Woman Accidentally Discovers Hair Removal Cream In Hair Conditioner Her Friend Wanted Her To Use Before Birthday, Gets Blocked When She Confronts Her
It can be heartbreaking to learn that someone who you thought of as a friend actually has it out for you. They’re angry at you for some unknown reason, but instead of talking to you about it, they want to humiliate you and cause you genuine physical harm.
That’s exactly what happened to redditor u/UltraSecretAcc, who barely avoided chemical burns. She has been updating Reddit about an ongoing drama with one of her friends who had secretly put Nair, a hair removal product, into a conditioner she lent her, right before her birthday. Frightened, the young woman turned to her mother, friends as well as law enforcement for help. You’ll find the full story in the OP’s own words below.
Bored Panda has reached out to u/UltraSecretAcc via Reddit, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.
The sad reality is that not everyone who you think you can trust is actually all that friendly
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A woman shared how her ‘friend’ had done something to the conditioner she gave her
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Image credits: UltraSecretAcc
According to WebMD, depilatory creams use chemicals to melt the hair, so there is a possibility of getting a chemical burn: “First-, second-, or third-degree burns can happen when hair removal cream is left on for an extended period of time. It’s most likely to happen in the groin area because the skin there is sensitive.”
You should only leave the cream on for the amount of time specified in the instructions. What’s more, you should only use it on the type of skin that the cream is designed for. If you feel any discomfort at all, take the cream off, and wash your skin with cold water. In some cases, you may need to seek medical help.
Depilatory creams have a very specific rotten egg smell that arises when it interacts with your hair.
Before you apply the cream to your entire body, do a so-called patch test. Put a small amount of cream on a patch of your skin and see how your body reacts to it. If it burns, rinse it off. And absolutely make sure that you don’t leave the cream on longer than you’re meant to.
If you find that your skin is a bit irritated after the hair removal procedure, add some moisturizing cream to the area afterward, but avoid using products that are scented.
The author of the post shared some more information in the comments
If you ever find yourself in a situation where a friend or a relative is trying to cause you harm in incredibly sneaky or indirect ways, the straightforward approach would be to contact the person directly and have an honest conversation about what the heck is going on.
Try to stay firm but diplomatic—you need to figure out what’s happening and why. You don’t want the other person getting overly defensive, so try to avoid judging or accusing them (at least openly, yet). When you have some more information, you can act accordingly. For instance, they might want to get revenge against you for some imagined insult. You can clear things up if that’s the case. You find a compromise that works for both of you. And then you move on with your lives.
However… life rarely works out that way. Interacting with others is often chaotic and messy. Emotions spill over. People get lost in their motivations. And common sense seems to leave the room entirely. In some cases, there isn’t any rational reason why a pal of yours wants to make you lose your hair while you’re using conditioner.
They might just want to embarrass and hurt you for the sake of it. They might feel pleasure in causing others pain. Or they might have some serious mental health issues that they should work through with a therapist.
It can sometimes be hard to tell if someone is a real friend or merely just pretending to be one. The foundation for friendships is trust and mutual respect. Usually, your gut instinct is right whether someone is genuine or fake, but sometimes we like to give others the benefit of the doubt too much. We close our eyes to the truth.
Someone who gossips about you behind your back, ignores your pleas for help when you really need a hand, and isn’t there to celebrate your success with you probably isn’t a real friend. Fake friends also take advantage of you and don’t give back as much as they take from your relationship.
Moreover, if someone runs and hides at the first sign of trouble, leaving you to fend for themselves, they’re likely so-called fair-weather friends: glad to hang out when it’s all sunshine and rainbows, unwilling to make any sacrifices when the going gets tough.
The woman also gave an update about how she reacted to the whole situation and what she did next
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Is it hair jealousy? What a weird thing to do.
It definitely seems like an attack to cause OP some deep personal trauma, yet she didn't mind OP's mother becoming a victim of circumstance as well. It's an incredibly cruel and calculated method of injury that the person was hoping to inflict upon OP. She hoped to cause maximum damage to OP with lasting physical and mental pain that she'd experience frequently throughout her every waking moments for an extensive period of time. Her behavior is disturbing and very concerning, especially if OP can't think of any slight or offense to this person. I seriously hope that the police get to the bottom of it, not only for the attempted attack on OP but to be aware of real potential to harm others. This person needs to have a eye kept on them as well as some mental health care for their possible irrational thoughts and behaviors. I hope they both get the help they need.
It’s possible the “slight or offense” is all the the “friend’s” head. Maybe it’s hair envy. Maybe OP is overall prettier, more popular, attractive to someone who the “friend” is crushing on. Maybe OP is smarter, has a nicer family, has way more prospects and is going to major in something that will make for a great, and lucrative, career. Maybe it’s none of that. Maybe it’s all the product of an overactive imagination that leans toward cruel retaliation for something the target person never actually did. Until OP posts a final update, we won’t know. Has to be bad, though, for Mom to get the cops involved, and it looks like she might just press charges.
Definitely an early sign of psychopathy. Like a kid torturing animals.
There's definitely some troubling behaviors involved in the decision making process behind the her attack on OP. She could be very dangerous to many people with thinking like hers and spiking products so that they harm others. She's a scary person for certain.
Where does this behavior even stop....I can't afford a dog so I kill yours....keying cars in parking lots, I can just see so many different ways for this psychosis to leak out. Hopefully the rabbit hole of the legal system works on this crazy...
Phil, I kind of agree with your sentiment, but I really wish people would stop using the word "psychosis" as a synonym for "violent." The term actually refers to being out of touch with reality, experiencing hallucinations, hearing voices, or having delusions. Most people who experience psychosis do NOT have violent tendencies. It is a disservice to people with mental health challenges to stigmatize them in this way.
Especially since most of these kinds of problems actually seem to stem from so-called personality disorders (this in particular looks like borderline). Psychosis is hard on the person experiencing it, and can be tough for people around while it's happening, but it's basically a similar result to taking hallucinogens but without the ability to prepare to have it kick in at a 'convenient' time. Personality disorders, otoh, make life really hard for the vast bulk of people who ever have more than the most brief interactions with the person exhibiting that behavior. The language doesn't help, with 'psychopath' and 'psychosis' seeming pretty similar but being quite different.
I think people mix up manic episodes and psychosis. (I know not everyone that has manic episodes get violent, but the erratic behavior is what most people who don't know the difference will describe psychosis as)
Or her ex talked to her. https://www.danavulin.com/ She was burned, cause she talked with a man briefly.
I mean, it's hard to tell but from the timing, my guess is that is was the lack of a birthday invite combined with probably some BPD (borderline).
Maybe she was invited but decided not to go, because of what she did.
You can get really nasty burns from this stuff. What If it got in her eyes??
There are too many psychos out and about in this world.
We had a place to put them back in the day
We did have mental hospital for these types UNTIL republicans closed them down. Northville psych hospital which helped many non rich patients was closed here in Michigan by republican john engler. Same with gun violence these republicans say it's a mental health issue not a gun issue as the republicans close up all these psych hospitals.
My mom worked at a facility in central IL for developmental isst, so brain trauma including blundbess deafness, etc. The government closed a different facility and decided to just cram the patients into the facility my mom worked at. So then there were way too many residents BUT the worst part was that these were people with mental health issues. They were purposefully violent instead of accidentally like the patients they were used to, and they didn't have the staff or training.
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Clearly Republicans were wrong to do so now we need democrats to open them people think they were born in the wrong body now.
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Did I say something that was wrong? Is it not a mental illness to think acience doesn't know your correct sex?
1. BP is the wrong place to spew venom about trans people. 2 What th fck does this have to do with the topic of discussio?! 3. It's the year 2023. Times are changing. Stop living in the last century and adjust.
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1. So I can't say one thing, but you guys can insult Republicans with tons of support? 2. DN X brought up mental illness and provided one of modern times and I did the same. 3. It's not living in the last century to acknowledge Trans is a mental illness not science, Trans women are not women they are men with a mental illness.
@Flat Earf: This may sound like a radical concept to you, but how about letting the experts deal with trans people? It's none of your business and it is absolutely wrong and insulting to imply that they belong in mental hospitals. That shows a fundamental misunderstanding as to what mental hospitals are for. They are for people who are a danger to themselves or others. Trans people do not harm anyone. It's obviously only your discomfort with them that makes you think they belong in mental hospitals, which means the problem is with you.
It was Ronnie Reagan that closed the mental health institutions that the government supported. That is when cities saw an upswing in the homeless. I was around then witnessed the fallout from that decision. You just don't want to face the truth. Maybe you should seek some professional help about that. Rather being lied to than facing the truth is not a healthy coping mechanism.
Problem is, I know for a fact you have been politely informed that you are incorrect about "the science" before, so I am forced to conclude you are a troll. If you don't want downvotes and reported comments, don't make bad faith arguments over and over.
I know for a fact because I have personally responded with an overview of a substantial amount of science that debunks a simplistic binary view of gender and sexuality. I also wonder why FE expects anyone else to take a middle school popscience simplification of chromosomes over 5000 years of written accounts of different views on gender and sexuality.
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Politely informed? Nope just downvoted to silence me this is the first time I've gotten responses. And what you call "the science" is correct you have XX chromosomes your a woman. You have XY chromosomes your a man no matter what people say they are their chromosomes. And I don't care about downvotes and reported comments because I will say what I want to say if they can say their beliefs, I am gonna say mine up until they manage to silence me. Have a good day.
If you have two copies of the MC1R gene then science says you have brown hair but nobody bats an I if you dye it. If your genes say "this person has B cup breasts" but you get an enlargement or reduction people just say "good for you!". If you're unfortunate enough to have terrible acne and you cover it up nobody has any issue with it. The FACT is, someone else's genes and chromosomes are NONE of your business. What people do with the genes they were born with, be it accept themselves as they are or make changes to their bodies to reflect what they feel like and what they believe, has absolutely 0 to do with you. The world doesn't revolve around you sweetheart, you can either accept that or continue to go off about your "beliefs". Have a good day.
Waste of money, we have 8+ billion people on earth. A tree shredder with sturdy blades would do the trick, not waste taxpayer money and can naturally fertilize the earth
Driving across West Virginia a few years ago, I stumbled on the Trans Allegheny Lunatic Asylum. It's one of the biggest stone buildings in the world, and it was built a long time ago in a sparsely populated state, so it's easy to see we used to be a lot more serious about putting dangerously unbalanced people under supervision
@Andy We have gone from one extreme to another. Judging from the old fashioned terminology in the name I am guessing that this asylum was built in the days when mental patients had few rights, and few effective treatments. And also likely when husbands could have their wives put in asylums just because they were "disobedient", not because they actually were mentally ill. It's a good bet that not all of the patients in that very large asylum actually needed to be there, because doctors often got paid off to commit a "troublesome" relative.
Good points!
Guys stop down voting FlatEarf because you disagree with them. Getting someone blocked/preventing others from having an open discussion, simply because you disagree with their words, seems like something the other side would do. No one can even tell them why theyre wrong now. Be better.
FlatEarf is repeating disingenuous arguments where they have been earnestly engaged before, and saying things that are intentionally hurtful to already marginalized people. They don't have "an opinion", they are being openly bigoted, and the BP community has been more generous than they deserve. They also continue to state, as fact, information that they have been told is incorrect and which has academically verifiable studies disproving their assertions. While there are arguments for a social binary of genders, and even good arguments against using cross dressing as mockery, FE is not arguing those points, but repeatedly and incorrectly representing a willfully ignorant view of biology as correct and as the basis for the hurtful social constructs they wish to promote.
I disagree. We are too nice. They are hate-filled and fear-filled cowards who would murder us in our sleep if the Orangutan told them to. They already murdered 5 cops on January 6th. I have ZERO tolerance for intolerance. Because the one thing you are not allowed to decide is how someone else lives their life. We should pass laws to forcibly deprogram Christians from thinking there's an old man in the sky who cares about their lives and gives them permission to torment anyone they want. We'll see how they feel about conversion therapy when it is done on them.... Maybe they'll actually get on board for freedom of thought and religion
Is it hair jealousy? What a weird thing to do.
It definitely seems like an attack to cause OP some deep personal trauma, yet she didn't mind OP's mother becoming a victim of circumstance as well. It's an incredibly cruel and calculated method of injury that the person was hoping to inflict upon OP. She hoped to cause maximum damage to OP with lasting physical and mental pain that she'd experience frequently throughout her every waking moments for an extensive period of time. Her behavior is disturbing and very concerning, especially if OP can't think of any slight or offense to this person. I seriously hope that the police get to the bottom of it, not only for the attempted attack on OP but to be aware of real potential to harm others. This person needs to have a eye kept on them as well as some mental health care for their possible irrational thoughts and behaviors. I hope they both get the help they need.
It’s possible the “slight or offense” is all the the “friend’s” head. Maybe it’s hair envy. Maybe OP is overall prettier, more popular, attractive to someone who the “friend” is crushing on. Maybe OP is smarter, has a nicer family, has way more prospects and is going to major in something that will make for a great, and lucrative, career. Maybe it’s none of that. Maybe it’s all the product of an overactive imagination that leans toward cruel retaliation for something the target person never actually did. Until OP posts a final update, we won’t know. Has to be bad, though, for Mom to get the cops involved, and it looks like she might just press charges.
Definitely an early sign of psychopathy. Like a kid torturing animals.
There's definitely some troubling behaviors involved in the decision making process behind the her attack on OP. She could be very dangerous to many people with thinking like hers and spiking products so that they harm others. She's a scary person for certain.
Where does this behavior even stop....I can't afford a dog so I kill yours....keying cars in parking lots, I can just see so many different ways for this psychosis to leak out. Hopefully the rabbit hole of the legal system works on this crazy...
Phil, I kind of agree with your sentiment, but I really wish people would stop using the word "psychosis" as a synonym for "violent." The term actually refers to being out of touch with reality, experiencing hallucinations, hearing voices, or having delusions. Most people who experience psychosis do NOT have violent tendencies. It is a disservice to people with mental health challenges to stigmatize them in this way.
Especially since most of these kinds of problems actually seem to stem from so-called personality disorders (this in particular looks like borderline). Psychosis is hard on the person experiencing it, and can be tough for people around while it's happening, but it's basically a similar result to taking hallucinogens but without the ability to prepare to have it kick in at a 'convenient' time. Personality disorders, otoh, make life really hard for the vast bulk of people who ever have more than the most brief interactions with the person exhibiting that behavior. The language doesn't help, with 'psychopath' and 'psychosis' seeming pretty similar but being quite different.
I think people mix up manic episodes and psychosis. (I know not everyone that has manic episodes get violent, but the erratic behavior is what most people who don't know the difference will describe psychosis as)
Or her ex talked to her. https://www.danavulin.com/ She was burned, cause she talked with a man briefly.
I mean, it's hard to tell but from the timing, my guess is that is was the lack of a birthday invite combined with probably some BPD (borderline).
Maybe she was invited but decided not to go, because of what she did.
You can get really nasty burns from this stuff. What If it got in her eyes??
There are too many psychos out and about in this world.
We had a place to put them back in the day
We did have mental hospital for these types UNTIL republicans closed them down. Northville psych hospital which helped many non rich patients was closed here in Michigan by republican john engler. Same with gun violence these republicans say it's a mental health issue not a gun issue as the republicans close up all these psych hospitals.
My mom worked at a facility in central IL for developmental isst, so brain trauma including blundbess deafness, etc. The government closed a different facility and decided to just cram the patients into the facility my mom worked at. So then there were way too many residents BUT the worst part was that these were people with mental health issues. They were purposefully violent instead of accidentally like the patients they were used to, and they didn't have the staff or training.
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Clearly Republicans were wrong to do so now we need democrats to open them people think they were born in the wrong body now.
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Did I say something that was wrong? Is it not a mental illness to think acience doesn't know your correct sex?
1. BP is the wrong place to spew venom about trans people. 2 What th fck does this have to do with the topic of discussio?! 3. It's the year 2023. Times are changing. Stop living in the last century and adjust.
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1. So I can't say one thing, but you guys can insult Republicans with tons of support? 2. DN X brought up mental illness and provided one of modern times and I did the same. 3. It's not living in the last century to acknowledge Trans is a mental illness not science, Trans women are not women they are men with a mental illness.
@Flat Earf: This may sound like a radical concept to you, but how about letting the experts deal with trans people? It's none of your business and it is absolutely wrong and insulting to imply that they belong in mental hospitals. That shows a fundamental misunderstanding as to what mental hospitals are for. They are for people who are a danger to themselves or others. Trans people do not harm anyone. It's obviously only your discomfort with them that makes you think they belong in mental hospitals, which means the problem is with you.
It was Ronnie Reagan that closed the mental health institutions that the government supported. That is when cities saw an upswing in the homeless. I was around then witnessed the fallout from that decision. You just don't want to face the truth. Maybe you should seek some professional help about that. Rather being lied to than facing the truth is not a healthy coping mechanism.
Problem is, I know for a fact you have been politely informed that you are incorrect about "the science" before, so I am forced to conclude you are a troll. If you don't want downvotes and reported comments, don't make bad faith arguments over and over.
I know for a fact because I have personally responded with an overview of a substantial amount of science that debunks a simplistic binary view of gender and sexuality. I also wonder why FE expects anyone else to take a middle school popscience simplification of chromosomes over 5000 years of written accounts of different views on gender and sexuality.
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Politely informed? Nope just downvoted to silence me this is the first time I've gotten responses. And what you call "the science" is correct you have XX chromosomes your a woman. You have XY chromosomes your a man no matter what people say they are their chromosomes. And I don't care about downvotes and reported comments because I will say what I want to say if they can say their beliefs, I am gonna say mine up until they manage to silence me. Have a good day.
If you have two copies of the MC1R gene then science says you have brown hair but nobody bats an I if you dye it. If your genes say "this person has B cup breasts" but you get an enlargement or reduction people just say "good for you!". If you're unfortunate enough to have terrible acne and you cover it up nobody has any issue with it. The FACT is, someone else's genes and chromosomes are NONE of your business. What people do with the genes they were born with, be it accept themselves as they are or make changes to their bodies to reflect what they feel like and what they believe, has absolutely 0 to do with you. The world doesn't revolve around you sweetheart, you can either accept that or continue to go off about your "beliefs". Have a good day.
Waste of money, we have 8+ billion people on earth. A tree shredder with sturdy blades would do the trick, not waste taxpayer money and can naturally fertilize the earth
Driving across West Virginia a few years ago, I stumbled on the Trans Allegheny Lunatic Asylum. It's one of the biggest stone buildings in the world, and it was built a long time ago in a sparsely populated state, so it's easy to see we used to be a lot more serious about putting dangerously unbalanced people under supervision
@Andy We have gone from one extreme to another. Judging from the old fashioned terminology in the name I am guessing that this asylum was built in the days when mental patients had few rights, and few effective treatments. And also likely when husbands could have their wives put in asylums just because they were "disobedient", not because they actually were mentally ill. It's a good bet that not all of the patients in that very large asylum actually needed to be there, because doctors often got paid off to commit a "troublesome" relative.
Good points!
Guys stop down voting FlatEarf because you disagree with them. Getting someone blocked/preventing others from having an open discussion, simply because you disagree with their words, seems like something the other side would do. No one can even tell them why theyre wrong now. Be better.
FlatEarf is repeating disingenuous arguments where they have been earnestly engaged before, and saying things that are intentionally hurtful to already marginalized people. They don't have "an opinion", they are being openly bigoted, and the BP community has been more generous than they deserve. They also continue to state, as fact, information that they have been told is incorrect and which has academically verifiable studies disproving their assertions. While there are arguments for a social binary of genders, and even good arguments against using cross dressing as mockery, FE is not arguing those points, but repeatedly and incorrectly representing a willfully ignorant view of biology as correct and as the basis for the hurtful social constructs they wish to promote.
I disagree. We are too nice. They are hate-filled and fear-filled cowards who would murder us in our sleep if the Orangutan told them to. They already murdered 5 cops on January 6th. I have ZERO tolerance for intolerance. Because the one thing you are not allowed to decide is how someone else lives their life. We should pass laws to forcibly deprogram Christians from thinking there's an old man in the sky who cares about their lives and gives them permission to torment anyone they want. We'll see how they feel about conversion therapy when it is done on them.... Maybe they'll actually get on board for freedom of thought and religion