Man Is Done With Wife Always Making Them Miss Flights, Boards Plane Alone And Leaves Her Behind
Compatibility in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean that partners have to share the same likes and dislikes or have the same hobbies.
On the contrary. People can have completely different interests and still have a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship. They can even have disagreements — what matters is navigating them.
So when Reddit user Anguy1284 recently got into a big argument with his wife, the man turned to the subreddit ‘Two Hot Takes’ for help.
In his post, he explained he got so fed up with his wife’s poor time management that when she was late to a flight they were supposed to take, he boarded the plane without her, which she thinks makes him a jerk.
Due to this woman’s poor time management, she missed a flight that she was supposed to take with her husband
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However, he still got on the plane, and left without her
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This story alone doesn’t mean that its author and his wife aren’t meant for each other
Research shows that when people meet potential partners, they unconsciously test them for compatibility against their internal criteria.
A 2022 study notes that people tend to weigh the similarities and differences between themselves and potential partners in order to check if they’re compatible and whether a romantic relationship is viable.
So the Redditor and his partner probably wouldn’t have ended up together if they thought they were very different from one another. Daily life is full of nuance, and if two people have a bit of trouble in one area, that doesn’t mean that their entire relationship is deteriorating. Again, it’s how they overcome these challenges that matters.
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Couples can improve their compatibility
According to Dr. Cheryl Fraser, a Buddhist sex therapist from Duncan, British Colombia, partners can improve their compatibility. But it’s a choice they both have to make.
To illustrate her point, she likes the example of the extroverted, adventuring cyclist and the introverted, book-loving antique collector.
While they may sound like people from different worlds at first, their relationship may still work if they meet in the middle through shared intimate moments and acts of thoughtfulness.
“The next morning I’m up at dawn climbing into my biking gear,” Fraser introduces the scenario. “I kiss you softly goodbye and leave a steaming cup of tea on your bedside table.”
“And when I drag my bruised, sweaty, happy self home, you present me with a tiny antique bicycle crafted from simple, twisted bits of scrap metal that you found when you pawed through a box of junk in a dusty, windowless shop.”
When it comes to relationship compatibility, irreconcilable differences are the true deal breakers. For instance, wanting versus not wanting children or only one partner expecting monogamy.
While this whole airport situation has been unpleasant to both husband and wife, it sounds like they can still work it out when all the emotions settle down. If they decide to, of course.
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The man’s story has gone viral, and received a lot of different reactions
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Yes. Just because she doesn't want him to go see his daughter by himself, it doesn't mean that she wants to see her as well. She's just jealous of his DAUGHTER goddamn it and hates the idea of not being there to supervise their meet up.
Load More Replies...NTA. Meg's repeated procrastination every time she and OP go to visit his daughter is a sure sign that she resents Jess for being in their lives. Jess is picking up on Meg's resentment towards her; it's even possible that there was a lot more going on when OP wasn't around. It might be better for OP to just visit his daughter by himself. That way, they can have a heart-to-heart talk without reservation, and enjoy their time together. Meg had better get used to a few facts: 1) She can't control OP via procrastination, or anything else. 2) Jess is in OP'S life for good, like it or not. And 3) If Meg makes the ginormous mistake of trying to force Jess out of the picture and/or OP to choose between them, she might as well pack her bags and 23 skiddoo.
Wife insists on being there to put herself between. She does not want op to bond against her.
Load More Replies...I always find it sad (especially in situations like this) when people date and marry someone with small children and don’t ever develop a bond with them. Meg married OP when Jess was six and Jess’s birth mother is passed away. For all intents and purposes Meg is the only mother Jess has ever had.
This is exactly what makes me sad, it is a child that lost her mother. I just hope Meg will realize this and will try to be an adult about it and that she can be bigger then her ego.
Load More Replies...My theory is it’s always better to be early than late. Ok, hanging around the airport is boring but you can chat with your partner, you can read a book, scroll on your phone or do any one of a dozen other things to fill the time rather than risk missing your flight
I agree - I’d just rather not have to deal with the stress of possibly missing my flight and all the hassle involved with that. I get there, grab a drink or a coffee and just people watch or read a book!
Load More Replies...He is definitely not NTA. However, wtf is with clueless people giving clueless, unsolicited diagnosis to strangers after hearing a second-hand story? No, nothing about this story even has a hint of ADHD. As someone plagued by it, ADHD does not momentarily come and go, there's nothing that "triggers " it (it's always there), it's not situational, and it doesn't make its victims into momentary incredibly inconsiderate dòuchenozzles. She may have ADHD but that can't be diagnosed by her center-of-the-world complex....if anything that's narcissism.
The sabotage of the daughter - dad moments screams emotional abuse to me...
Load More Replies...WOW. That wife is some AH. To ask him to get off the plane. . . it sounds deliberate to me. To expect the world to stop for your highly inconsiderate behavior seems vicious, again deliberate.
I had this happen recently. Same result, except I waited for my partner and missed the flight with her . If you aren't big enough to admit you think the world revolves around you, please do not try that s**t on an airline. They WILL fly without you.
Simple explanation. Passive-aggressive power move. Wife resents stepdaughter because wife can’t have children of her own, and is jealous of stepdaughter’s great relationship with her father—-the husband. So wife asserts her dominance over the stepdaughter by passive-aggressively sabotaging anything having to do with the stepchild, especially if it also involves her husband, the stepchild’s father. She doesn’t really want to come along to anything for the stepchild, but inserts herself into the arrangement, then purposely sabotages it. I’d say OP needs to just leave her home and go see his daughter all by himself. Maybe get his wife into therapy to help her overcome this obsession with only considering her own biological children, of which she has none, as her children—-and we all know that’s total b******t, any child you raise is your child, whether you share DNA or not—-as well as open her eyes to just how emotionally destructive her behavior is.
She's known the girl since she's 6 yo.... There's a problem here! A big one! Ho I see so many red flags. Meg wants to come at all cost because she doesn't want Jess to TALK! I went through that, I recognize a pattern here and I reeeeaaaally don't like it.
Load More Replies...She is a controller, the world HAS to revolve around her (in her mind).
Yes. Just because she doesn't want him to go see his daughter by himself, it doesn't mean that she wants to see her as well. She's just jealous of his DAUGHTER goddamn it and hates the idea of not being there to supervise their meet up.
Load More Replies...NTA. Meg's repeated procrastination every time she and OP go to visit his daughter is a sure sign that she resents Jess for being in their lives. Jess is picking up on Meg's resentment towards her; it's even possible that there was a lot more going on when OP wasn't around. It might be better for OP to just visit his daughter by himself. That way, they can have a heart-to-heart talk without reservation, and enjoy their time together. Meg had better get used to a few facts: 1) She can't control OP via procrastination, or anything else. 2) Jess is in OP'S life for good, like it or not. And 3) If Meg makes the ginormous mistake of trying to force Jess out of the picture and/or OP to choose between them, she might as well pack her bags and 23 skiddoo.
Wife insists on being there to put herself between. She does not want op to bond against her.
Load More Replies...I always find it sad (especially in situations like this) when people date and marry someone with small children and don’t ever develop a bond with them. Meg married OP when Jess was six and Jess’s birth mother is passed away. For all intents and purposes Meg is the only mother Jess has ever had.
This is exactly what makes me sad, it is a child that lost her mother. I just hope Meg will realize this and will try to be an adult about it and that she can be bigger then her ego.
Load More Replies...My theory is it’s always better to be early than late. Ok, hanging around the airport is boring but you can chat with your partner, you can read a book, scroll on your phone or do any one of a dozen other things to fill the time rather than risk missing your flight
I agree - I’d just rather not have to deal with the stress of possibly missing my flight and all the hassle involved with that. I get there, grab a drink or a coffee and just people watch or read a book!
Load More Replies...He is definitely not NTA. However, wtf is with clueless people giving clueless, unsolicited diagnosis to strangers after hearing a second-hand story? No, nothing about this story even has a hint of ADHD. As someone plagued by it, ADHD does not momentarily come and go, there's nothing that "triggers " it (it's always there), it's not situational, and it doesn't make its victims into momentary incredibly inconsiderate dòuchenozzles. She may have ADHD but that can't be diagnosed by her center-of-the-world complex....if anything that's narcissism.
The sabotage of the daughter - dad moments screams emotional abuse to me...
Load More Replies...WOW. That wife is some AH. To ask him to get off the plane. . . it sounds deliberate to me. To expect the world to stop for your highly inconsiderate behavior seems vicious, again deliberate.
I had this happen recently. Same result, except I waited for my partner and missed the flight with her . If you aren't big enough to admit you think the world revolves around you, please do not try that s**t on an airline. They WILL fly without you.
Simple explanation. Passive-aggressive power move. Wife resents stepdaughter because wife can’t have children of her own, and is jealous of stepdaughter’s great relationship with her father—-the husband. So wife asserts her dominance over the stepdaughter by passive-aggressively sabotaging anything having to do with the stepchild, especially if it also involves her husband, the stepchild’s father. She doesn’t really want to come along to anything for the stepchild, but inserts herself into the arrangement, then purposely sabotages it. I’d say OP needs to just leave her home and go see his daughter all by himself. Maybe get his wife into therapy to help her overcome this obsession with only considering her own biological children, of which she has none, as her children—-and we all know that’s total b******t, any child you raise is your child, whether you share DNA or not—-as well as open her eyes to just how emotionally destructive her behavior is.
She's known the girl since she's 6 yo.... There's a problem here! A big one! Ho I see so many red flags. Meg wants to come at all cost because she doesn't want Jess to TALK! I went through that, I recognize a pattern here and I reeeeaaaally don't like it.
Load More Replies...She is a controller, the world HAS to revolve around her (in her mind).















































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