Hey Pandas, What Stereotype Are You Associated With And How Does This Affect You? (Closed)
It can be any stereotype, race, disability, sexuality etc.
I'm a single mom who happens to live in a trailer park. I have caregiver status for my children who are on SSI (too young to have SSDI). I've heard the s!ut comments, trailer trash jokes and 'she must just be lazy' remarks. It's disheartening to be looked down upon when I am doing all that I can. My children both see 4 different types of therapists, a psychiatrist and numerous specialists. I'm at appointments between 2 and 4 times a week and need to be available to head to the school if they are having a major meltdown or are sick (this is often). I literally cannot find a job that would put up with that. All of this is besides the fact that my PCP has urged me to file for disability due to my own health issues. I'm not easy, my munchkins have the same father whom I left when I was pregnant with my youngest. I own the trailer I live in. I own my vehicle. I am not lazy trash. Enough with the remarks.
I am 47 and never been married. People assume I am a closeted lesbian or completely damaged in some way. When my boyfriend moved in recently, I got a lot of "I thought you were a lesbian" and "Better late than never." No, I finally found someone I wanted to put up with. I liked being single. I am very happy with my own company, comfortable with who I am, and I don't need someone else to validate me. Why do people assume that if you haven't been married at least once by the time you are 25 or 30, you are automatically gay or damaged goods?
im classified as a "gifted kid" when i was around 8, and ever since then my parents have always been on me about getting all a's, not half-assing stuff, and not 'being lazy', what they don't realize is that them doing that is actually very pressuring and stressful, and im not lazy, im a gifted kid burnout.
I hate it when someone says "I'm the whitest black guy they know." Irritates the H*** out of me! My mother taught me to take pride in not only my education, but how I carry and present myself at all times. I'm far from the typical black stereotype but I take great pride in my African-american roots and culture.
I'm female, and I like traditionally "male" things. I do martial arts. I do DIY. I don't wear make up or dresses (hardly ever). I hate pink, sparkly things. I like science fiction. I have no interest in having a manicure or shopping for pleasure.
People therefore assume I am a lesbian, but I am certainly not. I'm interested in men, and only men. I've even had people tell me they "know" I'm a lesbian, and I'm just living a lie and in denial. I think I know my own sexual tastes!
I live in the Southern United States. If you have a strong Southern accent, people immediately assume you're stupid. It's a strong enough stereotype that I realized it when I was about 8 years old and actively got rid of my Southern accent. On the one hand, I'm glad I did. On the other, I'm sorry I had to.
I have autism and people talk to me like an adult if they dont know but if they find out they down talk to me like im a small child or usually talk about me to my friends or family as if im not there 🙁 i can talk i just get embarrased when people treat me differently and im very shy, also people think im rude when i dont look at there eyes and they ask why i wont look at them, im not rude i just find eye contact really unsettling and awkward
A woman in management (male dominated industry) wrongly assume I "slept" to the job
People always assume that I'm a cold/unfriendly/mean person based only on my face, after they get to know me most of the time I get the: "I thought you were bit**y but you are really nice!" It's like ohh thanks I guess???
I'm 'mentally ill', there's something 'wrong me with me'. No, it's clinical depression and aspergers.
Being judged by my weight: I am fat because I'm sick, I'm not sick because I'm fat.
I use makeup almost every day. Usually, people assume that I hate myself or that I'm hiding something. But I just like makeup and it's really fun to play with it. I do it for myself and I am perfectly fine if I go outside without it on.
So I am a Karen. Really, my name is Karen, I’m middle-aged and have a blonde bob haircut. But I do not act like a “Karen.” I started a new job and decided to go by my middle name because I got tired of the jokes.
I’m blonde. When people think of blondes most people automatically think we are dumb just because of our hair color! Everyone has there dumb moments but no not all blondes are dumb :)
I have tics, and people either think that it is really fun and cool, or I am making it up, which really makes me get some internalised ableism going on which is not fun.
i am a Goth... .. i have to be a bad persoon.. wothship satan and eat babies for lunch..
the faces when people see i have kids or when i help them are priceless... it doesn't affect me anymore but when i was younger and walked around like that all day, everyday, it was very annoyed during carneval and halloween, to a point where i stopped wearing goth clothes during those times...
good thing i'm also a metalhead and nerd so i can be weird all year round
I'm an introvert and very quiet, especially around people I don't know. People assume I'm angry, sad, or a b**ch. Part of it is my facial expression (everyone asks me what's wrong when it's just how I look a lot of the time) but it gets annoying when people assume I'm quiet and look sad because I'm lonely or something along those lines. If I'm not talking, it's because I don't want to. I also have social anxiety, so it's really irritating when people constantly ask why I don't talk. I do, just not to you. So why is it any of your business? It's also a bit upsetting to see so many posts (not on bp) about quiet kids at school and how they might f**k s**t up at school if you mess with them and it's not particularly funny for a number of reasons.
Goth mum with a shaved head here. People think I’m a lesbian or a bad mother. I’m covered in tattoos and love my two boys fiercely. My 3 year old is asd and people think he’s stupid but he’s so damn smart it’s scary. He just doesn’t feel the need to talk just yet. People judge him all the damn time.
I’ve had old people call me a bad mother because of the way I look. I just say to them, my kids are well dressed, well fed, happy and healthy. How does that make me a bad mother?
My piercings, clothes and tattoos have no impact on how I parent. I’m also happily married to an amazing guy for the past 11 years and hold down a job while doing my doctorate. Can’t be doing too s**t of a job parenting.
No I don’t worship Satan or sacrifice animals to him. In fact I’m a massive animal lover. Granted all my pets are black haha but that’s only because black dogs and cats are the least adopted out of all pet colours. Not because of any aesthetic.
Honestly I just wear my freak flag with pride and don’t care what people say about me. I know the truth and I know what they think has no impact on my life or on my families lives. And if what they say impacts my kids lives they will soon regret it.
I’m Russian. You can tell where this leads and it often masked with memes along with few typical stereotypes.
Are you Commie Soviet?
(That was old times, so no.)
I bet you drink vodka.
(I strongly dislike that drink)
Do you have a tank in your yard?
(no, where in the hell did I get the money to get it?!)
I am underweight. Even now, when I’m at a relatively healthy weight, I still get comments like: “anorexic”, “men like a woman with meat on her bones”, and “no one wants a skinny b*tch”. I am a former anorexic, but I am at a healthy weight now. I have always been underweight; it’s my metabolism. I know I’m flat and I know I don’t have the curves people want. I don’t need it shoved in my face. I never used to be ashamed of my cup size or lack of curves, but now I am.
"But you can't be a guy! You wear skirts!!!" (I'm trans)
Well at least I don't go poking my huge, snotty nose in other people's businness. Also I have reasons.
Skirts go whooooosh :D
My daughter requires compassion and safety before all else. She has additional needs (Autism, ADHD, profoundly gifted, etc)
She will change the world one day, meanwhile I am sick of the “helicopter mom” judgement.
I’ll always fight my child because other adults unwittingly/intentionally harm her, not because I am a micromanaging nightmare.
She is adventurous, brave, hilarious, and kind. If the world is blind to see it today, she’ll be even more surprising later.
People think they need to talk to me in a baby voice the second I tell them I’m autistic like bro I could understand you perfectly fine yesterday before you knew I was autistic and you actually treated me like a human being
I am a migrant so in this country I am seen as inferior, lazy, less intelligent. People assume all the time that we arent educated (like the teachers at the public language school), that we dont want to work, that we are less intelligent (sounding smart in a second language is difficult). I am also spanish so I must be lazy, always late, loud and not reliable. Xenophobia is a huge problem in this regoin of Belgium.
I am also disabled. So a lot the stereotypes mix. Now I can't work or I cant go to school. So now i am the "proof" that all migrants are lazy f***s who dont want to work or integrate. I am also not really ill in the eyes of people. I just need to exercise and be more positive.
I am also white. This means that my struggles are very often dismissed. I have been told by the anti discrimination department that xenophobia is not a thing, that they only persecute racism, religious intolerance, homophobia... As soon as I am white and an atheist anybody can treat me as badly as they want and its fine. I had two public employees yelling at me for making a mistake in their language. One of them took my ID and refused to give it back for a long time and did not fix my bus pass (ironically I had it for the language classes). A social worker that threatebed me with deportation for asking help about my disabilities. A bus driver that woukdnt open the door for 4 bus stops because he was pissed at me for my bad flemish (I just arrived to the country). Two doctors refusing to attend me. Two dog trainers refusing to let me work with them. If I was of another etnicity I would have a legal case against all of them. But since I am a white migrant nobody cares.
The number of times the 'pick-me girl pretending to be bisexual' stereotype has been used on me by random dudes on dating apps is more than I can count. Example: (the fact that I am bi is in my bio) Dude: hey I saw u were bi! Me: yep! Dude: are you sure? Me: yeah? Dude: this d*** can fix that 😎 *sends nude pic*
I usually unmatch them but it drives me crazy, especially because bisexual means that I like both men and women so if he didn't say that I might have given him a shot, and random d***s can trigger my PTSD and give me panic attacks (which lead to asthma attacks which are even worse). I actually ended up deleting all of the apps because it was getting so bad. Why are bi people always seen as faking?
I am a woman and I am successful in my career and bosses respect me because they trust my expertise and like how I do my job. So to men I must be the CEO’s niece, or have deep connections, or I am just a suck up, or anything that excuses my success and their lazy entitled asses getting nowhere. And I am
not the only woman they talk down to no matter how much better at her job she actually is. Sorry, boys, you need to work hard in order to get places, it doesn’t just magically happens just because you feel special and entitled.
I’m missing a few teeth near the back of my mouth on both sides. People assume I’m either a drug addict or I don’t brush my teeth. The truth is I was never taken to the dentist as a kid, I have a genetic condition that makes them weak and a few were knocked out by an abusive ex. The work that needs to be done is way outside of my budget as a single woman, even with dental insurance (yearly limits are pathetically low). Needless to say I get really tired of always hearing, “You should smile more”. Believe me, I’d love to be able to! I’d love to not have the constant reminder of the things my ex did to me.
Got called that once by someone created by a Boomer.
My parents were called the "Greatest Generation," they just smiled at that, happy to pay the rent, buy some beer, forget Omaha beach.
My Grandparents were called the "Lost Generation," they just smiled at that, happy after a long boat ride they saw the Statue of Liberty from the NY Harbor waves.
I'm almost 70, I'm called a "Boomer," I smile at that, pay the rent, buy some beer, and remember the moment I saw on an old B/W TV a black man say, "I Have a Dream..."
Yeah, I'm OK with...Boomer.
I'm fat not lazy. Working 70 hours a week in healthcare leaves no time for cooking or the gym.
That because I'm Bi, I'm just confused. That because I would be open to an open relationship, I sleep around and cheat
Apparently, because of my outward appearance, I am privileged. When in actuality, my whole life has been quite traumatic, with moments of severe degradation. Sorry to have to be contrary
Straight white male. The stereotype entails a whole plethora of things that are assumed about me, from my tastes, to what these tastes say about my identity. Sometimes I feel guilty for the things that are assumed, even though I've never lived in a colonist-imperialistic country, and most of the things that belong to the stereotype don't apply to me.
The quiet kid/art kid. people legitimately think I have a hit list.
As a person in my 60's, I am associated with technological illiteracy. I have learned and used at least 28 different software programs for work (gig economy) and school in the past 20 years and I do NOT need a Grandpad or Jitterbug, thank you very much. Just give me a job, instead of deleting my application the second you see what year I first graduated from college. I have not been able to get a real job since my last company went out of business in 2003. Even got another graduate degree, first in my class and was not even offered any interviews. You younger guys will be SHOCKED when you get old and discover how blatant and alienating age discrimination is. I know I was. We are not all rich and conservative; we are not all ANY ONE THING. Those of us who are not wealthy are almost non-persons in this culture.
I’m an Asian woman. People assume I can’t drive or park my car properly.
My brother is mentally disabled. When I was a teenager and told new people about this everyone was like "Oh, I'm sorry to hear" or something.
Luckily this changed when I got older but in this days it was kinda annoying.
Dude, we're not living in constant grief bc off my brother.
Off course things have been hard for my parents, especially in the earlier days when I was to young to remember.
But we all got along with it somehow.
Yes, our family is a little different, but lots of familys are.
I had a great childhood and I love my brother with all my heart. He liked (and likes) to laugh, to help doing chores and lot more.
Disability does not mean unhappiness.
I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, the diagnosis fits but I'm a quiet person that works out her "issues" on herself. I'm also a rape survivor but I've been told by multiple professions that borderliner can't be trusted as a witness. Or that they can't take me on as a patient because we are all too unreliable (took me almost two years to find a therapist, almost 50 kilometers away). My "condition" makes me impossible as a romantic partner or a friend, even though we've never met. Got a single room in a hospital free of charge though (for a surgical procedure) because the admitting nurse was afraid I'd attack and straight up murder a roommate, because when you google "famous people with bpd" serial killers and Adolf Hitler pop up. I swear I'm neither one of them.
I live in the "bible belt" in the US, I must want your unsolicited religious talk.
Or I live in the US, I must be one of those idiotic anti vaxxer, anti masker, trump loving, gun loving, war loving, radical patriotic, intolerant of other cultures American asshole.
I have ADHD, autism, anxiety, am part of the LGBTQ+ community, am a religious minority, am a "gifted kid" and cry easily. People stereotype me as a "special little snowflake". It makes me uncomfortable to have people talk down to me as if I'm in kindergarten. It's so stupid that people think that "Oh-one wrong step and they'll start crying!"
Because I'm overweight, I must be stupid and lazy.
Because I'm a woman, I have to like feminine things.
If I don't want to go out, it's because I'm anti-social.
I'm overweight and have been since my son was born. I've had a hard time dieting because the stress of taking care of a child occupies all my time and attention.
I don't like feminine things because they take too long, like doing make up and hair. Feminine clothes don't look pretty when they are all stained up with sweat and food from trying to get a picky autistic person to eat something, bathe and not trash the house. I'd rather wear T-shirts and leggings because they are more durable.
I don't go out, not because I'm anti-social but because I don't like going out without my husband. Neither of us had a vacation from our son for the first 17 years of his life. And, since I don't get peace and quiet too often, I cherish it when I have it. I don't get that going out with friends. I'd rather stay in for a quiet evening of playing games or watching TV.
Female in I.T. My last job, I can’t tell you how many times I got treated as the team secretary. Had one manager who actively shoved me out of the group because he felt my skills were better suited to administration - I had been an applications developer for 6 years at that point, and he’d never once looked at a piece of code I’d written. Had fun shocking him a couple years later when I got to design a process from the ground up.
I’ve also had comments about being the “token female” on a team, and “oh, can’t hire another woman - you two might fight!” Plus the fine line of dressing “too girly” or “too butch”. Interviewing for a new job was heeeeeellllllll, but I finally found a company that had a nice balance (fairly even on genders, good mix of cultures, and very encouraging to all employees).
ADHD. I have it and I never tell people because they think it's like "oh look a butterfly!"
I am Muslim. You can imagine the list that can be written. I am also white which, the sad truth is, enables me to get by easier than Muslims of darker skin tones. Think airports, etc.
No blowback about this please! I’m old now, just turned 65 yesterday, but when I was a young woman I was beautiful. Long auburn hair, blue-green eyes and a nice figure paired with a pretty face. Throughout high school girls were always accusing me of trying to steal their boyfriends if I even said hello. This went on through college and then throughout my life, even after I had married. I witnessed huge fights over me that I had nothing to do with! Men followed me into the ladies room and if I complained about their behavior at work then I was fired. I was definitely a “man’s woman.” I could talk sports, cars, guns etc with men and hold my own in any conversation. This made it harder to make and keep female friends. Even my own mother, who was divorced and dating, accused me of trying to lure her “comb over crew” away from her. 🙄. Did I have a date every weekend? Nope! All the guys assumed that I already must of had a date. I was read that being born beautiful is like being born rich…and getting poorer every day. Truth.
Everyone assumes because I am open about being lgbtq+ that Im doing it for attention and its annoying
Also this one is a story bout an ass hole from my primary school who was horrid to one of my friends
Right so I had this friend and she had anxiety and depression and he said she self harmed for attention and said that she had panic attacks for attention. Then came the homophobic stuff, he siad she came out for attention and was rasist to her sometimes. I absolutely hated him. He said she talked about her period for attention when really she was asking me not to tell any of the teachers about her taking paracetamol for the pain and cramps. He then drew the last straw by saying she was half Asian for attention. Everyone was choosing sides at this point and there was loads of gossip and a hell of a lot of fights. This is the same boy who weeks later told me I self harmed for attention... He doesn't get any kindness from me as you might guess
I am completely slung down (tattoos) they are all colorful and extremely tasteful. None on my hands or face (not that that matters) Every single time I go to a doctor or the ER I get labeled or accused of being a drug seeker. The funny thing is I've never done drugs and I work Law Enforcement. So every time this happens I get extremely angry. I also get followed in stores all the time as if I'm going to steal everything that is not nailed down. I usually like to have a pretty woman moment and go to their competitor or a more expensive store and spend what I would've spent in their store, and then go back and "browse" with my bags from the other stores and when they ask if I need help, tell them "Well I was gonna buy (insert expensive item here) but I found it at (insert competitor /other store) and they didn't follow me like a bunch of assholes and then watch them get all awkward and sad looking.
I have to know Kung fu, how to use chop sticks, only eat rice, watch chinese movies. I do none of that.
I'm vegan....(please see comments as BP wont let me add more than 2 lines here)
I have an OCD. And when I tell it to someone, their answer is in 99,9 %: "Oh, that's great, you have everything sorted by color?" (or some other criterion)
Well, yes, I do, among other things, but otherwise OCD is not fun.
That I can’t like dragons, blue, cars and fossils. And also not to have short hair. Well guess what, I have a small museum, shaved my hair, am obsessed with dragons and have a car collection. Just simply not true that us girls can’t enjoy these things simply because we are the opposite gender to male.
As soon as I tell most people that I'm Nigerian, they assume that I'm a scammer. I've been taking Spanish classes online and trying to be friends with Spanish people to better understand the language.
'You're Nigerian? Okay.' And they're gone.
Honestly, I don't want any money from you. I just want to learn, connect and make friends.
I'm pan, so people think that I want to date frying pans >:(
I'm short and suspected to have autism and/or ADHD.
People use infantilism on me and it drives me insane, people will always go "awww" and talk down to me.
my parents happen to be on the wealthier side, white people with a large home. as much as i shouldn't complain, the amount of times i've been asked "hey, can you buy me a phone for my birthday? i know you can afford it" or something like that is grating. i have awful anxiety and i always am afraid that everyone thinks of me as the classic rich, blonde, bitchy person that i try my hardest to separate myself from. and a little note to anyone who tries to antagonize kids that grow up like this: don't. they have no control over their circumstances, good or bad. i spent years and years HATING my life because i was convinced i didn't deserve it. don't give kids s**t for things that are out of their control
I wear a pentacle. No I'm not a satanist. I don't worship the devil. The devil is a christian/jewish/islamic diety - not one of mine.
I’m a natural redhead…. but I don’t have a crazy temper, I’m not a witch, and I haven’t stolen any souls!
INVISIBLE is what you become when you look old!!!
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO PANS.
i am bisexual so if course I've had a couple of Karens tell me that i can't like more then one gender and that i should make up my mind and choose one already. The stereotype that we are just confused is utter bull.
Just because i'm asexual doesn't mean i like garlic bread. I do like garlic bread, but not because i'm ace.
I'm a middle-aged, white lesbian from Alabama. I think the various Karen, Becky, Ellen, and Emmylou jokes are hilarious, though. I'll just steal your girlfriend on my way to speak to your manager about how you won't let me fly my Confederate flag at the tent revival. Yeehaw!
I am comfortable speaking in front of crowds, and good at my job. This can lead people to belive I never doubt myself or feel bad about my self/my abilities. But I do! All the time!
The gays one. Because i'm gay, i'm supposed to go to pride events, or gay places, have a lot of sex, be sassy and funny, go shoping with the gurlzzz, go in night club dancig my A** of etc etc. But i'm the opposite. Introvert, happy with my books and games and never went to a pride event. I get a lot of "you don't seem gay" (wich is a prety rude comment).
I'm blonde just guess (hint im really good at math)
I have a twin and I'm currently one of the newer kids at school, so people get us mixed up, and they often mistake us for being the same person. I also tend to be quiet so almost no one knows who I am, but a lot of people know who my sister is because she is a fun person to be around. so I feel like I live in her shadow
I am a white male in South Africa so I have to be a racist, sexist with a fragile ego and lots of insecurities...
Yes these are comments we hear almost every day
I’m a communist apparently.I’m half Russian and my grandparents left due to the horrible state of the country.stop saying I’m a Russian spy!
I'm gay and trans
There are lots of stereotypes there
The people who know about me being trans ask me when I'm going to start testosterone but they don't understand that I have no interest in getting facial hair or a deeper voice and all that stuff, I want to be androgynous, not masculine, even though I prefer he/him pronouns
Pretty much anyone I've ever talked to knows I'm some type of gay and that means a lot of stereotypes, they'll say:
- "do you hate homophobes" (no. i'm clingy and lots of my old friendgroup and people at my church are homophobic and i still am painfully in love with all of them lmao)
- "im sorry you're broken" (i'm not broken. I'm asexual, it's a valid sexuality. Just because I don't feel any sexual attraction and i don't see the big deal about sex doesn't mean i'm broken?)
there are a lot more but it took me too long to type all of that and i gotta go to school so imma end it there
Gay gay, vaguely masculine and straight acting. Apparently I’m weird because I’ve never tried on women’s clothes, don’t use makeup, hate music by Abba/Queen/Steps/Cher/Kylie and want to crawl into a hole when songs like “It’s Raining Men” and “YMCA” start playing.
Instead, I like beer, gaming and adventure sports. As well as theatre, cooking and travel.
I do not find camp/effeminate guys in any way attractive - I like MEN. And I find young guys wanting to call me “Daddy” creepy as f**k. I’m not yet 40, you little weirdo!
I'm a Russian-American woman who spent a lot of time between both countries.
People make all kinds of offensive assumptions, but it usually goes only one way - Americans negatively stereotyping my Russian culture, as opposed to Russians negatively stereotyping my American culture.
On top of this, I'm blonde and curvy but thin, which leads to a lot of sexual comments which people feel are appropriate. For example - I get asked all the time if I am a spy, and when I joke that I'd be the worst spy ever the next line is - "Oh okay, trophy / mail-in bride then?" I've had several MUCH older men (think 60s) suggestively tell me that they love Russian women and that their ex-wives were Russian. I also get asked a lot of stupid questions, like: "Why did YOU attack Ukraine? You should get your troops out of there." Okay. Sure. I personally will remove my troops.
And of course I get people calling me a communist - my great grandfather was murdered by communists trying to hide a woman who was escaping, but alright. Or people asking me if I love drinking, when drinking is a sore subject for my friends and family due to lives lost from other people drunk driving.
Russia is such a beautiful country full of truly amazing people and I just wish people would take the time to learn about our history and our traditions rather than reducing it all to vodka and Putin jokes. Don't get me wrong - I don't mind the occasional joke and will happily be the bartender at parties, or banter with you on politics - it's just that people know very little about my home country beyond stereotypes.
I have very severe ADHD. People don't seem to believe it's a real disability. And people get angry with me because I can't magically sit down and be productive on something I'm supposed to do, the way other people can. People judge me for having trouble being on time, making small mistakes or clarical errors, working a lot slower than other people. People think that because I am a good conversationalist and that I'm reasonably intelligent, that I can't possibly have a learning disability. I hate when people talk about medicating kids with ADHD as of "parents are just drugging normal active children because they don't want to deal with them." Like if you met an ADHD kid you can tell right away there's something different about them. I hate when people talk about prescription amphetamines as if it's the same thing as meth or a spooky scary street drug. I'm tired of thinking that my struggles aren't real.
I'm also tired of people talking about ADHD as if it's a disease. It's not an I'll was. It's literally how my brain is genetically programmed to be, and outside the context of our fast paced modern world, ADHD isn't always a disability at all. Because of my ADHD I experience the world in a much brighter and more exciting way than other people, I'm creative, intelligent, and can make insights and find connections in ways other people can't. It is not an illness. It's an integral part of who I am as a person, despite the difficulties that come with it. I hate when people talk about it as if it must come from mother's neglecting their health during pregnancy, or it's some disease brought on by pollution.
So it really pisses me off when people say things like "you are more than your ADHD" or "it doesn't define you.". Sorry. All aspects of who I am define me and you cannot be "more than" something that you are. I know this language is supposed to be encouraging but what it really says is "this part of you that makes you who you are is just one little bug, not a feature. We love you but we can agree to hate and dismiss an important aspect of your personality and identity.". It's a nasty back handed compliment.
What really pisses me off is listening to parents of AFHD kids complaining about how their kids are messy and disorganized and irresponsible and insubordinate and whatever other insult we ADHDers hear all the time. I hate when they b*tch and moan about their kids drive them up the wall, and how raising ADHD kids is such a heavy and terrible burden and "why me god?"
ADHDers hear are entire lives over and over again how we are burdens who are unpleasant to be around and often this bullying comes first from our parents. I promise you Karen, being a person with ADHD is way harder than raising a kid with it. At least you get to put the ADHD away when your kid is at school or sleeping. But we have to deal with it all the time. Sorry you didn't get the kid you wanted but you agreed "no returns" when you took that baby home from the hospital.
Sorry. That was a rant. But it just is so tiring and hurtful to hear these things over and over again.
mines not to bad, but i'm a nerd. book nerd, musical nerd, orchestra nerd. i also get pretty high scores on my tests (even before we moved) but people don't mess with me because they know that i can probably knock them out with one of the books i carry around (seriously the last one i read was 845 pages) or kill them with my cello.
I am a middle-aged white Canadian woman. I hate that people assume that because I am a white Canadian that I must have a university education, a car and a house. I was raised working poor. My parents are Canadian but were also rained working poor. We lived pay cheque to pay cheque. I still live this way and have a high school education. I cannot and never could afford a car or a home.
I am looked down on because of this. People think I am a lazy looser. I have always worked but am working poor. There are MANY people ( especially women) who live this way.
Quiet, shy girl. People think I don't want to be friends with them or that I hate them. I don't, I just have really bad anxiety around people
That all autistic people are stupid and I have autism and I find it very very very aggravating to those on the autism spectrum!
People assume that because my face and body are aesthetically pleasing I must not be intelligent. I have been talked down to because I have been thought to be "pretty" since I was a teen, but ironically, I was picked on relentlessly as a child. Like, horrifically bullied. I'm actually a giant know it all because of this and have a MA in Russian and East European studies, speak 3 languages, and had a career in banking for over 20 years. I literally read all the time and consume knowledge as a past time. Think I'm some cute dumb broad who doesn't know about being 4 squared to buy a car? Think again. I feel like I have to always be extra prepared because people assume I'm an idiot based on my looks.
Car sales. I work for a new car dealer, and everyone thinks all of us are shady vultures. Yes, there are some like that, just like there are shady people everywhere. In fact, most new dealers have a lot of training, and the manufacturers have survey's that rate dealers, both sales and service. If the surveys stink, national will be having convos with that dealership, and might even pull it. The dirty little secret is that we want to sell you a car, and we WANT you to be happy, because then we get repeat business and referrals. Yes, we will apply some pressure, subtle and not, we'll use selling skills of persuasion. Just like happens in other businesses. We want to help you. That's why you're there. Let us help you. This isn't the 70's, most are good people.
I’m half French, and people made a lot of jokes like “oui oui baguette frog legs I surrender” but I’ve stopped being bothered by it and now I find them pretty funny.
Being rude & bad at my customer service job because I'm introverted and prefer reading on lunch
I have literally no idea why but I guess I look like a popular girl and therefore everyone thinks I am one and that I'm dating someone, and neither is true in any way.
Trans-woman attracted to women...
I'm vegan, don't wear make-up except for special occasions, ride a motorcycle, am super liberal/socialist, and build bikes and work on cars for fun. I am uninspired on interior decorating, and am obsessed with practicality.
I do carpentry pretty well.
I love sewing, but mostly so I can make sure all my dresses have pockets.
I have more than one pair of English Doc Marten style shoes.
Obsessed with graphic novels.
Can't work myself up to a side-shave, tho.
I'm a natural bright redhead;
Red hairgirl,carrot top, RED, are names I am referred to daily
That depressed people are not accepted in my society. it's all brushed under the carpet, hidden
when i was like 8 years old me and my family had moved in to a new house it was not the best but it worked (mostly). me and my friend were playing in the back yard and then our racist neighbor who was an old lady sent her dog at us and we ran back to the stairs and she said "if you filthy immigrants get close to my yard again i wont stop the dog next time" it was a terrifying experience for me because i was born in the united states and this would be my first experience with racism and it was not the last.
As a white male, people sometimes assume that I am either oblivious to the privilege that gives me, or that I am hostile to people who not white and male. It extends to being on the hook for anything that white men have done in past 500 years (being the focus of anger as the only white person in a Native American studies class for example). I know - "Boo Hoo" and that these are trivial against all of the BS I don't have to deal with by not being another race or gender, but it is frequent and has become much more so in the last 20 years.
I'm in the age group where I could now be a Karen. Never on my worst day would I treat people the way Karen's do. Who knew there were so many outraged women of a certain age? I think there should be a category called "Not Karen" showing good interactions instead of those infantile tantrums.
I’m covered in tattoos (I’m a tattooist so it goes with the job), scrawny and I wear second hand men’s clothes and no makeup. So, naturally, I have to be either a castrating dyke, a lazy, up to no good welfare recipient or a drug addict. The dyke thing is funny and can be quite useful since I am rarely harassed by would be suitors who find me a bit too scary to their liking and probably not sexy enough. But the other things are infuriating. I’ve worked hard all my life and never was on welfare, ever. And I never did drugs either. But people judge me and put me in a corner without knowing me, just because of the way I look. Because of that I always try not to judge people myself too quickly, it’s easily done and can hurt more than a reputation
I quite enjoy the looks on people's faces when I explain that despite owning several firearms, I'm not the racist, homophobic, misogynist, xenophobic, Trump supporter they expected. Most folks are pleasantly surprised, some are disappointed.
Apparently, I'm a health nut because I'm a Vegetarian (and have been since my childhood). I also happen to be interested in nutrition and I do daily exercise. It's too much for some people. Apart from the jokes, they assume that I only eat organic, shop at expensive health stores and, worse, that I don't allow my child to have something sweet. Heard that a few times. It hurts.
A Pole is a thief. Well when we entered to EU a lot of folks whitout perspective in Poland starts searching luck in western countries. Ant most of them were not the brightest gems of our society. When I was in my early 20 I work in Netherlands during Summer, between semesters at the Uni. There was a plate in every single supermarket in the area, in Polish, that every theft will be punish by €200 fee, No matter how valuable stolen thing was. So during Shopping we spoke to each other in english, because we were so embarrassed about people watching us constantly.
Since I haven’t come out as bisexual yet, my family just assumes that I only like boys. “You got a boyfriend yet?” or “Now you stay away from those yucky boys, you here?” and I’m just like bUt wHaT iF i LiKe gIrLs???
I'm LGBTQ+, EVERYONE assumes I'm straight and cis, cuz I "look normal" even though I have said stuff like my preferred pronouns and preferred name. I just get ignored.
pick me bitch.
I hate it.
short people sometimes put too much effort into getting attention because they feel like they'll go unnoticed
its called the napoleon complex.
I hate being called a pick me.
its horrible. everyone thinks I'm such a prude and s**t. I'm not! and then when I try to be less of a prude everyone calls me a hoe?
its hella f****d up and I pay thousands of dollars year for therapy because of it.
I can be two stereotypes. 1. Shy girl. I can get loud sometimes I guess but most of the time I’m that shy girl drawing in the corner internally pleading you to talk to me. 2. Dark humor and inappropriate jokes all day, making you question what happened to me shyly shoving my face into my book/clipboard and how 30 minutes later I’m talking about how my Pinterest is filled with 2013 cat memes. Well, I also have a sort of stereotypical friend, too. Energetic, super loud. Childish. The kind of friend you probably wouldn’t make nowadays but since you’ve known each other for so long it kinda just works.
As someone who is bisexual I get stereotyped by “not looking gay enough” and also people think I’m just “confused” even in my own LGBTQ+ community
I am left handed. It's silly questions I get. Have you always been left handed and how do you write like that? It's not offensive, just dumb.
Infuriates me that ignorant foreigners assume that because I am a Caucasian South African, I must automatically be a racist.
I'm a Christian so I do not understand basic concepts of science. Oh, and mind is as narrow as the eye of a needle.
I identify as bi-gendered, bi-sexual, and non monogamous. I'm physically female and in a committed monogamous relationship with a man, that is all people see. It's particularly challenging as a manager, female and male managers are held to different standards and treated differently by employees, employers, and the public.
I'm bisexual and people think im pan or omni cuz I like more than just boys and girls
I eat bonjella and people assume I’m a dentist. I’m not. I’m a part time plumber come zoo keeper.
That god doesnt love the lgbtq me and my family are christians and i recently came out as trans to myself. Fun.. so im kinda stuck in this stereotype of where ill go to hell or something because of who i am. Cant wait to move out.
(Just a fyi. My parents are awesome and i wouldnt change anything.)
I have naturally blonde hair and blue eyes. I enjoy fashion and makeup. A lot of people (including my family) have roped me into this stereotype. What people don’t see is that I am a Demi girl and lesbian. I enjoy art and personally hate the color pink. I just really hate that stereotype of girls.
I am Muslim and wear a hijab and niqab (wrap my scarves around to cover my face except eyes). People always assume I cannot speak English, I don't know anything about America, and I have a different home country. I chose to become Muslim, so I grew up Christian, doing all the same things as most Americans. My grandparents are all German, so I am as far from Arab as possible. I know what everything is. I grew up watching the same cartoons as you, I have children just like you, I am just as American as you. Even if I wasn't I don't deserve the stares, disgust, comments, trickery, etc that you give me whether I am in my home or outside. Sometimes the most painful is the actions by people you considered friends or family.
It hasn't changed my views on people, but I do have to be more careful in trusting people (a family memeber tried to feed me pork and lied saying it wasn't even though others told me it was).
Oh my so many. #1. That because my parents are well off means i have no issues and live a perfect life --- hell no, i am the least favourite child, as a matter of fact I'm not even sure I'm favoured, i dont get regular meals and when i do it barely fills me, i dont get any extra lessons etc for help with school because i "dont deserve it", went through highschool where almost all assignments had to be digital and to this day have not gotten a computer (got one for a short period of time .. which was way too late to make a difference... and it was taken away from me) didnt get a phone until 17 even though.... again.... everything was almost always digital. no i dont constantly get new clothes, no i dont go out, no i dont get extra help with anything. i cook, clean, and take care of childcare for younger sibling. get treated like crap... ... .... i have all sorts of medical issues that dont even get a glance from my parents. just because i put on a brave face and come out means my life is perfect and that immediately gives u the go ahead to disregard my call for help or complains. #2 That i am going into business studies because i take after my father and his way. No. I am majoring in Marketing and Management because i have been forced into it. i have no choice in what i do. its what my parents say i do.
#3 that i am thin because i choose not to eat alot. ..... i lost alot of weight due to domestic stress and abuse when i was 14 and since then i havent passed 85lbs. sometimes i might reach around 90lbs but as fast as it gets there it goess down back. i am not being fed in my house, when i do get food the portion sizes are so small , its basically what i got when i was around 9. i've learnt to make it work. i cant help it because i dont have an allowance and i am not allowed out the house.
#4 that i wear glasses because i cant see - i wear glasses that help when im out in the sun. i hate when people feel its ok to grab my glasses off my face and wave infront my face like a maniac to see if i can see. DONT GRAB PEOPLE'S GLASSES!!
#5 that i love to yell at people and im super mean - no i am not. if you behave like an idiot and treat me like crap i will first off all ask you to stop nicely .... if not i will ask not so nicely. if i react badly to something you did its probably because you did something bad. i am not much of a confrontational person but if you go overboard i wont let it slide so easily. #6 that im not a feminist because i like pink and have a boyfriend. the logic behind that amazes me. I am not with my SO because he controls me or provides for me. i am with him because i love him and see a future with him. he does not put me down but empowers me to be an amazing woman and push forward i like pink because i like pink. how does that invalidate me being a feminist. I'll quote Amanda Lovelace on this “here is nothing unfeminist about the girl who chooses the ball gown & the prince. there is everything unfeminist about those who try to shame her for her choices.” ...........
#7 that the reason i did not become valedictorian for my for my highschool back when i wrote exams was because i had a boyfriend - - no way!..the reason i didnt do my best is because i was suicidal for my 2 final years, i had zero extra lessons , i was not the teacher's favourite, i was going though alot of abuse at home, my boyfriend who they all blamed is the reason i am still alive, he saved me from myself, i used his computer to complete 80% of my assignments and material, he was the one who had extra lessons and came back to school and thought me, thus why i passed maths and IT, he was the one who helped with everything and pushed me to study, he was the one who learnt my subjects , eventhough he didnt do them, just for me to pass.
I was a homeschooler growing up and I loved being homeschooled, but when I was about 13 or so I noticed that there were stereotypes associated with not going to public school. It wasn't too obvious but I had noticed that they subconsciously assumed that I was:
a. not as intelligent as they were
b. sheltered and lived under a rock.
I HATED a lot of the stereotypes that came with that, although they are starting to change. :)
I was born in Austria and when my family moved to NZ when I was a toddler, I had to learn English quickly.
I watched lots of American TV shows and ended up developing the accent.
I have been asked by about 98% I've met since I was 5 questions like "What state are you from?", "Are you American/Canadian?", "Do you know my friends from America?", "You are so quiet for an American!", "Wow, you are so smart for an American!". Please know, these are the FIRST things strangers say to me when they say hello to me...
Because of my voice, I have had people immediately assume I am a loud, lazy, selfish and stupid American just because they heard me say "Hello" with my accent (Sorry Americans but this is what most countries think of Americans...)
I (14F) have been called a nerd my whole life. I used to wear glasses purely for the fashion because I thought they looked good (weird i know) and I've always been a quick learner. I was labelled as 'gifted' from a young age due to my learning capabilities. In year 2, I was placed alone in my own spelling group, and remained the only one in it right up until year 5. I have never been physically attractive, and probably never will. I have never left school extension programs. I was bullied every year of primary school other than prep. I enjoy reading, and I'm writing a book.
HOWEVER. I do not have it easy in school. I might be a quick learner, but that means I entered high school with zero study school, and I am affected more than others by failure. Everyone has high expectations for me that I have to meet. And my school guidance counsellor suspects my intelligence stems from high-functioning autism, paired with moderately severe anxiety. It also means that people don't like it when I express myself artistically, saying that I 'shouldn't waste my intellect'. It's basically been enforced that I have to go to university to study, even though I want to be a graphic designer, and art school would be the only form of Uni I really want to do.
My intelligence also sets me apart from others, and ever since prep kids didn't want to be around me because I have always liked rules and tend to overcomplicate games and fun activities. It's only this year that I finally found friends.
So, to all the people out there that wish they were naturally smart - believe me, you really want to be careful what you wish for.