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Husband Plans To Leave 33-Week High-Risk Pregnant Wife And A Toddler Alone For A Trip To Another Continent, Wife Wonders If She’s Wrong To Be Upset About It
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Husband Plans To Leave 33-Week High-Risk Pregnant Wife And A Toddler Alone For A Trip To Another Continent, Wife Wonders If She’s Wrong To Be Upset About It

What separates an adult from a child? There are a lot of criteria, but one of the most important, not so much dependent on exact age, is the ability to take responsibility and set priorities properly.

A little child, standing in front of something that they really desire, is ready to give up everything just to get what they want. And the point here is not at all the calendar number of years – this situation can equally apply to both a three-year-old kid who wants a bicycle, and a thirty-year-old man who does not want to miss a cool party in any way.

Like for this mom, for instance, whose post on the AITA Reddit community has already racked up about 11.2K upvotes and over 1.6 comments. We are talking about the Original Poster’s husband, and you can try to determine his true age yourself.

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The Original Poster is pregnant with her second baby and has a toddler too

Image source: Brian Birke (not the actual photo)

So, the OP and her husband are expecting their second child, while the first, according to the woman, is still a toddler. The birth of the first child turned out to be very difficult; she had to have a C-section, the child was born prematurely around 32 weeks, and spent two months in the intensive care unit.

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The first pregnancy was rather problematic and the OP is afraid the second one could be as well

Everything worked out then, but now pregnancy with a second child is approaching the same numbers, and the OP is quite reasonably afraid that some problems may arise once more. This time, the doctors also scheduled a C-section – according to the plan, at 38 weeks, but there are some suspicions that everything may not go according to plan again.

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The OP’s husband plans to go on a 10-day celebratory trip overseas with his colleagues

What’s the problem with the OP’s husband, you ask? Well, here’s the thing – the fact is that he planned a long celebratory trip to Europe with his colleagues, and then he wanted to see his relatives as well. In total, he will be absent for about 10 days – and the 32-33 weeks of pregnancy, which are significant for the OP, fall exactly on this period.

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In case anything bad happens, the OP will be completely alone with a whole bunch of problems

The situation is complicated by the fact that the family recently moved to a new place and have not had time to make friends and acquaintances, so that in case of any health problems, the mom will be left completely alone. In addition, do not forget about the first child, whose care also lies with the OP.

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In addition, it would take two flights for the OP’s hubby to get home

In connection with a difficult pregnancy, doctors recommended that she avoid lifting weights, but a toddler is also a weight. In general, there is a risk that everything could go wrong when the hubby is on another continent, two flights from home, and hardly in touch, because the party is planned at one of the resorts famous for its nightclubs.

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The husband seems to be feeling bad about the situation, but does not want to cancel the trip

The OP, let’s just give her credit, is a very humble person. She decided not to tell her husband directly that she was not happy about his idea to go, but she was trying to give her husband a hint. As a result, the man seems sad because he is embarrassed to leave his wife alone, but at the same time, he is in no hurry to cancel the trip.

Image source: bradleypjohnson (not the actual photo)

Commenters say that a responsible person would do anything to avoid problems for one’s family

According to people in the comments, even the fact that the husband is not planning to cancel anything says a lot. Commenters argue that if the doctor has already said that the life of his wife and child may be in danger, then a responsible person would do everything to avoid problems as much as possible. And it is better for his wife to tell him about it directly.

Some people have noted that while partying in clubs, the man could catch some kind of virus and then bring it to his pregnant wife and toddler – even if everything is fine with the pregnancy, it puts their health at risk anyway. In general, most commenters agree that the OP’s husband is simply selfish and is thinking only of his own pleasure.

Now, we highly appreciate your comments, so we’d love to hear what you think about this situation. And perhaps someone has already found themselves in a similar position – then your story will be doubly valuable for us.

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Aahzmandus Pervect
Community Member
1 month ago

The husband is a heartless, selfish bastard.

fu yu
Community Member
1 month ago

Total prick. Some people never grow up.

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Cody
Community Member
1 month ago

When my wife was around 30 weeks pregnant, I made work arrangements to work at a location that was only 15 minutes away from home instead of an hour away. I can't imagine going on a trip to the other side of the world.

lenka
Community Member
1 month ago

NTA. My husband would not travel more than 2 hours away from me after 30 weeks for both of my pregnancies. He was particularly attentive for the second pregnancy when we were also living overseas and away from my support network. The thought of laboring without him was awful - and I didn't have the risk and trauma that you are dealing with. As disappointed as he might be, and I get that he would be, its time to be a good man and support his growing family.

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Community Member
1 month ago

Maybe he could ask his employer for another type of reward, such as a bonus.

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Aahzmandus Pervect
Community Member
1 month ago

The husband is a heartless, selfish bastard.

fu yu
Community Member
1 month ago

Total prick. Some people never grow up.

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Cody
Community Member
1 month ago

When my wife was around 30 weeks pregnant, I made work arrangements to work at a location that was only 15 minutes away from home instead of an hour away. I can't imagine going on a trip to the other side of the world.

lenka
Community Member
1 month ago

NTA. My husband would not travel more than 2 hours away from me after 30 weeks for both of my pregnancies. He was particularly attentive for the second pregnancy when we were also living overseas and away from my support network. The thought of laboring without him was awful - and I didn't have the risk and trauma that you are dealing with. As disappointed as he might be, and I get that he would be, its time to be a good man and support his growing family.

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Community Member
1 month ago

Maybe he could ask his employer for another type of reward, such as a bonus.

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