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Man Rejects Affair Claims From Bachelor Party, Wife Calls For DNA Test After Woman Shows Up At Work
Interview With ExpertThey say what happens at a bachelor party stays at the bachelor party, but sometimes, what happens comes knocking nine months later, or in this case, just two, and it doesn’t knock on his door, but hers.
Today’s Original Poster (OP), who had been married for four years with no reason to doubt her husband, suddenly found herself caught in a whirlwind of denial, doubt, and DNA tests, all thanks to one weekend trip he barely remembers.
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Imagine going about your day, only to have a complete stranger show up at your workplace with news that could shake the very foundation of your marriage
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The author’s husband went on a guys-only bachelor party weekend, which made her uncomfortable at the idea of drinking and being around strippers
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Weeks later, a woman showed up at her workplace, calmly claiming she’s pregnant and thinks her husband is the father
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Her husband denied everything, insisting nothing happened despite his blackout, and agreed to take a paternity test when needed
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She now struggles with doubt, feeling torn between trusting him and the mysterious woman’s claim, while friends remain divided on what to believe
A few months back, the OP’s husband went off to celebrate his best friend’s upcoming wedding. It was the classic guys-only out-of-town bachelor bash. She was uneasy about the whole strippers-and-booze vibe but chose to trust him, as she had for the last four years of their marriage.
However, one day while she was at work, a mystery woman claimed she’d met the OP’s husband that very weekend. According to her, they’d hooked up, and now she was pregnant. She said she’d tried to reach him, but he ghosted her, so she took matters into her own hands and tracked down the OP instead.
Naturally, she confronted her husband that night, but he denied everything and stated that he didn’t remember anything. He admitted to blacking out but swore he never slept with anyone, except for some touching that happened during the dancing. Yet he was adamant that nothing else happened. Except, how would he know if he had indeed blacked out?
When the OP told him he’d need to take a paternity test, he agreed but started acting as though she had betrayed him for not taking his word for it. The OP is spiraling and doesn’t know what to believe, though. Some of her friends say this whole thing screams “baby trap”, and others say the woman’s calm behavior makes her more credible.
To better understand the emotional turmoil and confusion that comes with this situation, Bored Panda reached out to marriage counselor Mildred Okonkwo who provided some clarity on how partners can navigate suspicion and trust breakdowns in a relationship.
When asked how someone should respond if their partner admits to blacking out during a questionable event, especially one tied to potential infidelity, she urged approaching the situation with curiosity. “It’s not about catching them in a lie,” she explained.
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“It’s about gathering information from a place of emotional safety. Ask what they remember before and after the blackout, how they feel about it, and what led up to it.” She added, emphasizing that jumping to accusations too quickly can shut down real dialogue.
We also asked about the psychological toll betrayal can take when there’s no hard evidence, and Okonkwo referred to this as “ambiguous betrayal,” explaining that the lack of clarity doesn’t make the pain any less real.
“Your brain tends to fill in the blanks with worst-case scenarios, and that can lead to chronic anxiety, mistrust, emotional withdrawal, and even PTSD-like symptoms,” she noted. Many people in this situation begin to question their own judgment, not just their partner’s, making the emotional toll even heavier.
To help people recognize deeper issues during conflict, we asked what red flags they should watch out for when discussing serious allegations. According to the Okonkwo, responses like gaslighting, blame-shifting, or shutting down completely are immediate concerns. “If they flip the script and make you feel guilty for asking questions, that’s a deflection tactic,” she said.
She also pointed out signs like inconsistent stories, emotional outbursts, and a mismatch between words and body language. “Your gut reaction matters. If something feels off, it probably is.” These behaviors don’t always point to guilt, she clarified, but they do indicate that the relationship needs a deeper, more honest look.
Netizens were supportive of the OP and encouraged her to seek the truth. They urged her to trust her instincts but not dismiss the woman’s claims outright. They also noted that her husband’s blackout admission doesn’t align with his firm denial, and that something doesn’t quite add up.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the husband’s blackout excuse holds any weight, or is it just convenient? We would love to know your thoughts!
The author’s husband feels betrayed that she would want a paternity test in the first place, but netizens believe that’s a red flag
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FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
How would a random hookup find his wife at work? That makes no sense. But more importantly, if he was blackout drunk , there's a good case for r.ap.e. anyone. That drink can't give consent. Even if she was drinking. As the more sober one, that's as.sault. Press charges.
Rika 4 months ago
I once got a FB message from a random woman my husband met at a hotel bar while on a business trip. He had never even told her his full name, but he remembered she b*tched him to go get them drinks with her card, and he left his phone on the table while going to the counter. It was easy for her to check his profile and find my name and other details about me on there. If OP's husband was that drunk, the woman could've easily done the same. (And no, my husband didn't sleep with that woman, he told her from the start he wasn't interested but she kept insisting to buy him drinks presumably hoping he'd be drunk enough to say yes. Too bad for her, he has a very high alcohol tolerance and when she suggested they go to her room, he said he was just going to sleep in his own room. She threw a tantrum and security had to be called to restrain her. She screamed she was gonna ruin his life as revenge. That's why she sent me that message, she expected me to believe her cr*p and ask for divorce.)
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KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
He might have blacked out, I'll give him that. But I woke up to an empty c****m wrapper next to my bed one morning (I knew immediately who it was) so even if he did black out, it doesn't mean it didn't happen. Aside from that scenario, he needs to do this to prove if it is/isn't his child and deal with the result accordingly.
Untamed Snark 4 months ago
If he was blackout drunk he may not have thought of condoms, and she may have taken advantage of him in the hopes of getting to pregnant for whatever reason
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FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
How would a random hookup find his wife at work? That makes no sense. But more importantly, if he was blackout drunk , there's a good case for r.ap.e. anyone. That drink can't give consent. Even if she was drinking. As the more sober one, that's as.sault. Press charges.
Rika 4 months ago
I once got a FB message from a random woman my husband met at a hotel bar while on a business trip. He had never even told her his full name, but he remembered she b*tched him to go get them drinks with her card, and he left his phone on the table while going to the counter. It was easy for her to check his profile and find my name and other details about me on there. If OP's husband was that drunk, the woman could've easily done the same. (And no, my husband didn't sleep with that woman, he told her from the start he wasn't interested but she kept insisting to buy him drinks presumably hoping he'd be drunk enough to say yes. Too bad for her, he has a very high alcohol tolerance and when she suggested they go to her room, he said he was just going to sleep in his own room. She threw a tantrum and security had to be called to restrain her. She screamed she was gonna ruin his life as revenge. That's why she sent me that message, she expected me to believe her cr*p and ask for divorce.)
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
He might have blacked out, I'll give him that. But I woke up to an empty c****m wrapper next to my bed one morning (I knew immediately who it was) so even if he did black out, it doesn't mean it didn't happen. Aside from that scenario, he needs to do this to prove if it is/isn't his child and deal with the result accordingly.
Untamed Snark 4 months ago
If he was blackout drunk he may not have thought of condoms, and she may have taken advantage of him in the hopes of getting to pregnant for whatever reason
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