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Family Doesn’t Care About Son Until He Has A Baby, Shows Up At 1AM For A Visit And Get Kicked Out
Christmas is often seen as the family holiday of all family holidays. It’s the time when relatives gather under one roof, enjoy good food, and spread festive cheer, chaos and all. But that kind of celebration isn’t for everyone.
So when this Redditor clearly asked his family not to visit him over Christmas to see his newborn, he didn’t expect nine of them to show up unannounced on his doorstep at 1 a.m. Instead of backing down, he told them to leave right then and there, and let’s just say they did not take it well. Read the full story below.
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The man repeatedly asked his family not to visit him on Christmas to see his newborn
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But they ignored him and arrived unannounced at 1 a.m., only to realize he meant exactly what he said
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What to do when family won’t take no for an answer
If we’re lucky, family are the people who support us the most and stay by our side in moments when no one else does. That kind of bond can feel deeply meaningful. But sometimes, it gets taken too far, turning into an unspoken rule that everyone should sacrifice everything for each other at all times, even when that stops being healthy.
When we grow up with that mindset, guilt often follows whenever we try to step away from it. That’s why it’s easy to understand why the author of this story felt conflicted after sending his family away in the middle of the night on Christmas, even as he stood by the line he had drawn.
Saying no is hard enough with strangers, and it can feel even harder when family is involved. Still, when those lines are ignored over and over without consequences, they stop carrying any real weight. For them to matter, they have to be enforced, even when doing so feels uncomfortable.
Without clear limits, repeated boundary violations often lead to growing resentment and long-term damage to family relationships, explains therapist Whitney Goodman, LMFT, founder of Calling Home and author of Toxic Positivity.
“Relationships without any boundaries are often unsuccessful and lead to more fighting, distance, or even complete rupture of the relationship,” Goodman told Wondermind. “If we want to remain in a relationship with people long term, we need to set new limits and communicate what we will tolerate and what we will not.”
So what do you actually do when your boundaries keep getting trampled over again and again? Licensed psychotherapist and boundaries expert Dr. Sharon Martin has some practical advice, starting with something that may sound obvious but still matters: consistency.
You can’t control how the other person reacts, and you can’t force them to change their behavior or suddenly respect what you’ve asked for. What you can control is how you respond each time your boundary is ignored. Staying firm sends a clear message that pushing, arguing, or going around your answer won’t change the outcome.
Martin also suggests writing things down. Keeping track of what happens and how you respond can help bring clarity to situations that often feel emotionally messy. It can reveal patterns, whether that’s moments when your response softens or situations where someone keeps ignoring your boundary no matter how clearly it’s been stated. Seeing it laid out can make decisions feel less reactive and more grounded.
Another hard truth, Martin points out, is that some people simply won’t respect boundaries, no matter how calmly or carefully they’re communicated. Accepting that can be painful, especially when family is involved, but it often leads to an honest decision about how much access that person should have to your life going forward.
She also recommends stepping back emotionally when the same issues keep repeating. That might mean changing how you respond or choosing not to engage in arguments that never lead anywhere. In some cases, people push limits because they’re looking for a reaction, and removing that response can take away their motivation to keep doing it.
In the end, it’s worth remembering that setting reasonable boundaries doesn’t make someone ungrateful or uncaring toward their family. It helps them decide what behavior they’re willing to live with and protects their peace when those lines are crossed. For this Redditor, that meant standing his ground on Christmas night. It led to a deeply uncomfortable conversation, but it also made one thing clear: he meant what he said.
Many readers felt the author did the right thing by sending his family away
Others, however, thought it was a cruel and insensitive move
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Cold Eagle 1 hour ago
All the YTAs have no concept of decency or the word No. Id like to think it is just they are so naive regarding a*****e relationships. But I suspect it's likely they are the ones forcing themselves on others. I despair for humanity.
KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
W*F - it's a pandemic and you decide you and 8 others are just gong to show up on my doorstep to see my new baby after already being told no? Go sleep in your car and stay TF away from me. YTAs probably do the same. It's not being mean considering the circumstances. Again, it was during the pandemic, for those in the back who immediately deleted that sentence.
Cold Eagle 1 hour ago
All the YTAs have no concept of decency or the word No. Id like to think it is just they are so naive regarding a*****e relationships. But I suspect it's likely they are the ones forcing themselves on others. I despair for humanity.
KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
W*F - it's a pandemic and you decide you and 8 others are just gong to show up on my doorstep to see my new baby after already being told no? Go sleep in your car and stay TF away from me. YTAs probably do the same. It's not being mean considering the circumstances. Again, it was during the pandemic, for those in the back who immediately deleted that sentence.
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