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Guy Considers Breaking Up With GF Of 5 Years Because She Didn’t Make Him Breakfast
Many of us have been there. Your birthday is fast approaching and you’re looking forward to all the spoils your SO is going to shower you with. The big day arrives, and disappointed is an understatement to describe what you feel. Perhaps you got a mere morning wish, and that’s where they left it. Or maybe the pair of socks your received didn’t live up to the gift you were hoping for.
One guy has told how his girlfriend promised to make him breakfast on his birthday but instead slept late and left him to his own devices. When the woman finally appeared, she launched straight into an argument without so much as a “happy birthday.” The gutted guy is now considering calling it quits.
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The birthday boy provided quite a lot more info a bit later
Your partner forgot, or ruined, your birthday… What now?
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The reason your partner treated your birthday like any other ordinary day, or worse, might be because they don’t like celebrating their own birthday. That’s according to the relationship experts over at A Conscious Rethink. “They might have had bad birthdays in the past, and now they prefer to not even notice the date when it comes,” explains the site.
Communication is key. Instead of being passive-aggressive about it, say something about how you feel. Bottling up your feelings could just cause more resentment.
“If they forgot your birthday and you said nothing, they’ll have no clue how hurt you are and why,” reads the site. “You might be tempted to give them the silent treatment and make them wonder what’s wrong, but you won’t be doing anyone any favors.”
You should try to understand why they forgot or ruined your special day. Is it the first time they’ve done this or is there pattern? “If this is the first time, and they are an otherwise loving partner, they might have simply been occupied with other things, and they might try to make it up to you in any way they can,” notes A Conscious Rethink.
They also suggest you think of your birthday as a separate incident. Does your partner usually make you feel loved and appreciated? Or do you often find yourself weeping into your morning coffee because of their bad behavior?
Many netizens sided with the BF and showered him with support
“You’re 29, crying about your birthday”: some felt the guy had some growing up to do
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🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 months ago (edited)
If you can't even get a birthday breakfast that was *promised*, then the odds are that it's symptomatic of you not getting a LOT of even tiny things 24/7/365. Even if you're king of the oddballs, do consider if you're better off being alone and exploring things that bring you joy and satisfaction, rather than "with someone" but that someone actively causes hurt multiple times a day. This is said with all kindness by someone who gets variations of "That's so unusual" from 90% of all interactions - strangers, long term friends and hospital consultants included.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
OP is not 9, but 29, time to act like it. You can make decisions about your life every day. It's special when you're a kid to choose what to eat and when to eat because you never get to. Now you're an adult and the world doesn't need to stop for your birthday, you can stop playing the martyr over it. GF sounds terrible because either you're done with the fight or you're not. And she's clearly lying about when she's done. Either she lacks self awareness or she's manipulating on purpose. Both have a lot of growing up to do before they are ready for a relationship.
Arabiata Arabiata 4 months ago
Over time, you'll realize that the best birthday gift is the one you arrange for yourself, rather than waiting in anticipation for others to surprise you.
Seedy Vine 4 months ago
Happy Birthday, OP! Man, you were sick on your birthday and got the couch instead of the bed? That was the first red flag. So sorry; hope you find someone worth you.
katiekat0214 4 months ago
I'd suggest he look up what a fragile narcissist is, because she sure sounds like one. She's definitely a manipulator, and they just aren't right for each other. Way past time to break up, and I hope he doesn't buy into the sunk cost fallacy.
Don Adams 4 months ago
Dude, climb down off the cross. There are cold people that need the wood. You are 29, not 9. Don't be so precious, it is just another day.
KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
Point spectacularly missed. It was about her actions that day, not just about it being his birthday.
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Beef Brisket 3 months ago
This isn't just about a missed birthday breakfast. Your gf is toxic, manipulative, vengeful, passive aggressive and sadistic. Give yourself the birthday present of leaving her. On your next birthday, bet you'll be with someone fantastic!
1LittleGranny64 3 days ago
Anyone note that he is upset that she can’t move on but spent all day the day before complaining about the dish towel? He’s just as self absorbed as she and frankly exhausting.
Lyoness 4 months ago
She likes to DARVO and the fact that he cried for not getting his breakfast on time just shows they're both too immature for a relationship.
K Barnes 4 months ago
I get strong unreliable narrator vibes from this guy, how he emphasizes how amazingly kind and patient (and graceful and sincere) he is while saying his gf is totally unreasonable. He has only redeeming qualities and she has none, according to him. I wonder what her side would be?
tori Ohno 4 months ago
They both sound awful, but I find him worse. Why did he start cooking breakfast when he knew she was going to do it? I think it was because he wanted to use it against her. But I've also had that type in my life, so maybe I'm projecting the helplessness you feel when a person is purposely sabotaging you.
Emilu 4 months ago
IMO, if you love somebody you cater to their quirks. Eg in a similar but different sense: My mum loves receiving cards. I effing hate writing cards, but I'll do it and try my best to make it thoughtful because that's what she likes and I love her. If I was in a relationship with OP, and even if I hated birthday celebrations I'd do my best for OP because he obviously values them, even if I don't. It's only one day out of a year. You won't die because of it, and the person you love feels valued. I don't see a downside here.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
"Why are men never allowed to express their emotions ?" "Why is men's mental health never talked about ?" "Why do men suffer in silence ?"
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🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 months ago (edited)
If you can't even get a birthday breakfast that was *promised*, then the odds are that it's symptomatic of you not getting a LOT of even tiny things 24/7/365. Even if you're king of the oddballs, do consider if you're better off being alone and exploring things that bring you joy and satisfaction, rather than "with someone" but that someone actively causes hurt multiple times a day. This is said with all kindness by someone who gets variations of "That's so unusual" from 90% of all interactions - strangers, long term friends and hospital consultants included.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
OP is not 9, but 29, time to act like it. You can make decisions about your life every day. It's special when you're a kid to choose what to eat and when to eat because you never get to. Now you're an adult and the world doesn't need to stop for your birthday, you can stop playing the martyr over it. GF sounds terrible because either you're done with the fight or you're not. And she's clearly lying about when she's done. Either she lacks self awareness or she's manipulating on purpose. Both have a lot of growing up to do before they are ready for a relationship.
Arabiata Arabiata 4 months ago
Over time, you'll realize that the best birthday gift is the one you arrange for yourself, rather than waiting in anticipation for others to surprise you.
Seedy Vine 4 months ago
Happy Birthday, OP! Man, you were sick on your birthday and got the couch instead of the bed? That was the first red flag. So sorry; hope you find someone worth you.
katiekat0214 4 months ago
I'd suggest he look up what a fragile narcissist is, because she sure sounds like one. She's definitely a manipulator, and they just aren't right for each other. Way past time to break up, and I hope he doesn't buy into the sunk cost fallacy.
Don Adams 4 months ago
Dude, climb down off the cross. There are cold people that need the wood. You are 29, not 9. Don't be so precious, it is just another day.
KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
Point spectacularly missed. It was about her actions that day, not just about it being his birthday.
Load More Replies... Beef Brisket 3 months ago
This isn't just about a missed birthday breakfast. Your gf is toxic, manipulative, vengeful, passive aggressive and sadistic. Give yourself the birthday present of leaving her. On your next birthday, bet you'll be with someone fantastic!
1LittleGranny64 3 days ago
Anyone note that he is upset that she can’t move on but spent all day the day before complaining about the dish towel? He’s just as self absorbed as she and frankly exhausting.
Lyoness 4 months ago
She likes to DARVO and the fact that he cried for not getting his breakfast on time just shows they're both too immature for a relationship.
K Barnes 4 months ago
I get strong unreliable narrator vibes from this guy, how he emphasizes how amazingly kind and patient (and graceful and sincere) he is while saying his gf is totally unreasonable. He has only redeeming qualities and she has none, according to him. I wonder what her side would be?
tori Ohno 4 months ago
They both sound awful, but I find him worse. Why did he start cooking breakfast when he knew she was going to do it? I think it was because he wanted to use it against her. But I've also had that type in my life, so maybe I'm projecting the helplessness you feel when a person is purposely sabotaging you.
Emilu 4 months ago
IMO, if you love somebody you cater to their quirks. Eg in a similar but different sense: My mum loves receiving cards. I effing hate writing cards, but I'll do it and try my best to make it thoughtful because that's what she likes and I love her. If I was in a relationship with OP, and even if I hated birthday celebrations I'd do my best for OP because he obviously values them, even if I don't. It's only one day out of a year. You won't die because of it, and the person you love feels valued. I don't see a downside here.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
"Why are men never allowed to express their emotions ?" "Why is men's mental health never talked about ?" "Why do men suffer in silence ?"
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