seat Makes Snide Remarks, He Turns To The Internet To Ask Which One Of Them Was In The Wrong
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Mom Furious Over Guy Not Giving Up His Airplane Seat Makes Snide Remarks, He Turns To The Internet To Ask Which One Of Them Was In The Wrong

Long flights are exhausting, so when there’s an opportunity to allow yourself more comfort in the air, you take it.

Which is exactly what Reddit user Bratster22 did. For one of his recent trips, the man booked himself a seat with extra legroom.

However, a woman with a baby approached him during boarding and asked if he could swap seats with her husband, forcing the man into an awkward predicament.

Ultimately, he refused. But as time went by and Bratster22 told other people about the incident, he started having doubts about it.

To put it all behind himself, he told what happened to Reddit’s ‘Am I The [Jerk]?‘ community, asking its 4 million members to be the judge of his actions. Continue scrolling to read the story and let us know what you think about it in the comments.

A couple was excited about their flight to Asia but were forced into a tough spot even before the plane took off

Image credits: Paul Hanaoka (not the actual photo)

A new mom wanted them to switch seats with her husband and didn’t want to take no for an answer

Image credits: ismail mohamed – SoviLe (not the actual photo)

Bored Panda got in touch with Bratster22 to find out more about the Redditor’s trip and he agreed to have a little chat about it.

Since he paid a premium for the seat, Bratster22 doesn’t think there could’ve been a scenario that would have convinced him to make a different decision. “We chose specific seats to make the journey comfortable for us,” the man said. “I’m not sure why anyone would think that a stranger would voluntarily give up a paid seat for them.”

According to Betty Thesky, a flight attendant for a major U.S. airline and author of Betty in the Sky With a Suitcase: Hilarious Stories of Air Travel by the World’s Favorite Flight Attendant, controversies ignited by airline seating make the headlines regularly.

“As a passenger, you are perfectly within your rights to ask another passenger to move seats,” she told Reader’s Digest. “Just be aware there is a good possibility they will say no, especially if they will end up with a less desirable (middle) seat.”

But Jacqueline Whitmore, former flight attendant, etiquette expert, and founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach, explained to the same outlet that it’s one thing if a fellow passenger asks you to swap seats, but something else entirely when a flight attendant asks you to move.

“Flight attendants move passengers for a variety of reasons (families who want to sit together or passengers with short connections are the most common reasons),” Whitmore said.

In our case, the cabin crew weren’t of much help at the beginning of the dispute. “They just repeated what the lady had said—if the husband could be seated next to her. They asked me if I would swap to a second-row seat which would have been a downgrade,” Bratster22 recalled.

But according to Whitmore, usually, you don’t need to be worried about moving to a seat that’s worse than yours. “If a flight attendant asks you if you will switch seats, try to be as accommodating as possible. You may end up getting an upgrade or a better seat. Flight attendants will do their best to put you in a comparable seat, not a worse seat.”

Of course, when you pay additional money, you have every right to refuse a change that would diminish the value of the product or service that you’re getting.

Looking back, Bratster22 said, “I wouldn’t have made a Reddit post if the lady had just let it go instead of being rude.” But now the Redditor is glad that he did. “The attention my post has received was unexpected. I’m happy about the vindication.”

People thought the man had every right to refuse

If you end up in the woman’s spot and would like another seat after boarding the plane, Whitmore said the first thing you should do is ask the nearest flight attendant if it’s OK.

If the seat is not a premium seat and does not require more money, it shouldn’t be a problem.

As far as timing goes, Whitmore thinks it’s best to ask flight attendants about swapping your seat before the boarding doors close. But if for some reason you can’t do that, wait until the plane has reached a comfortable cruising altitude.

Of course, you don’t need to involve a flight attendant and can adopt a more do-it-yourself approach. In fact, it often can be the way to go about it.

“If you can handle it on your own, then do so. Most people will swap seats with you if you want to sit with your family,” Whitmore explained. “However, if you want a window seat and the window seat in your row is occupied, then you may ask a flight attendant to find one for you. Keep in mind that this should have been done with the gate agent before you boarded the plane.”

As with most cases in life, use your best judgment!

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Michelle C
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6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this whole "I have a baby now give me things" attitude. I just put on my best I don't give a fvck look and say NO. I wouldn't even explain why....just NO

Mrs. Jan Glass
Community Member
6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If one more entitled jerk pressures me with "But I have a CHI-YULD!!" whine....

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ToGo
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6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always book and pay extra for the seat I want. If someone wants specific seats, I suggest they do the same. I can't stand people who think having a baby means that their needs are more important. What if the person your asking to move has pain, an injury, anxiety etc (not that they need an excuse to refuse your request). I, and I believe many people, do make allowances for people with babies when we can but it's not owed to you.

Trillian
Community Member
6 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That sounds like they were trying to get the seat w/o paying. If she paid and didn't get it she needs to take it up with the flight attendants. Also if the husband is just a row back the can easily take turns with the baby. We always switched the seats among the two of us, whoever was holding the baby got the more comfortable seating. No way would I give up a seat that I had specifically paid for.

Zero
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6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's worded awkwardly, but the center aisle is 1 row back from the outside aisles. So outside row 2 is next to inside row 1. Meaning if the mom just took the aisle seat, she'd have been next to the husband (with the center walking space open of course).

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Michelle C
Community Member
6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this whole "I have a baby now give me things" attitude. I just put on my best I don't give a fvck look and say NO. I wouldn't even explain why....just NO

Mrs. Jan Glass
Community Member
6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If one more entitled jerk pressures me with "But I have a CHI-YULD!!" whine....

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ToGo
Community Member
6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always book and pay extra for the seat I want. If someone wants specific seats, I suggest they do the same. I can't stand people who think having a baby means that their needs are more important. What if the person your asking to move has pain, an injury, anxiety etc (not that they need an excuse to refuse your request). I, and I believe many people, do make allowances for people with babies when we can but it's not owed to you.

Trillian
Community Member
6 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That sounds like they were trying to get the seat w/o paying. If she paid and didn't get it she needs to take it up with the flight attendants. Also if the husband is just a row back the can easily take turns with the baby. We always switched the seats among the two of us, whoever was holding the baby got the more comfortable seating. No way would I give up a seat that I had specifically paid for.

Zero
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6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's worded awkwardly, but the center aisle is 1 row back from the outside aisles. So outside row 2 is next to inside row 1. Meaning if the mom just took the aisle seat, she'd have been next to the husband (with the center walking space open of course).

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