We all need to vent sometimes. Life can be hard, and that's okay. What's important is getting through it. Don't just survive- thrive! Sometimes we need to talk to people about it. After all, we're only human. What's on your mind? What do you wish you could say to someone's face? Is there something that's been nagging you all day?
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OK, probably a bit trivial, but what is happening with Bored Panda lately... When I first joined, mainly to help with my sense of isolation and it seemed to be a fun, safe site... ( not an internet native so social media is a bit scary for me.. ). It used to be cool! full of funny memes, cute cats, cool art and travel pics. The occasional hard hitting lists to get people riled up but , on the whole, just.... Well, fun !!! But there just seem to be so much negative s**t lately.... AITA stories, petty revenge stuff, people complaining about trivial sht on tic tok.... And all these generally nasty lists about "karens",sexist pigs, idiots on Twitter, Europe vs America...... I used to come to this site to feel better about humanity, the world and myself but lately, I feel more fkn depressed and isolated after being here than I did when I started..... Maybe I expect too much but.... I don't know, maybe it's just me...what do other long term members think? Maybe , I no longer fit the demographic they're aiming for? Well, that's my view, anyway.... Trival, I know, but yep, whatever.... ( And more bloody anime lists!!! I love commenting about anime even if no one reads them...)
Not a long term member, but I came to BP for cute and fun listicles. Animals, design fails, that's what I like looking at just for a laugh and to unwind a bit. The Challenges and Ask Pandas are a big plus (I like reading them and contributing but I censor myself a bit because submissions can't be edited or deleted, which makes me uncomfortable sharing personal things). There are some topics that really trigger me (as you said, negative stuff) so what I'm trying to do currently is restrict myself to fun topics only (the ones I came for initially). And I agree the AITA are annoying, and the TikTok stuff even more so - maybe I'm too old to understand, too, but I find them so trivial and I don't want to read a s****y sum up of a video along with some stills from the video. So, yeah, basically agree and the takeaway is, read very selectively...
I have an eating disorder but I don’t say anything about it because I know my family is going to judge me for it.
Wow, I'm so sorry. That must be so heartwrenching to have to deal with everyday! I'm so sorry you feel that way about your family, and I hope that if you get the courage to tell them, they will accept you and realize it's not your choice. Hugs my man!!! 🫂
I'm tired. Exhausted. I try to help and give. Contribute. And it's not their fault. They're young and learning; they're trying. Some more than others... Times are hard and people need help; I'm glad I'm able. But with a big family, it's constant, and I fear that parts of me are dying. Parts they may need me to keep.
Wow. That sounds like a lot of pressure to try and deal with. I have a smallish family, but I feel what you're saying. It's so rough to try to to be everything for everyone at once! :{ hugs! <3
I’m very confused about everything regarding myself. I spoke w my therapist last week and she says I might want to talk to a pediatrician abt being screened for: depression, anxiety, bulimia, anorexia nervosa, and schizophrenia. Also started question my sexuality again. I am literally not feeling any emotions I’m just numb. Also someone started a rumor about me harassing my friends sister so now he won’t talk to me. Another friend I accidentally was too awkward around and now they are ignoring me. Also I’ve been talking to a friend that turned out to be empty space. Also today i barely ate and I puked up what I did eat and then I self harmed.
In conclusion, things could be better. I will try to enjoy thanksgiving now because i get to see my cousins.
Oh my gosh! You have been going through so much lately, and I am terribly sorry! Dealing with just one of those things is crushing and can be exhausting, and you're going through multiple! 🥺 I hope your friends realize you're trying your best with everything on your plate and reach out again, or that you are able to think of someone who can help you. And please don't self harm! I know what that feeling is like.... I've engaged a few times myself. It's such an awful place to be in, but I started by telling myself "I am not going to self-harm today." and every day I would tell myself that. I don't know if that will help but I hope it does. If you don't mind, I'll be praying for you.❤🩹🫂 I hope you have an amazing thanksgiving with lots of laughter and love
Due to social anxiety (and depression) I can't go regularly to school anymore. Therapy isn't bad but it doesn't help enough. The only solution is a clinic, but how could I guarantee that I am able to go there everyday (if it's without sleeping there)!? And if I go somewhere where I also have to stay at night I really don't know if I could manage to do that. I am like really scared of getting sick when I'm not at home and oh my god... I just don't know what to do anymore. Every solution scares me and I keep saying no. I am so scared :(
But I can't manage to explain all of this, so it seems like I just refuse help.
Also I just can't tell my childhood best friend about it and I feel so bad for it
(btw I'm not native so please ignore all the mistakes)
I guess I should comment! I have a friend who refuses to accept my sexuality, telling me he sides with my dad and that he thinks it's just a phase. He's also told me multiple times that he hates gay people and they should stop being open about it as they're sinning. He blames them for being part of the lgtbq community when it's not something people choose, and so what if they are gay or trans or anything? More power to them for figuring out who they are!
Anyway, I feel so drained talking to him and he honestly just makes me sick! I don't even know why I'm friends with him at this point, tbh.
Let your "friend" be. There are some folks who are seasonal friends. The season for this friendship seems to be over. You don't have to subject yourself to this negativity. And you, embrace you. Love yourself. Hugs.
So my problem that has been sucky a lot lately would have to be that I fell hard for this guy. Him and I talked everyday and he was so fun and easy to talk to and I couldn't help but fall for him. We ended up talking after school one day and we got to know each other and I had been getting my hopes up so much that maybe he liked me back cus he was being so sweet to me and actually complimented me. I don't get a lot of compliments so when I do it's always shocking. But anyway, we had been talking and get to know each other and at some point we had started talking about our past relationships and he asked if I was virgin because of a rumour that was spread about me and my ex. When I told him that I was in fact a virgin and that I was going to keep it that way till I was at least out of college, he kinda started to ghost me. Which was ofc a bit of a red flag for me. After this tho, a day later, my curiosity got the better of me and I asked him what made him change his mind and actually act like we weren't just peers and more like friends. It turns out he was only talking to me and being nice because he had complained to his friends about being lonely and they told him he needed to get laid and that he should go after me because I liked him and that it was obvious and how gullible I am as well. Now the same guy glares at me in class, won't talk to me at all, and yeah. And it's been really stressful because I want to ask him why he would use me like that but I also don't want to have to talk to him at the same time. What hurts tho is that I really thought that he liked me for who I was and that he was different from most guys I knew.
I'm a bit late for this post (sorry!!). So, something that happened "recently", so there is a fake friend of mine who I somehow survived 1 in a half years with her, she turned really toxic for me and I had to give up for some time, you know? While I still talked to her, her toxic attitude made me have overthinking and a high level of anxiety (I'm doing therapy don't worry about this), the problem is that she thinks the earth goes around her so anything that doesn't goes as she wants she'll go all alligator tears and a huge drama. Yesterday I went on a event with her ( yes! On such akward air), and like she was treating me like completely sh*t. So I decided to stand up for myself, so the air got even worse bc everything she said and I defended me,she would go all oppressive, and when we finally got on her home because my mom was picking me up. We had a "normal" talk,and my mom called me she was like " Oh! Do you want to sleep at her house?" I said in a fake excitement "Can I?".
And than she was like "yeah sure" and I said ok, minding my OWN BUSINESS on my phone she sees a photo of me and a friend of mine that she hates, she put a blame on her brother (I have no idea why?). Ok we had dinner there, we went upstairs and I texted my mom saying that I don't wanna sleep there anymore, she was like ya ok, tell them you have homework or something. Ya, all cool, my parents were leaving and I was putting my shoes on, and she was like " But aren't you staying for a sleepover?" "No, sorry, I have homework to do" ok everything got into a heavy air, even her parents. Ok, before we left she runned upstairs and started crying, she we got into the car my mom forgot her phone inside the house, after she found it and we got home, toxic friend mom ( which my mom and her are like BFF's) texted her saying like "It was a great day, also everything you made and the trick I don't know which is better the lie or the fact you hid your phone, it was great while it lasted, I love your f
Load More Replies... I'm a bit late for this post (sorry!!). So, something that happened "recently", so there is a fake friend of mine who I somehow survived 1 in a half years with her, she turned really toxic for me and I had to give up for some time, you know? While I still talked to her, her toxic attitude made me have overthinking and a high level of anxiety (I'm doing therapy don't worry about this), the problem is that she thinks the earth goes around her so anything that doesn't goes as she wants she'll go all alligator tears and a huge drama. Yesterday I went on a event with her ( yes! On such akward air), and like she was treating me like completely sh*t. So I decided to stand up for myself, so the air got even worse bc everything she said and I defended me,she would go all oppressive, and when we finally got on her home because my mom was picking me up. We had a "normal" talk,and my mom called me she was like " Oh! Do you want to sleep at her house?" I said in a fake excitement "Can I?".
And than she was like "yeah sure" and I said ok, minding my OWN BUSINESS on my phone she sees a photo of me and a friend of mine that she hates, she put a blame on her brother (I have no idea why?). Ok we had dinner there, we went upstairs and I texted my mom saying that I don't wanna sleep there anymore, she was like ya ok, tell them you have homework or something. Ya, all cool, my parents were leaving and I was putting my shoes on, and she was like " But aren't you staying for a sleepover?" "No, sorry, I have homework to do" ok everything got into a heavy air, even her parents. Ok, before we left she runned upstairs and started crying, she we got into the car my mom forgot her phone inside the house, after she found it and we got home, toxic friend mom ( which my mom and her are like BFF's) texted her saying like "It was a great day, also everything you made and the trick I don't know which is better the lie or the fact you hid your phone, it was great while it lasted, I love your f
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