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Entitled Physicist Crosses Boundaries With Child And Gets Exposed For Illegal Renovations
When parents take their kids to a backyard barbecue, the last thing they should be worrying about is another guest picking a fight with their child over a hot dog.
But that’s exactly what one dad says happened after a particularly annoying acquaintance began lecturing his daughter about unhealthy food.
The father eventually pulled him aside and demanded he stay away from his family. The dad believed the situation was finally over. However, a few days later, child protective services showed up at his home following an “anonymous” complaint.
Continue scrolling to read the dad’s story about the whole ordeal, which he shared with the ‘Pro Revenge’ community.
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Even if they know the person
The know-it-all physicist ended up stuck dealing with the consequences of his actions
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Kids shouldn’t be shamed into “better” behavior
Even if we did some mental gymnastics and assumed the man’s intentions were good, the way he went about it — telling the girl to give up that “garbage” and physically knocking it out of her hands — is not just despicable. It’s also ineffective.
Peggy Drexler, Ph.D., is a research psychologist, assistant professor of psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University, and she says when we talk about shaming, we often mean the obvious forms: spanking or other physical punishments, public reprimand.
But there are also subtler ways that parents shame their children in the pursuit of discipline. These include making a child feel guilty, deficient, or “bad”; a source of trouble; just plain dumb.
It can also include belittling the child, or even something as seemingly benign as rolling your eyes at them or sighing in response to something they’ve done. Comments might include something along the lines of “You’re acting like such a baby,” or “You’d lose your head if it weren’t glued on!” Oftentimes, shaming happens in front of others, but Drexler says it’s just as likely to happen in private.
As a form of behavior modification, though, shaming — whatever its form, whether obvious or subtle — is destructive.
The psychologist says that’s because, since most kids can’t distinguish between their impulses — their actions — and themselves, instead of condemning the behavior, shaming ends up condemning the child, and making him feel bad about themselves.
As his story went viral, the dad replied to some people in the comments
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Ali 8 hours ago
Many years ago, my uncle visited us - my sister and I lived close with our husbands. She had a toddler and small baby at the time. It was a different country to the rest of our family. This uncle was clearly and firmly on the spectrum and had very little experience with children, and was an argumentative soul as well as being incredibly black and white. For this reason, we did not leave him alone with the children (despite us being left with him as youngsters with no problem). He was playing with the toddler while my sister was cooking and I went to change the baby, toddler was making up rules to the game and uncle started to lose his temper. He shouted to my sister to come watch her son, and went on to the balcony to yell at a chair for a bit. If he was capable of understanding you NEVER yell at someone elses child, this Richard gets it too - he chooses to ignore it.
Rika 6 hours ago
If a grown man knocks a hotdog out of my little kid's hand, I'll knock his brain out of his skull. I'll even call the cops on his behalf if he wanna report me. Good luck explaining them why you believe your PHD allows you to be vi*lent towards a minor who's just... eating something that your old *ss doesn't like.
Thanos'Fingers 1 hour ago
This is actually really difficult to do. The skull is pretty thick, and there are only a few small openings. You really need to give a good whollop to get the brain out.
Load More Replies... Ali 8 hours ago
Many years ago, my uncle visited us - my sister and I lived close with our husbands. She had a toddler and small baby at the time. It was a different country to the rest of our family. This uncle was clearly and firmly on the spectrum and had very little experience with children, and was an argumentative soul as well as being incredibly black and white. For this reason, we did not leave him alone with the children (despite us being left with him as youngsters with no problem). He was playing with the toddler while my sister was cooking and I went to change the baby, toddler was making up rules to the game and uncle started to lose his temper. He shouted to my sister to come watch her son, and went on to the balcony to yell at a chair for a bit. If he was capable of understanding you NEVER yell at someone elses child, this Richard gets it too - he chooses to ignore it.
Rika 6 hours ago
If a grown man knocks a hotdog out of my little kid's hand, I'll knock his brain out of his skull. I'll even call the cops on his behalf if he wanna report me. Good luck explaining them why you believe your PHD allows you to be vi*lent towards a minor who's just... eating something that your old *ss doesn't like.
Thanos'Fingers 1 hour ago
This is actually really difficult to do. The skull is pretty thick, and there are only a few small openings. You really need to give a good whollop to get the brain out.
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