Woman Accidentally Discovers Hair Removal Cream In Hair Conditioner Her Friend Wanted Her To Use Before Birthday, Gets Blocked When She Confronts Her
It can be heartbreaking to learn that someone who you thought of as a friend actually has it out for you. They’re angry at you for some unknown reason, but instead of talking to you about it, they want to humiliate you and cause you genuine physical harm.
That’s exactly what happened to redditor u/UltraSecretAcc, who barely avoided chemical burns. She has been updating Reddit about an ongoing drama with one of her friends who had secretly put Nair, a hair removal product, into a conditioner she lent her, right before her birthday. Frightened, the young woman turned to her mother, friends as well as law enforcement for help. You’ll find the full story in the OP’s own words below.
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The sad reality is that not everyone who you think you can trust is actually all that friendly
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A woman shared how her ‘friend’ had done something to the conditioner she gave her
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According to WebMD, depilatory creams use chemicals to melt the hair, so there is a possibility of getting a chemical burn: “First-, second-, or third-degree burns can happen when hair removal cream is left on for an extended period of time. It’s most likely to happen in the groin area because the skin there is sensitive.”
You should only leave the cream on for the amount of time specified in the instructions. What’s more, you should only use it on the type of skin that the cream is designed for. If you feel any discomfort at all, take the cream off, and wash your skin with cold water. In some cases, you may need to seek medical help.
Depilatory creams have a very specific rotten egg smell that arises when it interacts with your hair.
Before you apply the cream to your entire body, do a so-called patch test. Put a small amount of cream on a patch of your skin and see how your body reacts to it. If it burns, rinse it off. And absolutely make sure that you don’t leave the cream on longer than you’re meant to.
If you find that your skin is a bit irritated after the hair removal procedure, add some moisturizing cream to the area afterward, but avoid using products that are scented.
The author of the post shared some more information in the comments
If you ever find yourself in a situation where a friend or a relative is trying to cause you harm in incredibly sneaky or indirect ways, the straightforward approach would be to contact the person directly and have an honest conversation about what the heck is going on.
Try to stay firm but diplomatic—you need to figure out what’s happening and why. You don’t want the other person getting overly defensive, so try to avoid judging or accusing them (at least openly, yet). When you have some more information, you can act accordingly. For instance, they might want to get revenge against you for some imagined insult. You can clear things up if that’s the case. You find a compromise that works for both of you. And then you move on with your lives.
However… life rarely works out that way. Interacting with others is often chaotic and messy. Emotions spill over. People get lost in their motivations. And common sense seems to leave the room entirely. In some cases, there isn’t any rational reason why a pal of yours wants to make you lose your hair while you’re using conditioner.
They might just want to embarrass and hurt you for the sake of it. They might feel pleasure in causing others pain. Or they might have some serious mental health issues that they should work through with a therapist.
It can sometimes be hard to tell if someone is a real friend or merely just pretending to be one. The foundation for friendships is trust and mutual respect. Usually, your gut instinct is right whether someone is genuine or fake, but sometimes we like to give others the benefit of the doubt too much. We close our eyes to the truth.
Someone who gossips about you behind your back, ignores your pleas for help when you really need a hand, and isn’t there to celebrate your success with you probably isn’t a real friend. Fake friends also take advantage of you and don’t give back as much as they take from your relationship.
Moreover, if someone runs and hides at the first sign of trouble, leaving you to fend for themselves, they’re likely so-called fair-weather friends: glad to hang out when it’s all sunshine and rainbows, unwilling to make any sacrifices when the going gets tough.
The woman also gave an update about how she reacted to the whole situation and what she did next
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It definitely seems like an attack to cause OP some deep personal trauma, yet she didn't mind OP's mother becoming a victim of circumstance as well. It's an incredibly cruel and calculated method of injury that the person was hoping to inflict upon OP. She hoped to cause maximum damage to OP with lasting physical and mental pain that she'd experience frequently throughout her every waking moments for an extensive period of time. Her behavior is disturbing and very concerning, especially if OP can't think of any slight or offense to this person. I seriously hope that the police get to the bottom of it, not only for the attempted attack on OP but to be aware of real potential to harm others. This person needs to have a eye kept on them as well as some mental health care for their possible irrational thoughts and behaviors. I hope they both get the help they need.
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Thank goodness you didn't use it on your hair. If you had gotten any in your eyes you might have lost your sight. That girl sounds disturbed
The other girl is definitely threatened by her friends appearance probably long pretty hair that she wish she had. It's so stupid how some people will act can't believe the she actually thought she would get away with it this isn't a movie can't be pulling stuff like mean girls.
You know, I always wanted long thick beautiful hair. I got baby fine hair that flattens out really easily instead (lots of individual strands, though, if they weren’t baby fine I would have thick hair). Do I retaliate against all the girls with thick beautiful hair? NO. I just work on my hair to get it to be as healthy and full looking as possible. Like most of us when it comes to stuff like that. Not everyone has a full set of perfect features, so there’s always something you have to work on, so you play up the good and play down the not so good (in your opinion). The last thing on your mind should be hurting someone else just because nature gave them what you wish you had. What you don’t realize is that they probably think the same about you and whatever nature gave you that they wish they had. Lighten up. Looks aren’t everything. We’re all going to grow old and wrinkled anyway, so quit obsessing with the outside and start concentrating on the inside.
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Donate to Locks of Love or something similar. I've done this 3x in the past. They make wigs for cancer patients. Being in remission currently (4 years!) I can't tell you how much losing your hair affects you. I'm not very vain at all - don't wear makeup, dress for comfort, basic solid color clothes, etc - but losing my hair was the only time I cried during chemo. It was long and thick, perfectly straight, absolutely no body (LOL), but it was the one thing about myself I really liked. Wigs didn't work for me, but they are real confidence boosters for many. My hair didn't come back anywhere near the same, but at least I have it again! It doesn't always come back for some. It makes me happy when people are willing to do this. You're Amazing! 😇
Seriously? Could people just stop being a******s? One day of a completely a*****e free world, imagine what we could accomplish.
Agreed! Hurting each other is just a huge waste of time.
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Someone she likes probably called you beautiful and remarked on your hair... girl has self-esteem issues (along w many other issues)- I'm so glad everyone got to you in time w proper advice! I would purchased a balding wig- and pretended to use it and let her think my hair was gone/ruined. Then/ took off the cap at my bday w her there along w many others and called her a*s out! And had her escorted away by the police.... but that's me!
I know it gets thrown around alot but this is the actions of a malignant narcissist.
Respectfully Good the police is involved 51\50 Psychiatric evaluation This is a covert psychopath and this isn't her first time pulling this I assume... it's good You used your Spidey senses and your maturity and reality that this is not about you whatsoever Fact that she blocked you... suspicious This is a serious issue...she meant you harm...she is dangerous Keep safe out there Watch as your drinks are made Hold hands crossing streets Always take a taxi... Have fun with your friends
In a case like this, don't try to be nice. Call the police. This is assault, and it could cause serious harm. The police NEED to be involved. If they'll do it to you, they'll do it to someone else, and you're not doing anybody any favors pretending it didn't happen. Call the police.
This is why I don't need friends. I can control myself not to harm people but I can't control others not to harm me.
That's so sad. The jerks are the exception - that's why stories about them get people's attention. Everything in life has risks, but most of these risks are worth taking. To quote Anne Frank: "I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart."
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I sort of suspect the girl had some sort of deep mental health breakdown coming on a long with paranoia or obsessive tendencies or something like that. probably really needs treatment. I don't think it had anything to do with jealousy or narcissism. A narcissist wouldn't have blocked her, they would have immediately lied about it and spun the situation to make themselves the center of attention/hero/victim. I knew a girl who did stuff like this and was nearing a whole breakdown. Turned out she had some really messed up childhood issues that I found out about later (not from her) and it sort of made more sense why her brain went the route it did. She even blocked/went radio silent with anyone reaching out to her, even just to help after wards. Involving the police was smart because she probably had similar plans in motion for other people, and might also be a danger to herself.
How lucky she was. If she hadn't read the reviews, and knew what the product was supposed to smell like, she could have lost her hair. This is not just a prank. This is a very clear attack. She may never know the reason. But I would not let it go. It's a police matter. Take product to be analyzed. However, she still wouldn't have proof the friend was the person who tampered with it. But this should be the easiest friend breakup ever. Drop her like a hot potato. And tell other friends to avoid taking products from her. Who knows why, and who knows what's else she's capable off.
There may be a couple key statements here. Op said she was on the spectrum. Op said they’re just casual friends, and don’t even hang in the same circles, outside of a few mutual friends possibly. I’m wondering if it was supposed to be a prank played on the “weird” girl that doesn’t fit into a certain circle of girls. Seen it happen more than once, to guys and girls, by “that” group of girls.
My husband is on the spectrum and that was the first thought I had too. He's had people in his life do some really mean things just because he is a little different. Mostly by girls too.
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What.The.F**k?! Putting gum in someone's hair is petty but ok .. BUT PUTTING NAIR IN A CASUAL FRIEND'S HAIR CARE PRODUCT?! This person really needs to be put in a mental care facility...
This story is messed up! The update where she says she’s thinking of donating her long hair made me worry that people have suggested it to her. I’ve got incredibly long hair too and well meaning people (strangers usually - I work in hospitality) suggest I donate it all the time. It’s a horrible guilt to lay on someone who just wants to enjoy having long hair. I’m always tempted to tell them to grow and donate their own d*mn hair.
I have long hair and tried to donate it to locks of love. The hair salon owner who was affiliated with it said they didn't need it unless I was willing to make the wig myself.
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I would be on the lookout for her retaliating in some way. Keep your dogs safe. She might try to poison them or open the gate so they escape & get hurt. This person can NOT be trusted!
I'm curious if the entire bottle was really Nair or if there was conditioner mixed in. If it was a mixture, how did she know it was strong enough to work? I hope the psycho didn't try it out on neighborhood pets the way most serial killers do before they move on to people.
I almost did this to my ex. I was only 13-15 and he was 18-20 so he was a huge creep. He broke up with me after 2 years and an incredible amount of emotional and mental damage for someone he married a few months later. They're divorced now obviously cause again hes a creep. I got as far as testing it out on my arm and noticed how bad it smelled and it would never work. Oh well he went bald a couple years later from genetics 🙂 Though I should've probably got him in legal trouble
Is there an update anywhere at all about if the police did anything or if the person got charged or anything along those lines
Some people are just born screwed up. My oldest child is 42, and she would absolutely do this if she had any friends. She is a very jealous person, has always been that way. She is a highly intelligent version of my mother, which is unfortunate. Fortunately, she’s not a good actress.
I think you should tell her how much you loved it. Really, just go on and on about how shiny and bouncy your hair is and you wouldn’t have gotten those results without her help, and then watch her face. Film it. Show it to us, because I wanna see.
This is definitely a thing. An old bf had women's shampoo & conditioners in his bathroom closet, left there by a seriously f'd up in the head ex gf. I was visiting in the beginning of our relationship. Both of the bottles straight up smelled like Nair or permanent wave solution! Poured that siht out and let him know. Of course he didn't think she'd do that! 😂
op is way nicer than me i would have already planning petty revenge and pressin charges
bit late now but a bald wig/headscarf would have made that a*****e think they won ;)
I wonder if the criminal saw on social media, realized she wasn't invited, and decided to be spiteful, because she was not a close friend. Immature people frequently exaggerate slights against them and get indignant if their overly hostile and dangerous reaction is recognized. They do tend to get extreme revenge for wrongs that never happened. I hope the prosecution is severe. One state I know of has a special law to add to the charges, where someone uses camouflage or treachery to gain a more severe advantage than a stranger would.
She was jealous of her hair and wanted a way to discreetly destroy it to make her self feel better. She blocked her cause ish got real and she was called out. She was envious of the pretty girl.
I would have just said oh yeah I'm using it to tonight. Then later that night just texted, "OMFG." " My hair has never been so silky smooth or shiny, that stuff was amazing!"😍
That's certifiably sociopathic. Including the bit about the mom was a good idea, but also makes the whole thing worse. Sounds like this bully decided to pull the trigger and got burnt by karma. Hopefully the blowback is epic.
Definitely a matter for the police. And you may not be her only target. Press charges in order to protect others - now and in the future.
What i read the female acquaintance was not going to any of OP birthday events. And OP seemed to give impression that the girl did not care to be at either event. It was a good thing that OP and mother skin tested it. Jealously or some unlnown slight did it. Revenge is best served cold. My opinions
Maybe one of Crazy Girl's besties has a beef with OP and CG decided to get some revenge on behalf of her friend?
There could be a thousand reasons why she might have done that. None of them would be good.
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I would have asked her to come over and use it with me, when she refused, confront her then beat her a*s into the ground . What a psychopath.
She was envious of you. When someone is envious of another person., they are capable of doing anything to harm that person even take their life.
I don't think a person does something like this because nobody puts them in their place. Violence isn't the answer for people who need mental help. You can't beat or pray the crazy away.
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It definitely seems like an attack to cause OP some deep personal trauma, yet she didn't mind OP's mother becoming a victim of circumstance as well. It's an incredibly cruel and calculated method of injury that the person was hoping to inflict upon OP. She hoped to cause maximum damage to OP with lasting physical and mental pain that she'd experience frequently throughout her every waking moments for an extensive period of time. Her behavior is disturbing and very concerning, especially if OP can't think of any slight or offense to this person. I seriously hope that the police get to the bottom of it, not only for the attempted attack on OP but to be aware of real potential to harm others. This person needs to have a eye kept on them as well as some mental health care for their possible irrational thoughts and behaviors. I hope they both get the help they need.
Load More Replies... Thank goodness you didn't use it on your hair. If you had gotten any in your eyes you might have lost your sight. That girl sounds disturbed
The other girl is definitely threatened by her friends appearance probably long pretty hair that she wish she had. It's so stupid how some people will act can't believe the she actually thought she would get away with it this isn't a movie can't be pulling stuff like mean girls.
You know, I always wanted long thick beautiful hair. I got baby fine hair that flattens out really easily instead (lots of individual strands, though, if they weren’t baby fine I would have thick hair). Do I retaliate against all the girls with thick beautiful hair? NO. I just work on my hair to get it to be as healthy and full looking as possible. Like most of us when it comes to stuff like that. Not everyone has a full set of perfect features, so there’s always something you have to work on, so you play up the good and play down the not so good (in your opinion). The last thing on your mind should be hurting someone else just because nature gave them what you wish you had. What you don’t realize is that they probably think the same about you and whatever nature gave you that they wish they had. Lighten up. Looks aren’t everything. We’re all going to grow old and wrinkled anyway, so quit obsessing with the outside and start concentrating on the inside.
Load More Replies... Donate to Locks of Love or something similar. I've done this 3x in the past. They make wigs for cancer patients. Being in remission currently (4 years!) I can't tell you how much losing your hair affects you. I'm not very vain at all - don't wear makeup, dress for comfort, basic solid color clothes, etc - but losing my hair was the only time I cried during chemo. It was long and thick, perfectly straight, absolutely no body (LOL), but it was the one thing about myself I really liked. Wigs didn't work for me, but they are real confidence boosters for many. My hair didn't come back anywhere near the same, but at least I have it again! It doesn't always come back for some. It makes me happy when people are willing to do this. You're Amazing! 😇
Seriously? Could people just stop being a******s? One day of a completely a*****e free world, imagine what we could accomplish.
Agreed! Hurting each other is just a huge waste of time.
Load More Replies... Someone she likes probably called you beautiful and remarked on your hair... girl has self-esteem issues (along w many other issues)- I'm so glad everyone got to you in time w proper advice! I would purchased a balding wig- and pretended to use it and let her think my hair was gone/ruined. Then/ took off the cap at my bday w her there along w many others and called her a*s out! And had her escorted away by the police.... but that's me!
I know it gets thrown around alot but this is the actions of a malignant narcissist.
Respectfully Good the police is involved 51\50 Psychiatric evaluation This is a covert psychopath and this isn't her first time pulling this I assume... it's good You used your Spidey senses and your maturity and reality that this is not about you whatsoever Fact that she blocked you... suspicious This is a serious issue...she meant you harm...she is dangerous Keep safe out there Watch as your drinks are made Hold hands crossing streets Always take a taxi... Have fun with your friends
In a case like this, don't try to be nice. Call the police. This is assault, and it could cause serious harm. The police NEED to be involved. If they'll do it to you, they'll do it to someone else, and you're not doing anybody any favors pretending it didn't happen. Call the police.
This is why I don't need friends. I can control myself not to harm people but I can't control others not to harm me.
That's so sad. The jerks are the exception - that's why stories about them get people's attention. Everything in life has risks, but most of these risks are worth taking. To quote Anne Frank: "I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart."
Load More Replies... I sort of suspect the girl had some sort of deep mental health breakdown coming on a long with paranoia or obsessive tendencies or something like that. probably really needs treatment. I don't think it had anything to do with jealousy or narcissism. A narcissist wouldn't have blocked her, they would have immediately lied about it and spun the situation to make themselves the center of attention/hero/victim. I knew a girl who did stuff like this and was nearing a whole breakdown. Turned out she had some really messed up childhood issues that I found out about later (not from her) and it sort of made more sense why her brain went the route it did. She even blocked/went radio silent with anyone reaching out to her, even just to help after wards. Involving the police was smart because she probably had similar plans in motion for other people, and might also be a danger to herself.
How lucky she was. If she hadn't read the reviews, and knew what the product was supposed to smell like, she could have lost her hair. This is not just a prank. This is a very clear attack. She may never know the reason. But I would not let it go. It's a police matter. Take product to be analyzed. However, she still wouldn't have proof the friend was the person who tampered with it. But this should be the easiest friend breakup ever. Drop her like a hot potato. And tell other friends to avoid taking products from her. Who knows why, and who knows what's else she's capable off.
There may be a couple key statements here. Op said she was on the spectrum. Op said they’re just casual friends, and don’t even hang in the same circles, outside of a few mutual friends possibly. I’m wondering if it was supposed to be a prank played on the “weird” girl that doesn’t fit into a certain circle of girls. Seen it happen more than once, to guys and girls, by “that” group of girls.
My husband is on the spectrum and that was the first thought I had too. He's had people in his life do some really mean things just because he is a little different. Mostly by girls too.
Load More Replies... What.The.F**k?! Putting gum in someone's hair is petty but ok .. BUT PUTTING NAIR IN A CASUAL FRIEND'S HAIR CARE PRODUCT?! This person really needs to be put in a mental care facility...
This story is messed up! The update where she says she’s thinking of donating her long hair made me worry that people have suggested it to her. I’ve got incredibly long hair too and well meaning people (strangers usually - I work in hospitality) suggest I donate it all the time. It’s a horrible guilt to lay on someone who just wants to enjoy having long hair. I’m always tempted to tell them to grow and donate their own d*mn hair.
I have long hair and tried to donate it to locks of love. The hair salon owner who was affiliated with it said they didn't need it unless I was willing to make the wig myself.
Load More Replies... I would be on the lookout for her retaliating in some way. Keep your dogs safe. She might try to poison them or open the gate so they escape & get hurt. This person can NOT be trusted!
I'm curious if the entire bottle was really Nair or if there was conditioner mixed in. If it was a mixture, how did she know it was strong enough to work? I hope the psycho didn't try it out on neighborhood pets the way most serial killers do before they move on to people.
I almost did this to my ex. I was only 13-15 and he was 18-20 so he was a huge creep. He broke up with me after 2 years and an incredible amount of emotional and mental damage for someone he married a few months later. They're divorced now obviously cause again hes a creep. I got as far as testing it out on my arm and noticed how bad it smelled and it would never work. Oh well he went bald a couple years later from genetics 🙂 Though I should've probably got him in legal trouble
Is there an update anywhere at all about if the police did anything or if the person got charged or anything along those lines
Some people are just born screwed up. My oldest child is 42, and she would absolutely do this if she had any friends. She is a very jealous person, has always been that way. She is a highly intelligent version of my mother, which is unfortunate. Fortunately, she’s not a good actress.
I think you should tell her how much you loved it. Really, just go on and on about how shiny and bouncy your hair is and you wouldn’t have gotten those results without her help, and then watch her face. Film it. Show it to us, because I wanna see.
This is definitely a thing. An old bf had women's shampoo & conditioners in his bathroom closet, left there by a seriously f'd up in the head ex gf. I was visiting in the beginning of our relationship. Both of the bottles straight up smelled like Nair or permanent wave solution! Poured that siht out and let him know. Of course he didn't think she'd do that! 😂
op is way nicer than me i would have already planning petty revenge and pressin charges
bit late now but a bald wig/headscarf would have made that a*****e think they won ;)
I wonder if the criminal saw on social media, realized she wasn't invited, and decided to be spiteful, because she was not a close friend. Immature people frequently exaggerate slights against them and get indignant if their overly hostile and dangerous reaction is recognized. They do tend to get extreme revenge for wrongs that never happened. I hope the prosecution is severe. One state I know of has a special law to add to the charges, where someone uses camouflage or treachery to gain a more severe advantage than a stranger would.
She was jealous of her hair and wanted a way to discreetly destroy it to make her self feel better. She blocked her cause ish got real and she was called out. She was envious of the pretty girl.
I would have just said oh yeah I'm using it to tonight. Then later that night just texted, "OMFG." " My hair has never been so silky smooth or shiny, that stuff was amazing!"😍
That's certifiably sociopathic. Including the bit about the mom was a good idea, but also makes the whole thing worse. Sounds like this bully decided to pull the trigger and got burnt by karma. Hopefully the blowback is epic.
Definitely a matter for the police. And you may not be her only target. Press charges in order to protect others - now and in the future.
What i read the female acquaintance was not going to any of OP birthday events. And OP seemed to give impression that the girl did not care to be at either event. It was a good thing that OP and mother skin tested it. Jealously or some unlnown slight did it. Revenge is best served cold. My opinions
Maybe one of Crazy Girl's besties has a beef with OP and CG decided to get some revenge on behalf of her friend?
There could be a thousand reasons why she might have done that. None of them would be good.
Load More Replies... I would have asked her to come over and use it with me, when she refused, confront her then beat her a*s into the ground . What a psychopath.
She was envious of you. When someone is envious of another person., they are capable of doing anything to harm that person even take their life.
I don't think a person does something like this because nobody puts them in their place. Violence isn't the answer for people who need mental help. You can't beat or pray the crazy away.
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