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Somebody Asks “What Happened To The Lonely Guy In Your High School Class?” And 27 Folks Answer
You know how in high school films, there are different kinds of students? Like there are popular kids, athletes, nerds and quiet kids. Well, I am sure there are many more and in every school there are different ones, but popular and lonely kids can be found everywhere. At least in every film. And you know, the mysterious thing about these ‘lonely’ kids is that it’s always interesting to see how their lives will turn out - will they change, or will they always stay the same, just adults?
So on that note, recently one Reddit user created a thread with the question “What happened to the lonely guy in your high school class?” And folks online were sharing quite a lot of stories about how these kids’ lives turned out - and be prepared, because some of them are really terrifying, but there are also many heartwarming stories.
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#1
He married a pretty artist from Syracuse and also typed this sentence
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#2
I became a girl!
I'm much less angry and sad nowadays.
Sky Render 2 years ago
Same, babe. Well technically I just embraced the fact that I'm mentally and physically more female than male in spite of what my parents tried to convince me of when I was young, but that's being intersex in the 80s and 90s for ya...
#3
he ended up graduating top of the class, got a full ride scholarship to cornel got his masters makes 7 figures a year and is happily married with two kids. i was one of his few friends in highschool and dude is doing amazing in all aspect of his life
Jeannie Miller 2 years ago
All Ivy League schools will give you a scholarship if you are low income. Merit Scholarships wouldn't make sense when everyone is supposed to be the best of the best. My daughter went to Columbia NY. She got a full ride because I could not pay 75k a year not because she was salutatorian
#4
He became an entrepreneur of a really successful company.
Employed the 3 jokers who used to bully the heck out of him. They still don't know who he is.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
They bully to detract from the fact they are too stupid to be recognized for anything else
#5
Well, I just googled him and he's a Georgetown law professor.
#6
Just Googled him. Apparently he finally got a girlfriend in college, got her pregnant, then [took theirs and his own life]. Jesus. I wish I hadn't checked.
#7
He became an actually model for high class perfumes and brands and not one those instagram / tik tok " models "
#8
The person I always thought of as possibly lonely retained the same couple of friends for the past 13 years and they still seem to enjoy getting together and doing the things they did back then. Video games, anime, etc.
One of the most happy-go-lucky, friendly, and popular guys I knew took his own life a couple of years back.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
It always seems to be the one who look the happiest. A local guy who everyone knew and loved because of his happy smile and big-hearted, friendly ways took his own life about a year ago and everyone bar one or two close confidants was completely shocked.
Lorraine 2 years ago (edited)
Depression can be very silent and usually masked. Reach out to your loved ones and make sure they know they can rely on you even if it has never crossed your mind they might be depressed.
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Remi (He/Him) 2 years ago
A friend of mine has had depression off and on since we were young and one of the things he does when he's doing worse, is trying to appear extra cheerful.
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
My grandfather told me “if you have one good friend when you die, you did well.
Load More Replies... #9
That was me. I always sat at my own table with the occasional foreign exchange student. I got out of school and worked really hard. I just turned 48 and I still haven't peaked. I have a large portfolio of real estate and do a lot of traveling. I wanted something more for myself but I didn't really have that confidence until after school. I now live an incredible life. There is hope for us losers who aren't afraid of a little work.
Alex Ruddies 2 years ago
There's something to be said about people who call other people losers. It shows a adolescent, meanspirited frame of mind and I condemn it whole heartedly.
Anh Aline Vuo 2 years ago
Yeah, sometimes it takes more than just hard work to succeed. Nice to see your smug self p**s on people less successful than yourself and implying they are lazy. You're still a loser, btw.
#10
I joined the navy at seventeen. Married at thirty.retired at fifty five.
In high school I could go weeks without a word spoken to me.
F**k my early life all to hell.
Joshua David 2 years ago
I wish I had your sense of self. I sit and wallow, like a lot of others do too, in my early life. I wallow in the missed opportunities I thought I made peace with, but find in hindsight it's not really the case. I wallow in the negative but not before rubbing honey all over myself before nuzzling and commiserating with. Be amazing to f my early life.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
One time I stopped speaking in 8th grade. For months. The only person who noticed was the other saxophone player. He followed me around asking if I was depressed and that made me feel a bit better
Petra Schaap 2 years ago
i work as a cleaner, sometimes i cover for others. one time new client, asked the only woman still sitting there how are you doing, starts crying, was the first person that talked to her that day (around 7pm)
#11
He was my friend, He didn’t make it.
#12
Got cancer very suddenly and died,went to his funeral he was just 16 the youngest in our class,truly a tragedy.
#13
He is sitting in a data science conference reading Reddit.
I am sitting in a data science conference reading Reddit.
#14
still lonely, However he worked his way up within a KFC franchise through high school and bought his first house early on even though he didn’t do well at school. Then worked in the army for 10 years and bought property 2 and 3. Now works as a director on a cruise liner and goes country to country by himself
No partners or girlfriends ever but financially well off
Manatee 2 years ago
"No partners or girlfriends ever but financially well off " Gee, I wonder why
DadManBlues 2 years ago
There must be a reason if he never had any partner.
Load More Replies... #15
He joined a cult and completely cut ties with his family. There was an article written about said cult recently and his name pops up quite a bit, so he must have some kind of position of authority in it.
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
I thought I was looking at a gorilla at first. I didn’t know gorillas were in a cult
#16
Hard to really say who was really lonely or not. Plenty of lonely people that forced themselves in the crowd.
Anyways there was a kid his sister was one of the prettiest most popular at school. She was a senior and he was a freshman. He got the principal to let him put on a concert for lunch period for his band. One of the teachers watching lunch shut him down because he was doing “screamo music” about pop tarts. A month later he shot himself in the head.
Everyone plays it off that he was lonely etc. I never believed that and I thought his concert took a lot of self courage. He was hanging out with his friends. It was the bullying because he wanted to be himself and not fit in the norm. His sister stopped going to school and idk what happened to her. It’s sad how cruel we as kids are.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
There was a boy that was in my class at primary school aged 8. He was very quiet, had no close friends, hardly spoke, and smelled really bad-not his fault at that age obviously, but he just smelled of musty mildew and urine like he hadn't washed. He was bullied relentlessly-those who didn't participate in the active bullying stood by and did nothing. One day, our teacher sent him off to give another teacher a message, and she told off the entire class, telling us how ashamed of us she was for bullying him. After that, he was just ignored. We ended up at the same high school, and he was ignored through that too. He left at age 16 with no qualifications. I was back in my home town 30 years later and I saw him-he looked about 70 (we were in our 40s), still really scruffy, greasy hair, grubby looking. I've no idea what he did after school, or what his life was like. I always felt guilty for ignoring him in school, he must have had a rotten childhood.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
But it might have been that bigotted teacher who shut down his band, that was the straw that broke the camels back
#17
He grew several inches after high school.. went into tech. Was very successful and now has a supermodel wife and a beautiful family..
Another guy became a pediatric surgeon. Was married and had a daughter.. over the years his wife disappeared from his Facebook post and it was just him and his daughter.. in a few years ago he married a super model Eastern European nurse.
And the third guy climbed into a bottle and never got out...
Joshua David 2 years ago
I'm eastern European here. We may be attractive but we're pretty crazy lol.
Allen Scherr 2 years ago (edited)
Wow your high school classmates married a lot of super models.
Fussy1 2 years ago
See now that's exactly what I took away from that post as well! Lol
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PlatinumThe8-BitCat 2 years ago
What does climbed into a bottle mean? Does it have to do with alcohol addiction? ‘Cause that’s what it makes me think of
#18
Married with four kids, good career.
Just took him a little longer than some to come out of his shell.
(It was me)
#19
Haven’t heard from him in 8+ years. I know he made a couple attempts on his own life before. I just hope he’s doing okay now.
#20
Ours was a lonely girl, and we have been trying to track her down actually. Last we heard she was homeless and a [illegal substance] addict. I really hope she’s doing better because she was a sweet girl, just very shy.
Bell-icose 2 years ago
We are censoring the phrase 'drug addict' now? Way to be part of the problem BP.
Lorraine 2 years ago
It's probably the name of the drug. Filters are automatic and super general, they have no way to discern the intention of the comment or post. It could be a legal reason somewhere that maybe asks media channels to avoid certain drug names to deter traffic or encouragement to consumption.
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#21
Shot himself in the head after his attempt to wrap around a tree didn’t work. He’s now being taken care of by his 78 year old mother.
#22
I got a degree, got married, started a career. Not much different form others, just started later.
#23
That was me! Got my master's and work for a large bank as an analyst. Still single though.
LinkTheHylian 2 years ago
No, but having a partner is one way to deal with the loneliness.
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#24
Learnt that he [took his own life] 2 years ago. Apparently because he was accused of bad stuff and didn't want to go to jail. I was also pretty lonely most of my scholarship, but in high school I had the luck of finding a small group of friend that adopted me.
Vera Diblikova 2 years ago
Americans, ou are affraid of not-so-pretty words? Why you aren´t affraid of not-so-pretty world? You are hypocrites.
#25
Got all incel about a girl who was dating a guy he didn't like. Stole a rifle from a neighbor and shot him dead, and wounded a few others. He was immediately caught and sent to prison. Just got out a year ago or so after 18 years or so.
Rain Anderson 2 years ago (edited)
Explain why murderers don't end up with life/death penalty. Where the f is Justice?
#26
Dropped off the map, hope he's doing good tho
#27
He's me :3 I'm doing my best to make friends and be social and approaching girls, but literally nothing is working and I have pretty much lost all hope. People objectively worse than me seem to be winning, douche bags, abusers, etc. They all have friends, girlfriends, social circle, and I'm a decent human being with hobbies that exist outside and off the internet, I'm well read, and I like latin dancing. I can't make it work. I give up.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago (edited)
I’m getting incel vibes off this one… (edit: you’re right, more nice guy than incel, but similar)
Phoenix 2 years ago
It's the "nice guys" always lose vibe. I'm getting it too.
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Oskar vanZandt 2 years ago
Maybe focus a bit more on improving those dance moves and obssess less about getting a gf... a more relaxed approach might help you come off as less desperate. Treat women as people first, rather than targets of intimacy... Your apparent self-loathing is probably sending the wrong vibes out to people, both possible friends and lovers.
kitten levels tokyo 2 years ago
Try volunteering somewhere! I bet that will work. (Dog/cat shelter!)
Caroline Nagel 2 years ago (edited)
I have two friends. I used to have four, but I lost two due to of lockdown (reading this back people might think they are no longer among the living; as far as I know they are very much alive). One of the two left I have known for more than thirty years. The other one is as old as my oldest nephew. I'm just not good with people full time. A few hours here and there is ok, any longer and I just want to be on my own. I sometimes feel lonely, but I think most people do at times.
Anne Stokes 2 years ago
I feel the same way in reverse, like men are too mean to live with so I give up. Nice guys never ask me out. Maybe from being shy, but I am too shy to flirt. I'm ok with it, a great friend lives with me and I have other great friends. Sex would be nice, but not worth the effort honestly except for an easygoing, kind guy. I meet ones that pretty much cant keep the kind thing going consistently.
Anh Aline Vuo 2 years ago
You're giving off strong incel vibes, dude. Bitter, envious, malicious incel vibes. No wonder women avoid you like the plague.
What do you think ?
BetterBitterButter 2 years ago (edited)
I was scared to talk to anyone in school. I was younger than all of my classmates. However my school was in a small locality and only the kids from nearby area went there. Everyone know everyone. Talked to everyone at least once. But there was this girl who made sure I had company. I owe her for that. I topped the class. Completed my masters at twenty. Got a "good job" at a very young age. Job and personal life worked together and ruined my mental health. Now I don't have a job or a personal/social life. I cry everyday. I don't know where my life is going. I don't know how I ended up here. I do nothing but cry. I hope things get better for me. I hope things get better for everyone who is struggling.
MaryHadaLittleLamb 2 years ago
I hope things get better for you soon. I do believe they WILL get better - bad things can't last forever.
Load More Replies... Veronica Michelle 2 years ago
Got a super hot wife and a bunch of cats, two kids(#3 on the way), and a dog that all love him more than anything.
DB 2 years ago
Drunk and high, hit a bridge abutment going 80 mph at 3 am and was killed instantly.
Almarako94 2 years ago
So he didn't felt anything and he even managed to not take someone else with him. must have be one of the best unalivements possible.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I guess at my school that was me. I barely spoke to anyone (because I was sick of being mocked every time I opened my mouth) and showed absolutely no interest in dating (because I had no attraction to any of the guys in my year, nor any of the girls). I went on to become a professional author and was even slightly famous for a few years. And I came out as aro ace and am perfectly comfortable with remaining single. My social life has definitely improved, though.
Strawberry Pizza 2 years ago
I am desperate to know the titles of these books!!! What genre?
Load More Replies... Rachel Deacon 2 years ago
I was the lonely girl in my class/year with an older brother who was popular/sporty/into amateur dramatics. Couple of attempts at unaliving myself, SH, even hospitalised for three weeks by a bully, all of which were basically ignored. Failed out of school (as it turns out, as a result of undiagnosed issues), drifted a couple of years trying desperately to get some kind of high school qualification and continually failing but finally found out that not only was I autistic with ADHD, but the continual mental and emotional abuse from my teachers at school left me with C-PTSD that was affecting my efforts to get a HS qualification. Ended up taking a different route: did a practical college course for a year which got me into university, got a good degree, and now I'm studying for my dream job with all the support I need! Still the lonely kid at uni, but so much better at advocating for myself and knowing how/when to get help.
Almarako94 2 years ago
Graduated as one of the best, continued on another school to get a higher graduation. Then i tried tons of stuff and always dropped out after more or less time. Finally decided to go into IT, just finished the training some months ago, became a qualified professional and started making good money. Still lonely af and can't find a reason to continue this suffering much longer. Next month the insurance starts and i'm free to go without feeling bad for anyone to cover the cost of my funeral since it will be covered by the insurance.
Midoribird Aoi 2 years ago (edited)
I am on the spectrum, have a public job and interact with a lot of people, and absolutely prefer to be left alone otherwise. I cannot emphasize how hard it is to mask it for that long. Home is my sanctuary from that. I do have a few friends, though. And PS: I do enjoy my job, for the most part.
kat lia 2 years ago
that lonely person in your school is not lonely at all, just an introvert.
KnightOwl 2 years ago
He was quiet but had a couple of close friends, I was friendly with a few of his friends so got to know him a little. He was very into computers and had a difficult home life, his mum had twins when he was 14, his stepdad died soon after and he basically had to be a dad to his baby brothers. I haven't seen him since leaving school but a mutual old friend told me his life went to hell after school. His uncle was a skinhead and managed to pull him into his gang of racist thugs, he became very bitter and blamed everything wrong with his life and the world in general on non white people. Eventually he managed to get away from that crowd and became a bit of a shut in, eventually finding 'friends' online who turned out to be incels and he started blaming all the world's ills on women. Last I heard he's never worked a day in his life, still lives with his mum, rarely leaves the house and spends all his time playing computer games. He's 37 and hasn't had a gf since he was 14.
DarkViolet 2 years ago (edited)
I went to school with a nice underclassman, quiet, unassuming. In our A Capella class, the other students thought it was hilarious to make fun of him. Our vocal instructor would even cut off his mic during rehearsals (he had a cruel streak that for some unknown reason, I was the only one who saw it). I couldn't, and still can't, figure out why this guy was targeted. One day between classes I dropped in on the vocal department and saw on display, a pull-out poster that was the spitting image of this student. The caption? "Are You a Nerd?" I was so angry, I left without saying a word. Four years after I graduated, I was reading the local newspaper and came across a story about someone being charged with second-degree murder. Same person. He had a rather unique name, so there was no mistake. Yeah, his life went down the wrong path; it didn't have to.
BetterBitterButter 2 years ago (edited)
I was scared to talk to anyone in school. I was younger than all of my classmates. However my school was in a small locality and only the kids from nearby area went there. Everyone know everyone. Talked to everyone at least once. But there was this girl who made sure I had company. I owe her for that. I topped the class. Completed my masters at twenty. Got a "good job" at a very young age. Job and personal life worked together and ruined my mental health. Now I don't have a job or a personal/social life. I cry everyday. I don't know where my life is going. I don't know how I ended up here. I do nothing but cry. I hope things get better for me. I hope things get better for everyone who is struggling.
MaryHadaLittleLamb 2 years ago
I hope things get better for you soon. I do believe they WILL get better - bad things can't last forever.
Load More Replies... Veronica Michelle 2 years ago
Got a super hot wife and a bunch of cats, two kids(#3 on the way), and a dog that all love him more than anything.
DB 2 years ago
Drunk and high, hit a bridge abutment going 80 mph at 3 am and was killed instantly.
Almarako94 2 years ago
So he didn't felt anything and he even managed to not take someone else with him. must have be one of the best unalivements possible.
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
I guess at my school that was me. I barely spoke to anyone (because I was sick of being mocked every time I opened my mouth) and showed absolutely no interest in dating (because I had no attraction to any of the guys in my year, nor any of the girls). I went on to become a professional author and was even slightly famous for a few years. And I came out as aro ace and am perfectly comfortable with remaining single. My social life has definitely improved, though.
Strawberry Pizza 2 years ago
I am desperate to know the titles of these books!!! What genre?
Load More Replies... Rachel Deacon 2 years ago
I was the lonely girl in my class/year with an older brother who was popular/sporty/into amateur dramatics. Couple of attempts at unaliving myself, SH, even hospitalised for three weeks by a bully, all of which were basically ignored. Failed out of school (as it turns out, as a result of undiagnosed issues), drifted a couple of years trying desperately to get some kind of high school qualification and continually failing but finally found out that not only was I autistic with ADHD, but the continual mental and emotional abuse from my teachers at school left me with C-PTSD that was affecting my efforts to get a HS qualification. Ended up taking a different route: did a practical college course for a year which got me into university, got a good degree, and now I'm studying for my dream job with all the support I need! Still the lonely kid at uni, but so much better at advocating for myself and knowing how/when to get help.
Almarako94 2 years ago
Graduated as one of the best, continued on another school to get a higher graduation. Then i tried tons of stuff and always dropped out after more or less time. Finally decided to go into IT, just finished the training some months ago, became a qualified professional and started making good money. Still lonely af and can't find a reason to continue this suffering much longer. Next month the insurance starts and i'm free to go without feeling bad for anyone to cover the cost of my funeral since it will be covered by the insurance.
Midoribird Aoi 2 years ago (edited)
I am on the spectrum, have a public job and interact with a lot of people, and absolutely prefer to be left alone otherwise. I cannot emphasize how hard it is to mask it for that long. Home is my sanctuary from that. I do have a few friends, though. And PS: I do enjoy my job, for the most part.
kat lia 2 years ago
that lonely person in your school is not lonely at all, just an introvert.
KnightOwl 2 years ago
He was quiet but had a couple of close friends, I was friendly with a few of his friends so got to know him a little. He was very into computers and had a difficult home life, his mum had twins when he was 14, his stepdad died soon after and he basically had to be a dad to his baby brothers. I haven't seen him since leaving school but a mutual old friend told me his life went to hell after school. His uncle was a skinhead and managed to pull him into his gang of racist thugs, he became very bitter and blamed everything wrong with his life and the world in general on non white people. Eventually he managed to get away from that crowd and became a bit of a shut in, eventually finding 'friends' online who turned out to be incels and he started blaming all the world's ills on women. Last I heard he's never worked a day in his life, still lives with his mum, rarely leaves the house and spends all his time playing computer games. He's 37 and hasn't had a gf since he was 14.
DarkViolet 2 years ago (edited)
I went to school with a nice underclassman, quiet, unassuming. In our A Capella class, the other students thought it was hilarious to make fun of him. Our vocal instructor would even cut off his mic during rehearsals (he had a cruel streak that for some unknown reason, I was the only one who saw it). I couldn't, and still can't, figure out why this guy was targeted. One day between classes I dropped in on the vocal department and saw on display, a pull-out poster that was the spitting image of this student. The caption? "Are You a Nerd?" I was so angry, I left without saying a word. Four years after I graduated, I was reading the local newspaper and came across a story about someone being charged with second-degree murder. Same person. He had a rather unique name, so there was no mistake. Yeah, his life went down the wrong path; it didn't have to.
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