Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Need Advice On? (Closed)

I would advise to not go with any of them. From reading what you said, they seem like perverts, at least the one who tried to kiss you. Maybe get the other ones phone number, and talk for a little bit. If you dont feel comfortable, definitely refuse. If they keep asking, or bugging you, tell someone of block them. But if I were you, I wouldn’t go out with them

I am a boy, I could maybe help. If you don't want me here to listen that's fine

I think to end a friendship, you should just try to tell her how you feel. And if she talks over you, talk louder. If she gets mad, maybe just walk away. For the girl thing, maybe ask a different friend to tell her that you like her, and to ask her if she likes you back. And if it fails, deny it ever happened and say that it was the other friend probably pulling a prank. I’m sorry if none of it’s helpful

What kind of friendship would you want to end? And what kind of problem are you having with girls?

Start a fight over something stupid like their flavour of crisps lol their break up with you 100 %

If your brother knowns your crush, pretend to have a crush on some made up person. Also, get some secrets about your brother.

I have a lot of trouble falling asleep too because of my anxiety. What's been working for me is putting on the radio as I fall asleep at a volume low enough so I can just hear it. My brain just thinks about the current song, and it distracts me from everything else. Also, for your brother, I'd say just pretend you don't like them anymore, and eventually he'll stop believing that you like them.

just go for it and if you can't say it just send a text like - hi mum I'm gay, if she annoues you tell your friend and move in with her, OK don't move out but just fight back and say what's on the top of your mind! You go girl! X

Tell someone that you can trust to keep a secret, or to help you yell your mom. Also, do you know that your mom would have a negative reaction, or are you imagining the worst?

Guy here. I was once asked to a friend's homecoming during a band rehearsal break. They asked me straight up: "Hey [my name], do you want to go to homecoming with me? We usually never hang outside of rehearsals haha it'll be fun!" I actually initially declined, then after more consideration actually accepted. We did have fun that night. Now that friend of mine is going into the U.S. military and I'm a music therapy student, but we still keep in touch. So yes, be confident and be straightforward and you'll be all right.

I could not help you in that department

I found my two passions (acting and singing) when I watched the TV show Shadowhunters, and at the time I had very very bad stage fright and I watched the show and thought "Hey, look at these epic people pretending to be epic demon slayers and looking epic doing it. If they can do it, I can do it." and i tried and i LOVED it. and then I learned about the Beetlejuice musical and started listening to the music and it's so fun to sing, even if I don't sound good, I enjoy it. So that's how I found mine.

First of all, there’s no rush. People shouldn’t pressure you into finding something you love. You should try some new things. Do things you’ve never done before. I really want to be an actor, and I didn’t really know that until about two years ago. I dunno if you would call it my passion though. Again, there’s no rush. You’ll find it eventually

I started piano at age 5. There were times when I felt frustrated with practicing and whatnot, but I continued on. I'm now in college studying music therapy, which I discovered from a friend of mine who was our high school's percussion coach during several marching band seasons. I also happen to play French horn. For music therapy, I'm learning guitar, voice and percussion.So sometimes talking to other folks could spark your interest, and some observations in the field too can also help.

I can't have serious conversations with people because I can't concentrate and I'll start playing with my pen or picking my scabs I know it's disgusting but it's a habit when Im scared any advice?

No. I really don't like meaning full conversations it makes me stress out

I can't fall asleep, I feel like there is something around d every corner. I dont answer texts because I don't know what I should say. I don't talk in class. I have panic attacks sometimes too.

What specifically about anxiety? Like, anxiety attacks, or something else?

this might not help it go away, but it might help you think about your anxiety in a more logical way. try making an "anxiety hierarchy." basically you draw a triangle, and split it into five sections, 1 at the bottom, five being the top. at the bottom of the triangle, list things that give you little to no anxiety, 2 being things that bring a little anxiety, so on and so on, until you get to five, which are the things that bring very extreme anxiety/panic attacks. so then when you're experiencing the anxiety, you can think about how severe it is, which will hopefully help you figure out what you need to do to calm the anxiety. this may or may not help you, but it helps me. best wishes! :)

Imma be honest, I kinda flounder on this subject. But I think if he stares at you a lot, or talks a lot to you, or things like that, then maybe

Well if they talk to you a lot theres a chance they like you. What about boys specifically? How to get someone to like you, be confident. Lots of people find that attractive.

If it's obviously on purpose then that is definitely a toxic friendship and you need to get out of it. I knew a couple friends who hurt me a lot and I am so glad I don't talk to them anymore.

Tell her that she is being toxic and tell her to stop. If she doesn't stop, you need to get out of your friendship.

Well...you should tell her to stop and stick up for yourself

I went throught the same thing. I would tell them that it hurts you, and if they don't stop, find another friend

Okay I'm going to try to address everything separately. 1) For the eating thing, I do that too so I'm about to be the biggest hypocrite here, but not eating for days is really unhealthy. Unless you are SERIOUSLY overweight, don't judge yourself based on the number on the scale. Try working out and convert some of the fat mass to muscle mass. 2) Oh dang, I'm not sure how to help with that. Just know I and many other people support you and wish you luck on getting over it. I believe in you. 3) If you and your ex are meant to be, you'll end up together eventually. If they don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore, they're not the one, and you'll find someone who IS the one eventually. Don't worry about it now, if you're too young to legally move out, then you have plenty of time to figure it out. Relax for now. 4) If it's that bad, maybe try to get a relative to help you be allowed to move out. Call someone about it. I'm not sure, I'm sorry.

Don't stop eating, I didn't eat lunch one day, passed out, hit my head on concrete, cut open my eyebrow and an ambulance came, I went to the hospital to get it glued. Lesson learned, don't skip meals :)

You can ask to go to court and be adopted or you can press charges in court to be given a council house

It's different for everyone, but what I've found helps is giving them a hug, ask them if they want to talk about whatever they're stressed/anxious about, if they don't, don't pressure them into talking, ask them what they want to do, show them you are willing to do lots of things to make them feel better, when they see you care about them they'll most likely be in a better mood

It really depends on the person. Like, I hate being touched except by certain people, versus one of my friends loves hugs and stuff. It also depends on why they’re sad or something. Maybe watch a movie with them, or something (lot of the word something, I’m sorry). I wouldn’t ask them about it if it’s something big, it may just make them sadder. Sorry if none of this is helpful

I get what you mean. I feel the same, I don't think of myself as a boy, but I don't think of myself as a girl either. I haven't told my parents because I don't want them to get emotional like they did when I came out as lesbian, but if you feel like they'd support you and you are okay with them knowing, then I personally would just tell them, just say, "I'm non-binary." and see how they react. Of course, you don't have to come out right now, you can wait if you'd like. That's what I'm doing

Tell them however you think would be best. I would probably write a note because talking can be hard.

well try and find some new friends! And if you can try and find other ways to contact them

So do you know where they live, or are they like just online friends? If you know where they live you could go ask if it’s not to far. If they’re just online friends, then I don’t know, I’m sorry.

My family had a si.ilar problem, but with groundhogs/woodchuck getting in the garden. There are these fences that you can put underground, so that might work for you.

Do you mean like from scratch or from a package?

I usually try to breathe slowly and find out what I might be anxious about. If I realize what I'm anxious about, it usually make it better.

Breath. Maybe ask to go to the bathroom, get water. Whenever I’m anxious/sad/angry etc, I rip up paper for some reason. Maybe try that? I’m sorry if non of this is helpful

Look around and name things you can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste. Helps me.