“She Just Had A Baby. What’s Your Excuse?”: Husband Humiliates His Wife And Becomes Upset After Receiving A Dose Of His Own Medicine
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You know, it’s really hard these days to find a person who would be happy with their own body; who would love themselves the way they are and wouldn’t see a flaw in every inch.
Unfortunately, unrealistic beauty standards, social media’s influence and fakeness make us compare ourselves with people that we see online. We tend to forget that every body is beautiful and every imperfection is just unique.
Despite all this, we all sometimes need a little support and compliments from our loved ones, regardless of how confident we are.
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Commenting on your wife’s body just after she gave birth is a different kind of rude behavior
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Woman asks community members was she wrong to mock her best friend’s husband’s weight after his comments about his wife’s postpartum body
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Man mentioned that his wife still has to lose some weight after pregnancy to be as attractive as before
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Her best friend backed her up by commenting about the guy’s weight, saying that there is no excuse for his appearance
A few days ago, a woman took her story to one of the most judgmental Reddit communities after she and her boyfriend had different opinions regarding her behavior in a situation. She backed her best friend up by shaming her husband after he made rude comments regarding the woman’s postpartum body. The post received a lot of attention and in just 4 days got more than 17K upvotes.
To begin with, OP’s best friend and her husband just had a baby and very recently, they came over for dinner. After that, the group went to the hot tub and the author highlighted that her first thought when she saw her best friend was that she looks amazing, glowing and very happy. However, as shocking as it may sound, her husband just laughed and said that she still has some weight to lose to be ‘as attractive as she was before’.
After such a comment, the author remembers that her friend didn’t say anything, but her smile just disappeared. Of course, the woman immediately got angry at such insensitivity. She backed her best friend up by mocking her husband’s weight: “She just had a baby. What’s your excuse?” Later on, OP’s boyfriend slammed her for putting her nose in other people’s business and it was not her place to react.
The folks voted that the author in this situation was not being a jerk. “Not a great look to look the other way when someone is insulting their spouse in your home,” one user wrote. Another added: “It’s OP’s home, they have every right to call out inappropriate and hypocritical behavior. I bet Mr. Double Chin never disrespects his wife in front of OP again.”
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Bored Panda got in touch with Carley, who is a new mom, self-care author and the founder of Hello Postpartum. She kindly agreed to share her insights regarding body image struggles after pregnancy.
“For some, the weight gain commonly experienced with pregnancy can affect a woman’s self-esteem, especially if it is her first pregnancy,” Carley started. “The (relatively quick) increase in weight – paired with many surprising bodily changes – can leave some women feeling disconnected from their bodies, and, in turn, their self-esteem may take a hit.”
Speaking about the importance of support from close people, the author says that “Partners and loved ones play a crucial role in this time to remind new mothers what their bodies went through to grow and nourish a new baby. There is no ‘bouncing back’ to your previous self, so try to focus on embracing what’s new and loving your body for all it’s done.”
Additionally, Carley shared some of her advice on effective ways for a partner to support a new mom: “Encourage your birthing partner to purchase some clothes in her postpartum-body size that fit her body today. It’s incredible what a nicely fitting outfit can instantly do for your self-esteem. Also, keep reminding her what her body has gone through to bring this baby into the world,” she emphasized.
And finally, “My most important advice is to refrain from subscribing to the bounce-back culture. The idea that a woman’s body should ‘bounce back’ after birth is a myth and leaves many women striving for an impossible standard. Instead, work on celebrating your body and all that it has done. Remember that it took nine months to grow a baby, so it will most likely take longer for some to start to feel more comfortable in their postpartum skin.”
And of course, don’t forget to check out the Hello Postpartum website and Instagram, where you can find any information for your life after birth!
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Moreover, Crystal Karges, who is a Maternal Child Health Specialist at Crystal Karges Nutrition, shared her insights with Bored Panda regarding self-esteem after pregnancy as well as recommendations!
“The rapid changes a woman experiences in her body as her baby grows can be challenging,” Crystal says. “Many women may hold an expectation about how their pregnant bodies should look, and these ideas are often influenced by diet culture’s portrayal of pregnant bodies. Women are celebrated for being pregnant but not looking pregnant.”
Now, Crystal shared how partners can support new mothers: “Remind her that her body size is the least important thing about her and that while her body has changed, her worth is unchanging. Tell her that she is an amazing mother and how proud you are of her – look at what her amazing body has done to grow and bring this human into the world. New mothers need this unconditional love and acceptance spoken over them when their inner voice can be loud and critical.”
Moreover, the specialist shared advice for new mothers: “It takes time to get to know your new body, and give yourself the time you need to befriend it. You don’t have to love your body. You don’t even have to like it or how your body’s changed. But you can learn to be kind to yourself and to respect your body for all it’s overcome and brought you through. How you feel about your body doesn’t have to dictate how you decide to care for your body.”
And finally, Crystal shared some effective ways for partners to communicate and support each other after giving birth: “Affirming your unconditional acceptance of each can also promote security within your relationship, especially for a partner who is experiencing a tumultuous relationship with body image after pregnancy. Consider highlighting qualities and characteristics of each other that are not body-focused or appearance-related.”
“Engage in meaningful activities together that promote self-care, like cooking and enjoying a meal together or spending time in nature. You might also consider ways you can challenge and reframe negative thoughts your partner may be expressing after pregnancy. Lastly, as a partner to a new mother, consider ways you can cultivate body positivity into your own life to lead by example.”
Oh and don’t forget to check out Crystal’s website, Instagram and Blog! Also, for mothers or moms-to-be recovering from an eating disorder, food issues or poor body image, check out our free virtual support group called Lift the Shame. You’re not alone!
Folks in comments praised the author for being brave and defending her best friend
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Why can't it be "just a joke" when OP commented on the husband's gut and chins? "Why are you upset, I thought we were making jokes about how fat you are? Just a joke!"
Oh, this would have been a solidly excellently comment back!
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Your boyfriend got mad at you for sticking up for your friend? Tom is a total AH for how he talks to his wife especially if he can be that rude in public. But you need to have a discussion with your boyfriend. If he wasn't thrilled with you sticking up for her, then odds are he won't stick up for you in a similar situation. You are not a doormat and should be supported for supporting your friend.
I have been married for 22 years. About 10 years ago, my thyroid quit working efficiently, and I suddenly and very rapidly gained 70 lbs in like 6 months. Finally got a good doctor who specializes in metabolism issues, and the weight is all gone and then some—-but it was a 10 year journey to lose—-gain a bit—-lose some more—-an extreme amount of weight that took no time to put on. Throughout it all, my husband never once said anything bad about my weight. I was the one to talk s**t about it. When I did lose the weight, he was happy because I was happy to be healthier (the weight put me at greatly increased risk for the heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure that run on both sides of my family) and feeling more like my old self than I had in years. But he told me he never cared how much I weighed, because I was always still me, the woman he loves. Had I been OP, my husband would’ve chimed in with me that my best friend’s husband was a totally out of line a*****e for what he said, and better f*****g well apologize to her —-and MEAN it—-right now, or he was going to be in for the a*s whooping of a lifetime. From the both of us, and probably his soon to be ex-wife as well.
Omg I’m so triggered. This was my ex husband, he was horrific about my weight/body and always made digs that were “just jokes” but we both knew they really weren’t. And after our kids I lost weight quickly because I was ordered to and was usually a uk size 8, still not thin enough. I wish someone had stuck up for me, or even acknowledged what he was doing. Funny how when they say it it’s a joke, but any comments about him are over the line? It’s abuse and it’s control. I left my ex husband 13 years ago but I still struggle with my self esteem as a direct result of all his underhand comments and “jokes” and the control over what I was allowed to eat etc.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you learn to love yourself and don't care what others think. You are beautiful as you are.
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Her boyfriend told her not to stick her nose in other people's business? That may be something for people you don't know, but if it's someone as close as a best friend, that isn't the case. At any rate, staying silent would have meant the guy would keep on making those comments in the future, and her friend would have thought less and less of herself. Finally, as husband to a woman who gave birth a few months ago, F**K THAT GUY VERY MUCH.
No. You could've called him a pig faced cow but you kept it simple. And last I checked, bffs are part of a package in relationships as well.
Definitely NTA. That was an awesome comeback! I really hate that a lot of men except their SO body not to change after child birth. WTF? It is going to change. What a jerk. And good for you for that awesome response!
Her BF and Tom are both AHs. Dump them, live with BFF and baby, keep baby away from toxic attitudes!
NTA. When someone's parents have failed to teach them courtesy and respect, it's up to the rest of us to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Calling out people like this can only improve the world.
If ya can't take a punch stay outta the ring...Most bullies become sniveling little twats when people retaliate. If this guy will insult his wife in public, I wonder what he says & does to her in private. OP's fiancee is a stupid twat for admonishing OP for defending her friend. NTA & red flag-o-rama here
You're boyfriend was too weak to speak up & is mad at you for having the courage to speak up. He is trying to place his shame on you for making him look bad.
WOW at the pulling her aside and telling her to keep her nose out of their business. If someone insults a friend, defending them *is* my business. Besides, it was just a joke bro, chill!
Not the AH!! Guy needs to learn to take it as well as he dishes it out!! I commend her for her snappy comeback!! 👏
NTA. His comment was emotional abuse and I agree - if that's what he says in front of company, imagine what he says to her alone. Your boyfriend is also an AH. If my husband got angry at me for calling someone out for abusive behaviour, I'd be just at pissed at him. I am glad your friend has you to have her back.
NTA. Your friend's husband wasn't joking; he was testing the waters to see what he could get away with in front of others. This is most likely a glimpse of what goes on behind closed doors. YOUR husband isn't exactly a knight in shining armor, either. Thank you for calling both of them out. When you get a chance, ask your friend to come by for a visit--without her worst half. Ask her how are things going at home, and if she needs to talk. Chances are that the bullying is worse than you imagined. And bless you for defending her; I'm sure that she appreciated it more than words could say.
Testing the waters as well to see who agrees with him but won't say it out loud. So now he knows OP's boyfriends agrees with him about his wife.
Load More Replies... It clearly IS her business if the husband speaks of her friend this way right in front of other people. Anyone defending the offender are offenders, too or strictly naive to not question their loyalty to them in the regard. There's never an excuse to shame people. If men think that of their women they should at least shut up and lock that thought in the darkest folder or their brain. Best burn it the second you laid it down in the memory-library
NTA. When her bff leaves her husband she'll know she'll still have a bff who will still have her back.
I've always told my friends they look fantastic after having their kids. I'm best mates mum always poked fun at her and it used to really upset her understandably. So just remind all your new mum friends they look amazing
Would have responded with "u should learn to take a joke". If HIS comment was a "joke" that he thought was funny, then hers would b too, right?! I spent WAY too long with a guy that felt anything over size 5 was basically obese and if I wasn't constantly working on getting under size 5 (I'm not that big. Size 8 is where I sit for how I like to eat and I'm totally fine with that), means I don't give a c**p about him. ALL THE OTHER STUFF I did to show him, didn't matter. Just that or any of the other hundreds of things he was so dead set on would set him off too. OP standing up for her is great, but until BF does it, nothing will change
AITA sounds like a good friend. Jenny needs to loose a lot more (dead) weight and by that I mean her AH hubby Tom. Seriously WTH dude? And as pretty much everyone else already said, what's wrong with the boyfriend? Huge red flag imo.
NTA, obviously. Your boyfriend may have said something because he noticed some tension. Not everyone is comfortable with confrontation, and he obviously isn't. That doesn't make him an AH, it simply means the situation made him uncomfortable. As for you? God, I wish more people would stand up to bullies! Keep doing it!
Tom is not supportive and I might suggest a new BF. He seems he will turn into the same kind of guy. Why does it seem so many young men these days terrible husbands/people?
Was OP really questioning themselves or were they trying to brag and get "internet points"?
"It was just a joke"... where is the joke? Let's say that somebody is clumsy and drops a knife when cooking and it lands on their foot and gets cut a bit and you give them a bandaid and say "at least you have a dull knife, so you don't need stitches", it is a joke. Bit edgy, but joke. Even about fat we can make jokes, let's say that your friend got few kilos (20) in few years, you go to swimming pool together and he says "I guess I wouldn't be that great swimmer now" and you reply "but you will be a great buoy", it is a joke (if he gets offended, you have to appologize (and maybe find new friend)), but where was the joke in this one? It wasn't funny, it wasn't sarcastic, it was just mean.
“Tom pulled me aside and told me to keep my nose out of other people's business.” Tom, you hypocritically insulted her best friend right in front of her. You made it her business.
Some people think that "Just joking" is a kind of God Mode that shields them of equal criticism. And joking about things people are self conscious about is a jerk move however you look at it.
Nope... don't give a joke if you can't take a joke. I was being treated for an immune system disease that has cost me my ability to walk. I was always very athletic and a bit muscular from almost daily sports... my siblings, not so much. I was put on massive doses of steroids and with the inability to exercise ended up gaining 70+ pounds. At a family barbecue, my much larger brother (whose weight I never commented on) greeted me with "Hey, fatso!" My sister was offended for me, but I just shot back: "I've been on massive doses of steroids for a medical condition for over a year, what's your excuse!" He then blamed his size on genetics and said he was just kidding... genetics are part of it, but diet and lack of exercise are too!
it was the wrong way to defend. Given the circumstances of them having guests over, maybe saying : "What a thing to say after what her body went through. She looks lovely and I hope an apology and a hug is next".
Why do men think women's bodies go back to their before babies bodies. The body, especially the pelvic bones are changed and there's no going back from that. As for baby weight? It takes time, a lot of time for your body to recover from the trauma of pregnancy and birth... yes even an easy pregnancy and labour is both a mental and physical trauma. You honestly don't think everything is going to ping back into place after 9 months of pregnancy hormones and pain of birth. It takes time... lots of time. I have a few children and speak from experience
I divorced my husband after less than 1 year. He was a complete nut job. So, he decided the best way to win me back was to stalk/harass me and eventually threaten to kill me & my 2 children VIA A VOICE MESSAGE on my caller ID which clearly showed his parents' home phone number.. Yeah, he was a genius. So several years go by & I happened to run into him with a group of our former friends (who thought I was TA for having him arrested FOR THREATENING TO KILL MY CHILDREN). Anyway, he thinks he's being clever when he says, "Wow. You got fat". Oooh, you got me! Now, this guy started going bald in HS and is super sensitive about it. So I responded with, "Yeah, but I can go on a diet. Can you grow hair?" His "friends" all laughed at him and I heard "ooh, you got burnt!" Hahahaha! Idiot.
That’s your friend, and her husband is a literal POS. It very much is YOUR BUSINESS to support your friend. My fiancé supported me throughout eating disorder treatment. If our friend was ever spoken to that way by their partner in our home, both of us would tell the guy to his face that he’s a POS and tell our friend to go to therapy and hopefully grow out of this man child.
I think she was right to say something. If you say something in a group setting anyone can comment on it. If you say something unkind don't be surprised if someone in the group comments back in an unkind way. The fact that this guy took her aside and spoke to her that way makes me wonder about anger issues. The fact that he was still that angry after some time had gone by makes me want to call my friend after I'm sure they have gotten home and make sure she is alright.
How does the most comment comment in this situation get celebrated as a mic-drop mega burn? I have literally heard this said to men with bellies 578 trillion times. The bar is low, kids.
How does the most common comment in human history get celebrated as a huge mic-drop burn? I have heard this said to men with bellies no fewer than 578 trillion times. Ugh. the bar is low on this post.
Why can't it be "just a joke" when OP commented on the husband's gut and chins? "Why are you upset, I thought we were making jokes about how fat you are? Just a joke!"
Oh, this would have been a solidly excellently comment back!
Load More Replies... Your boyfriend got mad at you for sticking up for your friend? Tom is a total AH for how he talks to his wife especially if he can be that rude in public. But you need to have a discussion with your boyfriend. If he wasn't thrilled with you sticking up for her, then odds are he won't stick up for you in a similar situation. You are not a doormat and should be supported for supporting your friend.
I have been married for 22 years. About 10 years ago, my thyroid quit working efficiently, and I suddenly and very rapidly gained 70 lbs in like 6 months. Finally got a good doctor who specializes in metabolism issues, and the weight is all gone and then some—-but it was a 10 year journey to lose—-gain a bit—-lose some more—-an extreme amount of weight that took no time to put on. Throughout it all, my husband never once said anything bad about my weight. I was the one to talk s**t about it. When I did lose the weight, he was happy because I was happy to be healthier (the weight put me at greatly increased risk for the heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure that run on both sides of my family) and feeling more like my old self than I had in years. But he told me he never cared how much I weighed, because I was always still me, the woman he loves. Had I been OP, my husband would’ve chimed in with me that my best friend’s husband was a totally out of line a*****e for what he said, and better f*****g well apologize to her —-and MEAN it—-right now, or he was going to be in for the a*s whooping of a lifetime. From the both of us, and probably his soon to be ex-wife as well.
Omg I’m so triggered. This was my ex husband, he was horrific about my weight/body and always made digs that were “just jokes” but we both knew they really weren’t. And after our kids I lost weight quickly because I was ordered to and was usually a uk size 8, still not thin enough. I wish someone had stuck up for me, or even acknowledged what he was doing. Funny how when they say it it’s a joke, but any comments about him are over the line? It’s abuse and it’s control. I left my ex husband 13 years ago but I still struggle with my self esteem as a direct result of all his underhand comments and “jokes” and the control over what I was allowed to eat etc.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you learn to love yourself and don't care what others think. You are beautiful as you are.
Load More Replies... Her boyfriend told her not to stick her nose in other people's business? That may be something for people you don't know, but if it's someone as close as a best friend, that isn't the case. At any rate, staying silent would have meant the guy would keep on making those comments in the future, and her friend would have thought less and less of herself. Finally, as husband to a woman who gave birth a few months ago, F**K THAT GUY VERY MUCH.
No. You could've called him a pig faced cow but you kept it simple. And last I checked, bffs are part of a package in relationships as well.
Definitely NTA. That was an awesome comeback! I really hate that a lot of men except their SO body not to change after child birth. WTF? It is going to change. What a jerk. And good for you for that awesome response!
Her BF and Tom are both AHs. Dump them, live with BFF and baby, keep baby away from toxic attitudes!
NTA. When someone's parents have failed to teach them courtesy and respect, it's up to the rest of us to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Calling out people like this can only improve the world.
If ya can't take a punch stay outta the ring...Most bullies become sniveling little twats when people retaliate. If this guy will insult his wife in public, I wonder what he says & does to her in private. OP's fiancee is a stupid twat for admonishing OP for defending her friend. NTA & red flag-o-rama here
You're boyfriend was too weak to speak up & is mad at you for having the courage to speak up. He is trying to place his shame on you for making him look bad.
WOW at the pulling her aside and telling her to keep her nose out of their business. If someone insults a friend, defending them *is* my business. Besides, it was just a joke bro, chill!
Not the AH!! Guy needs to learn to take it as well as he dishes it out!! I commend her for her snappy comeback!! 👏
NTA. His comment was emotional abuse and I agree - if that's what he says in front of company, imagine what he says to her alone. Your boyfriend is also an AH. If my husband got angry at me for calling someone out for abusive behaviour, I'd be just at pissed at him. I am glad your friend has you to have her back.
NTA. Your friend's husband wasn't joking; he was testing the waters to see what he could get away with in front of others. This is most likely a glimpse of what goes on behind closed doors. YOUR husband isn't exactly a knight in shining armor, either. Thank you for calling both of them out. When you get a chance, ask your friend to come by for a visit--without her worst half. Ask her how are things going at home, and if she needs to talk. Chances are that the bullying is worse than you imagined. And bless you for defending her; I'm sure that she appreciated it more than words could say.
Testing the waters as well to see who agrees with him but won't say it out loud. So now he knows OP's boyfriends agrees with him about his wife.
Load More Replies... It clearly IS her business if the husband speaks of her friend this way right in front of other people. Anyone defending the offender are offenders, too or strictly naive to not question their loyalty to them in the regard. There's never an excuse to shame people. If men think that of their women they should at least shut up and lock that thought in the darkest folder or their brain. Best burn it the second you laid it down in the memory-library
NTA. When her bff leaves her husband she'll know she'll still have a bff who will still have her back.
I've always told my friends they look fantastic after having their kids. I'm best mates mum always poked fun at her and it used to really upset her understandably. So just remind all your new mum friends they look amazing
Would have responded with "u should learn to take a joke". If HIS comment was a "joke" that he thought was funny, then hers would b too, right?! I spent WAY too long with a guy that felt anything over size 5 was basically obese and if I wasn't constantly working on getting under size 5 (I'm not that big. Size 8 is where I sit for how I like to eat and I'm totally fine with that), means I don't give a c**p about him. ALL THE OTHER STUFF I did to show him, didn't matter. Just that or any of the other hundreds of things he was so dead set on would set him off too. OP standing up for her is great, but until BF does it, nothing will change
AITA sounds like a good friend. Jenny needs to loose a lot more (dead) weight and by that I mean her AH hubby Tom. Seriously WTH dude? And as pretty much everyone else already said, what's wrong with the boyfriend? Huge red flag imo.
NTA, obviously. Your boyfriend may have said something because he noticed some tension. Not everyone is comfortable with confrontation, and he obviously isn't. That doesn't make him an AH, it simply means the situation made him uncomfortable. As for you? God, I wish more people would stand up to bullies! Keep doing it!
Tom is not supportive and I might suggest a new BF. He seems he will turn into the same kind of guy. Why does it seem so many young men these days terrible husbands/people?
Was OP really questioning themselves or were they trying to brag and get "internet points"?
"It was just a joke"... where is the joke? Let's say that somebody is clumsy and drops a knife when cooking and it lands on their foot and gets cut a bit and you give them a bandaid and say "at least you have a dull knife, so you don't need stitches", it is a joke. Bit edgy, but joke. Even about fat we can make jokes, let's say that your friend got few kilos (20) in few years, you go to swimming pool together and he says "I guess I wouldn't be that great swimmer now" and you reply "but you will be a great buoy", it is a joke (if he gets offended, you have to appologize (and maybe find new friend)), but where was the joke in this one? It wasn't funny, it wasn't sarcastic, it was just mean.
“Tom pulled me aside and told me to keep my nose out of other people's business.” Tom, you hypocritically insulted her best friend right in front of her. You made it her business.
Some people think that "Just joking" is a kind of God Mode that shields them of equal criticism. And joking about things people are self conscious about is a jerk move however you look at it.
Nope... don't give a joke if you can't take a joke. I was being treated for an immune system disease that has cost me my ability to walk. I was always very athletic and a bit muscular from almost daily sports... my siblings, not so much. I was put on massive doses of steroids and with the inability to exercise ended up gaining 70+ pounds. At a family barbecue, my much larger brother (whose weight I never commented on) greeted me with "Hey, fatso!" My sister was offended for me, but I just shot back: "I've been on massive doses of steroids for a medical condition for over a year, what's your excuse!" He then blamed his size on genetics and said he was just kidding... genetics are part of it, but diet and lack of exercise are too!
it was the wrong way to defend. Given the circumstances of them having guests over, maybe saying : "What a thing to say after what her body went through. She looks lovely and I hope an apology and a hug is next".
Why do men think women's bodies go back to their before babies bodies. The body, especially the pelvic bones are changed and there's no going back from that. As for baby weight? It takes time, a lot of time for your body to recover from the trauma of pregnancy and birth... yes even an easy pregnancy and labour is both a mental and physical trauma. You honestly don't think everything is going to ping back into place after 9 months of pregnancy hormones and pain of birth. It takes time... lots of time. I have a few children and speak from experience
I divorced my husband after less than 1 year. He was a complete nut job. So, he decided the best way to win me back was to stalk/harass me and eventually threaten to kill me & my 2 children VIA A VOICE MESSAGE on my caller ID which clearly showed his parents' home phone number.. Yeah, he was a genius. So several years go by & I happened to run into him with a group of our former friends (who thought I was TA for having him arrested FOR THREATENING TO KILL MY CHILDREN). Anyway, he thinks he's being clever when he says, "Wow. You got fat". Oooh, you got me! Now, this guy started going bald in HS and is super sensitive about it. So I responded with, "Yeah, but I can go on a diet. Can you grow hair?" His "friends" all laughed at him and I heard "ooh, you got burnt!" Hahahaha! Idiot.
That’s your friend, and her husband is a literal POS. It very much is YOUR BUSINESS to support your friend. My fiancé supported me throughout eating disorder treatment. If our friend was ever spoken to that way by their partner in our home, both of us would tell the guy to his face that he’s a POS and tell our friend to go to therapy and hopefully grow out of this man child.
I think she was right to say something. If you say something in a group setting anyone can comment on it. If you say something unkind don't be surprised if someone in the group comments back in an unkind way. The fact that this guy took her aside and spoke to her that way makes me wonder about anger issues. The fact that he was still that angry after some time had gone by makes me want to call my friend after I'm sure they have gotten home and make sure she is alright.
How does the most comment comment in this situation get celebrated as a mic-drop mega burn? I have literally heard this said to men with bellies 578 trillion times. The bar is low, kids.
How does the most common comment in human history get celebrated as a huge mic-drop burn? I have heard this said to men with bellies no fewer than 578 trillion times. Ugh. the bar is low on this post.
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