Family Drama Ensues After Wife Comes Home To Find 7-Month-Old Daughter Hungry And With A Full Diaper While Husband Is “Live Streaming” In Another Room
It’s easy to get hate on the internet, but one man has just become one of the biggest villains on Reddit, and it sounds like he totally deserved it.
A few days ago, his wife turned to the platform’s ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ community to share a conflict that she just had with him, which involved the man neglecting their child in favor of bolstering his YouTube channel.
Apparently, the channel has 14,000 followers and he’s a big fan of live streaming, saying that his followers “are good for his mental health and that engaging with them weekly makes him become better at socializing and communicating.” But with the couple’s 7-month-old child, the husband keeps complaining that he doesn’t have enough time to do this.
The wife, however, thought it was a sacrifice he was willing to make for their daughter. Until recently when she came back from the grocery store.
This man couldn’t strike a balance between parenting and streaming, and his 7-month-old daughter had to bear the consequences
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While ignoring a child’s needs is inexcusable, parents must remember that raising children as a team is about working together, agreeing on a shared approach, making decisions together, and supporting each other.
It’s not just about agreeing on things like children’s bedtimes, family nutrition, or discipline (even though these points are really important too), but also about you and your partner sharing responsibilities such as chores, paying the bills, handling paperwork, earning an income, and so on.
Talya Stone, a former public relations specialist turned blogger and the woman behind online journals Motherhood: The Real Deal and 40 Now What, who shares bold and authentic takes on a variety of topics including parenting and emotional well-being, has also covered parental disagreements between partners. She said that, at least in her own experience, communication is the key. “Even though you may not need clearly defined responsibilities, it’s important to sit down and discuss your approach to both parenting and the domestic scene, and the sharing of duties to enable a more collaborative approach to both aspects,” Stone told Bored Panda. “This also helps to minimize confusion and the potential for arguments and resentment stemming from either!”
Raising children as a team gets easier with time and practice. But experts say there are also some skills that help you with parenting teamwork. These include:
- problem-solving – this means finding new and creative solutions in situations where you’re stuck or can’t work through family issues;
- managing conflict – this means managing and resolving disagreements in a collaborative and positive way;
- talking and listening – this means communicating in ways that help you connect and strengthen your relationship;
- backing each other up – this means parenting in consistent and supportive ways;
- accepting each other – this means living with and valuing each other’s differences.
Staying healthy, managing stress, and looking after yourself more can generally give you increased energy.
“As parents, it’s so important to retain a sense of self—both for us and for our children,” Stone said. “While I do think you need to be on the same page with your partner on parenting, it’s important to honor your individual personalities and quirks, and I think that children really benefit from being exposed to and nurtured with these differences in the mix.”
The mom believes it all adds to the rich tapestry of life and would otherwise result in raising automatons.
Most people thought the husband was out of his mind
With so many things going on, it’s only natural that every now and then, parents have differences in opinion. Again, the emphasis should be on tackling them—unresolved issues can lead to fractures in the relationship and possibly even divorce or separation.
“It’s important to talk about and address issues as they come up, rather than letting them build up and fester which usually results in a bigger conflict,” Talya Stone said. “I wouldn’t say it’s about keeping them contained, so much as recognizing the issues as they present themselves, then setting aside time to discuss them in a calm manner rather than in the heat of the moment which typically doesn’t end well.”
The consequences of having prolonged differences in parenting can lead to more conflict, emotional and physical disconnect, lack of trust, and certain negative behavioral changes, so it’s vital to strive for a more unified approach.
It’s also worth remembering that every parent makes mistakes. You and your partner aren’t exempt from this universal truth either.
But if something huge comes up, and the two of you can’t resolve your differences in a respectful way, you may want to consider seeing a mental health professional.
Try to truly understand the reasoning behind the other parent’s stance by building upon common ground and working back to the cause of the problem.