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Social Media Campaign Highlights Everyday Toxic Masculinity And How Dangerous It Is
The Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum (RYLF) is a socio-civic organization from Silliman University in the Philippines, dedicated to bridging social, cultural, economic, and political divides, and creating a positive change in the community. On November 21st, the organization released a social media campaign against toxic masculinity under the hashtags #FightTheStigma and #UNMUTE.
“Both men and women suffer from toxic masculinity,” the message of the campaign says. “It happens every day both online and offline.”
To illustrate its point, RYLF shared a series of posters. From wearing pink to crying, the organization addressed the ways it thinks society pressures men, distorting their relationship with themselves and the world around them.
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To put it simply, toxic masculinity is suppressing emotions or masking distress. It’s maintaining an appearance of hardness and perceiving violence as an indicator of power. It’s the result of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly, that they have to be “tough” all the time, and that anything other than that makes them “feminine”—weak.
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), these cultural lessons have been linked to “aggression and violence,” leaving boys and men at “disproportionate risk for school discipline, academic challenges and health disparities,” including cardiovascular problems and substance abuse.
“Men are overrepresented in prisons, are more likely than women to commit violent crimes and are at greatest risk of being a victim of violent crime,” the American Psychological Association (APA) wrote.
Image credits: Maud Fernhout(the social media campaign did not have permission to use this photo)
Image credits: Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum
“[This digital campaign against toxic masculinity] is the third iteration in the UNMUTE series,” a RYLF spokesperson told Bored Panda. “The objective of UNMUTE is to shed light on issues that are prevalent/relevant but rarely discussed and to ‘unmute’ the silence [they create]. We wanted to get people to converse, to start talking about these things, and at the same time to produce facts, especially to those who are not properly informed or who don’t have easy access to such information. A lot of us here in RYLF have experienced the stigma first hand, and we felt that we needed to do something about it because we believe acknowledging the problem is the first step in solving it.”
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The spokesperson said the campaign has been receiving mixed responses. “We have received a large number of both positive and negative feedback on the campaign. And it’s par for the course. The purpose was to raise awareness and get people talking about this issue, and we can say that we have done precisely that. To inform, to educate, and to encourage people to talk about it. To Unmute the Silence.”
Image credits: Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum
Image credits: Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum
Image credits: Renaissance Youth Leaders Forum
Societal pressures, expectations from family, friends, and partners, and even expectations of religious identities can be burdensome to a man seeking out his masculine identity.
While some social, political, or religious groups may provide a set of guidelines for a healthy form of masculinity, experts say it is better for an individual to stick to their own definition, so long as it does not harm themselves or others.
A new definition of what it means to be male might includes overall human experiences, such as: openly experiencing a wide range of emotions, interdependence, vulnerability, cooperation, kindness, softness. This does not mean abandoning all traditionally masculine traits. Including some traditionally masculine characteristics, such as strength and adventure, may help some people define their own masculinity. Again, this does not mean that abandoning all traditionally masculine traits is the answer. People should define masculinity on their own terms, and including some traditionally masculine characteristics, such as strength and adventure, may help to do that.
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Mike Crow 5 years ago
The term “Toxic Masculinity” is not a slight against men at all. It is a term to describe the lunacy of what society expects of a man. Such as “men don’t cry”, “real men don’t seek help they just man up”, and the classic “boys will be boys” which is a lame blanket excuse to forgive boys and men for making stupid and sometimes harmful choices. My youngest son got a My Little Pony from a friend, he loved it and carried it everywhere. I didn’t freak out or take it away because he was having fun, but other fathers might have “been worried” that their son might not grow up manly and that is BS.
K. 5 years ago
Thank you!! Seriously, the strongest people don’t feel the need to walk over others to get there. We need people to speak up about toxic masculinity and their experiences with it so we can realize what we did wrong.
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Iapetos 5 years ago
When you're a man and you're starting to open up and expose your vulnerabilities to other people and they try to shame you and belittle you for them, remember: It's their problem. They are wrong for demanding you squeeze yourself into a tiny corset. If they don't respect you just the way you are, you may be in need of better friends...
K. 5 years ago
Thank you for giving us these words. It’s very important that people realize this and don’t shut down. Call them out and/or look for others who understand the value of someone opening up about their vulnerabilities.
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bryguy 5 years ago (edited)
It seems from the comments a lot of people still don't understand the term. It does not imply that being a man is toxic. "Toxic masculinity" implies three key things; that all men must act 'tough' to be considered manly, that all men must reject anything considered feminine like emotional behavior, and that all men must strive to have power over others, especially women. When all three traits are seen in someone that persons energy and what they project is toxic.
5 years ago
oh my gosh...dude thanks for being a quality human being and standing up for the movement. we need more people like you :)
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Pearl Of the SeaWing RainWings 5 years ago
And it's a pretty darn awesome color, too!! I LOVE IT
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Wolfstar 5 years ago
To all those idiots denying toxic masculinity: you are part of the problem. Men CAN wear pink, CAN cry, CAN be scared, CAN be feminists. Wanna wear pink? Go for it, I'll punch anyone who tries to stop you (that's not good at all. Don't punch people). Heck, wear glitter! And it's okay to cry, it's a good way to let all your emotions out. It's okay to be scared. Everyone gets scared sometimes. I find that saying "I'm scared" actually makes me feel less scared. And like the poster above said, "Men of quality are not afraid of equality." Feminist AF! So to you idiots denying toxic masculinity or even encouraging it: you can go f*ck yourselves. We're not taking your bullsh*t anymore.
Louloubelle 5 years ago
I don't understand this, because I was lucky enough to have a really great father who wasn't afraid to show his emotions, and was a feminist before his time. My father was born in 1929, had 5 kids, 3 of them daughters. I was born in 1960. My father was proud of the fact that "he didn't have a princess in the bunch". He taught us to take care of ourselves. Because he did understand how men could be. He taught us some basic self-defense. But also, how to change a tire, how to change the oil on our car, how to figure out some basic things if the car broke down. He never wanted us to be reliant on someone else for our well being. He did stick to some of the old ways, in that he would stand if a woman walked in a room, he'd hold doors (although frankly, he was the kind of guy that held doors for everyone), he'd always way over tip when he went out to eat, because he thought wait staff had it harder, and they were generally women. He taught us to respect men by being a good man.
deanna woods 5 years ago
The same with my father. He has two girls and has taught us how to take care of ourselves. He has protected us from some scummy dudes, but I think any good man would do that.
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5 years ago
Loved the last one of the man with the sign. CHANT IT WITH ME FOLKS! MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY!MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY!MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY! WOOHOO
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
It's sad that people need a social media campaign to find the courage to be who and what they want to be. It's also sad that a lot of male and female trolls will be ridiculing this campaign, because it's turning men into "weak and oversensitive crybabies." Let's hope that this madness of toxic masculinity and femininity soon will be over and gone. There are far more important issues to address if we want to leave a healthy and peaceful world to the next generations.
Maud Fernhout 5 years ago
Hi! The photo of the crying guy is mine and was used without permission. Could you please change the image credits to me (Maud Fernhout, www.maudfernhout.com) or remove the photo? Thank you.
Sophie Renda 5 years ago
oh I didn't know BP used photos without permission! Isn't that illegal?!
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John Montgomery 5 years ago
We should add it's ok for men to like fruity drinks. I'm not that big into alcohol, but daiquiris are awesome.
Mike Crow 5 years ago
The term “Toxic Masculinity” is not a slight against men at all. It is a term to describe the lunacy of what society expects of a man. Such as “men don’t cry”, “real men don’t seek help they just man up”, and the classic “boys will be boys” which is a lame blanket excuse to forgive boys and men for making stupid and sometimes harmful choices. My youngest son got a My Little Pony from a friend, he loved it and carried it everywhere. I didn’t freak out or take it away because he was having fun, but other fathers might have “been worried” that their son might not grow up manly and that is BS.
K. 5 years ago
Thank you!! Seriously, the strongest people don’t feel the need to walk over others to get there. We need people to speak up about toxic masculinity and their experiences with it so we can realize what we did wrong.
Load More Replies... Iapetos 5 years ago
When you're a man and you're starting to open up and expose your vulnerabilities to other people and they try to shame you and belittle you for them, remember: It's their problem. They are wrong for demanding you squeeze yourself into a tiny corset. If they don't respect you just the way you are, you may be in need of better friends...
K. 5 years ago
Thank you for giving us these words. It’s very important that people realize this and don’t shut down. Call them out and/or look for others who understand the value of someone opening up about their vulnerabilities.
Load More Replies... bryguy 5 years ago (edited)
It seems from the comments a lot of people still don't understand the term. It does not imply that being a man is toxic. "Toxic masculinity" implies three key things; that all men must act 'tough' to be considered manly, that all men must reject anything considered feminine like emotional behavior, and that all men must strive to have power over others, especially women. When all three traits are seen in someone that persons energy and what they project is toxic.
5 years ago
oh my gosh...dude thanks for being a quality human being and standing up for the movement. we need more people like you :)
Load More Replies... Pearl Of the SeaWing RainWings 5 years ago
And it's a pretty darn awesome color, too!! I LOVE IT
Load More Replies... Wolfstar 5 years ago
To all those idiots denying toxic masculinity: you are part of the problem. Men CAN wear pink, CAN cry, CAN be scared, CAN be feminists. Wanna wear pink? Go for it, I'll punch anyone who tries to stop you (that's not good at all. Don't punch people). Heck, wear glitter! And it's okay to cry, it's a good way to let all your emotions out. It's okay to be scared. Everyone gets scared sometimes. I find that saying "I'm scared" actually makes me feel less scared. And like the poster above said, "Men of quality are not afraid of equality." Feminist AF! So to you idiots denying toxic masculinity or even encouraging it: you can go f*ck yourselves. We're not taking your bullsh*t anymore.
Louloubelle 5 years ago
I don't understand this, because I was lucky enough to have a really great father who wasn't afraid to show his emotions, and was a feminist before his time. My father was born in 1929, had 5 kids, 3 of them daughters. I was born in 1960. My father was proud of the fact that "he didn't have a princess in the bunch". He taught us to take care of ourselves. Because he did understand how men could be. He taught us some basic self-defense. But also, how to change a tire, how to change the oil on our car, how to figure out some basic things if the car broke down. He never wanted us to be reliant on someone else for our well being. He did stick to some of the old ways, in that he would stand if a woman walked in a room, he'd hold doors (although frankly, he was the kind of guy that held doors for everyone), he'd always way over tip when he went out to eat, because he thought wait staff had it harder, and they were generally women. He taught us to respect men by being a good man.
deanna woods 5 years ago
The same with my father. He has two girls and has taught us how to take care of ourselves. He has protected us from some scummy dudes, but I think any good man would do that.
Load More Replies... 5 years ago
Loved the last one of the man with the sign. CHANT IT WITH ME FOLKS! MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY!MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY!MEN OF QUALITY ARE NOT SCARED OF EQUALITY! WOOHOO
WilvanderHeijden 5 years ago
It's sad that people need a social media campaign to find the courage to be who and what they want to be. It's also sad that a lot of male and female trolls will be ridiculing this campaign, because it's turning men into "weak and oversensitive crybabies." Let's hope that this madness of toxic masculinity and femininity soon will be over and gone. There are far more important issues to address if we want to leave a healthy and peaceful world to the next generations.
Maud Fernhout 5 years ago
Hi! The photo of the crying guy is mine and was used without permission. Could you please change the image credits to me (Maud Fernhout, www.maudfernhout.com) or remove the photo? Thank you.
Sophie Renda 5 years ago
oh I didn't know BP used photos without permission! Isn't that illegal?!
Load More Replies... John Montgomery 5 years ago
We should add it's ok for men to like fruity drinks. I'm not that big into alcohol, but daiquiris are awesome.
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