“I Miss The Woman I Fell In Love With”: Man Makes Wife Cry With Honest Opinion About Her “New Me”

The ending was nice.

If someone tells you that their opinion doesn't matter over and over while you keep pressing, be sure of one thing: you won't like their opinion. Yes, he could have been more tactful. But once you press hard for honesty, you don't get to act hurt over it when they give it. Having said that, clearly there was a communication gap going on in which she was hurting over not being able to have kids. Counseling will be a winner for these two given their willingness to communicate better.

No makeup and not shaving is a personal choice and you can have good hygiene without either as long as you take the right steps. The other stuff is just disgusting.

Growing up with a ton of sisters I can only think about how not washing/wearing deodorant would be unacceptable for a guy. The guy is very tolerant and accepting, but he doesn't need to lie and pretend he likes a partner who stinks and decided to present a very different appearance from before. I know for sure that if my partner refused to bathe it would very badly affect our sex life. I wouldn't give a damn about hair and makeup, but if someone smells offensive or their skin is oily and dirty to the touch, it's hard to ignore when tying to be intimate

All the "YTA" comments should have to do two things: 1) be around her in closed quarters and 2) walk into the space where she has just been sexually active. The evolutionary reason why we think many things smell bad has been proven to alert us that something is wrong/to push us away. That's what's happening in her pants and that's what she's nastily offering up to her husband. I feel bad for the guy and that God awful stench he must endure...

If you can't handle the truth don't ask the question!!!!

The people equating female body hair with a lack of hygiene are gigantic a******s.

this sounds like honestly a good relationship mostly and im rooting for them to come out stronger in the end :)

Really glad he was able to talk to her about what brought on the changes. When she was asking the question would have been a good time to deflect into asking her why she changed. Something like, "I've noticed the changes you've made recently, and I can see how much happier you are now. I'm curious what brought on these changes." This might seem like a side step, but curiosity is a feeling! I can only hope she would have been ready to open up at that point. She was hiding her truth by asking the question instead of telling her partner how she really felt.

Its giving "vulnerable person" (not working, dealing with infertility) during a season of change (premenopausal, entering 40s) who is, at best, looking for guidance from a group making a deep impression (she'll find herself again, she's just trying something on for size) or at worst, has fallen into a high control group or a yoga cult (good luck with that).

She could still shower with nontoxic products. The sad truth is many products have endocrine disrupting ingredients, so she’s right to avoid chemicals.

Man knows his opinion is gonna hurt her feelings, therefore keeping to himself. She is unable to leave it at that and THINKS she wants to know the truth - which she obviously doesn't. He then gets called a jerk... you really can't win as a man when a woman starts going crazy like that.

Mmm nothing like getting intimate with someone who hasn't showered in a few days. Yes she said she does shower when she feels dirty but how long is that? A day? A week?

Many, many people don't shower every day and it's not needed unless you work in a grubby environment. That's a capitalism "create a problem and offer the solution" tactic. Stripping all the oils out of your hair and skin every day so that you have to buy their products to put it all back in again, only to be told that you need to strip it all away again the next day? That's capitalism. I can see why she would reject that. But using rubbing alcohol or crystal deodorant is not a toxic thing. Brushing your hair is not a toxic thing. Shaving your body is not a toxic thing (especially if you refuse to buy specialty products for it and just use good old fashioned soap). Having a clear water "bidet treatment" before intimacy does not put chemicals into your body. I get her motivation, but it's not an all or nothing thing. There are many things you can do to keep looking and feeling fresh without buying into the chemical miasma of capitalism.

IMO, a change in hygiene habits, e.g. not showering regularly, is always related to depression. It would have been better had the LW known this and pushed her to get a qualified mental health professional see her as soon as this started. She unknowingly was trying to treat herself, through a "de-tox" as she tied how she felt to what she thought might help. Truly, OMOP severely depressed people just don't give a damn how they present themselves to others....maybe it's a cry for help.

What a beautiful but sad ending. Poor lady suffering in silence, poor husband suffering from the stinky results. There are Many natural products for washing and particularly deodorant. I use Wild. Planet friendly, nature friendly, chemical free and it smells bloody AMAZING! I'm so very relieved the outcome here and absolutely commend his compassion, understanding and love for his wife ❤️

I had to copy down that first answer, wow

Many dermatologists advise showering less than once a day. Most might say twice a week. As for shaving and wearing makeup, I would suggest he shave the same body parts and wear makeup himself if he likes it so much.

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Divorce and move on while you still have a lot of time left to start over.