Artist Creates A Comic To Show How Wrong The “I’m Not Like The Other Girls” Attitude Really Is
Julie Hang has always been doing cartoon drawings. Ever since she was a little kid. But there’s something else that Julie had dedicated a lot of her younger days to. Alienating herself from others and rationalizing to herself that it’s ok because she’s “not like the other girls.”
“I was a shy, anxious kid, and had a hard time making friends,” Julie told Bored Panda. “Instead of recognizing my anxiety and trying to overcome it, I’d thought I’m just not like the other girls. Reading ‘me vs. other girls’ comics online validated those negative feelings and stereotypes I had towards other girls, and made me feel like judging others was the ‘cool’ thing to do.”
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“I became judgmental and presumptive towards my peers, categorizing other girls into stereotypes before I even got to know them,” the artist said. “I made such a point of staying away from those stereotypes that I didn’t let myself experience things that I thought ‘other girls’ were into, including presumably girly things like going shopping, dressing up, and getting your nails done – things that I later found I actually enjoy doing!”
However, as time went by, Julie developed not only as an artist, but as a person as well. She began to realize that bitterness doesn’t lead to anything good. “Meeting more people and getting to know them helped open up my world view, especially when I attended summer camp in high school and, later, art school.”
“It was a blank slate for everyone, which presented me the option to let go of all of those categories and those stereotypes towards “other girls” that I had held onto for so long. So I did just that. What followed could only be described as an epiphany – I had been setting myself apart from the very people I felt I belonged with the most. There was so much I had in common with ‘other girls’! I made lifelong friends from a variety of backgrounds and interests who are bright, hilarious, loving, kind – girls who are unique in their own way!”
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Looking back, Julie said that social isolation really affected her. “When you’re young and still trying to figure out who you are, the one thing you really want to have is individuality. There are lots of healthy ways to discover yourself, like joining a club where you can meet people with similar interests. Then there is the ‘I’m not like other girls’ comic ideas online that communicates that you are indeed unique but does so by putting other girls down.”
However, she successfully got rid of this dangerous mindset and has a lot going for her. Having graduated from Otis College of Art & Design with a major in Animation, Julie’s now a motion designer at Part IV, a digital marketing agency. When she’s not motion-designing, she’s full of drawing ideas for future comics, design characters, do painting studies… pretty much anything you can see on her Instagram.
She also believes that the trend of relatable comics for girls is slowly changing for the better. “In recent years, I’ve felt as though webcomics are headed in a more positive and inclusive direction, with deeper meanings and consideration for their readers, and I’m more than happy to be contributing to that movement,” the artist added.
Here’s what people said about Julie’s comic and the whole “I’m not like the other girls” topic in general
How much to you cringe when a boy tells you 'you're not like other girls'. Blech!
The sad thing is that he probably thinks he's giving you a complement
Load More Replies...I tried this. I tried fitting in with other girls, but I found out they did nothing but talk about me behind my back. I was bullied for being different, for liking video games, for wearing non fashionable clothes, but graphic tees. These were all groups of girls. I was shy, but tried to fit in, but I had another girl tell me. "You will never fit in with us for liking the things you like and being who you are. Stop trying." I hung out with my small group of friends after school, but to this day I still don't fit in with other girls. But I've accepted if other girls don't like me for who I am, then I won't change their minds. Even in college it's very cliquey and I get laughed at or get weird looks from other girls for being me. But at this point I'm used to it and I'm going to continue being me even if others don't approve of it. This is who I am and I'm happy to be me. I would rather not be like other girls than be part of a group that bullies other people just for liking different things.
"I asked why. And they flat out told me it was because I was a boy wannabe in my graphic tshirts and because I played video games." This is almost word for word what I dealt with my entire life growing up as a lower middle class kid in a mostly upper middle to upper class school district. I love all things nerdy, and I was fully excommunicated for it. I was one of maybe four girls in our Robotics Club, and the same with our Anime Club. Reading your posts here was like reading my own mind.
Load More Replies...Do you really think misfits never tried to fit in before???
sometimes we do, and sometimes we fail. sometimes we don't. i'm not saying, however, that getting rejected doesn't mean you can't try again with other people. if they reject you and tell you that you can't fit in, they really don't deserve you.
Load More Replies...Yes, they see as girls liking "girly" things like makeup and fashion as somehow lesser than their own interests
Load More Replies...Oof, I had too many bad experiences with girls in big groups growing up. I'll stick with a couple close friends and call it good. When you don't wear make up and prefer loose fitting clothing you become a target for some of the girls in those big groups. Not all were that way, but definitely the vocal minority of them were. Plus with the gross way they'd talk about their "friends" that weren't there at the time, you know they're doing the same when you weren't there too. :/
Something really funny about my school is that the more sporty tomboys are popular and tease the girly girls. My best friend is quite girly and gets teased a lot. I am neither a tomboy or girly. I like listening to My Chemical Romance and reading, but the sporty girls tease us. I find it really funny because I think they to it to get male verification.
Load More Replies...i'm not like other girls. and neither is she. or her over there. or any girl. it's almost like girls are individual human beings where no two are identical regardless of what they share in common and all are deserving of respect. girlssupportgirls
Can't wait to share this with my 13yr old daughter. This is mirror image her... She always cuts herself short for fear of being judged, and it's probably only her doing the judging. Thanks for making this!
I went to a rich suburban high school where beauty and wealth were the social currencies. I was repeatedly reminded by the popular clique that I had neither, so I kept my head down, did my schoolwork and graduated. I'm sure those women are still good-looking and rich, but I like who I turned out to be, regardless, and I made good friends in college that I still have today, almost 30 years later.
Yeah. I don't know. I always try to make friends and be positive and happy, but all the "other girls" didn't want to hang out with me. They bullied me when I tried. They bullied me for even speaking to them... I didn't even wear makeup because of this 'till my mid 20's. Because I didn't want to have anything in me like these girls. Girly things = pain and I don't want to give other people pain. I want to give joy. Going to therapy, moving to a different city and starting a new independent life was what cured me. I'm almost 30 now.
I like it! In fact, I think that this «not like the other girls» thing is more a «I don't want to be a stereotype» thing... This is the proof that even when we are the group targeted by a bunch of clichés, we tend to believe it... when we realise that we are not the cliché, we continue to believe that the others are the cliché.
How much to you cringe when a boy tells you 'you're not like other girls'. Blech!
The sad thing is that he probably thinks he's giving you a complement
Load More Replies...I tried this. I tried fitting in with other girls, but I found out they did nothing but talk about me behind my back. I was bullied for being different, for liking video games, for wearing non fashionable clothes, but graphic tees. These were all groups of girls. I was shy, but tried to fit in, but I had another girl tell me. "You will never fit in with us for liking the things you like and being who you are. Stop trying." I hung out with my small group of friends after school, but to this day I still don't fit in with other girls. But I've accepted if other girls don't like me for who I am, then I won't change their minds. Even in college it's very cliquey and I get laughed at or get weird looks from other girls for being me. But at this point I'm used to it and I'm going to continue being me even if others don't approve of it. This is who I am and I'm happy to be me. I would rather not be like other girls than be part of a group that bullies other people just for liking different things.
"I asked why. And they flat out told me it was because I was a boy wannabe in my graphic tshirts and because I played video games." This is almost word for word what I dealt with my entire life growing up as a lower middle class kid in a mostly upper middle to upper class school district. I love all things nerdy, and I was fully excommunicated for it. I was one of maybe four girls in our Robotics Club, and the same with our Anime Club. Reading your posts here was like reading my own mind.
Load More Replies...Do you really think misfits never tried to fit in before???
sometimes we do, and sometimes we fail. sometimes we don't. i'm not saying, however, that getting rejected doesn't mean you can't try again with other people. if they reject you and tell you that you can't fit in, they really don't deserve you.
Load More Replies...Yes, they see as girls liking "girly" things like makeup and fashion as somehow lesser than their own interests
Load More Replies...Oof, I had too many bad experiences with girls in big groups growing up. I'll stick with a couple close friends and call it good. When you don't wear make up and prefer loose fitting clothing you become a target for some of the girls in those big groups. Not all were that way, but definitely the vocal minority of them were. Plus with the gross way they'd talk about their "friends" that weren't there at the time, you know they're doing the same when you weren't there too. :/
Something really funny about my school is that the more sporty tomboys are popular and tease the girly girls. My best friend is quite girly and gets teased a lot. I am neither a tomboy or girly. I like listening to My Chemical Romance and reading, but the sporty girls tease us. I find it really funny because I think they to it to get male verification.
Load More Replies...i'm not like other girls. and neither is she. or her over there. or any girl. it's almost like girls are individual human beings where no two are identical regardless of what they share in common and all are deserving of respect. girlssupportgirls
Can't wait to share this with my 13yr old daughter. This is mirror image her... She always cuts herself short for fear of being judged, and it's probably only her doing the judging. Thanks for making this!
I went to a rich suburban high school where beauty and wealth were the social currencies. I was repeatedly reminded by the popular clique that I had neither, so I kept my head down, did my schoolwork and graduated. I'm sure those women are still good-looking and rich, but I like who I turned out to be, regardless, and I made good friends in college that I still have today, almost 30 years later.
Yeah. I don't know. I always try to make friends and be positive and happy, but all the "other girls" didn't want to hang out with me. They bullied me when I tried. They bullied me for even speaking to them... I didn't even wear makeup because of this 'till my mid 20's. Because I didn't want to have anything in me like these girls. Girly things = pain and I don't want to give other people pain. I want to give joy. Going to therapy, moving to a different city and starting a new independent life was what cured me. I'm almost 30 now.
I like it! In fact, I think that this «not like the other girls» thing is more a «I don't want to be a stereotype» thing... This is the proof that even when we are the group targeted by a bunch of clichés, we tend to believe it... when we realise that we are not the cliché, we continue to believe that the others are the cliché.





















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