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“AITA For Blowing Up When I Found That My Husband Recorded My Therapy Session?”
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Husband Tries To Sneak Into Wife's Therapy Session, She's Mortified As He Records It To Listen Later

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It’s hard to believe that a few decades back, talking about mental health was considered taboo. Things are better now because not only do we talk about it, but we also seek help when needed. Also, we genuinely trust this safe space that helps us heal.

What if you found out that someone was listening when you thought you were having a regular therapy session? It would obviously anger you, and even this woman lost it when her husband recorded her. Read on to find out all the drama that followed after that!

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    The 26-year-old poster was five months pregnant and grieving her late mom, so she started online therapy at home

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    Her husband wasn’t allowed in the room, but he constantly made excuses to come in, as he wanted to hear everything

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    However, when he stopped being inquisitive about it, the poster got suspicious, but she soon found out that he had recorded her session

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    She was so mad at him that she went to stay with her sister, but he kept apologizing and claimed that he had done it out of “concern”

    In today’s story, the original poster (OP) tells us that she was grieving her late mom when she was five months pregnant after two miscarriages. It was a tough time for her, considering how her relationship with her mother was so rocky. That’s why she started online therapy at home, where she would have her sessions in a closed room. 

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    What annoyed her a lot was that her husband kept insisting on being in the room even when he wasn’t allowed. In fact, the guy constantly made excuses just to listen in on her sessions, like bringing her coffee or water. She asked him many times to stop doing that and also not to ask her about it. However, she was surprised when he actually did what she asked him to.

    What she didn’t know was that he had secretly recorded her session, and when she caught him listening to it, OP was absolutely furious. That’s a serious breach of her privacy, so naturally, she blew up at him and went to her sister’s place. Meanwhile, the guy kept giving excuses that he just wanted to know what “her problem” was and wanted to “help her out.”

    He also apologized to her and said that he had already deleted the recording, but that didn’t change her mind. He kept accusing her of overreacting, and even her sister felt that she was being harsh on him. However, the poster felt that what he had done was awful, so she vented online, seeking support and wondering whether she had overreacted.

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    Well, netizens instantly sided with her, calling her husband a red flag and claiming that she had every right to be pissed at him. To get better insights into the matter, Bored Panda interviewed Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor. Even she agreed that the poster was not overreacting, and that therapy only works if it feels safe for the person who’s seeking help.

    “Confidentiality isn’t just a rule or formality. It is the most important foundation of therapy, and without it, the whole point of getting professional help falls apart. Besides, it also shows how her husband wants to hold power and be in control of the relationship. But it’s his lack of consideration for his wife’s privacy that really crosses the line here,” she added.

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    Our expert also stressed that the poster was not only going through mental health struggles, but she was also pregnant. She believes that when someone is betrayed during such a vulnerable time, they are bound to lash out. Prof. Lobo also noted that just when the woman was healing from her trauma, the husband made things so worse that it might have wasted all her progress so far.

    “Trust is a fragile little thing. The person who crossed the line has to own it fully, understand why it hurts, and prove through actions that it won’t happen again. Trust comes back slowly when someone consistently shows respect, patience, and honesty. And if it feels too heavy to handle alone, getting help from a couples therapist can really make a difference,” advised Prof. Lobo.

    Well, I really hope that the poster was able to get through it all, whatever decision she made. What about you? We would love to hear your thoughts, so leave them in the comments below!

    Folks online instantly slammed her husband, stating that it was a serious breach of the poster’s privacy

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    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    Helena
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would consider this worse than cheating. This would be one of the worst things he could do in my book. I'm a very private person, I would never forgive this.

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree. Way worse than cheating. I would not be able to forgive this either.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depending on where they live, there are some serious legal implications. I hope she reported him, had him kicked out of the house and has been able to heal since the post. I can't imagine this is the only type of deceitful and controlling behaviour he's shown but even if it is, I don't think I could ever work through that kind of betrayal.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd call off one session and on that date fake orgasms and s**t-talk my husband. Extra points if a good friend can play the therapist and loudly confirm what a cvnt hubby is, and that most likely (insert insult about his masculinity, OP would know what hurts most).

    Suzie
    Community Member
    18 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "He couldn't help it." What a complete crock of BS. Yes, he absolutely could help it. I think that might be a deal breaker.

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, he absolutely COULD help it. That's a horrible excuse. She needs to leave him for good. WTAF is wrong with him?

    J R
    Community Member
    23 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think there's any way back from this. He's proven he can't be trusted. Even the way he said she could take a few days at her sisters, as though he were granting her permission. That's just wildly arrogant and controlling. What makes this worse for me is that she's grieving. It's a hard enough time in her life, but if she divorces him, it's going to be even harder with divorce. Even a divorce that's the right decision is stressful. So she was already stressed out. If she stays, she'll have to deal with being unhappy with him. If she divorces him, she'll have to deal with the stress of a divorce. He's completely controlling and selfish.

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And just like that, the trust is gone. There's no moving past this type of boundary violation. It's an emotional a*****t.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a completely despicable thing to do. How could you ever trust him again. I don't buy his explanation either. I feel so bad for OP being pregnant with this guys kid. How can she ever get away from him.

    ShadowKat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He may be worried, but he may also be an invasive p***k. Not exclusive, both harmful.

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    Helena
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would consider this worse than cheating. This would be one of the worst things he could do in my book. I'm a very private person, I would never forgive this.

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree. Way worse than cheating. I would not be able to forgive this either.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depending on where they live, there are some serious legal implications. I hope she reported him, had him kicked out of the house and has been able to heal since the post. I can't imagine this is the only type of deceitful and controlling behaviour he's shown but even if it is, I don't think I could ever work through that kind of betrayal.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd call off one session and on that date fake orgasms and s**t-talk my husband. Extra points if a good friend can play the therapist and loudly confirm what a cvnt hubby is, and that most likely (insert insult about his masculinity, OP would know what hurts most).

    Suzie
    Community Member
    18 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "He couldn't help it." What a complete crock of BS. Yes, he absolutely could help it. I think that might be a deal breaker.

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    3 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, he absolutely COULD help it. That's a horrible excuse. She needs to leave him for good. WTAF is wrong with him?

    J R
    Community Member
    23 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think there's any way back from this. He's proven he can't be trusted. Even the way he said she could take a few days at her sisters, as though he were granting her permission. That's just wildly arrogant and controlling. What makes this worse for me is that she's grieving. It's a hard enough time in her life, but if she divorces him, it's going to be even harder with divorce. Even a divorce that's the right decision is stressful. So she was already stressed out. If she stays, she'll have to deal with being unhappy with him. If she divorces him, she'll have to deal with the stress of a divorce. He's completely controlling and selfish.

    Nikki Sevven
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And just like that, the trust is gone. There's no moving past this type of boundary violation. It's an emotional a*****t.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a completely despicable thing to do. How could you ever trust him again. I don't buy his explanation either. I feel so bad for OP being pregnant with this guys kid. How can she ever get away from him.

    ShadowKat
    Community Member
    1 day ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He may be worried, but he may also be an invasive p***k. Not exclusive, both harmful.

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