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Wife Apologizes To Husband For Giving Wine To Their Teen Daughter But He Cannot Let Go Of It
Teen drinking is always an important topic. And it’s no smaller when it comes up within the family. Sometimes it can even cause major trouble for family dynamics.
Recently, a Reddit user turned to the r/AITA community to ask if she was wrong for giving her teen daughter a glass of wine after she got into a fight over it with her husband, who has a tragic past related to alcohol.
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Teen drinking is no joke and should always be dealt with carefully, especially when it comes to talking about it with teens themselves
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While watching a movie together, this woman’s daughter asked to have a glass of wine and she allowed it just this once
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Dad saw the daughter drinking the wine and got into a fight over it with the mom, who allowed it
The story started when a woman, the OP, was having a glass of wine while watching a movie with her daughter. Suddenly, the daughter asked if she could try some wine. And even though the OP is strict when it comes to alcohol and children, she didn’t think that one glass of wine could hurt a 16-year-old.
When the husband and father came into the room and saw his daughter drinking wine, he lost his mind. He shouted at his wife about why she let her daughter have wine and that she could easily get addicted to it.
The woman apologized to her husband, but it seemed to her that he hadn’t forgiven her. This made her become the OP for a post about this situation, where she asked who was a jerk here.
Some statistics show that the father might be at least partially right in this situation. For example, back in 2021, it was reported that people aged 12-20 drank 3.4% of all alcohol consumed in the United States. And while the number might seem insignificant at first glance, when you understand that these are children, it sounds more scary.
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And alcohol consumption causes a lot of deaths for people younger than 21. It includes not only overdoses on the beverages but also deaths from things caused by drinking: car crashes, homicides, falls, and so on. Not only that, but also, starting to drink alcohol at a young age can increase the possibility of having alcohol-related problems later in life.
So, maybe there was some weight to the father’s reluctance to give alcohol to his teen daughter. And some folks online agreed. These people agreed that the OP should have consulted the father before making such an important decision related to their child.
But there were some others who were of a whole different opinion. They said that the OP didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, she kind of did a good service to her daughter because not denying alcohol will make her relationship with it better.
Summing it up, let’s say that if the OP came to Reddit looking for a definitive answer to who was the jerk in the situation, she did not find that, as the commenters had as divided opinions as the couple did.
Folks online did not provide the OP with a definitive answer – every commenter had their own take on teen drinking
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What do you think ?
Trillian 2 years ago
As a German I can only laugh about this. She's 16. It's a glass of wine. Get a grip.
Multa Nocte 2 years ago
I'm laughing as well in France, living next to a vineyard or 10,000.
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Zedrapazia 2 years ago
European here. In Germany and Switzerland, you can get soft alcohol (such as beer) with 16 and strong alcohol (such as shots and vodka) at 18. It won't do you anything, it's fine, and a good way to introduce her to the concept in a safe place. The biggest temptation is trying something that is forbidden, so it's a good way against her drinking with her friends in secret instead.
Zedrapazia 2 years ago
(I meant the wine doesn't do anything to her, not vodka for example. That's still a bad idea I believe.)
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ginshun 2 years ago
Your husband needs to lighten up. A 16yo with a glass of wine, sitting at home, with her mother? Pffffft. Give me a break.
CatLady 2 years ago
Daughter was far more damaged by seeing her dad in a rage than having a bit of wine. I'm studying the effects of childhood trauma on brain development. Losing your s**t in front of your kids is harmful to them. And if the dad yells about that, what else does he freak over? The way the mum is worrying "he doesn't trust me anymore" makes me think that hubby is temperamental and controlling.
Load More Replies... Trillian 2 years ago
As a German I can only laugh about this. She's 16. It's a glass of wine. Get a grip.
Multa Nocte 2 years ago
I'm laughing as well in France, living next to a vineyard or 10,000.
Load More Replies... Zedrapazia 2 years ago
European here. In Germany and Switzerland, you can get soft alcohol (such as beer) with 16 and strong alcohol (such as shots and vodka) at 18. It won't do you anything, it's fine, and a good way to introduce her to the concept in a safe place. The biggest temptation is trying something that is forbidden, so it's a good way against her drinking with her friends in secret instead.
Zedrapazia 2 years ago
(I meant the wine doesn't do anything to her, not vodka for example. That's still a bad idea I believe.)
Load More Replies... ginshun 2 years ago
Your husband needs to lighten up. A 16yo with a glass of wine, sitting at home, with her mother? Pffffft. Give me a break.
CatLady 2 years ago
Daughter was far more damaged by seeing her dad in a rage than having a bit of wine. I'm studying the effects of childhood trauma on brain development. Losing your s**t in front of your kids is harmful to them. And if the dad yells about that, what else does he freak over? The way the mum is worrying "he doesn't trust me anymore" makes me think that hubby is temperamental and controlling.
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