‘I Had A Very Scary Experience With My Friend And I Wanted To Share This ‘Cause It Could Stop This From Happening To Someone Else’
Date rape drugs are substances that make it easier for predators to sexually assault another person and take advantage of them. After consumption, the victim might become confused, have trouble defending themselves, and even not be able to remember what happened. But date rape doesn’t happen just on dates — an attacker can be someone you just met. Unfortunately, TikTok user @aili.likes.adventure had to find out about it firsthand.
Two days ago, Aili shared a video, where she recalled the time she and her friend went out to have some fun. Everything was going fine at first and they were enjoying themselves but suddenly their evening took a dangerous turn. A group of men started casting their nets over the ladies. Aili and her friend didn’t make a big deal out of it. Why would they? However, the women got suspicious when their “admirers” started forcefully shoving drinks into their hands.
Aili said she made the video because she hopes it can help people to avoid falling into a similar trap
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Estimates suggest that at least 25 percent or 1 in 4 American women have been sexually assaulted or raped.
According to experts, knowing the most common date rape drugs and their side effects (as well as the signs of a perpetrator planning to use one) can help the general public fight off these attacks.
The most common date rape drugs are alcohol, benzodiazepines, ketamine, and GHB. Some, however, are more popular than others.
“When it comes to the most popular date rape drugs, number 1, 2, 3, and four is alcohol,” general practitioner, medical researcher, and founder of PrimeHealth Clinical Research, Iris Gorfinkel, M.D., told Bored Panda. “If you take a look at alcohol, it’s kind of interesting. Three out of four attackers are drinking when they sexually assault someone. Also about half of the sexual assault victims have been drinking. So alcohol plays a tremendous role in there.”
According to Gorfinkel attackers can also mix substances together. For example, Rohypnol, ketamine, and GHB are all colorless and flavorless, so they can be added not only to food but alcoholic beverages as well, simply because alcohol will increase the effects of all of these date rape drugs.
“What [these substances] have in common is that they will all cause people to feel more relaxed, and dissociated, or even detached,” the doctor added. “And on top of it, date rape drugs make it harder to remember what is going on later. They all work relatively quickly. And they can be in the body for anywhere from just a few hours to an entire day or sometimes beyond that.
Usually, everyone who has recently accepted a drink from another person, even someone they know, or who has left their drink unattended in a public place, should be cautious.
In certain scenarios, it can be difficult to distinguish the effects of a date rape drug from those of alcohol, especially after a person has consumed a large quantity of it.
Those who are accustomed to the effects of alcohol should consider how they normally feel after drinking or when intoxicated; any unexplained changes in their reactions to alcohol could mean a date rape drug was involved.
A person who feels significantly drunker than they should be may have been drugged. The only way to know for sure is to get medically tested.
Iris Gorfinkel said “the onset is sometimes sudden, and it’s very different in terms of how a person was feeling just minutes ago. Sudden dizziness, problems with speaking, having difficulties moving muscles that normally move easily, nausea, and vomiting are all clear signals that something is wrong. [You should also take notice if you’re friend is] feeling their heart racing or skipping beats, if they get sleepy or confused, or are having trouble breathing and are passing out.”
Gorfinkel said there are some things we can do to minimize our chances of falling victim to these dirty practices. “You have to be really aware of punch bowls and other containers that could easily be spiked and not to accept drinks from other people, especially at bars,” she explained. “You should watch [your drink] get poured at a bar, carry it around yourself. And don’t drink anything that smells or looks strange.”
“In terms of longer-term harms, people do experience post-traumatic sexual assault disorder, a form of PTSD. We also see an increased risk of clinical depression and clinical levels of anxiety. We may see problems, establishing long-term relationships or problems having a satisfying sexual relationship later on because of the horror and memories that are associated with having been sexually assaulted.”
There’s a lot to take in, but Gorfinkel thinks the goal is not to overly-emphasize each and every one of the drugs (knowing those names isn’t really helpful to the person) but the warning signals of hearing what sounds like fun, like ‘Here, try this.’
Here’s the discussion people had after listening to the story
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I read a lot of "she should have gone to the bar/bouncer/police/etc." I just wanna say, she did the most important thing: she got herself and her friend out of a dangerous situation, she 'survived'. Nobody knows how they will react in a treatening situation, she did the right thing.
Exactely! Especially when the guys followed them out of the bar. First get yourself to safety, then take the next steps.
Was it not safer in the bar,? people, phones, a bottle to break if you have to...?
I would be afraid of revenge, if this was escalated in bar. When you get away and then take the next steps, nobody knows for sure it was you who contacted police (I presume these assholes do it to lots and lots of random women)
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Men want sex, some will do almost anything to get it. Until people accept this as fact, women will continue to be raped and assaulted. Every single person who blamed the women is part of the problem. Anyone who isn't totally disgusted by the men's actions is part of the problem. We should be outraged! Would you call the police not knowing how they would react? Are you certain of what the bar staff would do? Or hosts of a party? They are not safe until they are in the car leaving. They were being followed, RUN! The first step is teaching people this is criminal. Yes the issue is getting attention, but the attitude of those who blame the women is common. Again, how would you know if they will blame you and make it worse or get help? (YouTube video - Tea and consent.)
This is being voted down? I am asking you to see sexual assault as a crime and stop blaming the women. You disagree. If a woman came to you for help would you? Or would you ask them to tell someone else, like bar staff? Would you do anything if you saw someone add something to a drink? By voting this down you just told all the women here we cannot count on getting help if we ask. None of us should say anything until we are long gone. RUN FIRST. Can't you see how you are part of the problem? If those women turned to you or you witnessed it, tell us the first thing that comes to mind. First thought.
Oh, it will continue if they don't report it right away? Blame them for next time? It is their responsibility to make it stop? Are you serious? Anyone, anyone who said this is part of the problem. Telling anyone in the moment can be the wrong thing to do. Even saying something later is risky. How often are compliments ignored? How often are the women punished? Those women who stood and did something for the next victim, continued to live the nightmare. The bars with signs in the women's restroom giving code words to get help etc, help women feel safe. They know they will be believed and protected. Instead of blaming the victim, they provide assistance.
Rhea. When we tell our sisters they should or shouldn’t have done some thing we’re basically telling them that they didn’t do enough or didn’t do it right. Instead remind them that looking for help from an establishment owner or an employee would be helpful.
Mazer. I agree with you! We can always advise each other how to act in a certain situation. For example: When you feel treatened, ask help at the bar. However I don't agree with all the Captain Hindsights who claim that's what the victims should have done. I actually grew up with a cool brother, who's 13yr older than me and took me along clubbing, for the first time when I was 11. He always looked out for me and gave me all the advise I needed to feel safe. When I was about 16 and someone tried to corner me at a toilet in a huge club. I just kicked the door in the guys face and ran. We were surrounded with people, my brother and lots of friends were nearby. I didn't scream for help and just ran. I didn't think of any of the things that I was taught. Even with all the good advise, you never know how you will react in a scary situation.
There's no chance the guys would've waited around for the police. And there's no magical roofie test that the police show up with and sort the situation out right there.
Police aren't gonna do s**t either lmao. If anything I would have called the bar afterwards to alert them of what had happened. In situations like this try to remember the time frame, because most likely the bar would have cameras that could have recorded them in action. That's really about all you can do.
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So many victim blaming here... They did what they thought was best at the time. Later when they thought about it they called the police and they put this story in social media. Maybe this post will make some girls and bar staff aware.
Exactly. It's disgusting how people are so quick to attack them about it.
Bartenders should be aware. When I was tending bar a man asked me to give his date doubles (twice the alcohol). It wasn't my date, I wasn't the victim so I could think clearly. He got doubles, her drinks didn't contain alcohol. I looked her in the eyes when she took the first sip to tell her the lack of alcohol was intentional. Eventually I was able to tell her. Her expression was one of anger with the intention of embarrassing him. I don't know if was illegal in 1979. I did know the macho, women chasing managers would agree with my actions. Bar management attitudes make a difference too.
Uncommon Boston I was a bartender when I was younger too and I can say that if a women came to me and told me what was happening I would help her as for my male colleagues I wouldn't trust them at all. Nor would I have trusted the bouncers or the male managers. Either they would have dismissed these women questioned them to death and a couple may have tried to take advantage. We don't know who we can trust whose going to believe us at all. The best we can do when we're in danger is get away from the predator. People on here really love to blame women.
There are a lot of guys out there who pull this stuff-the bad guys look out for each other. Its as though hunting women for sport.
1979? I was warned of spiked drinks at frat parties in 1981. How have we allowed this to still be happening? Society doesn't make women's safety a priority.
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I read a lot of "she should have gone to the bar/bouncer/police/etc." I just wanna say, she did the most important thing: she got herself and her friend out of a dangerous situation, she 'survived'. Nobody knows how they will react in a treatening situation, she did the right thing.
Exactely! Especially when the guys followed them out of the bar. First get yourself to safety, then take the next steps.
Was it not safer in the bar,? people, phones, a bottle to break if you have to...?
I would be afraid of revenge, if this was escalated in bar. When you get away and then take the next steps, nobody knows for sure it was you who contacted police (I presume these assholes do it to lots and lots of random women)
This comment has been deleted.
Men want sex, some will do almost anything to get it. Until people accept this as fact, women will continue to be raped and assaulted. Every single person who blamed the women is part of the problem. Anyone who isn't totally disgusted by the men's actions is part of the problem. We should be outraged! Would you call the police not knowing how they would react? Are you certain of what the bar staff would do? Or hosts of a party? They are not safe until they are in the car leaving. They were being followed, RUN! The first step is teaching people this is criminal. Yes the issue is getting attention, but the attitude of those who blame the women is common. Again, how would you know if they will blame you and make it worse or get help? (YouTube video - Tea and consent.)
This is being voted down? I am asking you to see sexual assault as a crime and stop blaming the women. You disagree. If a woman came to you for help would you? Or would you ask them to tell someone else, like bar staff? Would you do anything if you saw someone add something to a drink? By voting this down you just told all the women here we cannot count on getting help if we ask. None of us should say anything until we are long gone. RUN FIRST. Can't you see how you are part of the problem? If those women turned to you or you witnessed it, tell us the first thing that comes to mind. First thought.
Oh, it will continue if they don't report it right away? Blame them for next time? It is their responsibility to make it stop? Are you serious? Anyone, anyone who said this is part of the problem. Telling anyone in the moment can be the wrong thing to do. Even saying something later is risky. How often are compliments ignored? How often are the women punished? Those women who stood and did something for the next victim, continued to live the nightmare. The bars with signs in the women's restroom giving code words to get help etc, help women feel safe. They know they will be believed and protected. Instead of blaming the victim, they provide assistance.
Rhea. When we tell our sisters they should or shouldn’t have done some thing we’re basically telling them that they didn’t do enough or didn’t do it right. Instead remind them that looking for help from an establishment owner or an employee would be helpful.
Mazer. I agree with you! We can always advise each other how to act in a certain situation. For example: When you feel treatened, ask help at the bar. However I don't agree with all the Captain Hindsights who claim that's what the victims should have done. I actually grew up with a cool brother, who's 13yr older than me and took me along clubbing, for the first time when I was 11. He always looked out for me and gave me all the advise I needed to feel safe. When I was about 16 and someone tried to corner me at a toilet in a huge club. I just kicked the door in the guys face and ran. We were surrounded with people, my brother and lots of friends were nearby. I didn't scream for help and just ran. I didn't think of any of the things that I was taught. Even with all the good advise, you never know how you will react in a scary situation.
There's no chance the guys would've waited around for the police. And there's no magical roofie test that the police show up with and sort the situation out right there.
Police aren't gonna do s**t either lmao. If anything I would have called the bar afterwards to alert them of what had happened. In situations like this try to remember the time frame, because most likely the bar would have cameras that could have recorded them in action. That's really about all you can do.
This comment has been deleted.
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So many victim blaming here... They did what they thought was best at the time. Later when they thought about it they called the police and they put this story in social media. Maybe this post will make some girls and bar staff aware.
Exactly. It's disgusting how people are so quick to attack them about it.
Bartenders should be aware. When I was tending bar a man asked me to give his date doubles (twice the alcohol). It wasn't my date, I wasn't the victim so I could think clearly. He got doubles, her drinks didn't contain alcohol. I looked her in the eyes when she took the first sip to tell her the lack of alcohol was intentional. Eventually I was able to tell her. Her expression was one of anger with the intention of embarrassing him. I don't know if was illegal in 1979. I did know the macho, women chasing managers would agree with my actions. Bar management attitudes make a difference too.
Uncommon Boston I was a bartender when I was younger too and I can say that if a women came to me and told me what was happening I would help her as for my male colleagues I wouldn't trust them at all. Nor would I have trusted the bouncers or the male managers. Either they would have dismissed these women questioned them to death and a couple may have tried to take advantage. We don't know who we can trust whose going to believe us at all. The best we can do when we're in danger is get away from the predator. People on here really love to blame women.
There are a lot of guys out there who pull this stuff-the bad guys look out for each other. Its as though hunting women for sport.
1979? I was warned of spiked drinks at frat parties in 1981. How have we allowed this to still be happening? Society doesn't make women's safety a priority.
This comment has been deleted.