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Husband Books 1st Class Tickets For Himself And His Friend For A Trip While Wife Only Gets Economy, Drama Ensues When Wife Decides Not To Go
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Husband Books 1st Class Tickets For Himself And His Friend For A Trip While Wife Only Gets Economy, Drama Ensues When Wife Decides Not To Go

Here’s a quick test for you, Pandas: if you were flying out on holiday with your partner, your soulmate, the love of your life, what kind of plane ticket would you give them? Would you a) get them a seat right next to you so you can hold hands and enjoy the fabulous view as you fly, or b) get them an economy ticket while you’re living it up in first class with your best friend? Hopefully, you all chose the first option, Pandas. Unfortunately, a stay-at-home mom raising three kids shared how her husband picked the second one.

The woman went on the AITA subreddit and asked people to tell her if she was wrong to call her husband out for the way that he disrespected her. He was sending very mixed signals by ‘letting her’ come on the trip, but then showing her that she wasn’t as important as his friend. A friend that he goes on an awful lot of trips to sports events with. Scroll down for the full story and to see just how bad the relationship drama got. Oh, and yes, the husband actually could afford to get first-class tickets for all of them. This was a choice, not a way to save money.

What do you think of the entire situation, dear Pandas? Why do you think the husband is so reluctant to go on holiday with his wife? How would you react if your partner would constantly choose their best friend over you? Share your thoughts in the comments.

A stay-at-home mom shared how she completely lost it when she realized what her husband had done

Image credits: RODNAE Productions (not the actual photo)

She wanted to know if she was wrong to call him out for buying her an economy class plane ticket while he was flying first-class with his buddy

Image credits: Kenny Eliason (not the actual photo)

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Quite a few redditors found it suspicious that the husband kept picking his best friend over spending quality time with his wife.

Some thought that he might be in a clandestine relationship with his BFF, others believed that he was simply more interested in having a ‘nanny’ instead of a wife, taking care of the kids at home.

Moreover, some internet users suggested that this was most likely a toxic relationship that probably had no future. Whatever the truth might be, clearly, the couple needs to sit down and have a long, in-depth discussion about their relationship, where they stand, and what kind of future they want together.

Look, the rules from back in school still sort of apply in adult life. If you intentionally choose to sit next to your friend instead of your girlfriend or boyfriend on a regular basis, you’re sending out some not-so-subtle hints that, hey, you might not really want to be in this relationship after all. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t spend quality time with your friends (remember, you’re not just a parent or a spouse), but there’s clearly an issue with how someone balances things.

Recently, dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, explained to Bored Panda that not all guys will take the time and energy to grow and mature. Instead, they’ll keep pretending to be the victim and blaming everyone else for their own mistakes.

“Unfortunately, some people never get past that level of personal development and as a result, ruin relationships their entire life. It really takes a lot of motivation and follow-through to overcome that kind of behavior, which a lot of people simply don’t have,” the expert told us.

“However, if a man were to have that kind of motivation and willingness to follow through, he should set goals for himself and work towards achieving them no matter what. When he does that, he will begin to realize the amount of personal control and influence he has over his life,” Dan said.

“A man like that will rarely overcome his victim mentality the first time he achieves a goal though. In almost all cases, he’ll need to keep achieving goals and will then gradually become a man who feels totally accountable for his life and doesn’t need to play the victim and blame others for his problems, or lack of success,” he said that there’s hope for everyone, but that real, meaningful change doesn’t happen overnight.

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Keith O
Community Member
1 month ago

This is Fu@king ridiculous. HE didn't PAY for your ticket, you raise the kids and hold the entire household down. YOU both payed for the ticket as this is MARITAL money. I don't mean for this to come out this way, but this sounds like some Brokeback Mountain sh!t. The friend who takes a trip with YOUR husband every year didn't want you to come, even though you don't get to take a yearly trip. Just fu@king wow man. This dude is trash, he doesn't treat you as an equal. Lawyer up, get alimony and child support and live your own life as a first class citizen instead of the second class one he treats you as.

Candice Cook
Community Member
1 month ago

So right! I mean my mind is scrambled after just reading about it. What I really can't fathom though is how does one end up with a husband like this? They must put on a really good show and play the long game. I guess I've just learned the hard way too many times so I'm probably cynical and seeing red flags where there are none these days(prob why I'm middle aged, single, and never been married), but how does a blatant disregard for one's feelings go unnoticed? I am not nice enough to put up with a person like that even with my admittedly lower than average self esteem. I think not.

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Bill Allen
Community Member
1 month ago

Let me guess, your husband and his “friend” share a great room in a four star hotel and you get Motel 6? If a friend of mine ever called my wife “entitled” he would not be my friend any longer. Being a spouse is a lot more involved than making money.

Brandon Marlowe
Community Member
1 month ago

I agree 100%, Bill. Treating her as "less than" and allowing his "friend" to speak to her in an abusive manner is unacceptable. #teamwillsmith

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Casey McAlister
Community Member
1 month ago

NTA. It sounds like your husband is married to his best friend, and they see you just as...a housemaid? You deserve much better than that.

There Is No Planet B
Community Member
1 month ago

The amount of gaslighting this poor woman is subjected to by these two troglodytes is astounding! She needs a therapist and a lawyer ASAP

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Keith O
Community Member
1 month ago

This is Fu@king ridiculous. HE didn't PAY for your ticket, you raise the kids and hold the entire household down. YOU both payed for the ticket as this is MARITAL money. I don't mean for this to come out this way, but this sounds like some Brokeback Mountain sh!t. The friend who takes a trip with YOUR husband every year didn't want you to come, even though you don't get to take a yearly trip. Just fu@king wow man. This dude is trash, he doesn't treat you as an equal. Lawyer up, get alimony and child support and live your own life as a first class citizen instead of the second class one he treats you as.

Candice Cook
Community Member
1 month ago

So right! I mean my mind is scrambled after just reading about it. What I really can't fathom though is how does one end up with a husband like this? They must put on a really good show and play the long game. I guess I've just learned the hard way too many times so I'm probably cynical and seeing red flags where there are none these days(prob why I'm middle aged, single, and never been married), but how does a blatant disregard for one's feelings go unnoticed? I am not nice enough to put up with a person like that even with my admittedly lower than average self esteem. I think not.

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Bill Allen
Community Member
1 month ago

Let me guess, your husband and his “friend” share a great room in a four star hotel and you get Motel 6? If a friend of mine ever called my wife “entitled” he would not be my friend any longer. Being a spouse is a lot more involved than making money.

Brandon Marlowe
Community Member
1 month ago

I agree 100%, Bill. Treating her as "less than" and allowing his "friend" to speak to her in an abusive manner is unacceptable. #teamwillsmith

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Casey McAlister
Community Member
1 month ago

NTA. It sounds like your husband is married to his best friend, and they see you just as...a housemaid? You deserve much better than that.

There Is No Planet B
Community Member
1 month ago

The amount of gaslighting this poor woman is subjected to by these two troglodytes is astounding! She needs a therapist and a lawyer ASAP

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