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Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses
Imagine being extremely close to your sibling when growing up, only to realize that it may all change for good after they get married. This is what happened to a 20-year-old woman whose older brother was about to marry his fiancée, Emily.
“We don’t get along at all,” the author of this r/AITA post said about Emily, her future SIL. It turns out, Emily asked her to babysit the guests’ babies at their ‘childfree’ wedding, the same wedding she initially didn’t allow the author to attend because she was too young. “In Emily’s eyes, a child is anyone under twenty-one years old,” the author explained.
But the author was not happy to accept the offer, saying “the more I refused, the angrier Emily got.” Read the full story below and be sure to share your thoughts in the comment section below!
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Mari 4 years ago
Ridiculous! A slibing not invited to a wedding? That's just cruel. And she has to babysit for 40 childeren! That's just mad. I hope your brother opens his eyes and understands what of person Emily is. He can be ashamed too for his own behaviour towards his sister.
classbag 4 years ago
40 CHILDREN. That's not even safe or reasonable. What the everloving...
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Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago (edited)
Nope, you are not the asshole. What I don't understand is why would the fiance need a child care type service if children aren't invited to the wedding. And seriously who the f**k considers a 20yo a child. Sounds like Emily is just making excuses to get rid of you. I would honestly stand my ground and not even go to the wedding. Your brother, Emily and your family that's pissed at you are the assholes here.
Alex Bailey 4 years ago
Thank you - that's exactly the problem I was having with this story. All these people aren't supposed to be bringing their children. 20 is not a child and if she is considered one why on earth do they want a child looking after other children. Two people with 40 children is way too many anyway - that's extremely unfair. I'd not want to go at all.
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JuJu 4 years ago
Nate should have a good look at his to-be-bride and reconsider his options. I hope his sister will be there when he gets divorced.
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
I hope it doesn't come to that, Hope he'll take a good look and back out before he needs a divorce.
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NsG 4 years ago
Additional context from the thread itself: the kids ages are between 2-12 years old. OPs boyfriend would have to look after *all 40 (potentially) of them by himself* for 15 minutes while OP attends the ceremony itself. They've been engaged for less than 3 months. It's OPs mother who is blowing up her phone because she LOVES Emily. OPs siblings disagree with Emily, but want OP to concede for Nate's sake. Personally at this point I think Nate is being a coward and doesn't want to admit he's made a partner choice error.
Otter 4 years ago
Did the thread say anything about how the OP's boyfriend felt about this? He's 20 years old, and if you ask the average 20 year old straight male to babysit 40 kids he'd either refuse, or shoot himself in the foot.
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Faith Hurst-Bilinski 4 years ago
Babysitting 40 kids at a wedding is nowhere near the same as teaching and will not prepare you for it. Signed, veteran teacher of 25 years who would not even consider doing this.
Cheryl Zandt 4 years ago
Yes to everyone saying nta, and PS no way would any parent I can think of be ok with dropping their kid/s off in a giant playgroup with a 1/20 ratio. That's not just unpleasant (for the kids too), it's unsafe!
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 4 years ago
So they invited a ton of 'adult' guests or there wouldn't be 40 kids. Not everyone has kids, not everyone is going to travel to a wedding with kids in tow. (I'm assuming they didn't invite the Duggar family.) They can absolutely afford to pay 300 bucks to look after them. Hell, they should have hired some professional baby-sitters, because what if she or her boyfriend got sick and couldn't attend anyway? This is a problem of her and SIL not getting along due to personality clashes, this is the hill the SIL wants to die on and for some reason, the rest of the family is bothering the wrong person.
Chucky Cheezburger 4 years ago
Sounds like everyone is an a$$hole here except for the OP and her Bf...Nate for volunteering OP to babysit, Emily for thinking that anyone under 21 is a child *unless* they are going to be babysitting 40 kids for peanuts..(actually surprised they offered anything for the job) and the rest of OPs family for thinking she's in the wrong...Why doesnt one of the folks who says she should babysit do it themselves? It sucks that she will miss the wedding and sucks more because OP and her brother grew apart. But part of what makes life bearable is setting boundaries, and OP has set them. Sometimes you have to take of yourself, everyone else be damned.
Marik 4 years ago
They expect the two of them to wach 40 children for 6h with a payment of 50$ each ... that would be round about 0,82$/h per child?! And them they're pissed to be declined that "generous" offer/chance? - most definitly NTA
Biba Little 4 years ago
This is easy, her brother and his bride to be are horrible persons and she should not take huge responsibility to take care of 40 children for so little money or any money at all. To struck someone with such responsibility while at the same time not to invite them to a wedding as close family member is too cruel and offensive.
Viviane 4 years ago
I have to wonder if the bride used 21 as a cut-off age in order to avoid inviting the OP.
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Mari 4 years ago
Ridiculous! A slibing not invited to a wedding? That's just cruel. And she has to babysit for 40 childeren! That's just mad. I hope your brother opens his eyes and understands what of person Emily is. He can be ashamed too for his own behaviour towards his sister.
classbag 4 years ago
40 CHILDREN. That's not even safe or reasonable. What the everloving...
Load More Replies... Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago (edited)
Nope, you are not the asshole. What I don't understand is why would the fiance need a child care type service if children aren't invited to the wedding. And seriously who the f**k considers a 20yo a child. Sounds like Emily is just making excuses to get rid of you. I would honestly stand my ground and not even go to the wedding. Your brother, Emily and your family that's pissed at you are the assholes here.
Alex Bailey 4 years ago
Thank you - that's exactly the problem I was having with this story. All these people aren't supposed to be bringing their children. 20 is not a child and if she is considered one why on earth do they want a child looking after other children. Two people with 40 children is way too many anyway - that's extremely unfair. I'd not want to go at all.
Load More Replies... JuJu 4 years ago
Nate should have a good look at his to-be-bride and reconsider his options. I hope his sister will be there when he gets divorced.
Jane Alexander 4 years ago
I hope it doesn't come to that, Hope he'll take a good look and back out before he needs a divorce.
Load More Replies... NsG 4 years ago
Additional context from the thread itself: the kids ages are between 2-12 years old. OPs boyfriend would have to look after *all 40 (potentially) of them by himself* for 15 minutes while OP attends the ceremony itself. They've been engaged for less than 3 months. It's OPs mother who is blowing up her phone because she LOVES Emily. OPs siblings disagree with Emily, but want OP to concede for Nate's sake. Personally at this point I think Nate is being a coward and doesn't want to admit he's made a partner choice error.
Otter 4 years ago
Did the thread say anything about how the OP's boyfriend felt about this? He's 20 years old, and if you ask the average 20 year old straight male to babysit 40 kids he'd either refuse, or shoot himself in the foot.
Load More Replies... Faith Hurst-Bilinski 4 years ago
Babysitting 40 kids at a wedding is nowhere near the same as teaching and will not prepare you for it. Signed, veteran teacher of 25 years who would not even consider doing this.
Cheryl Zandt 4 years ago
Yes to everyone saying nta, and PS no way would any parent I can think of be ok with dropping their kid/s off in a giant playgroup with a 1/20 ratio. That's not just unpleasant (for the kids too), it's unsafe!
Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 4 years ago
So they invited a ton of 'adult' guests or there wouldn't be 40 kids. Not everyone has kids, not everyone is going to travel to a wedding with kids in tow. (I'm assuming they didn't invite the Duggar family.) They can absolutely afford to pay 300 bucks to look after them. Hell, they should have hired some professional baby-sitters, because what if she or her boyfriend got sick and couldn't attend anyway? This is a problem of her and SIL not getting along due to personality clashes, this is the hill the SIL wants to die on and for some reason, the rest of the family is bothering the wrong person.
Chucky Cheezburger 4 years ago
Sounds like everyone is an a$$hole here except for the OP and her Bf...Nate for volunteering OP to babysit, Emily for thinking that anyone under 21 is a child *unless* they are going to be babysitting 40 kids for peanuts..(actually surprised they offered anything for the job) and the rest of OPs family for thinking she's in the wrong...Why doesnt one of the folks who says she should babysit do it themselves? It sucks that she will miss the wedding and sucks more because OP and her brother grew apart. But part of what makes life bearable is setting boundaries, and OP has set them. Sometimes you have to take of yourself, everyone else be damned.
Marik 4 years ago
They expect the two of them to wach 40 children for 6h with a payment of 50$ each ... that would be round about 0,82$/h per child?! And them they're pissed to be declined that "generous" offer/chance? - most definitly NTA
Biba Little 4 years ago
This is easy, her brother and his bride to be are horrible persons and she should not take huge responsibility to take care of 40 children for so little money or any money at all. To struck someone with such responsibility while at the same time not to invite them to a wedding as close family member is too cruel and offensive.
Viviane 4 years ago
I have to wonder if the bride used 21 as a cut-off age in order to avoid inviting the OP.
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