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When a man hesitates to hug male friends in public or sweats at the mere thought of carrying a female friend’s purse for her, it makes you wonder how come this is such a big deal. But while we all bear different perspectives on the world around us, some of these unexplainable behaviors can reveal a way bigger picture.

People say it has to do with some men being insecure about their masculinity. How come? Well, it’s the fear of losing one's status as a “real man” in other people’s eyes, which makes the guy think he would be looked at as tenuous. There’s an old-fashioned belief that a man has to earn his status through proof of action, or a test of some sort, that makes him the man he really is. And although many men are aware of the fact that this is not how gender works, some still follow this ancient notion of manhood.

So when a TikToker @richtiktoxic asked people “What is something that men do that lets you know their insecure about their masculinity?” his video went viral with 1.1M views. “I’ll go first. As soon as a man refers to himself as an alpha, you know he’s insecure,” said Rich and passed the baton onto other people on social media who had a lot to say on the topic.

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Marianne
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5 years ago

I would even call that abusive.

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    kjorn
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    5 years ago

    that's mean he's an incel for me

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    Brendan
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    5 years ago

    I love that my wife earns more; it means we have more money. Who cares you which of you has the higher paycheck?

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    Bobert Robertson
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    5 years ago

    What is a simp?

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    Dana Dara
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    5 years ago

    I feel like this question does matter. There is a lifestyle/personality difference between a woman who’s slept with a couple of men and one that’s slept with like 100. If you answer and the guy shames you, that’s one thing. If you ask him and he says his number being high is different than yours being high, that’s bs. But asking in itself isn’t toxic.

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    Jo Choto
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    5 years ago

    Yeah, that's been the story of my life.

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    Donkey boi
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    5 years ago

    Me and my wife blame each other for everything as a... sort-of-joke (I don't really want to use 'Joke' but can't think of another word that fits). She farts, then says 'Babe that's disgusting!' and I say 'sorry'. I'll forget to put something away, then say, 'Oh Darling, you've left this stuff everywhere!' and She'll say 'Sorry. Can you deal with it for me now?'

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    ravina nimje
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    5 years ago

    you forgot "Nice booty"

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    JXXXF
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    5 years ago

    Everyone who has ever played team sports and had to have a communal shower knows the foot/p*nis size thing is a myth... in fact, its more of an insecurity from those who have big feet but are ashamed of the size of their manhood...

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    Queen Jackson.
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    5 years ago

    Also, if you tell a friend you’re bisexual and the first thing they wonder is if you like them or have a crush on them, think about that. Not telling you what to do, but just think about it.

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    Sue User
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    5 years ago

    Sadly, this article is proving this statement.

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    ravina nimje
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    5 years ago

    Maybe they are and too scared to come out.

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    Mojones
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    5 years ago

    Isn't this when they don't want to date trans girls, only born girls? Makes sense for me to give it a name.

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    Deborah B
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    5 years ago

    Speaking as someone currently on her period, I can confirm that periods are gross. And man, woman, or other, any one is entitled to be grossed out by used sanitary products or menstrual blood left on the loo seat. That said, unused sanitary supplies are not gross, and a man secure in his masculinity should not hesitate to buy them for the women in his life if requested to do so.

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    Viviane
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    5 years ago

    I need one of those insecure men as a referee this morning. Hubby and I are fighting over who gets to wear the forest green sweater in the Zoom meeting.

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    Viviane
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    5 years ago

    "I'd share with you, but I know tough guys don't eat chocolate." Yum, I get the whole box to myself.

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    Brendan
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    5 years ago

    I have to admit that, in my teenage years, I denied liking anything feminine (such as rom coms and soppy love songs). I now look back and laugh at the old me.

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    Kelli from Fitness Blender
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    5 years ago

    Ugh, I just hate this. EVERYONE CAN CRY!

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    Donkey boi
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    5 years ago

    I'm on the fence. I understand who this is targeting (the same people that say 'all lives matter'), but the phrase doesn't belong to one group and one subject matter alone. A girl at work has just split up from her boyfriend, she says 'All men are arseholes' I say, 'most of them, yeah', But when she asks me why all men cheat, I will say, 'Not all men, just the ones you've dated so far.'

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    Donkey boi
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    5 years ago

    As a former heavy drinker, I can quite happily say that the best alcoholic drinks are the one that don't taste like your drinking alcohol. If you like the taste, drink it! But please drink responsibly.

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    Adam Belaire
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    5 years ago

    To quote an joke from a comedian I forget the name of; "You'll notice I talk about women a lot, because let's face it. If I was hungry, I'd talk about food."

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    Lauren Caswell
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    5 years ago (edited)

    I've had that tried on me, but I have a killer grip strength so they only try it once :) still hurts tho! (Edit: my legs are ok-ish for walking and not much else, So I do most chores purely on arm strength where possible, hence crazy grip. One of my only physical strengths ^-^)

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    Jaekry
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    5 years ago

    Men can wear whatever they want; nice clothes, nice shoes, nice haistyles, nice rings, nice jewelry, nice nails. You know,... like ALL ppl... ;)

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    Verena Gitterle
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    5 years ago

    That`s envy

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    JXXXF
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    5 years ago (edited)

    European here, unpopular opinion here... I just don't get the US obsession with trucks full stop... they are ugly, slow, poorly made, a massive waste of space, drive awfully and almost everyone who has one just uses it for their commute or to pop down to Walmart...

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    Bobert Robertson
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    5 years ago

    Wait what? People don't like when a woman compliments them on their appearance? It's nice to hear from anyone, male or female, that you look good today

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    Anthony
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    5 years ago

    That has to do with individuals! We're all different

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    JXXXF
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    5 years ago

    I am sorry but stating their opinion is fine, taking it further by trying to belittle them or make fun of them is where the line is crossed...

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    J. F.
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    5 years ago

    It's a small line between pride and arrogance

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