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Husband Leaves Wife During Labor, Can’t Believe She Says She “Doesn’t Consider Him Her Husband”
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Husband Leaves Wife During Labor, Can’t Believe She Says She “Doesn’t Consider Him Her Husband”

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Women go through a lot during pregnancy. They deal with hormonal and physical changes that come with carrying a human being inside their bodies. 

Double those struggles if she happens to be carrying twins, as this woman did. But what made her situation a nightmare wasn’t the strenuous physical demands or the higher health risks. It was her husband, who decided not to be there for her as she went into labor.

He seemed so clueless that he decided to ask the internet whether what he did was wrong. And sure enough, the people gave it to him. 

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    Carrying twins is typically a more strenuous experience for a woman

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    But what made the situation worse for this mom-to-be was her own husband, who left her in the middle of labor

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    Her volatile reaction made her husband question whether what he did was wrong

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    The man also hinted that their marriage may be in trouble

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    Twin pregnancies are automatically classified as high-risk 

    What likely exasperated readers who faulted the husband was his cluelessness about the greater health risks his wife faced. According to the Cleveland Clinic, twin pregnancies are automatically classified as high-risk due to a number of factors. 

    Among the list of possible complications are anemia, either low or excess amniotic fluid (the liquid that cushions the baby in the womb and aids development, among other vital functions), and problems with the placenta. 

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    The US National Institutes of Health (NIH) also confirmed that twin pregnancy has a higher likelihood of multiple gestations, which increases the risks of premature births. The mom may also develop gestational diabetes, which also puts the baby in danger of developing the disease later in life. 

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    Given how overwhelming, exhausting, and taxing the experience can be, the World Health Organization shared the importance of having a labor companion for the woman. 

    The WHO notes that this person’s role would be to provide practical support, such as encouraging the mother to remain mobile during the process, offering emotional support, and providing non-pharmacological pain relief, such as massages and meditation. 

    “Labor companions also help women feel in control and build their confidence through praise, reassurance, and continuous physical presence.” 

    The man’s attitude towards his wife’s struggles, which could potentially be life-threatening, is alarming and questionable, at best. His wife’s volatile reactions were valid, and it would be unsurprising if she decides to rethink their marriage. That experience alone could indicate how her husband would be in times of crisis and need, and it wasn’t very promising.

    Most people agree that he was a huge jerk for what he did

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    But there was one person who sided with him

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    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has to be fake just for maximum rage bait.

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I freaking hope it is cos the other option is shocking !

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    Marno C.
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A bear would have been a better labour support.

    AnnaB
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't you understand??? His hand hurt!!!!!

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So in other words this guy is the massive jerk son of an equally massive jerk. His kids will be better off without him.

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is one of those guys that gets ask for divorce and say "it came out of nowhere".

    Linda Lee
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See, this is why men have so much trouble with friendship and relationships. They simply don't know how to show care and compassion. The answer is always, "there was nothing I could do"..

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plus a hearty dose of "but it affected me negatively, you cannot expect me to make sacrifices for OTHERS!"

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    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh no, she ALMOST vomited on his shirt! Will nobody ease his suffering? And his presentation? Imagine telling the clients: "we would like X to give you the presentation, he knows the material best. Currently his wife is in labour, so how about we all raise a glass on their health and reschedule?" That would have set such a good tone! But the daddy is too stupid to see that, and OP needs to suckle on daddy. That fvcker should catch cancer and watch her leave him. He deserves it.

    Lyone Fein
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every birthing event is a possible life or d***h situation for both the mother and the babies. Until the birth is completed, it is unknown whether: the baby will come out head first or feet first, the umbilical cord will be wrapped around the baby’s neck, the afterbirth will be whole or torn, etc, etc. There are a hundred different things that can go wrong during birth that are life threatening. How can anyone these days not know this?

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And don’t forget the doctor recently who somehow managed to twist the baby’s head off. 😱😱😱 Was she also the doctor who had VERY long nails that her gloves didn’t prevent from piercing the baby with ‘em? It’s not just Mother Nature who makes some scary outcomes, but also the people involved in getting the baby out of his snuggly, safe home of nine months. 😰

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess, without any family support, you'd have to stay, at least until you were recovered and could figure something out, but I wouldn't be able to sleep in the same room with him, nor would I want to speak to him much if at all. Her response that she no longer saw him as her husband makes sense, as he's and entirely worthless POS. I'd certainly do everything I possibly could to keep him away from my baby, now and in the future. He will clearly be just as big of a disappointment as a father as he was as a husband.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No, I'm not holding the baby. What if he vomits on my suit??" "You want me to go to their nursery school graduation?? Be serious, I have to work!" "Can you believe my wife threw a fit because I didn't go to my kid's recital?? I have to work, you know." "My kids live with their mom. That leaves me plenty of time to work." "They didn't come to Dad's funeral and they never visit me. Don't they understand that I had to work??"

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    OktopuS
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Darling, sorry I can't be with you during your painful birth of our twins but my hand hurts and my dad says I have to work on a Powerpoint presentation". Pathetic.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reading the replies, ah, I see: the new excuse for everything men do is "This is ragebait, no man would do this". Cool, let's explain that to the Epstein victims and the children ra/ped by their fathers. People don't want to accept how bad life for women can be, so they simply declare everything a lie. Simples!

    Nat49
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A simple call to the clients would have avoided all this. And if the clients were like his dad then no meeting would have happened.

    Laura Gillette
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Forceps? They still use forceps? I thought those were retired in favor of newer technology.

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't wait for the divorce update!

    G A
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rage baiting rubbish

    Ronja Oksanen
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Biggest Ahole in the universe! And why tf he put the destroyed her body in quotations?! I feel so bad for the wife, and she will never forgive or forget that.

    GatorGran
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is true, husband and his father are gigantic AH's. You can believe that those children would not see their grandparents - ever! I can't even write everything I want to say because if the insanity of all this.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is real... The man had options. Did he not have a backup plan, such as coaching a replacement? Or just telling his dad to shove it? A commenter in a similar situation wrote "I work for my dad too and I get the pressure you were feeling from him to go to work but sometimes man you just have to hang up and they will understand later. Especially if you dangle visitation rights of his grandkids over his head."

    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can see why he turned into such a raging dìck; obviously learned it frlm his raging dìck parents

    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has to be fake just for maximum rage bait.

    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I freaking hope it is cos the other option is shocking !

    Load More Replies...
    Marno C.
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A bear would have been a better labour support.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    AnnaB
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't you understand??? His hand hurt!!!!!

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So in other words this guy is the massive jerk son of an equally massive jerk. His kids will be better off without him.

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is one of those guys that gets ask for divorce and say "it came out of nowhere".

    Linda Lee
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See, this is why men have so much trouble with friendship and relationships. They simply don't know how to show care and compassion. The answer is always, "there was nothing I could do"..

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plus a hearty dose of "but it affected me negatively, you cannot expect me to make sacrifices for OTHERS!"

    Load More Replies...
    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh no, she ALMOST vomited on his shirt! Will nobody ease his suffering? And his presentation? Imagine telling the clients: "we would like X to give you the presentation, he knows the material best. Currently his wife is in labour, so how about we all raise a glass on their health and reschedule?" That would have set such a good tone! But the daddy is too stupid to see that, and OP needs to suckle on daddy. That fvcker should catch cancer and watch her leave him. He deserves it.

    Lyone Fein
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every birthing event is a possible life or d***h situation for both the mother and the babies. Until the birth is completed, it is unknown whether: the baby will come out head first or feet first, the umbilical cord will be wrapped around the baby’s neck, the afterbirth will be whole or torn, etc, etc. There are a hundred different things that can go wrong during birth that are life threatening. How can anyone these days not know this?

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And don’t forget the doctor recently who somehow managed to twist the baby’s head off. 😱😱😱 Was she also the doctor who had VERY long nails that her gloves didn’t prevent from piercing the baby with ‘em? It’s not just Mother Nature who makes some scary outcomes, but also the people involved in getting the baby out of his snuggly, safe home of nine months. 😰

    Load More Replies...
    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess, without any family support, you'd have to stay, at least until you were recovered and could figure something out, but I wouldn't be able to sleep in the same room with him, nor would I want to speak to him much if at all. Her response that she no longer saw him as her husband makes sense, as he's and entirely worthless POS. I'd certainly do everything I possibly could to keep him away from my baby, now and in the future. He will clearly be just as big of a disappointment as a father as he was as a husband.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No, I'm not holding the baby. What if he vomits on my suit??" "You want me to go to their nursery school graduation?? Be serious, I have to work!" "Can you believe my wife threw a fit because I didn't go to my kid's recital?? I have to work, you know." "My kids live with their mom. That leaves me plenty of time to work." "They didn't come to Dad's funeral and they never visit me. Don't they understand that I had to work??"

    Load More Replies...
    OktopuS
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Darling, sorry I can't be with you during your painful birth of our twins but my hand hurts and my dad says I have to work on a Powerpoint presentation". Pathetic.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reading the replies, ah, I see: the new excuse for everything men do is "This is ragebait, no man would do this". Cool, let's explain that to the Epstein victims and the children ra/ped by their fathers. People don't want to accept how bad life for women can be, so they simply declare everything a lie. Simples!

    Nat49
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A simple call to the clients would have avoided all this. And if the clients were like his dad then no meeting would have happened.

    Laura Gillette
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Forceps? They still use forceps? I thought those were retired in favor of newer technology.

    Michelle C
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't wait for the divorce update!

    G A
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rage baiting rubbish

    Ronja Oksanen
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Biggest Ahole in the universe! And why tf he put the destroyed her body in quotations?! I feel so bad for the wife, and she will never forgive or forget that.

    GatorGran
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is true, husband and his father are gigantic AH's. You can believe that those children would not see their grandparents - ever! I can't even write everything I want to say because if the insanity of all this.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is real... The man had options. Did he not have a backup plan, such as coaching a replacement? Or just telling his dad to shove it? A commenter in a similar situation wrote "I work for my dad too and I get the pressure you were feeling from him to go to work but sometimes man you just have to hang up and they will understand later. Especially if you dangle visitation rights of his grandkids over his head."

    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can see why he turned into such a raging dìck; obviously learned it frlm his raging dìck parents

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