“She Just Had A Baby. What’s Your Excuse?”: Husband Humiliates His Wife And Becomes Upset After Receiving A Dose Of His Own Medicine

Your boyfriend got mad at you for sticking up for your friend? Tom is a total AH for how he talks to his wife especially if he can be that rude in public. But you need to have a discussion with your boyfriend. If he wasn't thrilled with you sticking up for her, then odds are he won't stick up for you in a similar situation. You are not a doormat and should be supported for supporting your friend.

I have been married for 22 years. About 10 years ago, my thyroid quit working efficiently, and I suddenly and very rapidly gained 70 lbs in like 6 months. Finally got a good doctor who specializes in metabolism issues, and the weight is all gone and then some—-but it was a 10 year journey to lose—-gain a bit—-lose some more—-an extreme amount of weight that took no time to put on. Throughout it all, my husband never once said anything bad about my weight. I was the one to talk s**t about it. When I did lose the weight, he was happy because I was happy to be healthier (the weight put me at greatly increased risk for the heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure that run on both sides of my family) and feeling more like my old self than I had in years. But he told me he never cared how much I weighed, because I was always still me, the woman he loves. Had I been OP, my husband would’ve chimed in with me that my best friend’s husband was a totally out of line a*****e for what he said, and better f*****g well apologize to her —-and MEAN it—-right now, or he was going to be in for the a*s whooping of a lifetime. From the both of us, and probably his soon to be ex-wife as well.

Her boyfriend told her not to stick her nose in other people's business? That may be something for people you don't know, but if it's someone as close as a best friend, that isn't the case. At any rate, staying silent would have meant the guy would keep on making those comments in the future, and her friend would have thought less and less of herself. Finally, as husband to a woman who gave birth a few months ago, F**K THAT GUY VERY MUCH.

I thought my wife looked amazing after she gave birth. She looked absolutely glowing and happy so I told her. I loved her more then than ever.

If ya can't take a punch stay outta the ring...Most bullies become sniveling little twats when people retaliate. If this guy will insult his wife in public, I wonder what he says & does to her in private. OP's fiancee is a stupid twat for admonishing OP for defending her friend. NTA & red flag-o-rama here

NTA. When someone's parents have failed to teach them courtesy and respect, it's up to the rest of us to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Calling out people like this can only improve the world.

Sounds like BOTH women need to ditch the toxic men in their lives. Tom is a piece of s**t for making that comment about his wife and the commentator's boyfriend is a loser for saying she shouldn't have slapped the fat-shaming right back at Tom.

Not the AH!! Guy needs to learn to take it as well as he dishes it out!! I commend her for her snappy comeback!! 👏

NTA. His comment was emotional abuse and I agree - if that's what he says in front of company, imagine what he says to her alone. Your boyfriend is also an AH. If my husband got angry at me for calling someone out for abusive behaviour, I'd be just at pissed at him. I am glad your friend has you to have her back.

I want her to be my friend.

Good to know that the person you want to spend your life with will 1) allow someone to be mistreated to avoid a scene; 2) allow a friend to be mistreated to avoided a scene; 3) think you need to look the way you did before the baby, if/when you have one.

I would've went further. You pull that c**p in front of me and I'll dress you down until you feel like a 5 year old getting in trouble with the teacher. There is zero chance that marriage lasts, and it'll end sooner rather than later if she's smart.

I've always told my friends they look fantastic after having their kids. I'm best mates mum always poked fun at her and it used to really upset her understandably. So just remind all your new mum friends they look amazing

AITA sounds like a good friend. Jenny needs to loose a lot more (dead) weight and by that I mean her AH hubby Tom. Seriously WTH dude? And as pretty much everyone else already said, what's wrong with the boyfriend? Huge red flag imo.

Tom is not supportive and I might suggest a new BF. He seems he will turn into the same kind of guy. Why does it seem so many young men these days terrible husbands/people?

Was OP really questioning themselves or were they trying to brag and get "internet points"?

"It was just a joke"... where is the joke? Let's say that somebody is clumsy and drops a knife when cooking and it lands on their foot and gets cut a bit and you give them a bandaid and say "at least you have a dull knife, so you don't need stitches", it is a joke. Bit edgy, but joke. Even about fat we can make jokes, let's say that your friend got few kilos (20) in few years, you go to swimming pool together and he says "I guess I wouldn't be that great swimmer now" and you reply "but you will be a great buoy", it is a joke (if he gets offended, you have to appologize (and maybe find new friend)), but where was the joke in this one? It wasn't funny, it wasn't sarcastic, it was just mean.

Some people think that "Just joking" is a kind of God Mode that shields them of equal criticism. And joking about things people are self conscious about is a jerk move however you look at it.

Nope... don't give a joke if you can't take a joke. I was being treated for an immune system disease that has cost me my ability to walk. I was always very athletic and a bit muscular from almost daily sports... my siblings, not so much. I was put on massive doses of steroids and with the inability to exercise ended up gaining 70+ pounds. At a family barbecue, my much larger brother (whose weight I never commented on) greeted me with "Hey, fatso!" My sister was offended for me, but I just shot back: "I've been on massive doses of steroids for a medical condition for over a year, what's your excuse!" He then blamed his size on genetics and said he was just kidding... genetics are part of it, but diet and lack of exercise are too!

Why do men think women's bodies go back to their before babies bodies. The body, especially the pelvic bones are changed and there's no going back from that. As for baby weight? It takes time, a lot of time for your body to recover from the trauma of pregnancy and birth... yes even an easy pregnancy and labour is both a mental and physical trauma. You honestly don't think everything is going to ping back into place after 9 months of pregnancy hormones and pain of birth. It takes time... lots of time. I have a few children and speak from experience

That’s your friend, and her husband is a literal POS. It very much is YOUR BUSINESS to support your friend. My fiancé supported me throughout eating disorder treatment. If our friend was ever spoken to that way by their partner in our home, both of us would tell the guy to his face that he’s a POS and tell our friend to go to therapy and hopefully grow out of this man child.

A AH, but a completely justified AH.

How does the most common comment in human history get celebrated as a huge mic-drop burn? I have heard this said to men with bellies no fewer than 578 trillion times. Ugh. the bar is low on this post.