This Woman Breaks Up With Her Fiancé Because He’s In Love With Her Sister, Finds Out That Her Mom Wants To Attend Their Wedding

Sam and Haleigh are both dirtbags. Sam doesn't care if he rips a family to shreds, and no decent person would even touch a sibling's beloved! The parents aren't obligated to condemn the temporarily happy couple, but they shouldn't attend or pay for the wedding.

A horrible situation, however I would not say she is being an Ahole. If he was engaged and started to have feelings for someone else, it's a bad situation, but he did the right thing to call off the wedding. It's unfortunate that it was her sister, but it was clearly a mutual feeling, and not just a fling. The sister has every right to not attend the wedding and be pissed at them, and the father has every right to hate the man who dumped his daughter, but it's not right that they demand the poster cut her daughter out her life too. A few years down the line, the sister will likely have met someone new and be happy, but the relationship between the mother and the other daughter will be permanently damaged by missing her wedding

Odd that it's too late to tell a 28-year-old that they're in the wrong but apparently not a 30-year-old. She also seems to be moving quite quickly (lays harsh truth then offers to mediate right now, gets serious ultimatum and doesn't seem to even consider it). Combined with talking about Christmas, it seems she just wants the family to look good. That means solving issues, not just telling people to get over it. She says her eldest daughter and her husband are "ignoring the reality of it", but I'd say they're aware of the reality and want nothing to do with it, she needs to come to understand (whether by her thoughts or her husband's/daughter's words) this in order to have any chance of the family reconciling. Also, responding "you need to move on" to the accusation she didn't pay enough attention somewhat speaks to ignoring her own responsibilities and making others do the work. She's an AH, but not for attending the wedding.

I'm torn on this one. The mother is pushing her oldest too hard. Only time will help her decide if she's going to forgive. You can't force that on anyone. That's a huge major life altering betrayal. She doesn't sound very empathetic to what she's going through and putting all the blame and responsibility on her is so unfair. Whatever the mother did in the past is now coming to bite her in the ass as well.

Let me tell you, as an older person, and a parent, that mother is NTA. She is doing everything possible to love both daughters unconditionally, without condoning the questionable behaviour of one daughter. I am in awe of her calm and rational handling of an impossible situation. It sounds like she needs to fully hear Jennifer out about her sense of childhood favouritism for Hayleigh, and if Hayleigh has had a pattern of always stealing what Jennifer wants, because Jennifer needs to be heard and validated. Other than that, this mother is doing EVERYTHING right in terms of being honest about how she feels about the situation and the behaviour, and loving her children unconditionally anyway. It's an impossible situation for her, but I'm in awe of her.

The mother is doing the best she can for both her daughter's. Hayleigh however is being selfish to put on a full blown wedding when she basically was instrumental in her sisters completely broken heart. They should have quietly eloped. Instead there's a whole wedding with guests who know both sisters and all the history. How could Jennifer hope to face all these people basically wishing the couple who have hurt her a happy ever after. This is what putting your big pants on is really about. There is so much pain and conflict, minimise it and the memory of it don't flaunt it and make it the centre of gossip, taking sides and all that comes with that.

As an aside, I'm pretty happy that Jennifer didn't end up marrying a cheater.

Poor Jen. What a horrible thing to have gone through. Her own sister betraying her in such a disgusting way. Hayleigh is scum and so is the mom for sweeping it all under a rug and acting like Jen should just get over it because the mom says so. Mom is a creep and she could lose her husband if she's not more sensitive

Horrible situation and I really hope Jennifer will find (or perhaps already has) her own happiness. Whilst I believe sometimes we can't help who we love, but we also have to ask ourselves is it worth it? In this case, Hailegh has chosen a douche rather than keep her loyalty to her sister, her own blood, that's her choice but I wish the mom/OP doesn't condone the wedding party as that's just blatantly an AH move. So yes, this time I have to say OP, YTA!!!

Forgiveness is earned, not demanded!

Sam is an AH. Hayleigh is an even big AH. The mother is not an AH, but she is a spineless loser. Jennifer will eventually get over it, as she will realize that she is better off without Sam. Whether or not she decides to forgive Hayleigh is another story. Jennifer and her dad are the only ones in the right here. The way I see it, the mother and father should not attend the wedding, nor should Hayleigh and Sam be welcome in their home until Jennifer is ready to accept them. That does not mean that the parents should cut Hayleigh off. They should still speak with her and meet her alone on her own. In the event Hayleigh has children, they should be allowed to visit their grandparents with Hayleigh, and even attend family events without Hayleigh. Only once Jennifer has healed, moved on and is ready to see Hayleigh again, if that ever happens, can the parents hope to do something as a family. Hayleigh is the one at fault here, and Jennifer should not have to pay for her treachery.

Problems started in this household way before the engagement. This new couple will get divorced anyway. They are also too uoung to be married particularly due to the fact that none of them are ready

One comment included something I agree with completely. It was the mother offering to set up a 3 way call with both daughters, as if she were the referee and they were equally naughty children! The mother is completely wrong. The daughter should have nothing to do with her sister or her mother. I am glad she has her father's support. What an awful mother. I hope the sister ends up divorced. I still wouldn't forgive her!

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The younger sister is an nasty,selfish,self absorbed, @hole and we can see exactly where she get' it from. She gives Jennifer no kindness,no support and then wonders why the poor girl is heartbroken.She has been utterly betrayed by her sister,fiance and now her "mother". Hopefully the Dad dumps hs horrid wife and she gets to feel a little bit of how her eldest child feels. I hope for lovely things for Jennifer and her Dad and exactly what they deserve for the rest of them.

Wait till the oldest decides what home you goto.

This marriage has an unhealthy beginning. If they must marry, they can elope... if their love is 'strong enough'.

This is not going to end well for anyone. The mom is defending the cheating daughter while telling her other daughter to get over it. She is also trying to stop her husband from supporting the daughter who is the injured party. If the mom continues her behavior and attends that wedding, I would not be surprised at all if it ends her own marriage.

Perfect responses.

I believe the mother is NTA. She might not be handling Jennifer in the right way but i truly believe she tries to not pick one over the other by not going to the wedding. She wants to go to her daughers wedding. I get that it means a lot to a mother. A friend of mine cheated on his wife. Altho his parents know he was definitely wrong they didnt stop loving him. I am not saying the decision is right but i get where she is coming from.

I had a very young,dysfunctional,abusive marriage, separated, met a man who treated me better than I'd ever known, divorced, dated 6 months, then introduced my sister. After some confusion & humiliation, I retreated,crushed, back to the abuse.They've been happily married for 20+years now. I've been ok, alone many years. Life hurts, but you live. And love does happen. I couldn't tell who's the a..hole whether I was young or old.

Jennifer is Ross Poldark and Hayleigh is Francis, who doesn’t understand why Ross doesn’t want to go to Francis and Elizabeth’s wedding. Except worse, because Sam never believed Jennifer to be dead. The mom is Uncle Charles and the dad is Verity.

You know what is funny... (I mean maybe not funny, but hear me out). This sounds like one of those Romcom movies where the guy is trying to make people happy by marrying his original fiance, but has the decency to call it off because he fell in love with her sister. And the audience would be all "Awwww's" and sh*t, but this is a complete clusterf*ck. This is reality. Regardless if there was cheating, I pulled out a few opinions. 1) IT WAS CALLED OFF, THANK GOD. Forbid Jen finding out years later married to the guy. 2) There is no right answer in this situation. It's such a gray area that no matter what the mother or father does, the reality is between Jennifer, her sister, and her ex-fiance. Comments are appreciated, I'm here all night

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NTA it's an almost impossible situation and I can well imagine how badly hurt Jennifer is. I don't think you will ever be able to repair your girls' relationship and you may just have to accept that but they are both and always will be your little girls and of course you will be there and try to support both of them. To me you sound very balanced and like a superb Mum. Polarising the situation is not going to help anyone. Sending you a big hug and the very sincere hope that Jennifer will find genuine happiness with someone who truly loves her and also realise that her mum adores and is there for her. The advice you gave would be terribly hard to hear for anyone but is 100% true and somehow poor Jennifer has to swallow that. This Sam would never have loved her as much as she deserves.