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#1

Vatican Has Enough Wealth To Cure World's Hunger Twice

People are so furious at Amazon and Jeff Bezos for the wealth that they have when the Vatican is sitting there with enough wealth to cure world hunger twice and the Catholic Church is a charity.

Alex Ranaldi , allysmountains Report

lenka
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. Organized religion is a scourge on humanity.

RaroaRaroa
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, but how exactly did someone calculate how to cure world hunger? Is that a major infrastructure project involving building water pipes from the wet parts of the world to the drought stricken ones, somehow ending all wars that disrupt supply, improving soil and removing pollution? Is it a plan to ship food from abundant parts of the world to starving places? If so, that's a continual cost, so have they factored in doing that for eternity? Just curious.

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Leslie
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They need all that money to settle all the sexual assault lawsuits.

K- THULU
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember the one about jesus and the moneylenders in the temple..... They obviously don't..... Fkn hypocrites!

Tami
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many passages in the Bible about the detriments of wealth, I just can't believe how many churches ignore their own book!

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ravina nimje
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

cure for how many days? We will soon back to "World Hunger" problem.

Tami
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad but true. World hunger is a complex problem that money alone won't solve. For one thing, so much of the money and supplies donated ends up in the hands of corrupt goverments and factions.

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greenbean
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is "cure" meaning feeding the world twice? That's not cure, unfortunately. Not much wealth would be needed to cure hunger, not exploiting Africa by the whole world, would be a good start. Then getting rid of greedy corrupt regimes that exploit their own people. This would cure 99%... But it won't happen :((

No you didn't
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no trouble being furious at both scumbags such as Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk and the catholic church.

Suzi Gauthier
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're both corporations. Plus I wonder about all those ancient secrets they're hiding.

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PCW10101
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And yet - they don't. But then, poor people with blind faith and no access to birth control will have large families and raise them to believe the Catholic Church will protect and keep them. Organised Religion is the ultimate MLM scam.

phil blanque
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah...my visit to the Vatican made me sick. First, there is all the art they stole from other nations. Why not give it back??? Then there is the wealth....jewels, gold.....sick....totally sick!!!

Shane S
Community Member
3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tax the churches. Or only exempt them if they can prove that 100% of their profits go to charity.

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    #2

    Christians Are Often The Most Hypocritical And Intolerant People

    Christians are often the most hypocritical, judgmental, intolerant people on this planet, hear me out. Let it be said that I believe in God and could be called a Christian. However, I see an awful lot of self-proclaimed Christians doing things that a God of love would most definitely not approve of. In an effort to keep this short, I will give you a "for instance". You could feed a nation but unless you do it with a pure heart with the sole intent of helping out of pure selflessness, you're not doing it for them. If you do this, just to post it to your Facebook wall and go, look what I did I helped all these people, I'm a good Christian. No, you're doing that for you. God says go forth and spread the word, be the light, be the truth and speak it. Never does it say go cram it down people's throats and berate them, judge them condemn them. Is it your place to condemn another? In the name of God? No. Now, if you are a Christian doing that, what are you really accomplishing except running off a soul that perhaps could have been saved if shown love and kindness? But instead, now they want nothing to do with a God because of your actions. That is incredibly sad, and it's been a problem for millennia. Before I make this video entirely too long, I'll end with this. If you are a Christian hand picking out pieces of the Bible to suit your needs and your agenda, should you really be calling yourself of God, a Christian of Christ? I think not. Because let's move everything off the table except for this. Love one another. Berating others, judging others, condemning others is not of love period. Lastly, if what you're doing in front of others in the day does not match with your heart in the dark and at night when you're alone. Then this video may anger you, for that I apologize. But if that should be the case, perhaps you should look within as to why that is.

    Max Benidze , iam_cat_chaos Report

    Swan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    thing is they use religion (which is a taboo people can't say no to) to justify bigotery homophobia transphobia sexism ||| if god was a homophobic racist transphobic misogynistic d**k I'd have overthroned him long time

    Tom Jones
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone mentioned that Christian believe there are 70 virgins waiting for them in heaven. That's the belief of Muslims, not Christians. Someone might think something like, "Well, there all organized religions--it does not matter." Religions are very different it should not be treated as one monolithic entity.

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    Strawberry Pizza
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I saw a very accurate post about this. Can't remember what it exactly said, but it was along the lines of: "pretty much every religion says to love each other, and the extremists of those religions, who commit acts in its name, ignore this"

    lenka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are several issues with blaming extremists. Firstly.... you cannot look at the history of religion and say that every war fought in the name of a god was perpetrated by an extremist? crusades? The battle of Jericho? The Inquisitions? Forced conversions? Slavery? The Reconquista? And those are just the christian wars. Secondly.... how we define 'extremism' is informed by our own religious and cultural experience. What I consider extreme is not the same as what you might consider extreme. Finally.... what happens when a single extremist heads up a whole religion and at what point do the views of that person become the views of the broader population? We only need to look at bin laden and 911 and how that has culminated in the current political and religious landscape of Afghanistan to see that it is not a single extremist. It was millions of people who believed, and still believe that they are fighting gods war.

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    Paul Davis
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up around people who never seemed to think of their so-called "Christianity" as anything other than a hammer to hurt other people with. So far away from anything that Jesus was supposed to represent, and all on board for everything the Devil does. So today I refer to these fake Christians as Devil worshippers because there is no sign they worship or can even tolerate anything good.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thing is, EVERYONE picks and chooses what parts of the Bible to follow. Unless you're willing to live like an Hasidic Jew, you're picking and choosing. Eat bacon? Forbidden in the Bible. Walking around without a head covering? Forbidden in the Bible. A lot of Christians (and I am one) say, "Oh, but we aren't bound by the Old Testament." Except when it comes to quoting Leviticus when condemning LGBT+ people? Except when... See what I mean. Don't pretend you don't pick and choose. All Christians do. But God looks at your heart. I don't think He will care if you get a tattoo (scarification is forbidden in the OT; it says nothing about modern-style tattoos). But I do think He cares if you are cruel to people because of who they are.

    Vexorg2
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I choose bacon wrapped scallops & shrimp.... What's for lunch?!? But as a former Lutheran (our church was literally be good this week, & what are you bringing to pot luck?) the only thing I paid attention to was try & be nice to each other.

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    Jasper Cool
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I especially appreciate the kids in school that tell my son he's going to hell if he doesn't believe in Jesus. Or how often the two of us have been subjected to random praying at us without our consent. Granted im in a rural fairly conservative area of the US. Never got this in Seattle even though I had several friends who are devout Christians.

    Leslie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Christianity is the biggest cult in the world. Nothing more, nothing less.

    Kaide Jah
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    3 years ago

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    Atheism is the biggest lie and much more.

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    Virtually Fabulous
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I agree so much with this. I am an atheist, but I still go to church (like 2/3 of the time) because while I don't think that there is a god, my church has a really awesome community and I agree with other beliefs. It's complicated, but ok. There are so many "good" christians out there. It's a shame the loudest are the worst.

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Read the OT, then tell me with a straight face that this is a "god of love." Start with Genesis, in which God not only held Eve responsible for something she couldn't possibly have known was wrong until AFTER she did it, but also punished the entire human race for her action.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also condemned all women for eternity to be in pain and serve men. What kind of monster what that?

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    Iifa A.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funny I have never believed in god or religion. I was 15 and moved to Ireland and had to pray at the beginning and end of class (2006) and I was shocked everyone did this, pray to the book... I got my children's Bible as a present when I was seven, was just a book, I read it and to this day I don't see how it is a religion. I was never forced to any belief, funnily my grandmother is a nun and my mum found god when she was in 40s (prayer helped with grieving her loss of husband who was a believer). But I have never understood it, I can't see how you can believe in God, and force children into church prior to them understanding what it is. I'm forever grateful I was opened to world of books, and not forced into Sunday school. (I went for a month because my friend went, I wanted too. My mum didn't stop me and I stopped because I got bored of storyteller)

    That queer kid
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get this. I've gone to the same church for my entire life and so many of the people there are homophobic. I'm terrified of going back/coming out.

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    #3

    Just Because They're Family Doesn't Mean You Have To Love Them

    Family is not blood. Just because they're family doesn't mean you have to love them. Love is not a duty. Love is not an obligation. You love because it's real and it's coming from a genuine place. Blood is not an excuse. Blood is not an exception. Family is not blood.

    Conall , bichqueenm Report

    HarriMissesScotland
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    AMEN!!!! The family I love does not share one drop of blood with me, while the family I was born into has used and abused me. Not anymore. Stick a fork in me, I am done.

    Swan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    same! my father still abuses me f**k family hail the GOOD people hail the people we love ---------- if only everyone understood :( if only people didn't shame us children for not loving our family as if we were the problem.. 😔

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    Tyler Hobson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Funnily enough, the blood in "Blood is thicker than water," is not referring to family. The actual quote is the "blood of the covenant is thicker than water from the womb." So the relationships you choose are stronger than those of just relation.

    Mary Rose Kent
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That makes sense. I’m friends with one of my brothers, but my three other siblings are just family.

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    Chef Latte
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In all honesty I almost cried because of this. I have some family members who are part of the LGBT community (including myself) as well as very conservative people (conservative in the sense of transphobia and slight homophobia). If they ever step out of their boundaries to harm anyone due to nature such as that I will completely cut them off.

    Swan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lucky you can do this (and lucky you have some other also lgbt in your family) 🏳️‍⚧️

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    Mingi Football
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Blood may be thicker than water, but it coagulates, and gets smelly

    Autumn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THANK YOU!!! You can’t control what you’re born into. Yes, it’s good to have good relationships with family but what was said above was true. If they don’t care then why should you.

    Adam Belaire
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Once a wise man told me, ‘Family don’t end in blood,’ but it doesn’t start there either. Family cares about you. Not what you can do for them. Family is there, for the good, bad, all of it. They got your back. Even when it hurts. That’s family.” — Dean Winchester

    Celtic Pirate Queen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Completely agree. I have 2 sisters that I choose not to have relationships with. One is just plain bat-sh*t crazy, the other is a narcissistic alcoholic and BOTH are seriously toxic. My Mom tried to guilt trip me a few times (lady, have you MET me?) to no avail. I refuse to be a part of their constant drama and have no need for either of them in my life.

    Healing Moon Breezes
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The word is "like" not love. Love is irrational. You can love someone and not like them.

    RafCo
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd alter this a bit. Just because you love somebody, doesn't mean they should be a part of your life, or that you should allow them to hurt you. It's okay to love your abuser, we can't help loving people sometimes. But it's also okay to remove that abuser from your life. Even, maybe especially, if you love them.

    William Stevenson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The saying about blood being thicker than water used to mean the opposite. It used to mean the blood shed by you and your companions in battle is thicker than the water of the womb you shared with your brothers.

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    #4

    Once You Get Married, Your Partner Comes First

    I already know I'm going to get a lot of hate for this. But once you get married, your partner comes first, even before your parents, if you're not ready to put your wife before your mother, you're not ready to get married.

    meaduva , pushpeksidhu Report

    NsG
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my hubby above all else, but *I* come first above him. If I'm not in a good place I can't support him. The rest of the hierarchy is flexible, and would have changed if we'd had kids.

    Aran Lindvail
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, and if someone is abusive, I don't owe them s**t, parent or partner.

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    Himiko
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It depends on what circumstance. If my mother was sick and my SO wasn't my mother would definitely come first.

    Chris Jones
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That isn't what they mean though. If a partner doesn't support you wanting to help sick family then bye bye, that would make them selfish. This is for the situations we often see on Reddit when you see a wife/husband siding with their mother on something that is petty or unreasonable when they should pick their wife/husband. Of course circumstances matter.

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    lenka
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. My husband comes before my mum and I absolutely expect my husband to put me before his family BUT we have mutual respect for each that means I don't demand or expect this when I can see that its important to my husband. For egample, early on our relationship his mum was playing some power games. I expected my husband to support me and put his foot down - which he did. This was piviotal to developing a respectful relationship with my mother in law. Years later, and now mother in law has dementia and husband spends a lot of time caring for her. While I know that if I need hubby to put me first, he absolutely will- I wont ask it of him because he needs to be there for them and I need to be there for him.

    Mary Rose Kent
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ♥️ Sounds like a nice, solid relationship based on trust and respect ♥️

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    Flopsy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I will get hate for this but once you have kids they come first. I love my partner a lot but I would not think twice before feeding him (or myself) to crocodiles to save our daughter.

    lenka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't automatically put my kids before my husband. If we were faced with a crocodile, of course I would save the kids. When the kids are sick or something is going on with them then they are the priority, but in everyday life, my relationship with my husband is the foundation of our family. My relationship with him existed before the kids and it needs to exist after the kids. The kids also feel safe and secure and loved in a home where a healthy respectful relationship is modelled. It is beneficial to them for hubby and I to stay together and to do that we need to make our relationship a priority.

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    Eucritta
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Real life is messy, and marriage is a partnership, not a locked ward. There's a kernel of truth in this, especially when one's young, but there are going to be times over the years when yes, others will take precedence for a time. And that's okay.

    TJay
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex husband used to say " Bitches come and go...family is forever" we were divorced in less than 2years...he can have his family

    Carole Reid
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, how long did you know this Putz before you married him?

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    Don't Look
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    heheh. "AITA" people usually need to understand this.

    Susie Elle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I humbly disagree. You yourself come first, (almost) always. If I'm going to have to choose between my partner or a parent, I'm going to leave whoever forced me to make the choice in the first place.

    Anjelika
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it depends on the situation and the person?

    Tenacious Squirrel
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People that only start to be serious about their partner due to “marriage” (and not due to their feelings which started way earlier) are strange.

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    #5

    Stop Telling People That If They've Never Been A Parent, They Don't Understand Unconditional Love

    If you have to become a biological parent, meaning your DNA in a new human to understand and experience unconditional love, i,e. you have not experienced unconditional love for family members, friends, nieces, nephews, puppies, dogs, pets, any of those things. If you have to become a biological parent to experience unconditional love. That's not unconditional love. That's narcissism. You needed to see your DNA in another being and see yourself in order to love them. I would argue that parental unconditional love, biological unconditional love is the least compelling, unconditional love. Stop telling people that if they've never been a parent, they don't understand unconditional love because you don't either.

    Ivan Radic , kathryn_hofman Report

    HarriMissesScotland
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or a cat, knowing that they really do love you at least when you feed them.

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    K Witmer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never experienced love like I do for my child. I had her at 30 so I had this whole big life before her and it's definitely a different love than I ever felt. However I would never say to anyone they don't understand that kind of love. Idk how they feel. We all feel things differently. It's all very personal how we choose to live and love in our lives. I respect that.

    Nadine Debard
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. I love my husband and regularly fall in love again and again, but we both knew that our little boy would be so special that he would become n#1. That doesn't minimize the love we have for each other but it's a different love, pure, huge, touching, he's a part of our soul, not DNA.

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    Chef Latte
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thats true tho. Like don’t say having a child is unconditional love, when you can have that with ANYONE and ANYTHING.. Like R Carson said in a comment here, Get A Dog.

    2x4b523p
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s how I lost my best friend. She did not tell me when her child almost died, because “I am not a mother and I would not understand”. I have always been there for her, so it really hurt. But apparently once she replicated her DNA all of us who didn’t are lesser humans who do not have real feelings.

    Sabse
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good she is not you friend anymore, because, I sadly guess, she never was. I would never ever say this to my best friend even if she don't want kids. I am sure she would cry with me like hell.

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    Paul Davis
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a blind, ignorant assumption that every parent loves their children. Many do not, at all, not a bit.

    Gracie Jay
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve never heard anyone claim the above, however being wholly responsible for a completely vulnerable human does create a different kind of love, like overwhelming, more so than a parent, sibling or spouse. But I don’t think it’s biological, the closest I felt that prior to my daughter was with my niece. I wasn’t responsible for her but I babysat everyday and she slept with me every night, it was so awful when I moved out. If you look at the way you love your siblings and your parents, I bet you’ll find it’s different. And with a child it’s overwhelming love.

    Frankenfrog
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those parents are basically saying that their own children don't love them. Breeders will say endless amounts of dumb idiotic things to the end of days just to back up their sick pronatalist views.

    Dough Puddle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dogs: Acceptance without expectation

    Mosheh Wolf
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're wrong, and so are they. It's hormonal, and it is biological. Has nothing to do with narcissism, and I get sick of people who throw that out so freely. Yes, you are biologically programmed to love your kid, because any mutation that reduces that love will be culled out pretty quickly. However, calling this narcissism is like claiming that a person eating when they are hungry is a narcissist. This rant sound like something said by somebody who hates kids and calls parents "breeders" in a tone of deep contempt.

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    #6

    Just Because You're Smart, It Doesn't Mean That You're A Good Teacher

    Just because you're smart, you have your masters or your PhD it doesn't necessarily mean that you're a good teacher.

    Nathan Borror , geraldchu Report

    R Carson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because your "smart" doesn't mean you are a "good anything. I know many educated idiots with minimal life skills and deficient personalities.

    T. D. Bostick
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure that's the point. Smart teachers who instantly grasp something don't make good teachers because they can't relate to someone struggling to learn something. Those who struggled to learn something can give good advice to others in that boat.

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    Lars Kokemohr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a teacher and I agree. It's so annoying when people say "those who can't do, teach" as of to say that teaching was just an easy way to find a job in a field that you aren't good at. Well, guess what, teaching is a skill, and if you spend your time getting good at teaching something you won't be spending it becoming good at doing that thing.

    Naesil
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Someone could be amazing teacher even if they were not the expert on the subject matter, depends on the audience.. Like teaching kids in school means you need to know the predefined area and maybe bit more so you can possibly answer some questions that are not directly in said area and make it somewhat interesting to learn, you dont example need to be nobel prize winner in mathematics to teach algebra.

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    Kittymisfit
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even in academia, this is a problem. Teaching and mentoring are skills, not innate traits. Unfortunately, there is little to no training for academics in mentoring and they take on students who have to cope with "learning" from these people, then the cycle repeats.

    Jon Steensen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many students have experienced that first hand, with some hopeless teachers. At the university, many of proffersors only teach because that is part of their job, while their true passion is research. People with a strong science interest is often those who could devote a lot of time to studying it since they have poor social skills and therefore had little interest in socialising. That often make them hopeless at teaching, since the do not really know how to interact, connect and communicate their knowledge to other people. That means that they will leave out a lot of stuff that may be important but seem trivial (and hence unnessesary) to them, and their tone of voice is so monotone/mumbling that you quickly fall asleep listening to them.

    Sasquatch The Almighty
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, one of my high school teachers in particular, springs to mind. Brilliant man. TERRIBLE people skills, awful teacher. Wonderful person, just shouldn't have been a teacher

    Red
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's absolutely correct. First year of singing school I had an incredibly talented teacher. She knew so much about anatomy and how to sing properly. I always say, whenever I heard that woman sing, it was like listening to the Carol of The Bells, there was so much going on, her voice and technique were just amazing... She couldn't teach a fish to swim. She kept saying I had to go deeper and wider and darker... What? I couldn't understand and she couldn't explain. Good thing she left after three classes and we got another teacher, he wasn't even done with music university yet but first thing he told me when he noticed I wasn't understanding was "you know Dory? When she speaks with the whales? Do that voice." That changed my life forever. Best teacher I've ever had.

    Boreddd
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If only my grandpa would accept this...

    Iifa A.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There isn't a single professional who excels in all areas. Having a master's and PhD just means you did extensive research under specific topics. But a biomedical researcher is not a doctor, a doctor isn't brain surgeon, and all of them have no idea how biotechnology and medical devices are programmed and built by engineers who also have no medical background. There's a reason why you need to take teaching lessons to be successful, every skill must be learned. None of us was born with skills, every skill must be learned, some have better start at life than others. When I grew up I learned life skills cook/clean, my friend didn't, her parents said we dont raise a cleaner/cook and made her read and study. Now I'm unemployed and she is a business owner that just starts her family home and learning to cook/clean. Priorities. I'm now doing my masters and my head isn't same. I'd rather learn now to clean/cook because they're easier than programming biotech.. I wish I studied .

    Chich
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have met a few fairly clueless PHD holders. Maybe very knowlegable about one thing but very short on common sense.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm extremely smart (IQ-wise) and love children and knowledge. I'm a very good instructor. But used to fall short as a teacher because I lacked the innate skill for discipline. Had to learn it the hard way - by watching experienced teachers and seeing what they did that I didn't do. It's been a long road.

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    #7

    There Is A Shortage Of Nurses At The Bedside Because Of Toxic Conditions

    There is no nursing shortage. Nurses are plentiful. We're 4 million strong in this country. One in every 100 people is a nurse. Nurses are everywhere. What there is, is a shortage of nurses at the bedside because they've left, because of healthcare administrators creating toxic, unsafe working conditions. But make no mistake about it. There is no shortage of the number of nurses. If conditions improved if we had mandated staffing ratios. If we had protections and legislation in place, nurses would return to the bedside. There is not a shortage of the amount of nurses. Be very clear. This is propaganda created by healthcare administrators to get away with s**ty staffing so they can save money at patients expense and at nurses expense, no nursing shortage.

    Kyle Taylor , the.nurse.erica Report

    Number 5
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This at least rings true for the hospital I work at. We were already having problems with staffing before Covid hit. Now administration is just using Covid as an excuse to not admit they ran the place into the ground.

    Elizabeth Molloy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Which country are you referring to?

    Naesil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess US when they are using the numbers 4 million and 1 in every 100, that would equal to 400 million and US has more than 300 million people so numbers are pretty close.

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    Paul Davis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was in the medical field all I ever heard about was the constant battle to keep the hospital executives from killing off the patients in order to save a penny here and there. They always seemed to just be absolutely irresponsible jerks who would constantly flirt with multi-million dollar lawsuits and blame everyone else for the endless problems they caused.

    howdylee
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    first things first... make shifts a humane number of hours for someone in a super-stressful position. 12 hours is insane to try to keep yourself going while saving the lives of others.

    Rissie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I learned a few days ago that "toxic work environment" as a term was first coined in the sixties in a book about nursing work environments. As someone with a lot of experience in healthcare, I get that. Nurses and health care workers are not heroes, they get paid to distance themselves from the matter. It's not cool to wipe someone's butt or stick a needle in them. It's not fun to watch people die. And it's also no fun to see young doctors (who get paid to carry a lot of risk once they complete their education, they take responsibility for your life...) have more authority than you. So nursing staff feels like they are owed more than their salary. The ugly truth is, they don't. They just got tricked in that idea that they are super heroes. But the reality is that distancing yourself can be done by the many. So society doesn't feel they owe them anything. Stinks. But that's the way the cookie crumbles.

    Leslie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, we all know who they are. And they should be ashamed of themselves.

    jimmy pop
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This also isn't a US only issue. We have the same problem in Germany.

    Healing Moon Breezes
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've heard there are areas that a 'nurse' cannot find a job.

    Lee Jorgenson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a retired Respiratory Therapist. I was told by the administration that I could be replaced. My wh entire department were chastised for being lazy and sleeping between scheduled rounds. I was personally told, "You don't have a friend in this building." The Department consisted of 6 full time RTs that had worked together for 11 -20+ years together. We had 150 years combined experience. This was really starting to damage me mentally. When I could take it no more, I resigned. I was told, "Thank you," for resigning!!!! Within 2 months the entire department had been fired or let go. I sought counseling because I had become so unsure of my value as a person. I was so angry and bitter! I was diagnosed with PTSD! By the way the patients never complained about anyone in our department.

    P. Mozzani
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure where this poster got her/his information, but in the U.S., more than 500,000 seasoned RNs anticipated to retire by 2022. "The nursing profession continues to face shortages due to a lack of potential educators, high turnover, and inequitable workforce distribution. The causes related to the nursing shortage are numerous and issues of concern." There definitely IS a nursing shortage in the U.S., and it will get much worse, before it gets better.

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    #8

    Abortion Shouldn't Be Such A Big Deal

    Abortion shouldn't really be a big deal because when a fetus is inside of a woman, it doesn't have any memories, concept of life or emotion. So why do we care? Women should be allowed to be shirtless in public without being sexualized or harassed. Children under 13 shouldn't be allowed internet because they're easier to groom manipulate and tend to give up personal information easier. There's a huge difference between finding Asians attractive and fetishizing them because of anime and K-pop. I don't support Trump. But Biden is not amazing. People care too much about teenage boys wearing skirts as if Black Lives Matter doesn't exist. If you're a person of color, you have no right to be homophobic because you face the same discrimination is them. And lastly, cats are better than dogs.

    bfi Business Furniture Inc. , bitterboizcult Report

    Chef Latte
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with abortion considering there are other concerns out there plus without it people could die from miscarriage or the fetus is sick. If men can be shirtless why tf can’t others, idc. The ones who care also grew up with hatred for groups of people. I agree with the Internet thing (for video games, you should restrict chat usage). True about the Asian fetishization. Neither of them are amazing politicians, but one’s pro/cons outweigh the other. Gender shouldn’t be in clothing. BLM is NOT an evil corporation (I know people who think this). Discriminating another minority in general is wrong. And I love both animals equally but when I’m able to I want a cat

    Sharron Lindsay
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It annoys me when people make a fuss about women breastfeeding in public. It's the most natural thing in the world

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    Leslie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s no one’s damn business what anyone else does with their body. It’s no one’s damn business what anyone else does with their body.

    v
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brafne down there is spewing quite a lot to unpack. 1. Having an abortion and having a baby are opposite sides of the same coin. If having an abortion becomes public business so does having a baby. Possibly more so with having a baby because that person could very well end up on the public dole. But it's considered to be a private decision and is allowed to be made without interference 2. A potential for human life begins when an egg and sperm create a zygote. A number of things have to happen before this zygote becomes a human being and any number of things can happen to keep this zygote becoming a human being. 3. There are approximately 600,000 children in the U.S. foster system and approximately 3 times that number of "pro-life" families in the U.S.. If adoption truly is the end all saving grace that you and so many others of your ilk purport it to be why are there still children in the U.S. foster system not being adopted?

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    politely, no
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Abortion happens not because the mother wants to go around killing babies, it's because the baby would've had a bad life, so why inflict years of pain onto someone who didn't ask to be born, when they never were born in the first place?

    Llama_flower93
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    I'm sorry that's not a good argument. Use a better one. My life has mostly sucked. Doesn't mean someone else should have stopped my life before it happened.

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    Brendan Roberts
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Abortion shouldn't be considered controversial or unethical. However, I'm sure that getting an abortion is a big deal for the women (and their partners) who decide to get one.

    Brafne Heiwer
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    3 years ago

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    How is it ethical to kill a child?

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    Helmut Kok
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The two things that would give low abortions rate, are sexeducation and easy access (free or cheep) to birth control. But that's not the agenda is it

    chantelle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The phrasing is wrong here. Abortion should be treated as a medical tool just like antibiotics and C-sections.

    Virtually Fabulous
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yes yes yes, thank you for the internet point. I don't agree with the last statement tho.

    Iifa A.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in a country without religion so I have never understood abortion argument. It's just a medical procedure to keep mother's life safe and not bring into life children that would be otherwise abused, or die shortly after being born, or the most shellfish human act I have seen is to keep a baby who will never feel the beauty of life due to being vegetable on life support. We euthanasia pets who suffer, but force women to raise children who will suffer because they're unwanted/unable to live without suffering (Tay-Sachs, other diseases, forever vegetable) I have met a lot of people who are against abortion, but only one that adopted children. Yet as someone' said forcing unwanted child on a woman, if she doesn't want it (criminal cause, financial, mental illness) then anyone stopping her should legally adopt the child, because I'd rather have aborted fetus than abused/hated child who will be damaged and unwanted, or worse killed by mum

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    It isn't better to be dead than have a difficult life. A fetus is a human life. That fetus is guaranteed to grow into a human adult barring complications. Who are you to decide whether they get to live or die? Who are you to decide whether their life will be good enough to warrant living? Most aborted babies don't have health complications. Less than one percent of abortions are from cases of rape or incest. Most abortions are by convenience. Not every child born will be abused and hated. There is a waiting list of qualified parents for adopting newborns. I might think that a poor person will have a difficult life, but that doesn't give me the right to shoot them in the head.

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    Mermaid Elle-Jaye
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interjecting again to say - f**k you to the idiots who think - adoption is on the table or is an option and you don’t have to abort etc 😂 f**k you - I’m happy to be alive and healthy, if I didn’t have an abortion we both would have died and wtf would that have achieved ? Am happy to hear your ridiculous validations on that 😆

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    #9

    Teaching Your Kids To Not Degrade Others

    Okay, this is for me and I'm really excited to tell you about the kind of mom that I am that I don't think other moms appreciate. I would rather my little girls say things like f**k, than call somebody fat or say, oh s**t, instead of telling someone they're ugly, like, use expressive words, that's fine. You will not ever degrade anyone else or make them feel terrible about themselves. So yeah, if you hear my kid drop the F bomb. We're probably not going to get onto them about it.

    oldsoulnewkicks , USAG- Humphreys Report

    lenka
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree. I am much more diligent about how we talk about others than about the types of words we use.

    Chris Jones
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Children can learn, just as us adults, when and where to swear! Being kind is so much more important, and sadly often underrated.

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    Priscilla Reshell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bad words should really be fat ugly, stupid and whatever awful word's you call someone

    Tyler Hobson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No single word has more uses than F%(k.

    Chris Jones
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely true. It is a fantastic word. Especially when deployed at the right moment!

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    Full Name
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is there any good argument against children swearing?

    Kittymisfit
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tell my kindergartner that there are no bad words, but there are words that should be used carefully and only by people who understand what they mean and how and when to use them- and importantly, when NOT to use them. He likes to test the boundaries bu saying one of these words every now and then, but I just remind him he needs to understand when to use those words before he does use them, which won't happen until he is older.

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    Rayne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom taught me that swears weren't "bad words" but that they're just "strong words". They can be used to get a point across, or as a way to express pain or anger (like when you stub your toe or something) or even in a humorous way. But they can also be used to put down and hurt others. The same goes for words like stupid, ugly, fat, etc. And well, honestly it goes for all words.

    Mattewis88
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apart from the clinical proof that profanity reduces pain. I firmly believe that everyday profanity acts as a dump valve for negative feelings. Drop those F-bombs. As long as it's never directed at someone.

    WA2DK
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is possible to raise kids to do neither - no degrading, no cussing 😉

    Tweed Jefferson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get why people think "fudge" or "mother father" is more appropriate for children. An angry ejaculation should be more about intent than the symantic words.

    JuniorCJ82
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd much rather my kids have sailor mouths than be assholes too.

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    #10

    Money Buys Happiness

    Health is wealth but money buys happiness.

    Ben Sutherland , anisharamakrishna Report

    Eucritta
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money buys the time and space needed to think beyond survival. It won't actually buy contentment. You still have to figure out what that is for you.

    Morgan Merrill-McNeal
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. But money can be given away. You can buy nice houses and cars, help others... provide for a bunch of cute fur/scale/feather babies... 😉

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    Les Izmore
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money doesn't buy happiness but a lack of money makes happiness very difficult

    Mattewis88
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know who decided that money doesn't buy happiness because Im sure I'll be happier if I can afford food, a home and medical care.

    lenka
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree. Having money means meeting your basic needs. It means having the resources to pursue activities and things that create happiness (hobbies, socializing etc.). Having more money means more time to pursue things that bring joy instead of working three jobs just to meet basic needs. It might not directly buy happiness, but it buys a beer with a friend, a paddleboard to enjoy the lake, fuel to take a drive and have a picnic and time to do all those things.

    Charmaine Blackley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All I ask is the chance to prove that money can't make me happy - Spike Milligan

    Trees
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money buys time. What you do with that time determines your happiness.

    Tracy Wallick
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The greatest antidepressant is financial security. Legitimately, becoming debt-free is one of the greatest (non-medical) boosts to my mental health I've ever had.

    Lazy Panda
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Money buys you out of a lot of things that cause unhappiness.

    Ashley Schriber
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sufficient money makes happiness possible; it does not guarantee it.

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    #11

    Most Parents Don't Actually Know Their Children

    Most parents don't actually know their own children. I've been a teacher for many, many years of all levels except for early childhood. I'm also a parent of adults now, this is my experience. Parents will only really be proud of their children when they do the thing that they want them to do. What they don't understand is that we as the strangers or the outsiders get to see the true personality of the child. Of course, that child or young person has to mask around narcissistic parents. And it's always to do with ego because these people, these parents don't work on themselves. And because they don't work on themselves, they try to live the life through their kids to feed their own ego. I also know this from personal experience because I don't really get to know my son's personalities until they were much older and could express them openly. So ask yourself parent, are you only proud of your child when they do the thing that you want them to do?

    Jacob Roeland , manawahine00 Report

    Swan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if when you tell who you are your father commits you, if when you don't do what he likes he beats you, if you don't think what he want he burns you ; you SHOULD be dishonest and not show yourself as who you are ; it's not freedom of speech "you can tell me anything but if you do......." you can't I can't you SHOULDN'T be honest in front of someone who is stronger than you ; who has the power the means AND the will to hurt you..

    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are we perchance sisters? I mean, he never committed me, but I think he'd have tried it if I hadn't learned early and often to not be me anywhere near him.

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    Chris Jones
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even the best of parents shouldn't assume they know their children so very thoroughly. They should want and allow their child to have a strong inner and private life, we all do, why not them? The parent who goes 'I know exactly how my child is thinking' is not allowing them this and they can be wrong. The child may well just be saying what the parent wants to hear. They learn that early with parents who get too deeply involved. Allow your child to breathe, to be themselves. Stop assuming you know how they will react and just ask. Guessing in advance usually means the parent tells the child, even inadvertently, of their expectations and most children want to please so go along with it. The want to please can be harmless but also toxic if the parent has issues. Parents who believe this so strongly, that they really do know their child and can always guess how they will react, are usually amongst the more arrogant of the parents I have met in my career. Sadly.

    Anthony Nizza
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is SO true! My mother never knew me at all. It was because she didn't want to.

    Tami
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here, she was never interested in anything I did. Now I have to watch over her because she's 92 and has no one else. Well, I guess I don't *have* to...I wonder if she realizes that? 🤔

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    Ellis Tamura
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. I am more sarcastic, open and overall I feel happier when I am with my friends/at my high school. With my parents I am quiet, bookworm, and emotional. It feels like barely have a personality at all with my parents.

    James Tartaglione
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    mine have no idea what my life is like, mostly due to anxiety issues and battles with severe depression. i'm doing ok at the moment

    Gin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad to hear you are doing okay right now. I never really shared with my parents either. Not because they were bad people, just a tad clueless over the tougher stuff. Know that you have people on Bored Panda who WILL listen and be supportive. 🤗 <--- hug from someone who thinks that they might get it (don't like to assume!).

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    Brendan Roberts
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't speak on behalf of all parents, but I will be happy with my sons' paths only if they chose them. My eldest does swimming and gymnastics outside of school, and I have never had any particular interest in either sports. I know that he enjoys them and benefits from them (both physically and mentally), and that's all that matters.

    MyOpinionHasBeenServed
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This happens to a lot of parents, no matter what. I've been told by teachers my daughter behaved much differently in class than what I described at home. She was more mischievous at school, and more social LOL. The teachers still enjoyed her in the class, so nothing too big of a deal. On the other hand, my narcissistic mom was too busy galavanting around to really due much to help advocate for me when I was bullied. She always said it was something of my fault. I have undiagnosed learning disorder that, as I look back, should have been flagged a long time ago, instead of shouting at me for being too slow and "not paying attention".

    Laura Lett
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes parental pressure is more toxic to a child than peer pressure.

    Robin DJW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was so lucky in my parents. They knew me, trusted me, encouraged me, never berated failure if I had done my best. I miss them so much.

    Rissie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's almost as if every human being has a mind of its own. Crazy stuff.

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    #12

    Black Men Disrespect Black Women More Than Anybody Else

    Black men, disrespect and talk s**t about black women more than anybody else on the damn planet. Even though black women praise and put black men here, black men don't reciprocate that same energy. Now I know what you're saying. No, not all men. I would never do that. Okay, I know not all men. But most of us really be doing that and I'm not going to act like I've never done it before, but still fight me.

    Bold Content , dezz_lee Report

    Imogene Cargeaux
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's not forget about how the majority of sex traffickers in the US are black men.. and the majority of people being trafficked are black women.. but apparently black ppl enslaving other black ppl is excusable? Yet we blame the white men who purchase these women (not excusing them. They're POS too and should absolutely be prosecuted) more than we blame the actual ppl doing the pimping, exploiting, beating, debugging, kid napping etc. ppl just love to ignore the black on black violence in this country n then they'll make excuses and say "white ppl love to bring up black on black violence" and make it some race issue that is some conspiracy made up by white folks to make black ppl look bad. When in reality it's something that is not talked about enough. N to be clear.. I am a bi sexual Afro Cuban Italian woman.. I have experienced a whole lot of discrimination in my life.. so I'm not speaking out of my ass on this. I'm just sick of seeing women n children being trafficked.

    Marco Conti
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am white guy. Without straying into criminal acts, I assure you white guys are at least as bad. Men are often disgusting when they talk about women and think they are safe.

    K- THULU
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men disrespect women regardless of race,religion or culture.its called misogyny and it's fkn everywhere!

    Susie Elle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course, but if there's an obvious culprit profile, you should address the profile and not average it out to 'people do things' as a generality.

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    Anjelika
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men disrespect women no matter religion, race etc just like there are women that are a piece of work on the other hand my black female friends say that they wouldn't date a black man or at least one of different mentality.

    Yayaboobo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes men from other races disrespect the women in their own communities as well. But for Black women it is in our songs, our media and just so public. I always think of the hatred that Venus, Serena, and Whoopi get for being "ugly", by the "men" in the Black community. Notice that they all have chosen non-black partners. This mess erodes the little stability we have in the Black community.

    bushmeat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They disrespect ALL women, and gay/bi and trans folks

    phil blanque
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow...This is some serious s**t.

    Suzi Gauthier
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When people are suffering, they tend to turn on each other. There are some who will still be kind, but given enough pressure, parents will kill their offspring.

    Urbangirlatl
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well that is a powerful and thought provoking statement.

    Freder
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Black on black crime, but let's just keep talking about how all white people are racist. Or, black lives matter. It doesn't appear that black lives matter as much when it's black on black crime.

    Suzi Gauthier
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Blacks are mostly killed by blacks, whites are mostly killed by whites. Most violence is done to you by someone you know. And I think we're all racist to some extent. We used to have racist, which meant prejudging a race of people to have certain bad qualities, and prejudice (prejudge) which might include "good" prejudices, such as Asians being smart. But majority almost always rules, no matter what the race. We are individuals & should treat each other like individuals.

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    #13

    Having A Neighbourhood Of People You Don't Know Is Better

    Having a neighborhood of people that you don't even know is better than having a neighborhood of your own relatives.

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    Eucritta
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the advantages of living in larger towns & cities is that most people do tend to mind their own business. It's not deliberate. We're all just going about our lives in a busy place and usually don't intersect. Some people find it alienating, I've always found it comfortable.

    Steve
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I don't mind getting a "hi" and giving one back, but that's all.

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    Queen fhk
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We've been living in our neighborhood for f*****g 16yrs and I don't have a single friend from d neighborhood 😬

    Curry on...
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't need to know everyone in my neighborhood. I certainly don't need us in and out of each others' homes, but I find knowing one or two to be a good thing.

    Leo Domitrix
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dear heaven, yes. I grew up on teh same farm as relatives. I ran 500 miles. For a lot of reasons. I can just be me, no family BS.

    Insanity Wolf
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Going to have to disagree with this one. Privacy yes. But I know Greg across the street won't shoot my dog if it gets out. I know Steve next door won't try and groom my daughter online. I know my other neighbor isn't going to plow into my house and kill my whole family driving drunk home because they would call for a ride. Like yeah people knowing your business sucks, but also knowing your family is safe around your neighborhood is better. Also these are just examples.

    Suzi Gauthier
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL no you don't. Plenty of people have been greatly surprised at what their close friends or family members have done. It's always, "but they were so nice!" I think it's similar to the statement above that parents don't really know their children. I think friends & family don't REALLY know each other either. I don't mind knowing my neighbors, but close friends tend to have conflicts & it sucks to live next to someone who may hate you later.

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    Flopsy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as they don't want to talk to me I am fine with anyone! Also, they shouldn't do stupid stuff like bonfire with plastic.

    Mary Rose Kent
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or any bonfire made from any materials if you live in California!

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    Mosheh Wolf
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how everybody keeps on saying this and then act all shocked and dismayed when their neighbors ignore them screaming for help, or ignore their clear signs of distress. You can't have it both ways, people. Either you expect people to pay attention to you, or you want them to leave you alone.

    Suzi Gauthier
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I like neighbors who say hi! If you become friends, you are more likely to have a conflict at some point & become enemies.

    Suz66
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree. We have the best neighbors. Getting to know them has paid off. We have each other's backs. , I'm glad I met them.

    Jane Jane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree to disagree. I've lived in big cities where I didn't know anyone and it was honestly, lonely. My parents are aging and my mom got sick so I moved to their small Midwest town two years ago. There is a deep sense of community in my new hometown and I thrive on it. I was close enough to help care for my mom (she passed last May) and I've been around to help look in on my dad along with my brothers. I'm living my best life in a small town.

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    #14

    Teachers Have Favourite Students

    Yes, teachers have favorite students but that's on you fam, be better.

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    onivdsrapowijap
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd word it not as "favorite student" but "so many least favorite students there has to be a favorite student."

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    Natalie Bohrteller
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And students have favorite teachers. It's human. But it's up to us teachers to not let ourselves be guided by those feelings.

    Anjelika
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing is having a favourite student and another is acting on that favouritism, showing a difference. Over the years I've been a favourite student a couple of times, one time it was very obvious and can breed resentment

    Beatrice Multhaupt
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once I quit blaming myself for having favorite students, I was actually able to admit that I had favorites. From there on, I improved greatly. Just face your less-than-perfect side and get on with it.

    Lara Verne
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have favorites and play favorites are two different things.

    Jane Jane
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because you don't like a kid doesn't mean he has bad parents. Kids are just people and I'm guessing you like some people better than others.

    Judi Michelle
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am a teacher and I have favorite students. Just like anyone has preferences for people. You have friends, you have best friends, you have people you'd prefer not to engage with. But we sometimes have to work with, teach, interact, etc with all sorts of people. One of my favorite students is considered a trouble maker while some of my favorites are the "model student". But at the end of the day I work actively work to make sure my students are treated equitably in the classroom and that I don't show favoritism towards any one student. We cannot always help who we prefer but we can help how we treat others even ones who we may not care for. This is a lesson I teach almost on a daily basis to my second graders. You don't have to be best friends with everyone but we do have to treat everyone with respect and dignity.

    Marisa Varney
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My middle school home room teacher was awful, she was in her late 20's at the time. She had favorite students and she showed favoritism to them. They also all happened to be the prettiest most popular girls who she also coached in the volleyball team and they all sucked up to her. They tried to make her feel like one of the popular girls and she just sucked up the attention. They were also the class bullies. One of them randomly dumped pencil shavings on my head during class and she was just laughing at me along with other students. I asked her so you aren't going to do anything about it? She said to me that I deserved it. Lol. She was an immature bully and she was being manipulated because those kids talked crap about her when she wasn't around. As others have said there is a difference between having favorite students and showing that favoritism. A good teacher doesn't act on that favoritism.

    btaglln
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read a study that it is even worse. Teacher usually favour beautiful children. If you ask them they will say "Never" but it is in our animal behaviour

    Mosheh Wolf
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So long as that favoritism has to do with things that are within the ability of the students to change, that's OK. Liking a student because they are wealthy or good looking? No.

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    #15

    Pumpkin Spice Lattes Are Overrated

    I think pumpkin spice lattes are disgusting and they taste like butt.

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    R Carson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Starbucks is overrated.

    Chich
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love coffee but have only been to starbucks twice. Their coffee is horrible!

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    Stimpy
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, is someone forcing you to drink them?

    Trevor Nicholson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let people enjoy things. Nobody is forcing you to drink it. If you don't like it/want it, you don't have to have it.

    Kittymisfit
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good God, man! Exactly whose butt have you been tasting to say such a thing!?!

    K Witmer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think people hate them bc it became something associated w teen girls and young women and we all know they are always discounted and made fun of even though they are a huge target group and can be the life or death of something being popular or not.

    Jasper Cool
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's pretty common to hate on pumpkin spice lattes at this point. No shortage of voices expressing this opinion on social media for the last decade.

    RafCo
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed 💯. You know what else sucks. Dunkin Donuts. How do you have donuts in your name, but can't make a decent donut. Grocery store donuts are 10000 times better than Dunkin.

    K Miller
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I prefer the Starbucks Chai Latte over the Pumpkin Spice any day.

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    #16

    If Somebody Cheats On You, You Have To Leave Or Else They'll See You As A Weak Person

    If somebody cheats on you, you have to leave because they will subconsciously see you as weak and a pushover for forgiving them. And they'll either cheat on you again, or they will hurt you in some other way. So, if somebody cheats on you, the only option is to say f**k you and leave.

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    lenka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is very black and white and lacks understanding of the depth and diversity of people and relationships.

    Llama_flower93
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree wholeheartedly. Now that I'm thinking about it though, if the person who cheated on you thinks you're weak for staying maybe they are just someone you shouldn't be with. I know if stories where cheating happened and the marriage worked out.

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    Jasper Cool
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know several couples where this was the case. I also knew a few where a lot of counseling was done and they were able to move forward. I don't think serial cheaters change though.

    Mary Rose Kent
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a pair of friends who are a couple, and there was some straying on both sides early on, but eventually that just drifted off as they worked to make things between them smoother and more cohesive. They’ve been together for 30 years.

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    Kristen Welch
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About 5 years ago, I cheated on my husband. We separated and I hit rock bottom in life. I realize how shitty of a wife I was and how I had turned into a bad mother and person in general. I made a change and worked hard to become a better person. It took my husband about a year to forgive me enough to give me another chance. Now, we are very happy. I am honest with him about everything, even things that may make him uncomfortable, because I want transparency and trust. We are each others best friend and never get tired of each other. If a person truly wants to, they can change. It's not easy. It take a lot of time and hard work. But, even had we not worked things out, I am happy with who I am now. The fact that we are completely in love and happy is just an amazing perk that I don't take for granted

    R Carson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One size doesn't fit all.

    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not saying this is never the case, but it isn't the fundamental truth it's presenting itself as.

    Marianne
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think so. If someone cheats on you, you can leave or forgive them. Only thing you should never do is not forgiving them but staying all the same. That will ruin both your lives.

    Iifa A.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Disagree. There is as many relationship types than there is people. Sex and love have nothing in common. Communication and respect is the key to a healthy relationship, being in a relationship doesn't automatically make the person less selfish, less broken, without mistakes. Strong relationships are were everyone can speak openly. I have gone on holidays alone, I have gone out alone, and I have fallen in love multiple times during my 13+yr of relationship, and I always tell him about all my actions not because I want to brag, but to discuss why I'm feeling this way. The best decision we ever made was to inform each other if we have thoughts or plans to go out and have sex/dates with someone else. This gives us chance to talk, and also I can make a choice is it something I deal with or I will leave . If I stay I cannot use it against him in future to win fights, if I leave he respects my choice. So far talking prior to hurting has kept as loyal to each other

    AnxietyRiddenMom
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree with this one. The world is not so black and white. There is way too many scenarios and personality types to say this situation is cut and dry. If it works for the OP, then live that life, but it's not the same for every relationship ever

    UpQuarkDownQuark
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. My ex-wife cheated on me. We were going through a very rough time, I was in a deep depression and stopped being affectionate, and she turned to another man. She told me, felt horrible and thought I would leave her, but I knew why she did it and couldn’t really blame her. She didn’t do because she thought nothing of me or was devious, she did because she was LONELY. We moved on from it and were fine. Well, until we amicably divorced years later for unrelated reasons, anyway.

    Anjelika
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me this view is black and white just like cheating, it is more complicated than it seems ,though for me cheating is one of the worst things you can do.You go or you stay. They cheated because they were drunk, they didn't say anything about a partner/spouse, they lied (3rd person didn't know)they feel lonely, the relationship is dead, toxic relationship etc. End of the day the decision is for the "victim/cheated person" sorry don't know what to call it, and people shouldn't judge them on it , just show them care

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    #17

    Many People Are Exactly The Kind Of Folks They Warn Their Kids About

    That a lot of people are exactly the kind of people that they warn their own children about.

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    K Witmer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like those parents we saw on the Halloween videos taking all the candy while their kids tell them to only take one, they're the parents that tell their children that other people are bad and they only do bad things bc if they don't others will.

    Vision Jinx
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my Dad. Every year he would confiscate all our butterfingers and reeses because they were his favorite. Smh

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    Llama_flower93
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then the parents wonder why their kids don't even want to visit them on holidays.

    Raven DeathShade
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got in trouble on a website I'm on once for implying that this girl's mother could have been lying to her when she said that Harry Potter is demonic. Girl, you're 13. I understand that you don't think your mother could be lying to you, but seriously. Claiming that your mother is never wrong just means that she's either lying or she's magic.

    Ashley Schriber
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me a long time to wrap my head around this. My father is very critical of certain qualities in people, particularly how "controlling" he found other people. It took me well into adulthood to realize I never felt more controlled than I did around him.

    Iifa A.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "do not discuss what goes on in our house with anybody else" yet at the same time tells to keep away from strangers, because they can abuse, kidnap etc. This was by far the most hurtful thing to say to a child considering most abuse takes place within the family or close family friends yet a lot of children where beaten to not discuss what goes on in the house....

    KT
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you insane? My friend was raped in a park by a stranger, she was never told to watch out for strangers and some creep told her he lost his puppy and needed help finding it. There was no puppy. I was almost abducted by a man in broad daylight. Parents are right for telling their kids not to trust strangers

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    RafCo
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's how they know about them. I tell my daughter's, watch out for balding slightly overweight middle-aged men. We're all shifty. Well, am I wrong?

    MyOpinionHasBeenServed
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "There's a predator behind every bush." Uh.... I went to a school with a kid who later raped his gf. He started a knife fight with his buddies at recess. Yeah, they brought knives to school.

    Leslie
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look at some of the examples that parents are setting for their children these days. It’s so sad.

    Queen fhk
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes because most parents don't want their kids to be like them.. they want them to be better

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    #18

    Gryffindor Were Not The Chosen Ones, Ravenclaw Was

    Gryffindor were not the chosen house or the chosen ones, Ravenclaw was. Because outside of Slytherin, Ravenclaw was actually the hardest house to get into. Because if you weren't pureblood pretty much you would not get into Slytherin. And if the Sorting Hat did not detect at least an ounce of genius in you, you're damn sure not getting into Ravenclaw. Gryffindor was only popping because of the Hermione Granger. Without Hermione Granger Gryffindor would not be s**t. I feel like people that are like oh Gryffindor, Gryffindor, Gryffindor – only watched the movies,  they did not read the books. If they did they would know Ravenclaws were the s**t. Yes, they love backstabbing towards each other. However, that's just like, get over it. And Hufflepuffs were not losers, okay, the world would be a lot better if we had Hufflepuffs in this world.

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    Stefan
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know, never read Lord of the Rings.

    Nicola Dimigen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, that's hilarious. take my upvote, dammit!

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    Grace Walker
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a hufflepuff, I wish people would appreciate us more

    foxgirl158
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    3 years ago

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    Same!! Even though we have Newt now, people still think of us as the losers :(

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    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The person who wrote this puts too much stock in intelligence.

    RafCo
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or too much stock in a fantasy book

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    Leodavinci
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Old Trekker here... people really need to get lives.

    Emma Pollet
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Slytherin doesn't mean pureblood. Look at for example Snape and Voldemort, both were halfbloods. It also doesn't mean evil, otherwise people like Slughorn, Andromeda Tonks, Snape and Narcissa Malfoy would not have been sorted in that house. Defining the houses by just one thing is the mistake of so many people, because even ravenclaws are not genius by default. They are curious and studious and value knowledge more than average, but you don't have to be the smartest around to fit that description. Gryffindors are more than just brave and reckless, Ravenclaws are more than just smart, Hufflepuffs are more than just loyal and Slytherins most certainly are more than just ambitious. Also there is no house of the 'chosen ones'. Technically if you are placed in a house, you are chosen by the hat (or the Pottermore quiz) to be in those colours. Everyone is a 'chosen one'.

    Anonymous
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Alongside Ravenclaw, Slytherin is the hardest one to get into. You have to be ambitious, cunning, clever, resourceful and loyal. These are rare traits too.

    Olivia Dale
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s fascinating how people get so worked up about fiction

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    #19

    Looking At Looks First And Then Personality

    When I tell people that I look at looks first and then personality. I don't understand why so many people are pressed about this. It's not like I'm saying I will sacrifice looks for personality. The world is big enough for me to find someone with better both worlds. It's not just one. What's wrong with that? And if you're upset at me, then maybe you're insecure about something. Think about it.

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    sofacushionfort
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This will pass as one matures past one’s overwhelming mating instincts.

    Phoenix Strezlewsky
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When does that happen exactly? There are 50 something year old men trying to date women in their 20s because women their age look “too old” 🤣

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    HarriMissesScotland
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course, it is natural to judge by appearance, but by shunning someone with a disability, you just might be losing the best friend you could ever have. My friend has the worst case of cerebral palsy I have ever seen. She has a humpback, drags her left leg, a crooked mouth and she drools. And, she is difficult to understand. She has the most beautiful heart, most wicked sense of humor, and is as stubborn as the day is long. People avoid her, as though she is contagious, and that hurts my heart. For her college graduation, I took her to EPCOT, plopped her in a wheelchair, and got her drunk. She was gloriously happy. So was I.

    Mary Rose Kent
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From your many posts here and elsewhere, you are clearly a kind and caring person. I feel certain your friends all value your friendship!

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    Kittymisfit
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's important to be attracted to your romantic partner, but it would be foolish to look for a perfect physical specimen with the right personality. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what one person finds attractive, another may not. If the relationship is based solely or even mostly on physical attraction, it probably won't last that long.

    Iifa A.
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In fairness if you have working eyes you would be ignorant to say you don't see looks. But it doesn't mean you choose looks over personality, it means you're observant. Most people who meet you first time, like you! We start disliking people not because of the looks, but because the way they act, talk, the attitude they have. But when I meet you very first time I do check your looks so I can identify you in future.

    Kimi Tomminello
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a sapiosexual I can honestly say there are a lot more people than OP thinks that don't see looks first. There's plenty of aces out there as well that find love in those that aren't necessarily "attractive". I don't think there's any need to think people would be upset with someone saying this is how they feel about relationships. It comes acrossed as quite hostile to those of us that don't seek out looks over personality.

    Insanity Wolf
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, people can disagree with this all they want. If you can legitimately say the person you are with is completely disgusting to look at but their personality overrides that, sure. The cop out of "looks are just a perk" is pretty b******t. You wouldn't be with who you are if their looks completely disgusted you. Don't know why we are in a time where physical attraction is being demonized. Pretty immature to beat around the bush there.

    Gin
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are of course people who get to know their partner initially as a friend and feelings develop despite looks. I know two people who will honestly say that their partner is ugly but they don't mind because they love who they are. One has a very severe skin problem but their partner claims they no longer see it. That by falling for who they are, their appearance became a pleasure because they were just so pleased to see them and spend time with them. These are their words, not mine. So if I know two people with these views there must be many more surely? They can't be that weird! Yes, what you say is a reality but there are also a lot of people who do see beyond. Or who will meet their partner in a different way that means looks aren't what brought them together.

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    Ozymandias73
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's almost impossible to not see looks first. If you see someone for the first time, you're obviously going to see their looks first. Getting to know them well let you see their personality. OP may have needed to reword this differently saying looks over personality in general, not "first".

    Tom Jones
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Looks are a factor, but are overrated. Being with someone with whom you can have consistent constructive and mutually beneficial interaction is a wonderful experience. It's also important to have a shared value system--this is very important in making minor and major decisions together.

    RafCo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it were only looks, I'd be a lonely lonely man. Actually, my personality sucks too. Huh....

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    #20

    Women Who Hype Up Others Are The Most Toxic Ones

    Majority of women that I have come across that are always like, yes queen, you go girl, women supporting women, build women up. They're the type of girls that like always hyping people up on social media. Some of them are the most toxic people I have ever met.

    cassieking92 , Leonard J Matthews Report

    lenka
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The women who do it on social media expressly for likes and use language like yes queen, you go girl might very well be toxic. But women supporting women and genuinely investing time and energy (beyond a vapid social media comment) are absolutely not. I have been blessed by knowing some amazing women who have supported, encouraged and mentored me over the years and they have been some of the most rewarding relationships I have had. I think the differentiating factor is.... are you doing because you genuinely care about the women or are you in it for attention or likes. Because one of these does not look like the other.

    Urbangirlatl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well said. Anyone who does/says positive things just for Likes is a twit. But there are plenty of us out there being supportive bc we genuinely care about other human beings. And we don't post it unless doing so is to help the other person, not ourselves.

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    K Witmer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's better to live by example. If you support other woman then do it w your actions. No need to sell it. Of course compliments and saying nice things bc you're being kind is nice too.

    Mermaid Elle-Jaye
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do it genuinely all the time, keep being genuine because it casts a vast light on the faker meanies

    Charmaine Blackley
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I support other women and I don't feel like this, but neither do I use social media to crow about it. So I guess what I am saying is, there are genuine women that support other women, but don't need to yell about it, because for me, that's enough. Women have it hard enough. Some women are genuine (like me)

    RandomBeing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is annoying cuz I wanna do it genuinely :/

    Autumn
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those tan shoes look p a i n f u l

    Psycho Cat
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who is a feminist, studied that very topic and is hyping up each women on social media and to her face, but she also becomes the most vile and disgusting monster when she talks about some one woman behind her back, because she's prettier, taller, skinier, more successfull... Yuck. Women can really be the worst.

    KT
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's hilarious, any post on social media of some fat woman wearing next to nothing looking like cottage cheese squeezed through a strainer all women are like omg you look amazing it's rediculous

    Boreddd
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I get asked about a dude by my bff I tell her that it is her choice and also my honest opinion. This is a good way to stay safe, I think

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    #21

    You Should Pursue Your Career Based On Money

    I think you should pursue your career based on the money and not based on what will emotionally fulfill you. Let me explain. We put so much weight in having our careers fulfill us emotionally, professionally, spiritually. I mean, like, we think of our careers as synonymous with our identities. But what if you f**king hate your job? What if it's just exactly that? What if it's just a job? So would you rather pick a low paying job or a high paying job? If you're let's just assume like, there's gonna be points when you hate your job anyway? Why not just pick a higher paying job?

    401(K) 2012 , chloyorkcity Report

    NsG
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Up to a certain salary point that's true. But consistent studies have shown that beyond a certain figure, the money stops being enough. You spend between 66-75% of your adult life working (taking the average working week of 40 hours and working between the ages of 18 and 69). That's a very long time to be masochistic enough to *hate* your job. I'd say ditch "career" and find well paying jobs you can switch between. Who cares if your CV says "Manager, DJ, Teacher, Dog Walker, Accountant".

    AnxietyRiddenMom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's a very sad outlook. What's the point of having lots of money if you're miserable?

    Kittymisfit
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the trick is to find something you don't mind doing that funds your lifestyle and future plans.

    Honu
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. For me, it was about balance. I chose a field I find interesting where I could also make a comfortable living. I considered some of my other interests that would've kept me poor and others that might have made more money but would've been stressful. I did some soul searching and realized I am just not that noble. It all sounds really great to follow your bliss and money doesn't make you happy. That's a story that I would kinda like to tell about myself, but it's a lie. I like living in a comfortable house with security and savings and travel and fun money. I'm also not going to do something that makes me miserable for more money. I'm not going to work myself into an early grave trying to get to the C suite, or carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. I'm not that ambitious, either. I'm not a hero. I like slack! Having other people think of me as successful is empty. I want to have fun and retire as early as I can. I'm kind of the human version of a house cat. Not the most flattering thing to admit, but true.

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    Sabse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So wrong. I actually earned a third more once. After a while, I was so damn unhappy. I couldn't sleep anymore and was depressed. It wasn't my Job! So I quit. Now I make less and walk out of the office smiling, happy with what I do. My life is so much better, even without expensive things.

    Marco Hub-Dub
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is actually proven over and over to be untrue. You can do something you love that is part of your identity and compliments or even extends to your personality & still make what you’re worth or even make all you need. As a blanket statement, it’s just not accurate.

    Chris Yuen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Controversial opinion... don't have a career just make money and do that with things you like

    Iifa A.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes pick something practical like accountant or lawyer and join the 100s who chose same like you from practical point of view. Join them in unemployment as there are so many now with degrees that are utterly useless in their low skill job. Every job they apply for have already 100s of people applying as well that could have 1+ experience instead of you out of college. Do something you love and have interest in, or pick something you love and connect it with something practical. For me it was love of maths and biology, I did genetics and programming. But I went for catering because I didn't like lab work, yet I had maths/IT skills that let me do vast amount of jobs from office, to engineer, it. Do something you love mixed with something new(technological skills is must have in 2022)and useful in future.

    Stannous Flouride
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I could NOT disagree more. I'll be 70 this year and have had almost nothing but low paying jobs where I liked the work. I didn't always like the higher-ups (and that was why I'd move on) but I took pride in my work and did my best and have had an amazing life.

    Sofia Salgado
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is probably valid in the United States, but from where I´m from, you can pursue anything that will make you happy and not worry about financial instability...

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    #22

    Metallica's "Turn The Page" Cover Is Not That Good

    Metallica's cover of "Turn The Page" is absolute s**t.

    Kreepin Deth , justin_danger_nunley Report

    Lara Verne
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again, personal preferences are not universal truth.

    Laura Lett
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't care for either one, myself.

    Niall Mac Iomera
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Huh? Like, it's not amazing or anything, but absolute sh*t? C'mon dude.

    Dash Blue
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am not a fan of Metallica’s version of Turn the Page. James Hatfields growling vocals do not suit the lyrics. I think that Bob Segers live version can not be topped.

    David Houde
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually heard the Metallica version first and liked it quite a bit. So then I found the Seger version and liked that one too. Turns out I just like the song. Similar is Careless Whisper. I grew up on the George Michael version. Years later I heard the Seether version and liked that one too. Completely different, but I still like it.

    Mary Ballard-Johansson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree, to an extent. It is good, but it will never, ever top Seger.

    Suzi Gauthier
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Metallica's not that good but I do like some of their songs.

    Rob Miles
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first time I heard it, I thought it was a Weird Al parody. I know people who love it, but I can't stand it (though I think Metallica is largely overrated anyway)

    shodokai
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So overrated. The entire catalogue. I grew up in their 'era' and it utterly mystified me how people freaked over them. Boring live.

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    #23

    Not Getting The Coronavirus Vaccine Immediately Is Not Anti-Vax

    Not immediately getting the COVID vaccine because you don't think there's enough information about it and you want to be more informed about it is not anti-vax. And it's not selfish. It's not even anti the COVID vaccine. If you're someone who's gotten the vaccine, and you freak out because people want to be more informed before they get it, you're being ridiculous.

    alyssasquirrrel , Maryland GovPics Report

    Lis Daglish
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Still ridiculous. Modern vaccines are only released once thoroughly researched by people who actually understand what and how to research. I absolutely hate this ‘do my own research’ line of thinking. Don’t fly unless you’ve thoroughly researched aviation dynamics? Don’t receive anaesthetic or surgery until you’ve researched medical procedures more thoroughly than a professional? Nonsense.

    Marco Hub-Dub
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lame. This is a gross rationalization to be paranoid or dramatic or whatever. The consensus from the legitimate scientific world is united in the pros/cons of why anyone who doesn’t have a real, honest condition that prevents them from getting vaccines should absolutely have this vaccine. That’s enough info to dive really really deep into. Unless you can explain somatic hypermutation to a 10yo in under five minutes, you’ve got no need to look further than what the medical and scientific communities have already exhaustively “looked into” before health and disease and government agencies have come to the same conclusion on taking the vaccine.

    Eucritta
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depends on what 'more informed' means. From what I've seen, it's meant quacks on YouTube. I have absolutely no respect for that, and by now, no patience either.

    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not immediately getting the COVID vaccine because you think your Google "research skills" are better than thousands of epidemiologists and immunologists and every health organization in the world absolutely IS selfish. And stupid.

    Susie Elle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a huge difference between vaccine development and vaccine testing. I wish people understood that because it's two entirely different processes. Developing a vaccine takes years, a decade if you're unlucky. Testing a vaccine in a human trial can be done within a year, easy, if the urgency is high enough. The vaccine was ready to be tested technically before covid struck.

    Kate
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd been closely following covid since it popped up, including progress on the vaccine. They piggybacked on previous research from the original SARS outbreak -- that's why they were able to get a vaccine out so quickly. Claiming there's not enough research on it just shows that you haven't been paying attention.

    Adam Jeff
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except it IS selfish. We should have all figured out by now that when it comes to infectious diseases, it's not just about you, it's about who you might pass it to. The vaccines don't stop transmission but they do substantially reduce it. I can understand why some people might have been worried about getting the vaccine, but putting those worries above the health of others is selfish.

    Wilko Lunenburg
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chances are that there are a few million people who got it before you did with no ill effects. So yes you are the AH.

    Claire Stanfield
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a friend with concerns, I listened to her as she voiced her concerns to me, I encouraged her to read more about it and the process, and told her I had gotten the vaccine and was fine. No harsh words, no raised voices. She ended up scheduling herself for the shot without me saying another word about it.

    UpQuarkDownQuark
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What was the quote I read? Something along the lines of “People are fine with a disease with a 3% mortality rate, but frightened of a vaccine with a 0.00003% mortality rate.”

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    #24

    Body Positivity Is Profitable For Medical Industry

    That's profitable for the medical industry if the body positivity movement succeeds. In theory of the hospital industry sole purpose was for profit, having people be okay with being overweight is not that bad of an idea because then they're at higher risk for treatable cancers and diseases in theory.

    jcthecatalyst , contri Report

    K Witmer
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is not what body positivity is ffs!! No one in the f*****g world thinks being obese is f*****g healthy!! It simply means no one is going to beat themselves up and feel ashamed of who they are in that moment skinny or fat. No one wants advice on their body no one wants commentary on their body that is it. If someone thinks they look good in a crop top and they're obese let them be. They know they're obese. They don't need input disguised as concern for a strangers health. Leave peoples bodies alone. No one os asking you for your opinion. I don't go around telling men how to regrow their hair just like I wouldn't tell a woman she can't eat that dessert bc I feel she's overweight

    J Baker
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm starting to get the sense people are treating "body positivity" in the same way they treat the word "feminist." What I mean is this, if you say you're a feminist, people get all hot and bothered. But if you say you support equal pay for equal work, and equal/equitable access to jobs, most would probably agree with you even though they don't get that is the *definition* of a feminist. Being "body positive" means accepting your body for what it is and not feeling shame because of it, which is a far healthier way of seeing oneself and leads to more positive change (including exercise and weight loss!). It does not mean you are fat supremacist, this is not a Weird Al video.

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    Jasper Cool
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🙄 a lot of worse health outcomes for overweight individuals are a result of doctors attributing all their symptoms to weight and delaying proper testing, diagnosing, and treatment. Nevermind that BMI is a terrible predictor of health. Just because you're skinny doesn't mean you're healthy either. By the poster's logic ignoring and dismissing women and BIPOC's symptoms would also be more profitable in the US healthcare system.

    lenka
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perhaps in the US where patient care is profit based. I dont think this is true for countries with socialised health care.

    Céline Proulx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was going to write this too. This person must be from the US.

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    Swan
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't like "body positivity" they're the people telling me to accept myself to accept my body or else something is wrong with me, the people telling me as I was born as a girl I should just passively accept that which fate has chosen for me FÙCK YOU I'M TRANSEXUAL !! enough with the "if you don't like yourself no one will ever like you"!!!!!!

    Evil Little Thing
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can like yourself and not be satisfied with your body shape. The two are not mutually exclusive. I think valuing yourself is an important part of transitioning.

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    AnxietyRiddenMom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think body positivity and bad health go hand in hand. You can be positive in your thoughts of yourself but also want to make improvements. It's not an all or nothing concept.

    Stimpy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right, because the bulemy and and extreme diet fads caused by pop culture beauty standards cause no health problems ?

    Annabelle Janous
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the problem with doctors telling people they are "overweight", is that they use the bmi scale, which is a completly BS system.

    R Carson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole medical system is suspect at several levels.

    Sarah
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I believe OP is confusing body positivity with health. It can be a gray area, yes, but body positivity is not about being unhealthy.

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