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Man Pushes Wife To Take Weight-Loss Meds, Admits He Only Cares About Her Looks, Not Her Health
The postpartum period is a fragile and often thankless time. A new mother’s body has just performed a biological miracle, and her entire world now revolves around a tiny, demanding human. You hope your partner sees a hero, a warrior who is navigating the beautiful, messy aftermath of creating life.
You certainly don’t expect them to see a fixer-upper project. For one new mom, the man who was supposed to be her biggest supporter had become her harshest critic, a man who saw her postpartum body as a problem that needed to be solved with a quick-fix medicine and a heavy dose of criticism.
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The postpartum period is a time for support and grace as a woman navigates all the changes her body has to endure
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A new mom was ‘very upset’ after her husband asked her to get on weight loss medication while she was still breastfeeding
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He then admitted he ‘didn’t care about her health’ and just needed her to be more ‘appealing to him’
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For his birthday, she got fully dressed up in a dress he used to love, hoping to please him
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She couldn’t help but feel hopeless, realizing nothing she does will ever be good enough for him
A woman who has been married for 15 years and is still breastfeeding her 22-month-old child found herself at the receiving end of a cruel campaign from her husband. Her body, which has carried and nourished their child, has obviously changed. His first brilliant suggestion was that she ask her doctor for a GLP-1 weight loss medicine, even though he was the one who pushed her to breastfeed for 2 years.
When she returned from her physical with the doctor’s official “no” on the prescription, her husband delivered a moment of soul-crushing honesty. He admitted he “didn’t really care about her health” and just needed her to put more effort into “being more appealing to him.” His concern turned out to be for his own visual satisfaction.
But she decided to make one last, good-faith effort. For his birthday, she got fully dressed up in an attempt to meet his shallow demands. It was pure, uncut cruelty. “I appreciate you wore the dress,” he said, “but it really doesn’t look the same anymore.” He followed this up with a suggestion that she take friends shopping so she doesn’t pick out clothes she “doesn’t look good in.”
The poor mother was left completely “slapped down” and “discouraged.” Every attempt she makes to please him is met with a new, more cutting insult. She’s trapped in a no-win situation, realizing that even if she loses the weight, she can never get back the body she had in her 20s, the only thing he seems to want. Shall we mention that she even has a healthy BMI of 24? Disgusting.
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First and foremost, the husband’s entire premise is based on a completely distorted view of health. A BMI of 24, as the narrator currently has, is squarely within the “healthy weight” range for an adult woman, according to Liv Hospital. His push for her to lose weight is purely an aesthetic demand that has no basis in actual medical science. He is not her doctor; he is a critic.
His suggestion that she take a GLP-1 weight-loss medicine while still breastfeeding is not just insensitive; it is medically irresponsible. Dr. Fatima Cody Stanford strongly advises against taking these medications while pregnant or breastfeeding because their effects on a developing baby are completely unknown. “Just don’t do it,” she says.
The physical changes she’s describing are a completely normal and expected part of the postpartum journey. Everyday Health tells us that the body undergoes significant changes to support milk production, including storing fat in different areas. His criticism of her “belly fat” is a critique of the very biological processes that are nourishing their child, a child he insisted she breastfeed for two years.
Saying that he “didn’t really care about her health” was the most honest and damning thing he said. He has made it clear that his desire for a specific physical aesthetic is more important to him than her health, her feelings, or even the safety of their breastfeeding child. There is a long and hard road ahead for this postpartum mom, and we can only hope she learns how beautiful her body is for creating the miracle of life.
How would you have responded to these kinds of remarks? Let’s spit fire together in the comments section!
The internet was utterly horrified by his cruelty, and also reminded her what an untrustworthy metric a BMI truly is
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 days ago
I hope his shrivelled little díck falls off, the disgusting príck
TruthoftheHeart 5 days ago
I am so sick of men who want to try to nitpick at a woman's postpartum body. We do not exist for your eyeball pleasure. And especially if the woman just had your child you need to shut the hell up she needs to just throw this old man away and hopefully she can find another later who will actually treat her like she deserves
Kate Johnson 6 days ago (edited)
I think what I'd tell him is this, "I think I don't lose the weight because I subconsciously don't want your attentions. You're so bad in bed, such a completely unsatisfyingly lover and I've had to fake literally every orgasm. You kind of have this underlying smell, that's so off putting. Even if you've freshly showered, it's so cringy. I've been trying to push through it and make myself still have s*x with you, but honestly I'm not sure I ever want to have s*x with you again. You're kind of are repulsive to me now. Of course, I could lose the weight, but I'm afraid there's not much you can do about the smell." LOL!!!
Sparky Hughes 5 days ago
This guy s***s. BMI is just a guide too. I was size 2 and had a higher BMI because I was doing CrossFit. My doctor at the time wanted me to diet because my BMI put me in the “overweight” category. I got a proper evaluation from a recommended dietician and was told my body fat % was too low and screwing with my hormones. I found a new doctor.
K Barnes 2 days ago
I really hope so, too. The idea of a husband with a severe eating disorder telling his postpartum wife who is not overweight that he doesn't care about her health and she needs to lost weight, and of that man raising a daughter, is really scary. He's going to give the daughter an eating disorder if this is true.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 days ago
Hey wow, another situation like the one I was in, where I don't look/weigh the same as I did when I was 18-20ish years old now that I'm 44! I remember the days of being told my body was "disgusting", the days when he wrote out a whole daily exercise plan for me, the days when he told me I was only allowed to eat 1,200 calories a day. I'm here to tell everyone that people like that don't change. Heaven forbid you do lose weight, and then If you happen to put on a single pound again, they're up your áss about it. While one should take care of themselves, no one should have to "make" themselves be appealing to their partner in this way. (My ex has been making "let's work things out" sounds, and me exercising was one of the "requirements". haha no.)
Tamra 3 days ago
Both of these people are f*cked up. She outright stated that her husband said he wasn't concerned about her health, but was concerned that she wasn't making herself look more appealing to him. Then she defends him to commentors. She needs enough self-respect to tell him to either get counseling or f*ck off.
Niki 5 days ago
Pregnancy literally alters your body. Weight can be changed, yes, but lots of things will never sit right again. Breastfeeding also makes weight fluctuate. Suddenly introducing these meds when your hormones are all over will result in disastrous consequences. I nursed for 2 years, and it has not been quite a year since I stopped. My hormones are just now going back to normal. Maybe he needs to read a bit.
Ge Po 6 days ago
She looked great and he looked great and intimacy was great and work was great and sleep was great and everything was great and then baby came and ... things got hard. Life happened and now there's sleepless nights and diapers and messed up day rhythm and extra responsibilities and she's tired and he's tired and on the few occasions where you both have energy there's a baby being sick and then you're all sick and eating has to happen in between and he's busy all the time and she's busy all the time and then there's this little person who totally dependent on you. And then there's internet and social media with all these perfect people with perfect life and all these women who get back to their before-baby-shape without any effort ... or so it seems and why can't you? See how great she looks and she, and this one, and that one ... And then the truth seems to be that he fell for her great looks and yes, the personality was a nice bonus, but the looks were what really mattered.
Pansexual Phoenix 2 days ago
Oh ffs.. "I don't care about your health, I just need you to be skinny for my pleasure, even if it kílls you, atleast you will look good in a casket". Jeeesh, what an idíot 🙄
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 days ago
I hope his shrivelled little díck falls off, the disgusting príck
TruthoftheHeart 5 days ago
I am so sick of men who want to try to nitpick at a woman's postpartum body. We do not exist for your eyeball pleasure. And especially if the woman just had your child you need to shut the hell up she needs to just throw this old man away and hopefully she can find another later who will actually treat her like she deserves
Kate Johnson 6 days ago (edited)
I think what I'd tell him is this, "I think I don't lose the weight because I subconsciously don't want your attentions. You're so bad in bed, such a completely unsatisfyingly lover and I've had to fake literally every orgasm. You kind of have this underlying smell, that's so off putting. Even if you've freshly showered, it's so cringy. I've been trying to push through it and make myself still have s*x with you, but honestly I'm not sure I ever want to have s*x with you again. You're kind of are repulsive to me now. Of course, I could lose the weight, but I'm afraid there's not much you can do about the smell." LOL!!!
Sparky Hughes 5 days ago
This guy s***s. BMI is just a guide too. I was size 2 and had a higher BMI because I was doing CrossFit. My doctor at the time wanted me to diet because my BMI put me in the “overweight” category. I got a proper evaluation from a recommended dietician and was told my body fat % was too low and screwing with my hormones. I found a new doctor.
K Barnes 2 days ago
I really hope so, too. The idea of a husband with a severe eating disorder telling his postpartum wife who is not overweight that he doesn't care about her health and she needs to lost weight, and of that man raising a daughter, is really scary. He's going to give the daughter an eating disorder if this is true.
Load More Replies... LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 days ago
Hey wow, another situation like the one I was in, where I don't look/weigh the same as I did when I was 18-20ish years old now that I'm 44! I remember the days of being told my body was "disgusting", the days when he wrote out a whole daily exercise plan for me, the days when he told me I was only allowed to eat 1,200 calories a day. I'm here to tell everyone that people like that don't change. Heaven forbid you do lose weight, and then If you happen to put on a single pound again, they're up your áss about it. While one should take care of themselves, no one should have to "make" themselves be appealing to their partner in this way. (My ex has been making "let's work things out" sounds, and me exercising was one of the "requirements". haha no.)
Tamra 3 days ago
Both of these people are f*cked up. She outright stated that her husband said he wasn't concerned about her health, but was concerned that she wasn't making herself look more appealing to him. Then she defends him to commentors. She needs enough self-respect to tell him to either get counseling or f*ck off.
Niki 5 days ago
Pregnancy literally alters your body. Weight can be changed, yes, but lots of things will never sit right again. Breastfeeding also makes weight fluctuate. Suddenly introducing these meds when your hormones are all over will result in disastrous consequences. I nursed for 2 years, and it has not been quite a year since I stopped. My hormones are just now going back to normal. Maybe he needs to read a bit.
Ge Po 6 days ago
She looked great and he looked great and intimacy was great and work was great and sleep was great and everything was great and then baby came and ... things got hard. Life happened and now there's sleepless nights and diapers and messed up day rhythm and extra responsibilities and she's tired and he's tired and on the few occasions where you both have energy there's a baby being sick and then you're all sick and eating has to happen in between and he's busy all the time and she's busy all the time and then there's this little person who totally dependent on you. And then there's internet and social media with all these perfect people with perfect life and all these women who get back to their before-baby-shape without any effort ... or so it seems and why can't you? See how great she looks and she, and this one, and that one ... And then the truth seems to be that he fell for her great looks and yes, the personality was a nice bonus, but the looks were what really mattered.
Pansexual Phoenix 2 days ago
Oh ffs.. "I don't care about your health, I just need you to be skinny for my pleasure, even if it kílls you, atleast you will look good in a casket". Jeeesh, what an idíot 🙄
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