Can be whatever, and I'm sorry any of this happened, but you can share or vent here.

#1

My step father went to jail for molesting me. My mother, shortly before I went into foster care, told me I was the reason she lost the best thing that ever happened to her. Yes, she was referring to my step father.

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S O N G O
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. I want to feel sorry for your mom for being so stupid but i just can't. Hope she microwaves her food but it's still cold in the middle.

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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, she is now deceased. I'm pretty sure she may now be somewhere where all of her food is too hot to eat.

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Easily Excitable Panda
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YOU are the best thing she ever had, and she's too sick to realize it. She can't admit she made horrible, horrible mistakes, and is trying to pass the blame off to you. That burden is hers, not yours. I hope for all the best for you in your life.

HammerzToe
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope you never had to go back to living with her. I know foster care is far from being perfect, but sometimes it's way beyond what lies at home.

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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did not. Thank you for asking. Foster care was actually one of the best things that could have happened to me. It wasn't that way for some, but I came away with a sister and my family of choice is much better than my family of birth.

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student Siya Bhutani
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worst thing my 'mother' said to me was "I wish you were dead."

Holes2Heaven
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's going to hell!! I'm soooo sorry! Hugs!

KT
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're better off without her

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    #2

    Maybe we’d be better off if you succeeded in killing yourself- my drunken abusive no longer step-dad

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    Wonder Woman 848
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    do not do it! THAT IS AN ORDER FROM YOUR COMMANDER, ALEXANDER! <3<3<3<3

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's horrific! I'm sorry he was ever in your life, and glad that now he's out of it.

    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't listen to him, he sounds like an a**hole. Nobody would be better off if you'd killed yourself.

    owen may nolker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    f**k that pice of s**t its better if he succeeded in killing himself

    #3

    When I was about 8 years old my family (mom, dad, 4 older siblings and I) went to family counseling and the counselor told me that me because my dad was an alcoholic while my mom was pregnant with me that I was destined to be an alcoholic too. That really messed me up, so badly that even the smell of beer makes me physically ill to this day (at age 49). When I was about 30 or so, I finally got the courage to tell my mom how much this whole counseling experience messed me up and that I think about it a lot and it still bothers me. She asked me why I couldn't just shut up and be grateful because apparently the counseling worked because it kept me from becoming an alcoholic. Definitely the last time I tried to talk about my feelings and how the past has affected me...

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so sorry. If you need someone to talk to about your feelings or past or something, I might not be able to understand much of it, but I'm here.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you. My husband is awesome and has helped me so much. He is an only child, so he doesn't understand the family dynamic with siblings very well but he is a good listener and is super supportive!

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    Kelley Baltierra
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If anything the counselor should take at least 50% of the blame for that one

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, absolutely! I think he was a sh!t human...

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sad you heard that. Words, words, words. People don't understand that once they are said, they can't be unsaid.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely! It works both way too. I can still remember a grade school teacher telling me I was a "lovely little lady" on a day I was feeling kind of down and that memory can still be a pick-me-up on a bad day.

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    #4

    It's about what he didn't say. My dad called my sister and brother creative, athletic, intelligent, cheerful, courageous, etc. He couldn't find anything good to say about me.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry, I know how this one feels. It hurts. Well I can tell you right now, you are no doubt a very very creative, athletic, intelligent, cheerful, courageous, beautiful person.

    owen may nolker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you are 1. Adaptable 2. Adventurous 3. Amarous 4. diligent 5. Humble 6. Courageous 7. Efficient 8. Enchanting 9. Generous 10. Magnetic 11. Likeable 12. Sincere 13. Non judge-mental 14. Trustworthy 15. Resourceful 16. Well-read 17. Wise 18. Zealous 19. Resilient 20. Reliable 21. Determined 22. Strong 23. Stupendous 24. Exceptional 25. Generous 26. Kind 27. Persuasive 28. Vivacious 29. Witty 30. Extra-ordinary 31. Divine 32. Breathtaking 33. Flawless 34. Magnificent 35. Lively 36. Versatile 37. Amazing 38. Fun-loving 39. Well-travelled 40. Outgoing 41. amicable 42. Friendly 43. Perseverant 44. Enthusiastic 45. Affectionate 46. Thoughtful 47. Modest 48. Hygienic 49. Considerate 50. Courteous

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear you. My brother got 98% of the praise (being a boy helped), and my sister and I had to fight it out for scraps of approval. He knew how desperate I was, so he'd always make sure to compliment her in front of me.

    #5

    "Now you've got them doing it too!" This was said by my mom after my brother and sister freaked out about a bug. I have panic attacks because of multilegged things so somehow it's my fault they got scared. Either when I was blamed for their divorce or when they said nothing and walked away

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes people just don't realize how painful words can be.

    #6

    "You're a manipulative piece of s**t" - My Mother.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like *she's* the master of the manipulation game.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only a manpulative person will call another manipulative

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is tragic. I'm so sorry for you. That must have really hurt.

    #8

    "Your words don't matter if I can't hear them." - My mother. I have a pretty soft voice IRL, and she said this as I was trying to show her something that I made for her.

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh wow. My heart aches at this. I heard many things like that as a child growing up also.

    S O N G O
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If that arsehole doesn't bother trying to hear you, just keep that masterpiece you made for yourself. She doesn't really deserve it if she tells that to a kid.

    Ange Di
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry she said that. Your words matter!!!

    #9

    Oh where do I start? "You have wasted potential, it's horrible how you just became a waste even after all our hard work." -Dad "I used to pray to god I wouldn't kill you, or abuse you. Now I wish I had killed you." -Mom "You're failing because you're just some dumb bitch, huh? Is that right, you dumb bitch?" -Brother And at many points have they disregarded my sexuality and denied me of my name and proper pronouns- because they don't wanna have me getting a new name and have them change it again. Sorry, my gender is confusing to me and until I find a good name, you gotta suck it. "Suck it up. You just have *lists one of my mental disorders* as an attention getter." -All of my family at some point. I'm hoping to live with my uncle or grandma this summer....

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my god. That's absolutely disgusting of them to say that. I am so so so sorry. I promise you that none of that is true, don't listen to them.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey guys! Submission Author here. So I did call my uncle and my grandma, and I will be living with them over the summer. The environment change should help.

    Macy Sharp
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah bb are you okay? Coming from an abusive mother (including her family) I understand. No one should have to go through lofe thinking their a piece of s**t who shouldn't be alive. Bb, you are perfect just the way you are. Now someone stop me before I start ranting.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No please! Go on a rant. You sound really fun to be around and I appreciate your concern.

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    owen may nolker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    c all 911 for abuse for abuse of the best perso alive

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly...am terrified of talking to people over the phone except for family.

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I pray you get out of that household and into a nurturing environment.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It helps when you have supportive friends and other family for your mental health. It calms the mind, and it helps me out.

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    KT
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol how many times have you changed your name? I can understand their annoyance if you keep switching

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wasn't going to respond to you but I will point out that no matter how many times a person changes their name you respect it and try hard to get it right. Just because you get annoyed (which is highly rude btw) at someone figuring themselves out does not mean you get to be all snotty about it. Please fix your mentality about name changing.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you get away from them too! You sound strong to start with, and though I don't know you, I'm proud of you for fighting to be who your are.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those mean so much to me, thank you so much for saying you're proud of me.

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    #10

    “That’s the most selfish thing to do” after I told my mom that I wanted to commit suicide. She went on to tell how selfish that would be and started yelling at me for thinking that. And then said “people have it so much worse than you” instead of reassuring me not to do it. So if you see this and you are also struggling just hold on a little harder for your friends that love you. Any of the pets you have if you have them. And for everything that life has for you in the future.

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your words about hanging on just a little longer and finding the joy are great. More people need to hear words like that.

    Thay
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do we have the same mother? Lol I feel that so hard.

    #11

    called me the "N" word ow that hurt mom/dad

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    #12

    "You've gotten fat since you quit, huh." - My mom, after I quit boxing in middle school. I wasn't fat, I just wasn't ripped anymore. I went back to boxing after that (her goal) and I can trace my eating disorder directly to that comment.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one should have to hear that (especially at that age!). I wish I had wise words to say to you, but I'm grateful that you recognize that you aren't the problem.

    #13

    Age 9 - My father flipped a penny back into the room at me after he'd done what he wanted and walked away laughing. After 42- 3 months after my husband had a major heart attack and bypass surgery and I wouldn't do something she wanted me to do for her "Boohoohoo, my husband had a heart attack and I can't" in the voice you probably read that in.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am in a safe situation now. My family is just poisonous and I took myself away from them about 5 years ago. I really didn't mean to sound hard, or hard hearted. There's just so much secrecy around that kind of abuse and a large part of it is for the comfort of other people. It makes people so uncomfortable that this fact about me - that I lived through this, that I survived and went on to have a life - gets pushed into the dark along with the abuse. It takes people like me from survivor to victim. When I was 12, I put my father in prison. I stayed a good person despite the horrible people who raised me and have been a good mother to my own children. (Mostly because of the excellent examples I had of what not to do ;) ) What happened to me is a big part of how I was shaped. Hiding what I lived through hides the strength it took to live through it.

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pure toxicity. I wish I knew how to comfort you. All I can say is that you don't owe them anything; your family is the people you choose - like your husband.

    #14

    when I was 8(I am 17 now), my father, who is no longer in my life and has not been for 4 years, told me that "all woman grow up to be a b*tch, including you." Let's just say that was an awful thing to say, and that's not the worst thing he did.

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Take those words and use them to make you stronger.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did. I got stronger and got him out of my life after many many other things he put me through

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    Candace Alagappan
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a sad story, I hope you are ok. If you're gonna be a b*tch, be a bad one!

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being a bitch is a beautiful thing. Trust me, I know. HammerzToe is right: let those words make you stronger.

    #15

    Once I picked out an outfit I thought looked cute in 6th grade (cant remember exactly what outfit) and I felt so confident because it was something new, when I usually wore darker colors, this outfit was COLORFUL, so I came downstairs and my mom took one look at me and said something along the lines of "why do you look homeless in everything you wear" and that scarred me, I immediately went upstairs and changed my clothes back to darker colors, put a hoodie on, and hid my hair and boom thats how you get self esteem issues kids, if you're a mom please don't tell your kid they look bad in something. It hurts.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people seem to actually work at hurting their children emotionally. Please know that you are worth so much more than that.

    #16

    Not what they said, but what they didn't. I've never heard either tell me they are proud of me, and there were a few times when I was younger, I would get worked up and say things such as: "I'm sorry I'm such a disappointment." Not once would they even reply, or bring it up again.

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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definitely not the worst thing either had said to me, but the lack of feeling as though I had self worth was very damaging.

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The words they don't speak are often as bad, if not more so, than the ones they do say. Your Panda name speaks to power, strength, and ambition - all wonderful characteristics. Your fellow Pandas love and value you.

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    #17

    "you're the reason that I'm dying of cancer" - my mum (March 17, 2011)

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You even remembered the date. It really made an impact on you, I'm so sorry.

    Holes2Heaven
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you!! My husband had a heart attack. He's not big, but he eats bad. He actually had the audacity to blame me for it! I flipped, this was a long time after, told him that a little stress didn't put plaque in his arteries it was HIS bad choices in eating.

    Ange Di
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is NOT your fault. Never let her get in your head again.!

    𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's awful! No human being deserves to think they're killing anyone if it's not their fault!

    S O N G O
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then let her freaking die. Take her off meds.

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This probably sounds brutal, but: She's dead, and you're free. Don't let her hold on to you from the grave. She doesn't deserve it.

    #18

    "You are not adopted"

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    J Sizz
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dang, I was gonna say this, lol. "You think we'd pick you if you were adopted?"

    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Were you hoping you WERE adopted?

    #19

    me and my mom dont always get along so we were arguing over god knows what and i have to admit i really pissed her off so i told her that she only cares about herself (i actually kinda meant it tbh) so she told me that i have an ugly face so i told her that i can photoshop and ugly face but not an ugly peronality like hers. she was lost for words.

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    Macy Sharp
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awwww bb, im glad you pissed her off....seems like she deserved it. Mothers get TOO much credit (i know im gonna get some hate for that)

    owen may nolker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my friend she is rousting on a burning gril BURN

    #20

    Age 10, first Thanksgiving with my step-family. I had been playing with all the step-cousins around front but went to the kitchen to get something to drink. I walk in on my dad telling my step-uncle how perfect my step-sister is — smart, studious, athletic, obedient, ladylike, etc. Then he said I was just the opposite — obstinate, willful, lazy, a waste of talent, etc. I started crying and ran back out front to my step-cousins. My dad chased after me, grabbed me, slapped me and said, “what did you expect me to do - lie?” He kept slapping me until I stopped crying. None of the other adults intervened. Everyone went to sit down for dinner after as of nothing happened and I was just left standing there by myself.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ETA it took 35 years to finally accept I have cPTSD from growing up in that household. i used to think I just did not like football (American) but when my psychologist took me through EMDR around the Thanksgiving episode I realized that all the things I experienced around football (anxiety, nausea, headaches, sweating, dehydration, etc.) were symptoms of a PTSD episode. I didn't even realize I had really been experiencing those things until after EMDR and I rarely experience those symptoms around football anymore. I was like "oh, that's what a PTSD flashback is!" It all of a sudden just made sense.

    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My poor child. That is so hurtful and mean. I'm so sorry you had to experience that.

    Kelley Baltierra
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is f****d up pardon my language. I'm so sorry

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so glad you've been able to find peace! You deserve wonderful things in your life for surviving all of that.

    owen may nolker
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have PTSD don't know how no one abused mebut it just happened and I have sleep paralysis.the demon scary but my fbi agent protects me

    #21

    I have several, but here are 3... 1. I was in 3rd grade and my parents sat me down and told me I was fat. They put chains and pad locks on the fridge and cupboards and signed me up for Weight Watchers by lying about my age. I suffered from eating disorders off and on since. 2. I was having my 16th birthday party and was standing at the crossroads ready to show guests to my house when my mom said my friend and I looked like hookers. 3. I was graduating college and I was told not to have a party because it would make my brother feel bad. Omg, I have so many. Time to call the therapist....

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You didn't parents. You had captors. Definitely time for the therapist; they are life-saving.

    Macy Sharp
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg hun, dont let anyone body shame you, including your parents. Dont let them tell you how to dress either.

    #22

    When I was 9, My mom told me "you sould be more like your sister" when she was drunk .To give some background info, my sister died 2 years before this.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jesus wept! I hope you're able (or were able) to get away from that wretched excuse for a human being.

    #23

    “I wish I had a son.”

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    HammerzToe
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know that remark. It hurts. I'm sorry.

    #24

    When I got divorced, my mother said I’d disgraced the family. After she died, I learned my father was her third husband. She had not been a widow... just a hypocrite.

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    #25

    "Open this door our ill snap your neck like a pencil!" proceeded by them barging in to my room and slamming me into the wall

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    Macy Sharp
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (Omg i love ur profile big eminem fan too but besides that) I hope ur okay....abusive parents suck....ive had my fill...all from my mothers side....just know itll be okay

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you are/were able to get away from there! I just looked at your profile, and I'll do my best to remember your pronouns.

    #26

    My father used to tell us "I didn't want 1 of you, what the f*ck am I going to do with twins"

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    #27

    When I was 11 I broke my arm for the second time in my life, the hospital didn't immediately set my arm they had me stay overnight and were going to do it the next morning. So my mother seemed really angry about the inconvenience, I didn't really know at the time there were a lot of problems between her and my dad, and they would be divorced in just a few years. I asked if my dad could stay the night with me at the hospital so she could go back to work because she was complaining about missing work. The next morning they set my arm and both my parents were there when I went in but my dad went to work once he knew I was ok. So my mom was carrying me home, we stopped to eat and in the middle of the meal for with no prompt at all my mother says to me, "You wouldn't have broken your arm if you weren't so fat and clumsy." It felt like a punch I had never had either of my parents say anything remotely close to that to me, my mother wanted to hurt me I guess, it worked. I still think about. I get along with my mother she is a great mother, she was going through a dark point in her life and that doesn't in any way excuse what she did. Although I did get a small amount of unintended revenge on her. When I was 15 I would break my arm yet again, I don't have brittle bones or anything, just bad luck. My mother was working at the time, so she left work and met us at the emergency room door when my grandmother brought me. I see my mother and start crying and apologizing to her, sobbing and saying "I'm sorry momma I didn't mean to do it." My mother said she felt so awful in that moment having her son apologize to her for hurting himself, and she said all the staff looked at her in that moment like she was a monster. I can't stress this enough my mother really is a wonderful woman and I love her very much and we have a great relationship.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am so so sorry, thats horrible. I am glad you still get along after that, I would have disowned my mom right then and there and called CPS to come pick me up.

    Karina
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why, because the mother slipped that one time while going through a tough time? they have a good relationship and the is otherwise a wonderful mother. and she surely didn't mean it, as she felt bad when he was in hospital years later. something like that happens. you can't always be the perfect parent.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope she was able to realize then how cruel she'd been to you, and has started treating you better.

    #28

    She didn't say anything, just set the house on fire so she could scam the insurance company, She left for a drive around the block so that she had an excuse as to why half the kitchen was burned. I was asleep in my room the whole time. What if she had an accident?

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do you call me lazy just because I don't feel like sharing a lot of my life with strangers?

    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know who is saying this to you; you deserve privacy. It's hard to say these things in public!

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    #29

    Pretty much everything my dad has said, and hasn’t said, but this hurt me the most. One time I was driving to my friends house to eat dinner, and my dad didn’t know. When my dad called me and my mom were at the grocery store. She told him where we were and where we were going. He freaked out. He said he was gonna take me away from my mom, that he was gonna sl1t my moms throat. When we got to my friends house, I couldn’t speak. He’s told me to stop getting distracted, that I’m acting like a brat, he told me to my face that I’m a mistake, he’s told me that I need to be perfect. I’m scared of my dad, he said that I’m not. My dad doesn’t listen, when I’m trying to tell him how he’s making me feel, he tells me that it isn’t true, that I’m a liar. He’s part of the reason I’m suicidal. He KNOWS I have a type of ADHD, and he KNOWS I have anxiety, he doesn’t help with that. The thing my dad has done to hurt me the most, is what he hasn’t said.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm so sorry you're stuck in this horrible, abusive situation. You deserve so much better; hold on to that in your dark moments. You *will* escape this man.

    VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He should go to prison. I’m really sorry that happened to you

    Wonder Woman 848
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    CALL CPS. Tell them that your father SUCKS ASS. Tell them. GET HIM IN PRISON. Then never visit him.

    #30

    "I wish I'd never had children." Thanks, Mom. Honestly, I often wonder why my parents didn't just get a divorce and send me to live with my godmother.

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    #31

    I was going to the prom and had a little eyeshadow on. She told me I looked like a whore.

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    #32

    one day when i was 10 my lil brother was born. so a few months later i was 11 and there was a huge birthday i was not invited to so i told my mom and she told me, and i quote " thats why we gave you (lil bros name) so you can have someone to play withplay with" i dont think she meant it tho because she was extremaly tired at the time

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    #33

    Not a parent but Uncle P said; "Don't ever do anything you wouldn't do if Uncle P was standing right there watching" I was 12 and yes, liked boys.

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    #34

    “I’m done with you! You’re dead to me! Your grandparents would not be proud of you they are rolling in their graves.” My mother after I couldn’t afford to give her money to keep her car after my step father tried to get me to run off with him. I refused and told her then she hated me cause it was my fault he wanted me.

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    #35

    "Disappear" is a painful one. My sister is a fan of the body-shaming "Your (chest) looks weird" thx sis :/

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    #36

    Always been opinionated and blunt. My mother told me I needed to "be less opinionated and learn to keep my mouth shut because if I didn't I would never find a man to marry."

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    Hope Tibb
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    mom used to say the same things, and to clean and cook for my brothers so later I could get some husband

    #37

    “I’m sorry I have cancer”. My dad tried to blame it on himself :-(

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    #38

    My step mom called me a lazy ass mother f****r...

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    #39

    I found out recently - I am 78 and my kids are ages 60 down to 45 ish -- that I was that parent who said some awful things. I had no idea. I tried to make amends and it made things worse. I have no excuse other than ignorance and stupidity. I'm so sorry for all of you; I couldn't even read all the posts. It's what I learned, too. Now that I know better - it's too late.

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    Easily Excitable Panda
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you find the strength to try again, for both your sake and theirs.

    VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least you apologized. Keep trying to make amends.

    Ange Di
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apologize!!! Tell them how very sorry you are for all the terrible things that were said. My parents still blame me for stuff...they are in their 70's...I am almost 50...and Damn! It still hurts.

    #40

    After my mum found out i was self harming she told me i was a f**k up and that i couldn't be any more work if i tried. She did nothing about it.

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    #41

    Mother: then go and kill yourself, I'll be here waiting for the call, so go do it. (and I tried lol, but failed :'v) Father: you're not going to do anything worth in your life, and just end up cleaning houses, if you want I'll get some clients for you. This after I got an scholarship and said I wanted to study graphic design in other city and not really in my hometown, so he got angry cuz that meaned he needed to speend more money. I went, he has not paid a single dollar. Btw, cleaning houses was not the problem, that's a respectuful job.

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    #42

    Good for nothing! You will finish under a bridge as homeless. Today I have a loving wife , a good job paying well, two houses… The bastard has no friends, live alone and get an argument with everybody…

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    #43

    My grandmother said I looked like a relief kid because I wanted to wear dresses. She said my hair was awful... said I was fat.. My aunt told me I was a lesbian(which would be ok but I wasn't). My mother told me that I'm a Baldwin (my father's last name meant to insult me) and that I act act just like my dead father- book smart and stupid. My grandfather pointed out that I had a "big f***y" to my cheerleading coaches so I needed the extra large briefs. My aunt and my grandmother told the doctor at the ER to disregard my attempted suicide/overdose on Tylenol because it was just for attention. I thought my father's real name was Jerko as a child because that is what my family referred to him as. My aunt, mother, and grandmother told me I'd better not cry at my father's wake. I was six. They told me it would be embarrassing if I cried.

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    VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of that is terrible. I’m so sorry that happened to you

    #44

    my dad continuously making fun of my comfort characters even though he knows it triggers me because i've told him multiple times

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    #45

    When I told her to stop touching my bra - "It really upsets me when you say 'stop' and 'no' to me." When my brother came out as trans - "It would be nice if you took MY side in this! She'll forever be my precious daughter and nothing will change that!" The day after I told her I liked the same gender (for the 3rd time) - "You can't have a sleep over with Jaime if that's the case because I don't want you having sex!" Heads up - I'm 14. - My brother's 18.

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    Ange Di
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad you stand up for yourself!! Just keep being you, kiddo!!

    Cyr/Syr
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hated that. When I came out as bi to my parents they told me I couldn't have my best friend over to spend the night and I cried for HOURS. Now I'm kinda out to them as queer and they're letting me have girls spend the night

    VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Screw your mom. She sounds terrible. I’m really sorry

    #46

    My 18th birthday, my "dad" called to tell Mom this was the last check. No happy birthday.

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    #47

    No one will ever want to marry you! You can’t do anything right. You are so lazy, why do you wear your hair like that, you look like Olive Oyl (Pop Eye’s girl friend)

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    #48

    “I wish I had a son.”

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    #49

    ¨dont talk to her she is just gonna continue being passive aggressive¨

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    #50

    My dad is really mean when he's mad. When I forget to do something small, he yells at me and tells me how terrible I am at life and that I will amount to nothing. "Oh, now you're gonna cry? Yeah. Cry. that doesn't do sh!t for you" Guess what, dad? You aren't doing anything for me in this situation either. I still love my dad, though. This only happens when he's mad, so I try my best not to make him mad. He's also a cheater and manwhore :/.

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    #51

    Not my dad but a relative I lived with. “Everyone’s life would have been better if you’d never been born. You’re nothing but a burden.” I was born with birth defects that required several surgeries and many medical visits.

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    #52

    My mother always made it very clear how close we were to losing the house all the time, how much debt we were always in. I grew up in fear of having no money and lived overly anxious of what it is to be an adult. - So I worked hard, started my own business and created several income streams so now I’m financially stable and safe from reliving my child hood fears and allowing my children to grow up without that same burden. - My mother now tells me that all I care about is money and I’m obsessed with it. Ouch.

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    #53

    My mom : "I wish you died when i gave birth to you at the hospital". Well that f****d me up.

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    #54

    18 years old, sat in my bedroom with boyfriend at the time. We were just chilling and watching movies. I pass my mother in the hallway on the bathroom and my mother says “send him to my room il show him a real woman” spent years wondering why I wasn’t a proper woman before realising she was a narcissist. Sadly tip if the iceberg of horrible things she has said to me.

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    #55

    Once my mom said that i ruined her holiday... ouch

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    #56

    My presence always seem to bother my parents. They tried their best to keep me away from them.

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    #57

    When I was 12 I was 5'2'and weighed 110 pounds. My mother said I was fat and put me on a diet.

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    Wonder Woman 848
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was eleven I weighed 130 lbs and was 4' 11

    #58

    You are hard to love.

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    #59

    My dad said trust me meant f**k you so all my adult life was messed up!!!

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    #60

    My mum constantly told me that my dad was sick because of me and that "I was killing him".

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    #61

    My mom said “You are too big, too tall, too loud, too fat” I came out looking Iike my dad’s side of the family, that are tall, and voluptuous. She is petite. That still hunts me to this day.

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    #62

    When I was a teenager my mom explained to me that I should always have a backup plan when I get married, because no matter how much you trust someone “you just never know,”. Thanks mom, I’m in a trusting and secure marriage with a wonderful guy now, making sure that lesson never pops back into my head and screws things up.

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    #63

    Me and my grandmother where in an argument about like when I get older, how to dress, "being pretty and stuff" and she ended saying I dress like a "hobo" and how "guys arent attracted to that type of thing "or whatever. There was more to the conversation, so I think she was just kinda upset at me for other reasons, but that still bothers me. Another time she was talking about how rude and crude she thinks lesbians are and said "I think all lesbians deserve to be shot". It's hard how literal she is sometimes, and I know she loves me and all, but gosh some of that stuff she says sometimes just really messes with me😢

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    #64

    My grandmother had Bipolar Type II. (Which wasn’t figured out until I went to college for psychology and social work and figured it out.) She was legally married and divorced 14 times that we know of and moved my mom and her siblings all over the Midwest their whole life. When I told my mom that my first husband was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive and also cheating on me and I wanted to leave, my mom said “You don’t wanna be like grandma, do you?” She was implying I needed to stay to save face. She has always been more concerned about coddling and enabling my older brother to care about any issue in my life. He was having relationship issues at the time as well but did not have someone physically hurting him daily and having a gun held to his head when trying to leave the relationship so I’m still in shock that his issues mattered more. He’s a selfish, manipulative narcissist and my mother just plays into it and treats us completely differently. Realizing it all has really destroyed my relationship with my mom and brother. I did get out though with legal help and strength and intelligence of my own and am happily married to someone who is not abusive in any way. But that comment and neglect still really hurts to this day.

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    #65

    No one will love you if your fat - father to me at 16 after putting on a bit of weight after a bout of bulimia

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