This Online Group Is Dedicated To Shaming Insane Parents, And Here Are 30 Of Their Best Posts (New Pics)
Becoming a parent is a life changing experience. Suddenly, you are responsible for a whole other human being, and your new full-time job is to give them the best life you can. So you read stacks of books, attend parenting classes and try to soak up as much knowledge as possible to be a great parent. Maybe you even join a few Facebook groups to gain insight from other parents and to be part of a community. It’s nice to have other moms help you find the cutest and most affordable kids clothing without spending hours scouring the internet. Other parents can also provide some support when you just need to vent about the struggles of raising kids. There’s just one thing to be wary of in online parenting groups: they seem to be a breeding ground for crazy people.
Flooded with anti-vax posts and complaints about talentless toddlers, these parenting groups are painfully cringey. The silver lining, however, is that these groups have inspired the hilarious Mom Group Drama subreddit. r/Sh*tMomGroupsSay has 300k members, and shares countless screenshots of ridiculous posts on parenting groups. Their description says they’re “here to judge the ‘No Judge’ culture of the internet mom groups", and we can’t thank them enough for their service. Enjoy this list we’ve compiled of some of the best recent posts, then check out Bored Panda’s previous publications of crazy parenting posts here and here.
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I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
It’s important for new mothers to feel they have a safe space to ask questions and share their feelings. That place, however, does not need to be an online group. These controversial mommy groups have even sparked discussion from former members who have had enough. In 2020, Chelsy Theriault, creator of the blog Motherhood+Mayhem, published a piece on Filter Free Parents titled “6 Reasons I Hate Mom Facebook Groups”. She explained that at first glance, these groups seemed like a great community to be a part of. Over time, however, she realized that the groups “tended to be a crutch for mothers who either didn’t really want to deal with motherhood issues or didn’t want to (or have the courage or personal strength to) come up with their own solutions to parenting challenges”.
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Chelsy went on to say that these Facebook groups invalidate mothering instincts. “It seems that many moms, instead of assessing a situation and formulating their own solution, immediately run to Facebook to seek advice.” Similarly to how Google seems to have killed many peoples’ critical thinking skills, these mothering groups have squashed some parents’ abilities to make decisions. Chelsy recommends that mothers follow their instincts and skip seeking out help for every minor question that pops into their heads. She also adds a bit of advice a good friend gave her following the birth of her daughter to reassure anxious mothers: “If you don’t drop them or sit on them, you’re doing great.”
I Want To Smack This Parent
I Feel So Bad For This Poor Boy
The next concerning reason Chelsy cited for disliking these groups is that moms seek medical advice in them, rather than going to a real doctor. “I know of a local mom Facebook group in my area that had to put a stop to mothers posting pictures of their children’s rashes and other visible physical ailments,” she noted. Even pregnant women post asking for health advice for themselves, but it’s unlikely many people in the group are actually medical professionals. And with only a Facebook post describing symptoms to go off of, they probably couldn't be of much help anyway. If you are concerned about your own health or your child’s health, please seek out someone with appropriate credentials. Don't just take the word of Cindy from Ohio who is spending 7 hours a day on Facebook during her maternity leave.
You Can't Even Count On Your Own Parents After You Have A Baby
Get The Hell Out With This Nonsense
Along the same lines, Chelsy points out that many mothers ask questions that could easily be solved with a quick Google search. “We’re moms. We’re busy. We don’t have time to do the Googling for other moms.” Next she notes her annoyance about posts that begin with “Okay, mamas, let’s talk [enter topic here]”. “Every time a post starts with this statement, all I can picture is some tacky infomercial tempting me to purchase some cheesy product,” Chelsy adds. Just cut to the chase. "For some reason, introducing a post with 'Let’s talk -' seems pushy and impersonal."
My Friends Are Also Pregnant And I Dont Feel Special. How Dare They Ruin My Experience
What is she going to feel like once the baby gets more attention than her? Maybe she should grow up THEN have a baby.
Seems, She Really Does Not Want A Boy...
This Might Be The Best-Worst Thing I’ve Ever Seen In Fundie-Crunchy Mom Group Hell
Next, Chelsy comments on the odd habit some mothers have of displaying their shortcomings to gain pity and attention. She gives an example of a mom asking if she’s the only one who forgets to leave money from the tooth fairy, followed by multiple “haha”s and a face palm emoji. Of course she’s not the only one. Moms are not perfect, and Chelsy empathizes with the pressure mothers often feel. “I think these moms are simply looking for pity or for someone to console them and convince them that they are not a horrid parent. Perhaps they are trying to displace their mom guilt or trying to make light of their mom fails.” “Either way,” Chelsy adds. “It drives me nuts.”
Lastly, Chelsy points out another popular post style on the page: "Pic for attention!" “This is annoying,” she says. “But at least they’re being honest.”
“My Doctor Says My 9mo Baby Is Normal, But He Clearly Has Bipolar!”
Saw This And Just Knew It Belonged Here
Err...what?
Luckily for moms everywhere, not every online community is full of infuriating posts and medical misinformation. In 2018, Alexis Barad-Cutler launched Not Safe for Mom Group (or nsfmg) after becoming fed up with the “curated Instagram feeds, filtered momfluencers, and holier-than-thou Facebook mom groups that made her feel worse about her parenting”. "Whenever I would go to my mom groups, it felt like I was having a completely different experience than what my peers were having," Barad-Cutler said in an interview with TODAY. "I was mired in postpartum anxiety, depression and psychosis, and my baby was really colicky. So it just felt like there was a cellophane between me and the rest of the world — like I was living on a different planet."
So she channeled her frustrations into writing. But media outlets were not always on board with publishing articles depicting less than picture-perfect realities of motherhood. “That's where it started — the idea that I couldn't say these things out loud," she said. "I wanted to create a community. I wanted a place for people to go and be able to say the things that they're feeling out loud."
That’s Not The School’s Problem
Oh dear lord. Have your kid get the boys parents' numbers and call/ text them. Or- give the boy your number to give the parents. Or- Facebook/ social media. It's not that hard.
5g Did It!
Won't Someone Please Think Of The Karma!?
Thus, the Not Safe for Mom Group was born. On their website, the group is described as “an online — and IRL— community that welcomes challenging topics around motherhood in a judgment-free setting”. Nsfmg seems like a breath of fresh air compared to the chaotic groups being ridiculed on reddit. Under “who we serve” the site says, “Our community is centered on mothers, those on the journey towards motherhood, those who identify as mothers, the mom-curious, and the folks who support and love moms.” And the reasoning listed for why the site exists is because “tremendous healing can occur when we share our experiences and stories with others. We created this space as a safe haven for messy, uncomfortable dialogue that enables us to to learn and grow from each other."
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F**k You And Your Privacy. I’m Gonna Show 53,000 People Your Picture And Tell Them You Got Your Period Today!
1: Don't get her the ultra-thin kind, that's b******t. 2: Pull your head out of your ass and take down the damn post, ya creep
Vacuum Salesman By Age 2!!!
Maybe I've spent too much time around kids with special needs, but hitting milestones too early, disinterest in play/toys, and obsessing over something mechanical just screams autism to me??
All the post means is that the poster is liar and desperate for attention.
Load More Replies...At 2 my daughter was posting jam on toast into the dvd player slot as soon as my back was turned... I thought she was normal, but maybe she was just trying to tell me I should have bought one with better reviews.
When I was two, I was eating cat food and licking bus stops, so this kid is clearly a genius, or not real. Or autistic, like some other people have saod2!
Load More Replies...I'll have you know that when I was six months old, I assembled a vacuum cleaner using nothing more than pipe cleaners!
When I was a month old I was giving a scientific lecture at Harvard, you could say I was quite gifted.
Load More Replies...I know a 2 year old. While he can communicate in full sentences, it's mostly about how he wants to watch the Bruno Movie, Encanto. And that his name is very much his name.
My son was a few months I think, or a year, can't remember. He said papegaai and my dad was in awe. It means parrot. I just taught him to say gaai after papa lol.
Load More Replies...Wait why is this funny? This kid is clearly autistic and vacuums are his special interest. If you don't have experience with autistic children, I guess it can seem fake, but this this truly how it goes. For my daughter, it was paint colors. She loved to go to Home Depot and look at the paint swatches, and take them home. She would memorize the names of all the colors and loved it when I would "quiz" her on them, like flash cards. She was around two when it started. For my nephew, same thing but with leaves. He could indentify every leaf he saw outside, he collected them, he was obsessed. Autism super power 💪
My son was hitting three syllables at 1. We found out he's autistic recently... So yeah. Same thing happened with my nephew.
I have a cousin that LOVES vacuums too. She'd watch vacuum infomercials for them instead of reg. Tv. She would draw them. Make models of them w/ clay. she'd talk about them as if it was a normal thing ppl talk about. That's ALL she talked about. she was very intrigued by them as a baby but it slowly became more & more of an obsession & as she learned to talk that's really when it became a full blown obsessive hobby. Learning about vacuums. Old ones, new ones, how they work, who invented them... she could take apart vacuums & put them back together from memory. She's SOO smart. Idk what it is about them but she really digs em. she was diagnosed w/ autism when she was like 10 I think. Which it was suspected when she was very young but you can't really test little kids for autism w/ certainty. She's very talkative too. She'll talk to anyone who will listen. But only about vacuums. She gets very uncomfortable if you try to change the subject if you're not someone who's close w/ her...1/2)
OBVIOUSLY IM NOT SAYING THAT THIS STORY IS REAL. I DOUBT THE FIRST PART IS REAL! I want to make that clear. I'm only trying to share my story because part of this story is very plausible and is actually pretty common. Not the whole speaking in full sentences at 2 part. But a lot of the rest of this story is very plausible. Just making it clear.
Load More Replies...I don't have autism and I have no one close to me who has autism, but we need to stop slapping every unusual person with this diagnosis. It's likely offensive to a lot of people with autism and is just another way of singling someone out for being a bit different.
It's not offensive. Not to me. I'm autistic. I was the same with speech development. We tend to recognise each other. Not all atypical traits are necessarily autism but this post includes two significant traits that point that way. It is not a bad thing to be autistic or to be different. Knowing we're autistic doesn't single us out, quite the opposite - it gives us self-understanding and community! :)
Load More Replies...With all that knowledge, and he has not found a way to fill the void in your head!!!
And then he brought home the Employee of the Month award after earning a record-breaking sales commission.
And then it was found out the parent was on drugs and imagined this
My youngest brother was like that with Computers. My folks took him to the Oregon Museum of Science and Industry one year. He noticed a glitch in one of their computers and told one for the tour guys who told one of the science guys. My brother was correct and got to spend the entire next day working behind the scenes with the know-it-alls. He was 10.
Autistic, not false. My son spoke in sentences aged one, wrote his name (badly) when he was two and a bit, and read books at three. Obsessed with vehicles. Autistic, and very bright. Wouldn’t change him at all.
I don’t disbelieve this. I think these conversations with strangers about vacuums are probably a little more basic than the parent makes the out to be, but this could totally be a thing.
I can't wait for the summer; so I can read his book on vacuums,and vacuuming accessories. An then for Christmas I'll get my nephew the Dyson LEGO's set.😑😖
My 1 yr old cousin likes looking at books. I bet he'll be a writer by 2! 🙄
This doesn't sound unrealistic to me. I usually agree that these types of posts are crap, but this one is definitely possible.
how on earth can people post this type of thing and think people will actually believe them?
It was sort of believable until the end. I used to nanny a 2-year-old who was obsessed with vacuuming.
At the tender age of two I was stuffing plastic dinosaurs and crackers in the VCR...why did nobody clap for my genius?
The only thing that I remember I could do before age five was read. I could read at age four. I wonder if it would have been cool to be a two year old vacuum cleaner salesman?
and THEN santa told the easterbunny about it and asked Bigfoot what vacuum he wanted
While the website has been active since 2018, nsfmg recently began hosting a podcast as well. Episodes feature candid conversations such as “I Begged For Help and No One Listened: Mothering Through Mental Ilness” and “My Ex’s Sinister Secret: A New Mom’s Shocking Discovery”. Barad-Cutler welcomes these difficult topics on her site. “You don't have to preface anything by saying, 'I love my baby' — it is assumed that you love your child," she explains. "We invite you to curse — we love a good curse word. We welcome a difference of opinion, and we encourage people to use language like 'folks' or 'friends' — not heteronormative language, because we know that not everyone is married or cisgender."
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No Fatties Allowed!
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In addition to the podcast, nsfmg’s website also includes a blog, resources for parents struggling with mental health issues or abusive relationships, virtual talking circles “for support in this sh*t-storm”, the opportunity to book private sessions with Barad-Cutler, and a shop (which features a tee shirt proudly saying “NO MORE MOTHERFU*KING MOM GROUPS).
For the ‘anti-mom group’ moms out there, nsfmg seems like an excellent alternative to the run-of-the-mill Facebook groups.
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Another resource for moms interested in critiquing online mommy culture is the podcast "Under the Influence", hosted by journalist and mother Jo Piazza. "Under the Influence" is described as “a deep dive into the Mom Internet, a place haunted by aspirational marketing where it feels like every other mom is a social media influencer trying to sell you something… Jo Piazza looks at how we got here, what it all means and how the commodification of motherhood is driving mothers a little insane.”
On the topic of mommy blogging, Piazza told TODAY, "It's a multi-billion dollar industry that gets ignored because women are doing it and it's a 'mom thing'. But they're building these huge platforms and I say it all the time: If they were men, they'd be on the cover of Forbes because they're building mini media empires."
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This Is What The Admins To Mom Groups Drive
Well, this isn't horrible...except for the "co-sleeping" part. Scarier to me is what kind of person feels the need to advertise their parenting style on the rear window of their vehicle? NO ONE CARES!!!!
Despite how much wisdom raising children can bring, being a mother does not automatically make someone an authority on health, wellness or even parenting. Be cautious of what overbearing mothers are posting in online groups, and find a community where you actually feel safe to express your parenting concerns. But if no online group makes you feel at home or you’re simply not a parent, you might as well get a laugh out of the Mom Group Drama subreddit. We certainly did.
Be sure to upvote the photos you find most egregious and let us know in the comments if you've ever witnessed questionable parenting posts online!
What The Krap?!
How about "K,somymom'skindacrazyandshedoesn'treallycareifnoonecanspellournamesbecausesheneedslikesonFacebook"? Also, Loki is a Norse God
How Old?!
Actually, this might not be as odd as some people seem to think. Having your baby's hips checked soon after birth is standard hospital care where I live (but by a medical professional!) and neck misalignment can be quite commen if there were issues during the birth, as was the case with mine (suction). Again, this should all be done by a medical professional, but it can be an important check-up to have done.
I Can Weaponize Your Toddler, Dm?
Note: this post originally had 125 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes.
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.