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Pregnant Woman Discovers Her Husband’s Cheating On Her, Ends Up Banning Him From The Delivery Room
Pregnant Woman Discovers Her Husband’s Cheating On Her, Ends Up Banning Him From The Delivery Room
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Pregnant Woman Discovers Her Husband’s Cheating On Her, Ends Up Banning Him From The Delivery Room

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The birth of a child is one of the most important days in the life of any person, and according to many parents, the presence of the father during childbirth allows for closer family bonding, which is why many doctors strongly recommend partnered births. In many cases, but the situation that we will tell you about today is special.

Very few people are able to forgive adultery, and if it took place during pregnancy, it almost always looks like a real betrayal. In the vast majority of cases, this ends in divorce – as in this story. However, here the divorce was only the beginning…

This story was shared just over a week ago on Reddit’s True Off My Chest community, and has already racked up over 13.7K upvotes and nearly 2K different comments. As is usual in such situations, the author of the post just wanted to express her feelings – and indeed, the vast majority of readers simply supported the expectant mother.

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    The author of the post was pregnant when she found out that her husband cheated on her

    Image credits: Fabio Goveia (not the actual image)

    So, our heroine had been married for several years. She and her husband were trying for a baby for a long time, and finally the OP got pregnant. Though her joy, unfortunately, did not last long – after all, a few months later, she found out that her husband had cheated with one of his colleagues at work.

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    The woman told her now-ex that she doesn’t want him in the delivery room

    We will not go into details now about how painful the divorce process became for the Original Poster right during her pregnancy, but the fact remains that she will soon become an ex-wife, and after some more time, she will give birth to her child. Of course, now the woman does not want her husband to be present in the delivery room, and she told him so directly.

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    Our heroine admits that she herself did not even expect such a surge of indignation from the future father. Yes, they will apparently be arranging separate custody of the child, but still, according to the OP, she does not want her ex-husband to see her body and be present at the birth.

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    Image credits: David Syzdek (not the actual image)

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    The expectant mom states this is no way an attempt to punish her ex, but this is just her body and her own right

    The OP says that her decision is in no way an attempt to punish her ex, but both he and his relatives consider her wicked and evil now. The only one who supports the expectant mother is her MIL, for which the woman is very grateful. In any case, as the OP plans, she does not object in any way to the ex-husband being present at the hospital.

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    The man can wait with all the other relatives in the hospital, just the delivery, in any case, will take place without him. And the OP, inspired by the support of the commenters, in her own words, will try to start a new life. Moreover, as she says, in recent months she has become closely acquainted with one kind person, and she hopes that this acquaintance will develop into something more in the nearest future.

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    It is weird for the ex-husband to expect any partnered childbirth when he’s no longer a partner, psychologist says

    “Of course, the Original Poster’s husband acted completely inappropriately,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, who was asked by Bored Panda to comment on this situation. “It is at least weird for an ex-husband to even think about partnered childbirth when he is no longer a partner for an expectant mother.”

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    “In any case, this woman has every right to decide how and in whose presence she will give birth to her baby, and none of the relatives have the right to blame her for this. Moreover, she should not even tell her ex-husband that she does not want to see him in the delivery room. She just could tell the doctors who can be present and who’s not, and then they will do everything themselves,” says Irina Matveeva.

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    Commenters unanimously side with the expectant mom and just wish her a smooth and safe delivery

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    Many people in the comments agree with the expert. In their opinion, if relatives and acquaintances call the OP a “devil”, then she should act like a devil, literally spitting on their opinions. In any case, as commenters are convinced, the most important thing now is the health of the future mom and her child, and that the delivery goes smoothly and successfully.

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    According to commenters, the ex-hubby just made his bed and now he’s upset he has to lie in it. By cheating on his pregnant wife, the man lost his privilege – yes, that’s not a right, but a privilege, and arguing with him and other relatives means simply wasting time on people who are unworthy of it. And, of course, everyone wants the OP to have a smooth and safe delivery.

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    We sincerely hope that none of you have experienced something like this in your entire life, but if you do know such a story, it will be interesting and useful for us to know it as well. In addition, we, as always, look forward to your comments.

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    Oleg Tarasenko

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    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Something
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The person giving birth decides who's in the room.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is quite a no brainer. A delivery is physically and emotionally taxing and extremely intimate. No way in the effing universe would I want my cheating ex there. Just because she is having a baby that his sperm contributed to doesn't give him ANY say in this.

    zak
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if they were still together and happy, she STILL wouldn't be the AH if she didn't want him in the room during the birth. Personally, I've never understood why anyone would want to watch a baby split a person open anyway, but maybe that's just me. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    TheElderNom
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally I'd like to be there to support my partner and see the baby as soon as possible even if I'm told they look pretty gross. I wouldn't think many wants to witness the birth part, but with people filming it I'm probably wrong in thinking so.

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    Sonja
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her MIL is defending her! Her mother in law! The mom of her ex! Even his own mother sees that it's his f**k up! If people are giving her a hard time, that should be enough to shut them up!

    xolitaire
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There wasn't even a need for her to clarify that she's not "punishing" him. She doesn't want him there, THE END. The fact that the MIL of all people is on her side is very, very telling.

    Captain Az
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. "No" is a full sentence. OP owes him nothing. Not an explanation, not him being in the room, nothing. It is something she will experience and she gets to choose who she experiences it with. If she says no, then no. End of story.

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    K W
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cheating ex husband didn't get to be in the delivery room either. I drove myself after my water broke. Stopped at Starbucks and got a breakfast sandwhich and gave birth in the hospital by myself with two amazing push nurses. Ex was mad but he was also busy posting pictures of his new girlfriend and blended family of his kids (from 1st marriage) and hers on Facebook while I was 7 months pregnant.

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally, I don't think I could be in the same room while someone I love is screaming in pain. If they needed me, sure, but their pain would hurt me.

    Tams21
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was with my mother when she was lying very sick in the ICU and with my daughter when she delivered her child. I remember both their pain and it did hurt me (though it has to be said, the two examples are very different). But I know the feeling of not being there for them when they needed me would hurt me infinitely more. My advice is that if you feel you're needed (or are asked) don't hesitate fo a moment.

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    justme
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My concern here would be that the father would use this as a way to poison the kid against his mom in the future. How he wasn't "allowed" in the delivery room or was forced to "miss" the sons birth because of his mom.

    Linda's friend Ginger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Legit. A friend of mine left her boyfriend while she was pregnant because he got drunk and hit her. She was 7 months along and did NOT give him a second chance. Apparently at the hospital, he got kicked out because he demanded to be in the delivery room and punched a male nurse. Their child is 5 now and the dad is STILL a piece of s**t loser who, when he talks to his daughter on the phone, paints my friend in a negative light. "I'm sorry your mom won't let you see me." (He's jobless and moved back home with his mom across several states). "I'm sorry your mom won't let me in your life." That kind of BS. And the worst part is her daughter does get upset at her because she believes these lies that baby daddy has said. It's so jacked up.

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    The Starsong Princess
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn’t about him having a wonderful birth experience. It’s about her comfort and feeling supported during the physical and emotional aspects of birth. It’s not an equal experience and he doesn’t have the right to be there.

    Judy Takács
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you banishing him from the delivery room. No way he belongs there. He gave up that right by cheating on you. Good for you, having the strength to divorce him now. Good for MIL to support you and stay with you in the delivery room. She will be a great grandma.

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    Something
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The person giving birth decides who's in the room.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is quite a no brainer. A delivery is physically and emotionally taxing and extremely intimate. No way in the effing universe would I want my cheating ex there. Just because she is having a baby that his sperm contributed to doesn't give him ANY say in this.

    zak
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if they were still together and happy, she STILL wouldn't be the AH if she didn't want him in the room during the birth. Personally, I've never understood why anyone would want to watch a baby split a person open anyway, but maybe that's just me. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    TheElderNom
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally I'd like to be there to support my partner and see the baby as soon as possible even if I'm told they look pretty gross. I wouldn't think many wants to witness the birth part, but with people filming it I'm probably wrong in thinking so.

    Load More Replies...
    Sonja
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her MIL is defending her! Her mother in law! The mom of her ex! Even his own mother sees that it's his f**k up! If people are giving her a hard time, that should be enough to shut them up!

    xolitaire
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There wasn't even a need for her to clarify that she's not "punishing" him. She doesn't want him there, THE END. The fact that the MIL of all people is on her side is very, very telling.

    Captain Az
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. "No" is a full sentence. OP owes him nothing. Not an explanation, not him being in the room, nothing. It is something she will experience and she gets to choose who she experiences it with. If she says no, then no. End of story.

    Load More Replies...
    K W
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My cheating ex husband didn't get to be in the delivery room either. I drove myself after my water broke. Stopped at Starbucks and got a breakfast sandwhich and gave birth in the hospital by myself with two amazing push nurses. Ex was mad but he was also busy posting pictures of his new girlfriend and blended family of his kids (from 1st marriage) and hers on Facebook while I was 7 months pregnant.

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally, I don't think I could be in the same room while someone I love is screaming in pain. If they needed me, sure, but their pain would hurt me.

    Tams21
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was with my mother when she was lying very sick in the ICU and with my daughter when she delivered her child. I remember both their pain and it did hurt me (though it has to be said, the two examples are very different). But I know the feeling of not being there for them when they needed me would hurt me infinitely more. My advice is that if you feel you're needed (or are asked) don't hesitate fo a moment.

    Load More Replies...
    justme
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My concern here would be that the father would use this as a way to poison the kid against his mom in the future. How he wasn't "allowed" in the delivery room or was forced to "miss" the sons birth because of his mom.

    Linda's friend Ginger
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Legit. A friend of mine left her boyfriend while she was pregnant because he got drunk and hit her. She was 7 months along and did NOT give him a second chance. Apparently at the hospital, he got kicked out because he demanded to be in the delivery room and punched a male nurse. Their child is 5 now and the dad is STILL a piece of s**t loser who, when he talks to his daughter on the phone, paints my friend in a negative light. "I'm sorry your mom won't let you see me." (He's jobless and moved back home with his mom across several states). "I'm sorry your mom won't let me in your life." That kind of BS. And the worst part is her daughter does get upset at her because she believes these lies that baby daddy has said. It's so jacked up.

    Load More Replies...
    The Starsong Princess
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn’t about him having a wonderful birth experience. It’s about her comfort and feeling supported during the physical and emotional aspects of birth. It’s not an equal experience and he doesn’t have the right to be there.

    Judy Takács
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you banishing him from the delivery room. No way he belongs there. He gave up that right by cheating on you. Good for you, having the strength to divorce him now. Good for MIL to support you and stay with you in the delivery room. She will be a great grandma.

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