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Mom Looks For Sympathy After Revealing Her Toddler Gets Hours Of iPad Daily, Gets None Online
Whether you are responsible for raising a healthy, morally strong human being in this world or not, you’re likely aware of the never-ending screen time debate that’s been splitting parents into two camps – those who don’t see a big deal about their toddler indulging in countless hours of “Baby Shark” and those who do.
What’s a better way, then, to see if you’re too relaxed about the whole thing than putting yourself in front of a jury of mothers? A couple of days ago, a mommy by the username MelroseGrainger did just that when she asked the Mumsnet community if an excessive amount of screen time is “rotting her toddler’s brains”. Alas, as if knowing the verdict before pressing that “publish” button, the mother humorously finished off with “runs and ducks for cover.”
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If you’re one of those parents who find guesstimating and regulating your kids’ screen time a bit baffling, rest assured you’re not alone. This gets particularly complicated as headlines such as NPR‘s “How Smartphones are Making Kids Unhappy” and The Huffington Post’s “How Technology Has Made Our Kids Smarter Than Ever” run parallel to each other.
The somewhat good news is that parents are as divided about the whole screen time issue as the experts’ findings. According to a 2020 Pew Research report, 71% of parents with a child under the age of 12 say they are at least somewhat concerned that their child might spend too much time in front of screens, with 31% expressing a high level of concern. However, to the dismay of other parents, the rest of childrearers don’t think it’s such a big deal.
You might not be too surprised to hear that bribing your kids with extra screen time is akin to “giving a kid a little bit of cocaine.” Of course, that is a wild exaggeration most parents have heard in their own formative years about TV or Nintendo 64. To paraphrase Vicki Broadbent, the founder of HonestMum.com: parents must do what’s necessary to survive and flourish, managing the immense mental and physical toll that comes with juggling parenthood. And if that means a few extra hours on the iPad now and then, who are we to judge?
Most parents didn’t shy away from giving the mom their honest two cents about kids’ screen time
What do you think ?
Strawberry Pizza 2 years ago
All things in moderation. If the literal WHO is saying only <1 hrs/ day, why do you think you know better? Please take your infant child off the gadgets, it's really not great for their development. And there is always the chance that they could be exposed to things that are not appropriate or safe.
François Bouzigues 2 years ago (edited)
Advanced in numeracy ? My three daughters could count up to 20 in french (parents language) spanish (country language) and english (courtesy of the lovely american student from daycare) by two YO. And it is not me humble bragging. Actually, all the other kids at daycare could as well (removing the french maybe). You just can´t be a lazy parent and expect an happy outcome.
Ron Baza 2 years ago
Quite. I go to push my kids on the swing? We count down from 5 in English/French/German/Spanish and together, progressively letting them take more control of the counting. They get exercise, fresh air, and language skills.
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Valerie Woods 2 years ago
Books? Socialization? Sunshine? Her attention span not attached to the tablet is probably non-existent.
JayWantsACat 2 years ago
All of the things their 'advanced' child learned from the iPad could also be taught by the parents if they weren't lazy and without all of the lasting effects of staring at a screen hours for hours every day.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Also Sesame Street. my daughter could count to 30 at age 2 and knew how to count to 10 in multiple languages. I taught her a lot also and those things she didn't forget. Now she shows me a YouTube video and doesn't even remember it's the same one she watched the week before and already showed me. Kids need real socialization- ESPECIALLY with their parents
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Niki A 2 years ago
I think hours on an iPad isn't great, but I am wondering what the circumstances are? I have to say that I have a very clingy 3mo that often will scream for me and only me. To combat this, I put him in his swing for a bit and let him watch Pocoyo or Backyardigans. Believe it or not, he will watch intently and be quiet long enough for me to eat or go to the bathroom. I think sometimes as parents we overlook that you just need a break once in a while, or things pile up. If there is a healthy balance, we should be careful of judging. After all, there are things in every home that would be considered absolutely bonkers to other families. I imagine if someone came to my house they would be astounded at the number of Nerf guns stashed in drawers, under beds, and in random places. It's normal for my house to break out in random Nerf gun fights, but I am sure that would be disapproved of by some.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I think it's perfectly normal for babies to watch those kinds of shows. They learn a lot and are stimulated and it calms them down but when they are on YouTube flipping through videos at that age they are overstimulated and won't be able to focus on anything longer than five minutes or get much sleep. Toddler shows usually make them chill out and go to sleep especially when they watch the same show every day.
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Red Reilly 2 years ago
It is not good, have a friend who is a child psychologist and the stuff he would say, broadly so not specific, about how it effects kids is crazy. My nieces and nephews are only know getting video games and kid friendly tablets and they are all 7 yr old+
Rens 2 years ago
When kids are little they are like little sponges and they will absorb everything the good and the bad. I didn't know it at the time, but I have had chronic fatigue since 17 years old. I didn't really have a lot of energy, so while I did do as many active things with my daughter as I could, we also watched documentaries on TV: mostly Animal Planet. This was before iPads/tablets and smartphones. She went to preschool playgroup twice a week and we used almost to go to the library and do bike rides and go to the beach. I think you need to be very much aware of what your children are watching and if they're going to her screen time you need to be there. Engage with your child, ask them relevant questions, and be there to answer their questions. We had a big open plan living room so while I was busy in the kitchen I could see what she was watching. Everything in moderation.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
We were too poor to have Internet when my daughter was a baby. We went to the library and rented movies. I am so grateful for this. We didn't get wifi or streaming even once we were able to afford it until covid happened and we were required to have it. My daughter was 8 by that time. She was obsessed with it immediately and wanted to be on it all day. She got rid of most of her toys when she was 9 and it has made her grow up very fast I feel and it's very hard to get control over it now. Fortunately she is coming back around to doing other things (she Is 10 now) and uses YouTube to get ideas for drawing and projects. She plays roblox quite a bit but also has been wanting to watch movies more lately with me instead and now that it is summer would rather be swimming all day. I don't know what kind of child she would have been if she had access to wifi enabled devices since baby hood. I am grateful she did not and if we had another child I would make the same choice.
James016 2 years ago
My son has had an iPad for a few years now but it is heavily locked down. There are a load of educational apps on it (Squeebles, Tappity) plus Sketches Pro, a piano app and a synth app. He cannot watch anything on it, he has to do stuff on it. Then in the early evening it locks out until the next morning. We do restrict his time on it. Generally he plays with his toys, rather than the iPad.
Strawberry Pizza 2 years ago
All things in moderation. If the literal WHO is saying only <1 hrs/ day, why do you think you know better? Please take your infant child off the gadgets, it's really not great for their development. And there is always the chance that they could be exposed to things that are not appropriate or safe.
François Bouzigues 2 years ago (edited)
Advanced in numeracy ? My three daughters could count up to 20 in french (parents language) spanish (country language) and english (courtesy of the lovely american student from daycare) by two YO. And it is not me humble bragging. Actually, all the other kids at daycare could as well (removing the french maybe). You just can´t be a lazy parent and expect an happy outcome.
Ron Baza 2 years ago
Quite. I go to push my kids on the swing? We count down from 5 in English/French/German/Spanish and together, progressively letting them take more control of the counting. They get exercise, fresh air, and language skills.
Load More Replies... Valerie Woods 2 years ago
Books? Socialization? Sunshine? Her attention span not attached to the tablet is probably non-existent.
JayWantsACat 2 years ago
All of the things their 'advanced' child learned from the iPad could also be taught by the parents if they weren't lazy and without all of the lasting effects of staring at a screen hours for hours every day.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Also Sesame Street. my daughter could count to 30 at age 2 and knew how to count to 10 in multiple languages. I taught her a lot also and those things she didn't forget. Now she shows me a YouTube video and doesn't even remember it's the same one she watched the week before and already showed me. Kids need real socialization- ESPECIALLY with their parents
Load More Replies... Niki A 2 years ago
I think hours on an iPad isn't great, but I am wondering what the circumstances are? I have to say that I have a very clingy 3mo that often will scream for me and only me. To combat this, I put him in his swing for a bit and let him watch Pocoyo or Backyardigans. Believe it or not, he will watch intently and be quiet long enough for me to eat or go to the bathroom. I think sometimes as parents we overlook that you just need a break once in a while, or things pile up. If there is a healthy balance, we should be careful of judging. After all, there are things in every home that would be considered absolutely bonkers to other families. I imagine if someone came to my house they would be astounded at the number of Nerf guns stashed in drawers, under beds, and in random places. It's normal for my house to break out in random Nerf gun fights, but I am sure that would be disapproved of by some.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I think it's perfectly normal for babies to watch those kinds of shows. They learn a lot and are stimulated and it calms them down but when they are on YouTube flipping through videos at that age they are overstimulated and won't be able to focus on anything longer than five minutes or get much sleep. Toddler shows usually make them chill out and go to sleep especially when they watch the same show every day.
Load More Replies... Red Reilly 2 years ago
It is not good, have a friend who is a child psychologist and the stuff he would say, broadly so not specific, about how it effects kids is crazy. My nieces and nephews are only know getting video games and kid friendly tablets and they are all 7 yr old+
Rens 2 years ago
When kids are little they are like little sponges and they will absorb everything the good and the bad. I didn't know it at the time, but I have had chronic fatigue since 17 years old. I didn't really have a lot of energy, so while I did do as many active things with my daughter as I could, we also watched documentaries on TV: mostly Animal Planet. This was before iPads/tablets and smartphones. She went to preschool playgroup twice a week and we used almost to go to the library and do bike rides and go to the beach. I think you need to be very much aware of what your children are watching and if they're going to her screen time you need to be there. Engage with your child, ask them relevant questions, and be there to answer their questions. We had a big open plan living room so while I was busy in the kitchen I could see what she was watching. Everything in moderation.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
We were too poor to have Internet when my daughter was a baby. We went to the library and rented movies. I am so grateful for this. We didn't get wifi or streaming even once we were able to afford it until covid happened and we were required to have it. My daughter was 8 by that time. She was obsessed with it immediately and wanted to be on it all day. She got rid of most of her toys when she was 9 and it has made her grow up very fast I feel and it's very hard to get control over it now. Fortunately she is coming back around to doing other things (she Is 10 now) and uses YouTube to get ideas for drawing and projects. She plays roblox quite a bit but also has been wanting to watch movies more lately with me instead and now that it is summer would rather be swimming all day. I don't know what kind of child she would have been if she had access to wifi enabled devices since baby hood. I am grateful she did not and if we had another child I would make the same choice.
James016 2 years ago
My son has had an iPad for a few years now but it is heavily locked down. There are a load of educational apps on it (Squeebles, Tappity) plus Sketches Pro, a piano app and a synth app. He cannot watch anything on it, he has to do stuff on it. Then in the early evening it locks out until the next morning. We do restrict his time on it. Generally he plays with his toys, rather than the iPad.
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