This Woman Gives Tips On How To Treat A Loved One During A Depression Episode

I read the first tweet and nothing else. "Having someone in your life with depression means being prepared for any and all episodes." No. "Someone in your life"? Maybe if they are your minor children. Otherwise, no. If you love and care about them, you should be caring, compassionate, try to educate yourself. But to be "prepared for any and all episodes" implies that you are in full control and fully responsible for that other person's mental state. No one can or should be given that responsibility. It's too much. It's ridiculous and selfish. I say this as a life-long sufferer of depression. It reminds me of the people with borderline personality disorder who instead of learning to function expect everyone around them to adjust and coddle the disorder with a long list of dos and donts.

Seek psychiatric help! If you break your little finger, you'll head straight to the hospital. You can function well enough even without your pinkie, but you do not function with depression. Go to a doctor. And please avoid any psychologist who tries to convince you that you became ill with depression because your thoughts are negative. They are only out to empty your pocket and they will do nothing that will not prolong your suffering. Being ill with depression is what makes your thoughts negative. Depression is a terrible and terrifying illness that feeds itself with your altered behaviour. The last thing anyone who is suffering from depression needs to hear is that it is their own fault. And no, you cannot simply pick yourself up. That is like saying to someone who lies in the middle of the road with a broken leg after being hit by a bus that "if you just want to, you can get up and walk away like nothing has happened".

Just learn to listen to what they have to say. And let them finish. If you want to give them advice, let it be something of practical nature and related to the topic of conversation, not neccessarily to themselves.

One thing-- she says to understand them, but sometimes its hard to do that. Be there for them, even when you don't understand, that's what you should do, because there will be times when you don't understand.

thank you for this post/article :)

Get some help. Go to your doctor. Depression doesn't magically improve. If anything, it becomes worse. Deal with your f*****g depression instead of being so offended by those who don't understand it. Quit normalizing depression. It's not f*****g normal and it's not something the non-depressed should have to walk on egg shells about. When I was depressed and had terrible anxiety my husband took me to the doctor. He wasn't going to let me fall into a deeper hole than the one I was already in. The doctor has been treating me with Zoloft. I feel almost great.

Nono....please don't give me space. That's the opposite of what I need. This might be advice for like, 75% of people but no ones the same and blanket advice doesnt work the same for all

So I have depression, ptsd and borderline. I wanted to say that it's very cool of you to share this odd wisdom and I wanted to point out the fact that sometimes we CANNOT talk to anyone. Sometimes even breathing is so draining, that we just paying attention to our surroundings takes so much effort and when people try to engage us in conversation it feels as if you're going to drown. BUT we LOVE you. Please don't leave us. Just knowing you are still our friend or lover gives us som much strength or endurance. We are temporarily incapable of showing you this in a commonly acceptable and sociable way, but we lean on you even if you don't know it, you are our strength even if you are unaware. Instead of judging the relationship by 'normal' standards, look at the life your friend or lover is actually living and see that you are one of the few we make the effort to see/call/write. Even if it is below society's standards, you're probably one of less than a handful of people we see

I have a friend with severe depression. All of this is so true. As a friend of some one with depression, is it very difficult for me to see her suffer. Her husband does not support her at all, which is soooo sad and only makes it worse. And also, my grandma and aunt suffered from depression. They, how ever, lost the battle.

This post make me feel depression. If I have friends who could do all this things for me, to care so much for me and understand my behavior ,to be there for me... I think a big part of my depression would be gone because the cause, It was a bad dream. Loneliness is the demon who follow me....

This is so accurate. And some people need to understand that when someone has Depression stemmed from previous trauma, they can't just "let it go". Telling them they need to just move on already can break them further. It hurts. Instead, maybe try to understand without bringing it up every other second saying "Oh, it's alright, I'll support you!" just, be respectful.

You know, I've been through such c**p. I scored a perfect 100% in the official scale for depression. And I was given a trick or treat assortment of various drugs. One had me falling out of bed, walking with a cane, tipping over in grocery stores if I took a deep knee bend to look at something in the bottom shelf. I had to practice writing my name every day until one day, another drug was prescribed. It has been increased in dosage and now I'm going to go see about bipolar disorder soon because. Whoohoo! 100%. I have been diagnosed with major stress disorder. And every sonogram, angiogram, mri's etc. have all been normal. I have been one of the seminar topics at a dental conference in Hawaii because I have to have novacainne every ten minutes. Also hypo thyroid. I have weighed as little as 118 and as much as 189. And at 65. I'm just realizing the people who make just getting out of bed or getting an answer are 99.9% of the problem. And I've learned what I can do to feel right and ok.

One of my struggles is I have NO reason to be down. I suffer from a condition similar to bipolar, without the highs. I am not alone, but lonely.

And don't tell them to exercise or socialize. Whenever I read that people with depression should exercise what I hear is, "you're supposed to TORTURE yourself with the one thing you hate most in the world! Suffer! Suffer! You're EVIl!!! You deserve the worst possible torment!"

Wait... when I’m having a depression fit I just want to be left alone. I don’t want anyone to bother me

Support is super ok.But don't forget: Even a Teddy bear gets tired!

This applies to PTSD as well. It's a rough road, so be patient.

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I don't get depressed. I get even! It's all about perception and reaction. If those voices of disparity come into your head you need to crowd them out with fun and joy. Go to the mountains, go to the river. Nature is a healer. Go to the sea. Just go and don't let the bad take over. This is your life.

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