Woman Doesn’t Finish Her Food At The Dining Hall, This Student Thinks She Has The Right To Call Her Out

Wow, this girl is not only self centered and rude but just ok plain dumb. She needs to learn to read the room and also to mind her own business. No one wants her “advice”. What a sicko

For 40 years I have had this problem. Having problem finishing of my plate, especially in public/ with people around. It is the feeling of people are looking at me when I am eating that disturbs me and any kind of comments makes it soo much worst.

It's the attitude of "It's wrong to waste food, therefore I am right to hassle people about it" that really rubs me the wrong way. Like the guy at a cafe I was at hassling someone for taking a plastic straw, even though the person taking the straw explained they have fine motor control issues and can't hold and sip from a cup. But no, this dude was In The Right and therefore a d**k about it. We're all just doing the best we can, and a little softness and empathy goes miles.

*Love* how even at the end she still says "it was the same as giving advice"... DON'T GIVE UNSOLICITED ADVICE!

Yeah, definite case of yta. Eating habits are a very private thing and even if she were a very close friend or a family member, it's a subject where it's best to tread lightly. As an acquaintance, persistently questioning her eating habits and continuing even when asked to stop is a huge invasion of privacy and plain nasty.

Even when the OP admitted being in the wrong she still managed to lash out at all of us for calling her on her atrocious behavior. I wonder what her major is at University...? Awful person.

I was instantly reminded of that quote along the lines of “everyone around you is engaged in a private battle you know nothing about; please be kind.” A person could be lost in thought thinking about a relative’s death, or contemplating her own, or any of a million things that might have NOTHING to do with food, but that’s the time and place where she goes through it.

About 5 years ago I started taking an anti anxiety med that made me nauseous. My stomach shrank because I wasn't eating as much. To this day I still have trouble judging how much food to take in a buffet style setting. She's an AH

There's a diet that was popular years ago whereby you deliberately ate only half of what is on your plate. The girl may have a parent or relative that did this and it caused an eating disorder for her being in the company of someone who constantly twattled on about how females should only need half of what typical serving sizes provide yadi yada ad nauseum. I say this because my own sister has this exact attitude and does all the ridiculous diets as they become trendy, every time. Anyway, I have an eating disorder, however because I am mule headed stubborn about being battered into following trends I just won't, instead I over eat in rebellion. So many ways to catch food issues, I feel sorry for this girl however she caught hers, OP needs to be drop kicked into a ravine.

At my university we got our plates served by the cafeteria staff, usually it was way too much for me. After forcing myself to eat it all anyway because I was raised to always eat what's on my plate (not a healthy approach imo), at some point I just started to take a snack box with me to take half of the food home for the evening. That was great for my eating habits and my budget. I wonder if something like that could work with that kind of an eating disorder.

YTA - Clearly an entitled, un self aware, bullying, non-empathetic, clueless AH

I had a "friend" who kept shaming me for not eating because it's her culture or whatever. Cultural norms and one's perception of manners are not an excuse to disregard serious issues people are facing.

This is like walking up to a stranger and telling them to smile and demanding an answer why they dont smile. Like wtf none of your business.

OP is definitely creepy and wrong. However, everyone is jumping to eating disorder, which absolutely may be true, but the university dining halls I've been too (when visiting colleges with my kids), the dining hall staff puts the food on your plate even when it's a buffet, so she just may want a variety of foods but they heap big servings of each item on her plate.

I have trouble eating in public. It’s not so bad now but when I was younger the thought of people seeing me eat would turn me off my food and when I’d attempt to eat something, because, y’know, need food to survive, I’d throw it back up. A noisy, busy environment like a cafeteria seems like the sort of place so many would have trouble eating a full meal…

“Perhaps” your intentions were good, “perhaps” she has a eating disorder “perhaps” she has some personal problems “perhaps” she is going through some emotional problems “none” of which you know about “none” of which are your business. “Perhaps” you should get to know her more “perhaps” you shouldn’t BARF your unwanted opinions all over her. That a lot of perhaps.

YTA I had something similar happen at work. I work at Amazon in the warehouse doing problem solve on packages that have been damaged or lost or need to be repacked sometimes very dirty work a lot of wet damage from broken bottles and cleaning supplies. Therefore I wear old clothes to work usually jeans and tshirts and same ones over again through the week. I do wash them between wears. Had a co worker that I barely know come up and confront me about not dressing up and looking nicer and asked if I enjoy looking like a slob at work? Like seriously what???! Why would I ruin nice clothes by wearing them in a filthy warehouse? And why is it their business anyhow? Everyone on ship dock dresses just like me me.mfeelings for a moment

YTA. I have food insecurity, and DO get upset when people waste food, but I've never confronted anyone outside of my direct household about it. (We use food stamps in my family, so we're very particular about if food gets wasted.) It's none of my business why there's a half-eaten piece of pizza in the trash, or why someone didn't finish eating their chicken. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is. We don't have a food shortage. We, as a species, throw away so much and waste so much. It is what it is. The pizza could have fallen on the floor. The chicken undercooked or past expiration and served. You have no idea, and it's none of your business.

OP is a POS. Their 'edit' is arguably worse than their initial transgression.

If I was having lunch and someone I barely knew walked up and told me that they have spent multiple days watching me eat, I would be incredibly creeped out. Of course she told OP to f*** off, anybody would!

I can't speak for colleges, but in the military that set of eating behaviors would not fly. We were taught discipline, "Take all you want, but eat all you take". Again, apparently colleges are a different environment. Also, do we have direct evidence or testimony she actually did have an ED?

So we have a girl with a probable eating disorder, has been brave enough not only to come into a cafeteria but also sit with people when she probably just wants to hide in a corner.....and has been driven away by this numpty. I hope the girl is ok.

Oh my god. This person shouldnt have friends. They’re insanely disrespectful.

I can't even believe this is a real story- it's just too ridiculous and rude. It doesn't matter whether or not she has any food issues...it's none of her business. And then to keep mentioning it! Just unbelievable...

I have a restrictive ED. I'll be hungry af and then sit down to eat and get early satiety. I know how much I should eat and I want to eat, but my body brain says no. I'm loot that girl in the cafeteria except I wouldn't hold back on telling the OP off.

Instead, try asking her, "Hey, you didn't finish, do you feel okay?" and add "I think the (whatever item) isn't too great, either." You might save a life. If you've gotten to college/uni without encountering a word about eating disorders.... Yu were NOT paying attention (yelling that one at the OP). Good grief, what a self-centered force for evil that OP comes off as. "How dare they say I'm wrong! I'm saving the world!" No, biatch, you just outed someone who needed a friend, not a Karen.

Just lucky the OP didn't get that food thrown at them.

so basically op says: "it's not an eating disorder because she doesn't look like she needs to lose any weight to me" yea, yta. eating disorders don't work like that. an anorexic person can be skin and bone, dangerously, fatally even, underweight, and yet they will still insist they're not, and that they must lose weight. My old neighbours daughter went through it a good few years back, it's not a nice thing to see anyone witness, and if you don't know them well, it's best to stay out of it or at the very most, in a case like this, mention it to the uni's counsellor or something anonymously.

You're the kind of person most of us try to avoid our whole lives.

Having Manners is about making sure the people around you are comfortable. Hopefully OP will do some growing while they are in college and learn that other people have different values and perspectives on things.

Yep , you're the a*****e , yes wasting food isn't good but do you go round restaurants, cafes etc and start in on them. If the girl was paying for her own food it's damn all to do with you whether she finishes it or not. I don't like food waste either because we all know there are millions who go without. Its not like she could parcel her food up and send it anywhere!!! Mind your own business , the girl maybe tried to set a goal to eat more but couldn't do it,,she could have some sort of eating disorder or fear. You certainly didn't help ,no wonder she got defensive

Wow, what an a$$hole. It doesn't matter why that other girl doesn't eat her food. It's super weird and rude to comment about other people's eating habits. Less food waste is better, but harassing random people about it and being a stalker like that doesn't accomplish anything except showing everyone what an a$$hole you are.

Please don't downvote when others make a normal comment. Have a nice weekend !!!

S**t up and mind your own business. You don't know what she maybe going through and you are not paying her fees.

If she doesn't want to eat...f**k her.

You sound like a bossy, know it all douche and it's really none of your business..